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MBTI Types as Accurate Stereotypes + Surprising Characteristics

ENTJ:

Stereotype that’s true: Whatever the ladder is, they’re heading straight for the top. Surprising characteristic: Actually genuinely interested in how people are doing and what’s going on with them. 

INTJ:

Stereotype that’s true: Logical planners to the max. Surprising characteristic: Flirtatious and/or coy as all get out.

ENFJ:

Stereotype that’s true: Will 10/10 give motivational speeches. Also very sensitive to accidentally hurting people’s feelings. Surprising characteristic: Can be very stubborn/adamant about things.

INFJ:

Stereotype that’s true: Will stare into your soul and try to discover your essence. Surprising characteristic: Incredible goofballs that love to have fun.

ESTJ:

Stereotype that’s true: 10/10 will be super hard on you, 10/10 don’t mean for you to take it personally. Surprising characteristic: Enjoy being controversial.

ISTJ:

Stereotype that’s true: The most incredibly steady people you will ever meet in your entire life. Surprising characteristic: Are generally really personable and happy to be around people. Very non-intimidating and interested in making things work for everyone.

ESFJ:

Stereotype that’s true: Get really anxious about taking care of people. Surprising characteristic: Absolutely excel at scathing remarks.

ISFJ:

Stereotype that’s true: Will bake you cookies and their hair is always perfect. Surprising characteristic: Rich and complex inner life that goes way beyond the smiles and nods they give everyone on the outside.

ENFP:

Stereotype that’s true: Ramble. A lot. Surprising characteristic: Take things a lot less personally than you’d think, fans of honesty over placating. 

INFP:

Stereotype that’s true: Somewhere far, far away in their own little world. Surprising characteristic: Could easily level you with one well-placed verbal blow and argue you into the ground.

ENTP:

Stereotype that’s true: Like to debate with people and play devil’s advocate. Surprising characteristic: Don’t like to back people into corners or decisions.

INTP:

Stereotype that’s true: Nerds to the max. Surprising characteristic: Good at engaging with people/carrying on conversations when they want to be.

ESFP:

Stereotype that’s true: Love to party. Surprising characteristic: Really need time for themselves, more so than you’d think. 

ISFP:

Stereotype that’s true: Care about people a lot. Also really into fashion. Surprising characteristic: Sinnamon rolls to the max.

ESTP:

Stereotype that’s true: Must. Always. Be. Active. Surprising characteristic: Can make a plan and make it work quite well. 

ISTP:

Stereotype that’s true: Sports and hobbies are their thing and they are very good at them. Surprising characteristic: Take their loyalties extremely seriously.

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difference/s between estj & entj?

ENTJs are overconfident and can’t deal with details. 

ESTJs are simply confident and will go bananas about details, especially in correcting you. 

ENTJs value results, insight, innovation and cleverness.

ESTJs value what’s customary. They don’t like innovation for innovation’s sake, unless it’s absolutely necessary. 

ENTJs are concerned with the future, vision, strategy.

ESTJs are concerned with tactics and getting immediate things done. 

ENTJs do not shy away from predicting the future. 

ESTJs don’t bother predicting the future. They just try to avoid losing things they worked hard to earn so their future is alright.

ENTJs are quicker to detect people’s potential. 

ESTJs need to test people.

ENTJs consider completing a big project to be productive.

ESTJs consider running errands to be productive.

ENTJs don’t care how you’ve done it, as long as it works and it won’t get them in trouble.

ESTJs care how you’ve done it, because if it is not how they asked you to do it, it means you’re questioning their authority.

Just some thoughts.

