Seven Days in Bangladesh, Day Six: The Last Night in Khulna
Today is the final day of the workshop, and it will bestreaming live on the Internet. I decide to wear one of the bow ties that Kim made for me. I have to find a video on Youtube to remind myself how to tie it, and it only takes three tries to get it right.
When we arrive at the workshop, there are wires lying across the floor and several men bustle about, preparing the camera equipment and computers for the live stream. Afroza, Upal, and Ahasanul from Khulna University along with Apir, the Khulna City Corporation’s urban planner, have returned today to see the final results of the workshop. The participants have begun to filter in and several of them are eager to get started. We give them the OK to hop on the computers as we wait for the others to arrive. Once everyone is present, the video broadcast begins and Sohel makes a few brief announcements to kick off the day’s events.
We give the participants about two hours to finalize their models. Each group is in a flurry of activity, rushing to put the finishing touches on the work they had begun the day before. I answer their questions and assist them wherever I can, but they don’t seem to need as much help today as they did yesterday, so mostly I just watch them work.
Occasionally I check my computer to see if anyone is commenting on the live stream. My brother is posting screen caps of the stream on Facebook. I spot Kim on Gchat and send her a message.
“Did you see me? I’m wearing my bowtie for you! [smiley]”
I tell her to wait for a second and make a quick circuit around the room to look at each group’s project.
“There’s a man in a red shirt, and a guy with a cool orange beard. Someone is handing out water bottles…”
I realize now why she doesn’t see me: there’s about a five minute lag. Of course there’s lag; she’s watching this workshop from literally the other side of the planet. I explain this to her. I also tell her that I had asked Sohel why so many men here dye their hair and beards orange. I had assumed it bore some kind of significance, but he said, no – it’s just a style. She comments on the women’s saris, asking me to buy one for her. I tell her that I already did.
“There you are!” she exclaims.
“It’s like time travel! You’re watching me from five minutes ago LOL.”
With that, she tells me to get back to work and signs off. I make a few more circuits of the workshop before Sohel calls the participants back together. He explains that each group will be given time to explain their model to the rest of the participants and to defend their decisions. He also tells them that the Afroza, Upal, Ahasanul, Abir, and I will be judging the models and will be giving an award to the group with the best design. I rush to copy the final models off of each computer and set up for the group presentations while the participants take a short snack break. Biplob brings me a couple of samosas and a bottle of spicy curry ketchup. As soon as I smell the food, I realize that my appetite is finally returning. The pastry is flaky and the filling hot and satisfying. I savor every bite.
When we reconvene, each group takes their turn to explain what they added and changed in their model and to list the three changes that they feel are most important. As they share, Sohel copies down every item they list and adds stars next to the ones that they have prioritized. Today is an important Muslim holiday, so many of the participants are anxious to finish the workshop so they can begin their religious observances. This forces us to rush through the presentations and cut group discussions short. One of the KU professors translates the presentations for me, and I try to take my own notes but find myself falling behind.
After the last group finishes, I meet with the other judges at the front of the room. They’ve each already scored the groups on a scale of ten and begin calculating averages. I feel like I missed something, and scramble to come up with some scores of my own. I’ve barely even begun when they present me with the averages of their scores. It seems silly to hold everyone up to add my two cents, and there’s really nothing that I would change, so I scrap my scores and tell them to go ahead and present the winner. The scores are close. Each group has presented some excellent models, and there are strong elements in each of their designs, but the winning group was clearly a little more coordinated from the beginning – they were the ones that had created the elaborate color-coded map the day before. Sohel presents them with their prize: a large box of Cadbury chocolate bars. Rather than keeping the chocolate for themselves, they immediately begin handing the bars out to everyone else in the workshop. One of them, a middle-aged gentleman in a neatly-pressed white shirt, hands me a bar and in limited English, thanks me for coming to Khulna to help them. I feel a slight twinge of emotion, but push it down – I don’t want to think about the fact that this is my last day in Khulna working with these people.
