you turn my dust to gold. @viewparadise - Tumblr Blog

Hi, friends who have followed me from Twitter!

It's Candice, the tweeter formerly (?) known as chaoticgirlie. You can also find me on BlueSky and Threads under that same name. I am also at Dreamwidth as enamoured. I'm on AO3 as brandnewsoul. For now, I will continue to delight or horrify you over here.

#about me

uzumaki-rebellion

We have a new ancestor. Rest easy, Peabo Bryson.

viewparadise

Of all the places for me to find this out, TUMBLR???

#peabo bryson #rip

davidhudson

Marilyn Monroe, June 1, 1926 – August 5, 1962.

#marilyn monroe

freakytikigifs

Ryan Gosling and James Ortiz as Ryland Grace and Rocky PROJECT HAIL MARY

#project hail mary

lasagnaforem

Part 1

Backrooms (2026) - Kane Parsons, A24

by Caitlin

#nice #bluesky #anti ai

json-derulo

they put my blood through every test under the sun and yet nowhere in the pages and pages of lab reports do they tell me what my blood type is

json-derulo

your neutrophils absolute? 2.71. anion gap? why, that's 11! hemoglobin A1C? a solid 5.4. and don't fret, champ—your VLDL (calculated) is a cool 12. real fascinating stuff. hm? what's that? you want to know what kind of blood you have? like, so you won't have to look your next ER nurse in the eye and tell her you have no clue what type you have right after giving her a date of birth that confirms you are over 30 years old? psh, don't be silly! we can't tell you that! it's a ✨secret✨

json-derulo

do you know your blood type??

yes, I'm certain of it

I think my family told me what it was but I'm not sure/no recent test to confirm

no, I have no clue

I don't have blood/results

Voting ended onJun 2

viewparadise

My local blood bank is blowing up my phone at this moment because I'm an O+.

#woof #pretty much yeah

kusali

Frothing at the mouth every time I see a sex ed resource that says "use condoms" without any further elaboration. "Condoms prevent STIs and pregnancy in the vast majority of cases when used correctly" but then they don't talk about what correctly IS

Correct use of a condom means

Using the right size, because if it's too big it can slide off or leak and if it's too small it can break or come off. Condoms usually come in 5 sizes, I'm sure you could find others outside of that as well but in ten years of sex work I found they covered everyone

Using lube, even if you think you don't need it. With the exception of oral sex, condoms should always be used with lube, 100% of the time. Most important lube should be applied to the outside but a drop in the tip of the condom before putting it in is also a good idea

Being mindful that latex is prone to wearing out, being damaged by heat etc. Condoms should be kept somewhere cool, not folded in wallets or sat on in back pockets and should be changed between activities and after about 15 minutes of any vigorous activity. Ask me how I know (a condom snapped on my leg when a client was pulling out, because I didn't change it when I should have)

The penetrative partner should hold the base of the condom when they pull out, and should do so immediately after they ejaculate so the condom doesn't leak or come off as the penis gets flaccid

Bonus: a lot of people think hand stuff can't transmit STIs. Wrong! If you give your partner a handjob and then touch yourself you can get HPV, herpes (low risk), and infections like chlamydia and gonorrhea

This isn't meant to be stressful, and the most common STIs are the most treatable - and often curable - but getting gonorrhea in your eyes after a facial still extremely sucks and yet no one talks about the fact that any mucous membrane can be effected, not just your genitals (yes this includes your mouth and throat)

In ten years of doing sex work where I saw 10 clients a day most of the time I've had 4 condom fails ever. One was what I mentioned above when it snapped on my leg, one was a client on top of me didn't get off fast enough after he finished and the condom came off, and the other two were a Glyde brand magnum that was inexplicably twice the thickness of a regular condom and didn't stay put on anyone so I suggest just avoiding Glyde entirely (their water based lubes also stain fyi). With all other brands correct use = extremely safe

bakurapika

Oil-based lube and latex condoms are also incompatible! Condoms can and should be used on toys.

I'd normally tag nsfw but I never got sex ed in school or at home. Even if you yourself don't need to use this information, it's still good in general to know, whether that be for fiction writing or advice to a friend or just to have in your back pocket (which is apparently hopefully not where you're keeping the condoms). The more you know!

#helpful