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The Hunchback of Notre Dame: Esmeralda [ESFP]

OFFICIAL TYPING by Charity / the Mod

Functional Order: Se-Fi-Te-Ni

Perceiving Functional Axis:

Extroverted Sensing (Se) / Introverted Intuition (Ni)

Esme is a very dynamic, present woman – from dancing and performing on the streets for money, to participating as a star attraction in the Festival of Fools, to defying Frollo by freeing Quasi despite orders to the contrary, and fleeing into the church for sanctuary. She doesn’t hesitate to act, using a candelabra to attack Phoebus, then saving his life later by throwing a stone to upset Frollo’s horse. She leaps into the water and saves him from drowning, then carries him to Notre Dame to entrust him to Quasimodo. Even though she’s “scared” as Quasi helps her escape, Esme doesn’t seem troubled by his admission that he’s never “done this before.” Her inferior Ni is her blind spot. When Frollo enters the church and orders her arrest, Esme leaps immediately to the wrong conclusion – that Phoebus was distracting her long enough for his boss to come along; she doesn’t respond well to him, until he later proves himself trustworthy. She also doesn’t think through the ramifications of fleeing inside the church (“gypsies don’t do well inside stone walls”).

Judging Functional Axis:

Introverted Feeling (Fi) / Extroverted Thinking (Te)

She has a strong moral center, which refuses to stand by and watch Quasimodo persecuted for being different and abused by the crowd, but is mostly concerned with and focused on her own feelings for Phoebus. She is so wrapped up in her own interests, she fails to notice the hunchback’s crush on her, nor pick up on his subtle romantic advances. She thinks because he helped her once, and is a kind person, he will help her again – unknowingly breaking his heart by asking him to take care of Phoebus for her. She does not care what anyone thinks of her, much less Frollo, and draws a hard, silent line in the sand – she’d rather burn than be his mistress. Esmeralda doesn’t hesitate to take swift action, aimed at accomplishing something – putting food on the table, misleading Frollo, using the crowd to help her escape, protecting Phoebus, and organizing everyone to leave the Court of Miracles unharmed.

Hogwarts House: Gryffindor

House Traits: daring, nerve, and chivalry.

Bold, brash, sexy, and gutsy, Esmeralda defies the most important man in Paris – to his face, and in front of an enormous crowd. She shoves her nerves aside when escaping Notre Dame. She spits in his face and picks the fire over compromising her virtue. She’s a spunky, spirited, brave woman whose morals won’t let her stand for anything other than kindness, generosity, and heroism.

Enneagram Core: 2w3 so/sx

Tritype: 287 The Free Spirit [2w3 8w7 7w8]

Esmeralda puts and thinks of others ahead of herself in a broader context; she is charming, good-natured, and heartfelt. She’s a performer, who eagerly helps out everyone she meets, protecting them against Frollo and expecting others to be as helpful as she is. Under stress, she shows an 8-anger toward Frollo, standing up to him, calling him out on his cruelty, and defying him at every turn.

[random-esfp]

Lately I’m struggling with my heart core type being 2 instead of 4 so if I end up being 278 instead of 478 can I be called Esmeralda ??????

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Typical Senses of Humor From The MBTI Groups

Idealists (ENFP, INFP, INFJ, ENFJ): Lots of absurdest humor. Tends to come up with bizarre concepts and always tries to keep the jokes varied. Lots of puns, too.

Artisans (ESFP, ISFP, ISTP, ESTP): Often makes jokes that involve making fun of someone. Tries to make people feel alienated and uncomfortable for their own amusement.

Rationals (ENTP,INTP,INTJ,ENTJ): Sharp and gallows. Delves into black comedy a lot. Often makes jokes about the horrible things happening in life to cope with the world.

Guardians (ESTJ,ISTJ,ISFJ,ESFJ): Does not intend to be humorous, but sometimes says or does awkward things that come of as endearing. When they do try to be funny, they often have poor delivery.

(Keep in mind these are generalizations! You aren’t completely defined by your personality type! Have whatever sense of humor you like!)

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Good Omens: Aziraphale [ISFJ]

OFFICIAL TYPING by Charity / The Mod

Functional Order: Si-Fe-Ti-Ne

Perceiving Functional Axis:

Introverted Sensing (Si) / Extroverted Intuition (Ne)

Aziraphale is a “by the book” sort of angel. He tucks himself up in a nice little bookshop in London and really does not care for the idea that the world is about to come to an end… but, well, that’s how the world has always been meant to go, right? He loves to collect things, and has become an expert on old books and prophecies. Once he gets his hands on Agnes Nutter’s book, he spends all day reading it (and letting his cocoa get cold) until he knows everything inside the book. After saving the world, he goes back to the exact same life he had before, and instantly notices minor differences in this “new” reality. He lets Crawley do most of the theorizing, and only extrapolates off the demon’s suggestions – showing a tendency toward Ne that is mostly dependent on an outside source creating alternate possibilities (yes, maybe they COULD stop the apocalypse and maybe that’s in God’s will!).