We take a break for lunch and several of the participants leave for prayer. I decide to sit and talk with the students from Khulna University while we eat our biryani and curried chicken. They ask me what I think of their work, and I tell them that I’m genuinely impressed. I’ve really enjoyed working with these students – they are thoughtful and eager to learn, they work together well, and they are unafraid of asking questions or seeking help when needed. They make the most of what they’re given and don’t seem to have the sense of entitlement that I encountered in many of the students I taught at the University of Illinois when I was working on my Masters degree. They remind me of my best students at Pulaski Technical College. I don’t tell them all of this, but I remark that I wish more of my students were like them, and they seem sincerely appreciative.
I ask them how they felt about Minecraft. None of them answer immediately, taking the time to consider how to respond. One of them finally posits that she would probably not use it for professional design work, but maybe to prototype an idea quickly. She mentions that it’s frustrating that the game doesn’t include certain features and objects that would have made her design better. I go ahead and tell them about Minecraft mods and texture packs, and they seem very interested in exploring the possibility of expanding and modifying the game to suit their needs.
I reiterate that Minecraft is really a game, not a design tool, and ask if they are interested in playing it more. One of the students asks what kind of game it is – he says that he’s familiar with games like Call of Duty, but that he has never played anything like Minecraft. I tell them about Survival Mode and Creepers and share some of my experiences playing the game. Some of them seem interested, but I can tell that none of them are really big gamers. This makes sense, considering the fact that entertainment technology is much more rare here than in the USA. While almost three quarters of Bangladeshis have mobile phones, very few of them own smartphones. Most of the phones I’ve seen have been older flip phones – the kind you could expect to get on a pre-paid plan. Computers, while cheaper than in the USA, are still out of the price range of most people and seem to be used primarily for work rather than entertainment. The few televisions I’ve seen have primarily been old CRT units, some of which are in desperate need of repair. I haven’t seen a single video game console or disc since I’ve been here, not even in the computer district.
In spite of this, several of the students seem sincerely interested in playing the game some more and ask me for the models they had worked on. I copy the files onto USB drives for them and write up some instructions for downloading Minecraft and installing the models onto their computers.
Over lunch, Sohel had been tallying up the changes and additions proposed by each group, and after the break, he calls us all back together to show everyone the final prioritized list of amenities. Each item has a score based on the number of groups who included it in their model with additional points awarded if the group listed it as one of their top three priorities. Items proposed by all six of the groups have also received automatic priority. Seven elements have clearly risen to the top of the list: wider walking paths, a public bathroom, a fence around the pond for safety, a playground, more benches and shelters, more lighting, a café, and garbage bins to deal with litter. Other high-scoring items include pump wells for drinking water, signage, and green spaces.
Once Sohel has finished, I set to work. My job for the afternoon is to attempt to consolidate the participant models into a single final model. I only have about two hours, so I have to work fast. I leave the computer connected to the projector so people can watch me work. I start with the items at the top of the priority list and work my way down. Several of the participants who had left for prayer wander back in, and people mill around the room and chat while I build furiously.
I’ve never had to build so fast. Usually when I play Minecraft, I take my time: I plan out a project, choose the blocks carefully, experiment with different ideas, and revise until I’m happy with my work. Today I have a deadline, though, so there’s no room to mess around. Thankfully, I don’t have to come up with ideas on my own – I can copy elements directly from the participant models. I go through each model and take screen shots of elements that I think are particularly successful and use those to guide my work. In order to best reflect the work done by each groups, I try to incorporate at least one idea from each group’s model. As 5:00 approaches, though, I’ve only been able to build the seven top priority elements in the consolidated model. I present my draft to the participants, assuring them that the rest of the elements will be included in the final model. They seem satisfied, although I’m disappointed that there isn’t time for them to ask questions or make comments on my model.
Sohel wraps up the workshop with a few announcements, and we all file outside into the park for a group photo. Sams, one of the photographers from the live streaming company, helps arrange us for the photo and collects cameras and phones from several people to take pictures. The participants want me to stand front and center in the photo, but I protest – I’m taller than anyone there, so it would be silly to put me in the front. I also don’t deserve to be the center of attention. We take a few shots with me in the back, but the participants insist, so I acquiesce and do a little joke pose before squatting down in the front of the group so as not to block anyone.
