Touch starved aro vulture is going to massage therapy in an attempt to be not touch starved but does that even work, I don't know, is Google lying to me. How does one deal with touch starvation/deprivation
tbh good question, if you figure it out, let us know!
Erin Reed reports the “.gov” removed several mentions of bisexuality in favor of “gays and lesbians" or “the Stonewall community.”
They removed bisexuals from the stonewall monument website. How long until the website is just “stonewall is something that happened. I guess” because they cut every group out.
STOP TRYING TO TRACK DOWN PROTESTORS THAT DO 'BADASS STUFF'. STOP POSTING ABOUT IT ONLINE.
PEOPLE FUCKING DIE.
AND IT'S USUALLY SOMEONE MELANATED.
THE GOVERNMENT IS WATCHING YOU FUCKING DUMBASS.
y'all are so stuck on egoistic heroism that every time someone does something 'sick' at a protest you wanna turn them in to the next celebrity to have a parasocial relationship with and then they go missing.
My toxic aroace trait is that I have only ever seen evidence that a grand total of two (2) people in the universe actually experience romantic and sexual attraction on a scale that everyone insists as normal, and that is Gomez and Morticia Addams
i dont want kids. "well you might change your mind!" no i wont. "well you could help infertile parents and do surrogacy" pregnancy is a part of why i dont want kids. i dont want that. "then do adoption" still dont want kids. "but what about your partner" im aromantic. "but if you had a partner" im aroace. "you might still change your mind" no i wont. "you might meet that one person who'll change your mind. trust me" I! AM! AROMANTIC! AND! ASEXUAL!
"how can you have dated people if you're ace" shut up shut up shut up shut up
Not an experience, but a question from a curious onlooker! I've seen a decent amount of autospec folk who are "in relationships with themselves," and I've never really asked - how does that *work?* I've always understood relationships of any kind as being between two or more people so I haven't quite wrapped my head around it and I'd hate to go on just never knowing. - @kalliepride (I hope my wording didn't come off too badly, I'm legitimately so eager to know but I can't properly phrase it beyond that!)
It's different for everyone, but just like any relationship, it's a result of attraction you feel and a want to be with someone in a more serious and long lasting way, in this instance yourself. For example, many autospecs feel they're the only one who can love, take care of, or understand themself in the way they need.
Some people may want other partners in addition to themselves, but the fact remains that they feel a strong enough attraction to themselves and want to be committed to self love/growth/healing to want a relationship.
Any autospecs who are in a relationship with themselves can feel free to come in and contribute to my explanation if you want to 💙
For Valentine's Day my local library set up a romance free collection in the YA section, complete with little ace and aro colored hearts with silly "eww" "nope" "not for me" messages, and I for one think that is incredibly asexy of them.
aces don't need to compensate for our lack of sexual attraction by being super kinky, making dirty jokes, writing the best smut, handing out water bottles at the orgy etc. i'm tired of seeing these jokes about "the ace friend" who does all of these things because it feels like just another way to say "oh look! aces aren't that broken actually! aces can participate in all these sexy things and be normal!"
we don't need to compensate. we just exist, whatever that looks like, in whichever way we relate to sex and sexual things.
it's always "aros and aces can still date and fuck" and never "staying single and/or celibate is a valid life choice and people who do so are deserving of respect"
Sorry if this question has been asked before, but what are "paras"?
Hi! I’m not sure which post recently had this, but I’ll answer and link what I can.
Paras refer to “parames” which are characters who exist within a daydreaming universe (whether for those with compulsive maladaptive daydreaming or healthy immersive daydreaming). These are very intricate characters who are often built up over years and decades and are specific to a person’s daydreaming universe. Sometimes they’re characters from another world, but most often they’re Original Characters or OCs.
Basically, it’s the daydreaming equivalent of OCs, except the term parame comes from para-me, meaning that there’s a bit of the person inside of each of the characters.
I believe these are important to aegosexual people because while a lot of aegos use fanfic and fictional characters for their fantasies, a lot of us create our own characters for them as well. The paras I have, are used both for daydreams and fantasies. And the two often overlap a lot.
I am definitely missing details, but that’s my quick notes on them.
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