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Good Omens: Crowley [ENTP]

OFFICIAL TYPING by Charity / The Mod

Functional Order: Ne-Ti-Fe-Si

Perceiving Functional Axis:

Extroverted Intuition (Ne) / Introverted Sensing (Si)

Crowley is a big picture thinker. While demons are all scrambling to make individual humans angry, he designs the highway surrounding London that will make “thousands of people angry every morning on their way to work.” He doesn’t want the apocalypse because the big picture (the end of everything) leads to no more “fun.” He plans ahead, getting his hands on holy water, in case he ever needs to defend himself against his fellow demons. And, he speculates on what the future may bring and why God is doing things (“maybe we are part of the divine plan? Maybe one day, the battle won’t be between our sides, but between us and them – the humans vs. the celestial beings!”). He recklessly throws himself into situations and assumes he will be all right. God says Crowley has something other demons lack – “an imagination.” He merely believes what he wants to believe, and makes it “real.” His inferior Si shows in how he holds onto one or two things from his past, including his very fashionable vehicle.

Judging Functional Axis:

Introverted Thinking (Ti) / Extroverted Feeling (Fe)

If there’s a loophole in the rules, Crowley will find it. He often argues his “angel friend” into trying out something or going along with his scheme, because Crowley can point out the logical work-around or “fix” that enables them to do something that isn’t technically inside the rules. He spends a lot of time analytically reasoning things out, and looking for inconsistencies (if God loves humans, why he is wiping them out again? If God loves Creation, why will he make the seas boil?). His Fe wants his friends to agree with him, and get on board with his schemes, as well as can act intimidating, charming, or pretend to be more on board with something than he actually is. He expects praise and applause for a “job well done” … err, for evil-ness.

Hogwarts House: Gryffindor

House Traits: daring, nerve, and chivalry.

Crowley is a risk-taking adventurous demon who wants to have fun. He doesn’t spend much time trying to outdo other demons, just keep them out of his hair so he can do whatever he wants. Just don’t insinuate that maybe he’s doing something “good,” he may fry you.

Enneagram: 7w6 sp/sx

Tritype: 738 The Mover & Shaker [7w6 3w4 8w7]

Crowley is pretty much entirely devoted to having a good time, and ignoring the stuff he doesn’t want to deal with. His entire selling point is that post-apocalypse life will be boring for both himself and the angel, so they should make sure it doesn’t happen, so they can go on and continue having fun … well, if not forever, then a long, long time. He tends to reframe things to be more positive, and ignore the stuff he doesn’t want to deal with, but his 6 wing is a little anxious about the idea of facing eternity alone, so he’s always recruiting his “buddy” into doing things with him. He’s also a little paranoid about dying, so he plans out things in advance. His 3 expects praise, is drawn toward the “finer” things in life, and is somewhat arrogant. His 8 never apologizes for what he goes after or wants. As an sp/sx, Crowley tends mostly to his own needs, but forms a strong sx-bond with Aziraphale.

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Supernatural: Castiel (INFP)

UNOFFICIAL TYPING by savandwich 

Introverted Feeling (Fi): Cas disobeys Heaven’s orders and does what he thinks is right. He likes to focus on what’s important to him… the Winchesters. If Cas doesn’t believe in a cause, he won’t fight for it. Cas isn’t very good at social appropriating, and is confused by social niceties. What drives Castiel is his developing sense of morality, rather than the concept that tradition (Heaven) is the thing to dictate your morality. (Fi over Si) Castiel is independent and prefers to sort things out by himself, only going to the Winchesters for help when logic (Te) says to him that he can’t do it on his own. Cas doesn’t show much emotion and prefers to express his feelings through actions and ideas. He tries hard to do the right thing and keep his friends safe, but sometimes his confidence in his own idea of rightness gets in his way and causes him to act hastily.  Such was the case when he raised Sam from the pit.