Several kids in the park have gathered around and are apparently trying to photobomb us. The photographer has to shoo them away before each shot. We disband after he has gotten the shot on each of the cameras in his hands, pockets, and hanging on his arms. Several of the kids gather around me and try to talk to me. I smile and say, “Hi.” They echo “hi” back to me over and over and a few of them collapse in laughter. One of them points to his teeth, points at me, and traces a smile with his fingers on his face. I smile again, realizing that they want to see my braces. A security guard steps in to shoo them away, and they all run back to the park.
I head back into the building to begin packing up my equipment, but on the way I’m stopped over and over to shake hands, say goodbyes, and take more pictures. I smile so much my face starts to hurt. I feel like a rock star – everyone wants to talk to me, to touch me, to take pictures with me, and it’s all because I know how to play a video game. It’s a surreal moment.
As I begin to gather my things, some of the older participants who are residents of the nearby slum approach me. One man clasps my hand in both of his and shakes it firmly. As he releases me, he touches his hand to his heart and says, “Dhonnobad,” which is “thank you” in Bengali. One-by-one, the others do the same, and I’m slammed by a tidal wave of emotion. I do my best to hold it in before escaping to my backpack in the corner of the room where I pretend to move some things around. I take a few deep breaths. This is it: the last day of the workshop. I will never see these people again. We may have only worked together for a few days, but they’ve made a lasting impression on me. I find some tissue in my bag and dab my eyes quickly. I follow the last of the participants out of the room, leaving the IT staff from Khulna University and the live streaming company to finish tearing down the computer equipment.
Sohel drops me off at the hotel and says that he will send Biplob to take me back to Aarong to get more gifts. Back in my room I have a few minutes to myself, and as soon as I drop my backpack on the floor and sit on the bed, I begin to weep openly. I don’t even know most of the names of the people I’ve met here, but I feel a powerful connection with them. I’m torn between my desire to return to Kim in Arkansas and the desire to spend more time in this place.
Around 7:45, Sohel calls up to my room, so I head down to meet him in the lobby. He asks if I had gotten the rest of my gifts at Aarong, and I say no. He tells me that they close in 15 minutes, so if I want to go back, I’d better hurry. Luckily, the store isn’t far away and one of his friends is there with his motorcycle, so he rushes me over before they shut the doors. I feel like I’m in one of those shopping spree game shows from the 90s as I rush from aisle to aisle, grabbing statues, clothes, and other gift items for my family. Luckily I’ve brought a list with me, so the selection isn’t quite as overwhelming, and the time constraint adds a little adrenaline rush to the experience. It isn’t long before my basket is loaded with presents. I feel terrible for shopping right as the staff is trying to close the store, but I notice that there are five or six other people still browsing around, and when I get in line to pay, several customers line up behind me. At least I’m not the only deadbeat.
After we drop off my loot at the hotel, we head back to the tea shop from two nights before to meet Sohel’s friends. Several of the streets are blocked due to the holiday, so our rickshaw driver has to take a couple of detours. Crowds of people sit in the road singing and praying as a sermon is broadcast from loudspeakers at almost every intersection. The collective sound of their voices reverberates and fills the air with energy.
When we arrive at the tea house, everyone is there except for Ashiq, who had to travel to India at the last minute for medical reasons. Originally we had been planning to go to Ashiq’s house to drink, but with him out of the country, we had to change our plans.
Before the trip, Sohel had asked me to buy a bottle of Jack Daniels and bring it with me. Because Bangladesh is predominantly Muslim, alcohol is rare and expensive, and it’s common practice for people who sell alcohol to water down the bottles they import and mix them with other mystery substances to stretch their stock and increase their profit margin. These adulterated blends have a tendency to make people sick, so when an opportunity to enjoy the genuine article arises, it’s a cause for celebration. Sohel had explained that, as a foreigner, I would have no trouble bringing alcohol into the country or carrying it with me, but he would be harassed by the immigrations officers and the police due to the fact that he is a Bangladeshi and a Muslim. Even though possession of alcohol is not strictly illegal, it is considered taboo, so it cannot be consumed in public, which is why we had planned to meet at Ashiq’s home where we would have some relative privacy.