Extroverted Intuition (Ne): When Cas learns about the concept of Free Will, he is intrigued and open to the idea. He is intuitive and knows how to read his close friends. Once Castiel realizes all the different possibilities Earth has for him, it’s no wonder he feels a sense of responsibility in protecting humanity. Cas often leaps into the unknown, doing new crazy things no other angel has done before, all to protect humanity.

Introverted Sensing (Si): Cas loves to see the beauty in the small details, and in season 4, “clings to tradition even when he  doesn’t fully believe it anymore”, (as this blog so beautifully puts it). Castiel loves to revisit one man’s heaven in particular, again and again. Now, Cas is quite… genre-savvy, and quickly can access information in his mind on a pop-culture topic.

Extroverted Thinking (Te): Cas is able to execute plans when he needs to, and was particularly blunt in the earlier seasons. Castiel didn’t question the authorities because he lacked the knowledge to do anything else. When Cas was working with Crowley, he had become so engrossed in a pit of Fi, he forgot to consult his Te on the situation to tell him “This won’t work out- the facts say so!” and only managed to tap into it when he was too late.

Note: In the earlier seasons, Cas tried his best to please his superiors, which I think is what makes people type him as ISTJ- he tried so hard to act like one in Seasons 4 and 5! But he isn’t one.

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The Help: Aibileen Clark [ISTJ]

OFFICIAL TYPING by Charity / The Mod

Functional Order: Si-Te-Fi-Ne

Perceiving Functional Axis:

Introverted Sensing (Si) / Extroverted Intuition (Ne)

Aibileen has worked the same job for two generations, taking care of “babies.” She does all the housework, purchases all the groceries, and shapes the young minds in her care to believe the best of themselves, according to her own high standards. She is so used to how things are, she is a little fearful about thinking of the consequences of Skeeter’s great plan to write an exposé by “the help.” She does not spend much time thinking about life could be different, and only looks forward to it, after the book’s publishing and first royalties give her hope for her future.

Judging Functional Axis:

Extroverted Thinking (Te) / Introverted Feeling (Fi)

She is extremely practical and logical. She tells Skeeter flat out that the usual housekeeping column “gets it wrong most times.” She endures a surprising amount of intolerance from her employer without becoming super offended. She points out what could happen, if she opens up about her feelings, and chooses not to, based on rational / safety reasons. Aibileen confesses that she isn’t good at talking about her feelings – so she writes them out instead. She doesn’t talk about her dead son at all, and most people don’t know about it. When she receives applause in the church for helping write the book, she becomes uncomfortable with the excessive support. She extols zero effort in making people like her who don’t; instead, she focuses on mentoring her “children.”

Hogwarts House: Hufflepuff

House Traits: hard work, patience, loyalty, and fair play.

Patient and kind, Aibileen tries to teach Mae Mobley to value herself, despite what others say about her being stupid. She doesn’t bear any illusions about how dumb the little girl is (Te) but also is kind regardless. She serves without complaint and shows tolerance toward her employers.

Enneagram: 9w1 sp/so

Tritype: 962 The Good Samaritan [9w1 6w5 2w1]

Aibileen remains detached, numbing herself to anything unpleasant. She represses he feelings and does not talk about her feelings. She endures whatever nasty things her employers throw at her without complaint, and hurries to accommodate all their wishes… but also shows a silent, stubborn tendency to ignore them. Her 1 wing cares about doing what is right, and helps her overcome her anxiety in writing the book. Her 6 is cautious and fearful. She does not like to take chances with her job or her friends. Aibileen’s 2 is helpful and kind, often catering to others’ needs. As an sp/so, she is extremely private about her life.

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I don't know if you're comfortable typing real people but if you are, could you type the guys from Queer Eye?

I’m fine typing real people so I’ll just add the general caveat that these are real people and they know they’re being filmed and their TV personas may not match those of their personal life, etc, etc

Bobby is an STJ; not sure if he’s an ESTJ or ISTJ. You can tell because he a. goes off and just does work the whole time usually, and b. he tends to have a pretty fixed traditional aesthetic. Also in interviews he often has very specific anecdotes and the one that solidified it was the one in which he got fired for standing up for his employees at the Restoration Hardware when the original design guy for QE in the early 2000s stopped by.

Tan is I think an ISTP. He’s fairly open with his opinions and doesn’t sugar coat them, he’s obviously very into The Aesthetic, and he’s quite private and snarky. Also I think he might be trolling us all with the French tuck, which, quelle ISTP.

Jonathan is an ESFP who everyone is going to mistype as an ENFP but the fact is he was a cheerleader and he works in an aesthetic field. He’s very friendly, also reasonably blunt but better able to read people than Tan; highly energetic; and if you read that NYMAG article about the baker who wouldn’t bake for gay people you can see some Te bitchslapping.

Antoni gives off INFP vibes to me; he’s not always great at relating to people without a direct personal comparison; I feel like plating food in a fancy way is an intuitive thing of misplaced aesthetic though that might be my projection as a deeply un-fancy person who just wants the goddamn food; I also feel like he goes with like…what seems good as an idea, but maybe isn’t the most practical (though again I bet there’s probably TV exec/producer influence there). Also there’s a Buzzfeed video of him making this cool stuffed rice Italian dish that actually requires skill, like he can cook, so this isn’t a drag on him.

Karamo is clearly our high Fe user of the group and I think he’s an ESFJ if only because I don’t see any clear signs of intuition - he tends to be pretty pragmatic and the weirder projects he does just give me this sense of tert Ne rather than high Ni. Also I feel like an Ni user would not have responded the same way to that kid who was like “I like looking at lasers” and I love him for it (Karamo) (also kind of that weird music child tbh)

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Spider-Man: Into the Spider-Verse: Miles Morales [ESFP]

OFFICIAL TYPING by Charity / the Mod

Functional Order: Se-Fi-Te-Ni

Perceiving Functional Axis:

Extroverted Sensing (Se) / Introverted Intuition (Ni)

Miles ditches school and goes out after hours, to bond with his uncle and leave his artwork plastered all over the city on the front of stickers. It’s become a game for him to do this without getting caught. When sucked into a fight between Spider-Man and a villain, Miles watches from the sidelines, but also debates whether he should “get involved.” He isn’t above winging it in a situation, deciding to steal a computer when he can’t figure out what information they need. When Peter Parker tells him to “stay put,” Miles rushes headfirst into a dangerous situation, believing he can handle it. He’s impulsive, even before he learns how his powers work, and doesn’t want anyone else taking a risk “for” him. His low Ni doesn’t suspect his uncle’s true identity until confronted with the facts; he does sense that others are being “pulled” out of their multiple dimensions, and worries about them “dying” the longer they stay in his universe.

Judging Functional Axis:

Introverted Feeling (Fi) / Extroverted Thinking (Te)

He frets about fitting in and not being up to the external standards of the other kids in the schools, thinking he’s not “smart” enough to be one of them, and feeling slightly ashamed of his humble beginnings. He miscalculates how to interact with them, and can’t even “fake” coolness when his uncle (an ESTP) tells him to be suave. Miles has to be himself, and himself involves being a somewhat “dorky” dude when it comes to interacting with the opposite sex. As soon as an alternate dimension Spider-Man falls into his universe, Miles sees the potential in him – that he can pick up where the last one left off, and “teach me things.” He points out the obvious sometimes, such as how this Spider-Man has “taught me nothing useful.” When confronted with bad situations, Miles heads straight for the quickest resolution –steal the computer, send his friends back to their dimensions, seal the portal.

Hogwarts House: Gryffindor

House Traits: daring, nerve, and chivalry.