I offer my hotel room as a possible option, since we could also order room service if we wanted some snacks, but Sohel is concerned that they may get us in trouble for talking too loudly. Instead, we all head to the apartment building where Hassan, another of his friends, lives. The roof of the building is relatively secluded, and should be a fine venue for the night’s festivities. When we arrive, Hassan has laid out a mat for us to sit on. I present the “guest of honor” and place it in the middle of the mat. It is joined by a bottle of Coca-Cola, a few bags of chips, and a bag of spicy nuts that I’m told is a popular Bangladeshi snack. A couple of the guys take pictures of the bottle and post them to Facebook.
Sohel gets the soundtrack for the party going. He starts us off with Bob Marley, followed by some 80s pop, including Madonna and Journey. I briefly interject some De La Soul into the mix before turning the DJ responsibilities back over to Sohel. The roof is completely dark, so a couple of the guys lay their phones on the mat with the screens turned on for light. I look up at the stars. They’re bright and distinct due to the relative lack of light pollution. I notice the constellation Orion and think of Kim.
They begin to pass the bottle around and fill their plastic cups with whiskey and Coke. I notice that most of them water their drinks down quite a bit. I imagine that their alcohol tolerance must be pretty low considering how infrequently they drink. I initially turn them down when they offer me a drink – I can get this whenever I want in America, and I want these guys to enjoy it as much as possible – but they insist that I join them, so I oblige and pour myself about half a shot of whiskey and top it off with the Coke. I drink slowly, occasionally refilling my cup with Coke so it doesn’t look like I’m abstaining.
Proloy sits next to me and asks whether I’ve enjoyed my time in Bangladesh. “Yes” doesn’t seem like a strong enough answer. I start to gush about how welcome they’ve made me feel and how beautiful the country is, but I can’t seem to say anything that doesn’t sound either trite or hyperbolic. I finally make the excuse that the alcohol is talking, and they all laugh, but I’m nowhere near being drunk. I’m genuinely at a loss for words. Too much has happened over the last few days, and I haven’t had time yet to process all of it. I tell Proloy that even though I’ve only been here for a week, I’ve fallen in love with Bangladesh and hope that I can come back with my family to show them how wonderful it is.
I ask him about the holiday, wondering if it’s common for people to block the streets and shut down traffic for religious observances. He explains that this only happens about once or twice a year, but that he and his family are Hindu, so he’s not as familiar with the Muslim holidays as some of the other guys. I ask him if he’s seen or experienced any religious conflict between Muslims and people of other faiths in Bangladesh, but he says no. He explains that religious conflicts arise occasionally in rural areas, but in the cities people tend to be more tolerant of other faiths. He asks me how familiar I am with Hinduism, and I state that, while I’ve read the Bhagavad Gita, I know very little about their beliefs. He explains that Hindus don’t believe that god tells us what to do, but rather that god is the strength that we find within ourselves to fulfill our purpose in life. God can take many forms, and people may find this strength in different ways – through rituals, through prayer, through fellowship with other people, etc. Ultimately, he says, there’s no benefit to arguing about your beliefs, because it only causes strife and distracts us from doing what we know is right. If someone uses different methods than ours to derive their spiritual strength and fulfill their purpose in life, who are we to say that they are wrong?
Before the party is over, several of the guys ask to add me on Facebook. I write my email address in my notebook so they can copy it into their phones. We head down from the roof and walk down the street. One-by-one, each member of the group says his goodbyes and peels off onto a side street toward home. In the end only Sohel, Proloy, and I are left. Sohel flags down an autorickshaw and the three of us ride back to the hotel.
I step into my room around 11:30 and boot up my computer to find several new friend requests waiting for my approval. It’s just after noon now in Arkansas, and lots of people have commented on the workshop live stream. It doesn’t take long for the bed’s gravitational pull to overwhelm me, and I quickly fall asleep. Tomorrow morning I will begin the journey home.