Miles is something of a risk-taker on a “mild” level even before he gains super-powers. He will shy away from things out of fear, then decide to do them anyway – backing off from a ledge and then launching off it into the proverbial unknown, trusting his powers will help him. He wants to be useful to society, and contribute to it in a more meaningful way.

Enneagram: 7w6 so/sx

Tritype: 721 The Teacher [7w6 2w3 1w2]

Miles is a good-natured, fun-loving kid, who is just out to have a good time and doesn’t really feel at home in a high pressure grades-centric place. It triggers his anxiety and sends him back into a world of easy distractions – running away from his worries and thoughts through his art and by leaving his signature all over the city. He even cracks jokes in dangerous situations! His 6 wing is somewhat anxious, and wants to rely on Peter Parker to teach him how to be a good Spider-Man (“we” can do this!). His 2 fix wants to help everyone and launches into action on their behalf, while his 1 has a fixed set of idealistic opinions. As an so/sx, he often puts himself at risk for the greater good.

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This is going to be a super niche post, but during my years of drawing classes I noticed that the mbti types have common struggles when it comes to drawing from life based on their perceiving function. So I’ve had this idea in the back of my head for awhile and finally wrote it all down. warning its p long

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1. Dominant Introverted Thinking (Ti)

Megara is a fiercely independent and individualistic type of character. She looks out for herself first. This does not mean she is uncaring for others, but her first priority is her individual freedom. To her, feelings are not a top factor in choosing what she or anyone else should do. 

Her Ti allows her to judge situations in the moment through an opportunistic lens. She judges situations by what can give her a leg up and help her survive. She isn’t always thinking of what others would do in her situation or how others will feel as a consequence. This makes her great at adapting in the moment, but being dominant in an introverted judgement, she isn’t always thinking of the long term effects of her decision making. However, it does make her great at getting out of unfavorable situations.

Although she likes to improvise to get out of situations she does not have a need to first dive in like an ESTP. As an ISTP she is more focused due to her Ti being dominant rather than her Se. She won’t dive-in to solve a situation right away. Her Ti being first makes her completely in or completely out of something. This is why we see her at times more on the sidelines. Her Ti judges whether the situation is something worth her time first, before going all in. An ESTP, more often than not, has to dive in first to experience whether or not it was something they should have dived into.

2. Secondary Extraverted Sensation (Se)

Meg is not about abstract thought or philosophizing. Meg is present in the here and now as well as being a person about practical actions. She would rather actively work towards something than trying to study the many options that would be plausible. This is what makes her so great at crisis situations and navigate working for Hades. 

She isn’t one for words, but for action. She bonds with others through her experiences with them. This explains the progression of her relationship with Hercules. She doesn’t develop a bond with him through words or doting. She doesn’t spend time romanticizing him in her head. She grows fond of him through working together and doing things actively, participating in something. I highly doubt that if they parted ways after that first encounter if he would have ever really crossed her mind ever again.

3. Tertiary Introverted iNtuition (Ni)

Meg uses this to process her Ti-Se experiences as whole. This is how she attributes meaning to her actions and her life. It is incredibly personal as it is inward facing. This is extremely private to Meg and as she is an Ti-Se user she isn’t open in the slightest when talking about it. She will always rather show you or experience something with you to get closer than divulge her inner thoughts in a verbal manner.

Her Ni also makes her skeptical of structures. This is become the focus of her Ni as it is combined with her Ti. She is skeptical and critical of society and the systems she finds herself in. She doesn’t trust that any group or person can help her, only that she can help herself. Her Ni supports her Ti judgement through its abstract synthesizing of her experiences in the world. We see this in her song as she resists trusting anyone to care for her or put her first. It is what makes her more jaded than the average Disney Princess. This internalized distrust is not reactionary directly to the experience, but something that has built up since the experience of being ditched and hurt, internalized, and turned out into a guiding principle of her life.

4. Inferior Extraverted Feeling (Fe)

Meg has a really hard time conforming to the societal roles expected of her and a hard time living up to the expectations of others. When roles and responsibilities are pushed on her, she naturally leans more into her dominant function to evade in order to retain her sense of freedom and individuality. Even when confronted by her own feelings, she is more comfortable pushing them down. Hercules is one for stereotypical wooing, of giving her a flower for example. Her impulse is to find this gesture empty, but we do see her come around and get in touch with her feelings. That journey is a struggle for her though.

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Weird question — what do you do when you don’t feel smart enough? At my current job, I’m around a ton of people who have degrees from top universities, are witty and go-getters. I’m not too sure of whether this is a self-esteem issue or a motivation issue. Although I know success relies on grit more than intelligence, I can’t help but feel like no matter hard I try I won’t be able to accomplish things at the level they do.

Some food for thought: Be honest with yourself. Do you define your identity and measure your self-worth through: the school you went to, your job title, your public performances, displays of intelligence, your level of skill, your socioeconomic status, or other people’s opinions of you? If you do, then you will never feel good enough because there will always be someone who is: more successful, higher up, more charismatic, smarter, more skilled, more privileged, or determined to hate everything about you. 

Be honest with yourself. How do you ascribe worth and identity to other people? Do you judge people and look down on those who: are not getting straight As, work “lowly” jobs, behave clumsily, make “stupid” errors, suffer learning problems, live in poverty, or have a humble/submissive attitude? If so, then your moral value system is the source of your problems because you’ve bought into completely arbitrary measures of “inherent” human superiority or inferiority that you think everyone should believe in or else they become a “moral failure”. If not, then why do you use such an attitude to evaluate yourself? Where is your empathy and compassion for yourself? 

You list things that point to superficial appearances of success. Do you believe that everyone in an ivy league school got there solely by individual merit? Do you believe that “witty” or “go-getter” people are objectively deserving of being put up on a pedestal despite not knowing anything else about their character? Do you presume to know exactly how hard any given person has worked in their life to get to where they are today? You make a lot of assumptions or generalizations about human nature that seem naive and even crude.

If you believe that you have more in you than you’re currently showing, then by all means, work to bring it out and show it off. But if you believe that you have to bust your ass in order to avoid feeling inferior to the people around you, no amount of ass-busting will ever make you feel good about yourself, in fact, the more you do it, the worse you’ll feel. Deep down you know this, which is why it affects your motivation. Real and lasting success is not about fitting in or impressing others in the moment, and chasing these goals leads you into emptiness as you keep abandoning who you really are. Success in life is not about self-punishment but rather self-care: caring enough about yourself to love and accept the things you can’t change and taking the time to nurture the potential that you want to bring forth for making a positive contribution to the world.

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how mbti gets out of social gatherings

“my mom said no”: intp, isfj

“i’m sick”: estj, esfp, infp

“i have a thing going on”: entp, enfj

“my cousin karen’s friend charlie’s mom linda had cataract surgery so i’m feeding her cat. for three hours. yeah.”: esfj, estp, enfp

*ignores the invitation until after it’s over* “sorry didn’t get this til now”: intj, istp, isfp

“work is keeping me busy, can’t make promises”: entj, istj, infj

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Hey can you give like a modern, realistic depiction/description of SFJs? All of those descriptions sound like they’re from the 50s and there’s no way two of the most common types died out since then.

It’s not fair to leave out STJs.

Si-doms are best known fordeveloping areas of expertise and/or long commitment to their interests,passions, and hobbies. They are the sort of person who commits fully to apassion and keeps at it long enough to show the fruits of their labors and/or“become the best.” Their focus on details enables this to come about – theywill learn from their mistakes, they will learn systematically, and they willlearn from other people and how they do things. Their approach to life is tobuild an extensive inner library of experiences that help them relate to allnew experiences (through pattern recognition – similarities). They are oftenpresent-focused, easily able to handle details, and adaptable. Lower Ne meansopenness to intuition and insight, a desire for new experiences, and to growand adapt throughout their life, but they often discredit their dreams as“fantasies.” ISTJs are more task-oriented in terms of completion and facts,ISFJs are more people-focused and good with networking for completion.

EJs are a much different creature –far more based on impacting the outer world, reflective of what is going onaround them, and forward in motivating and bringing about change; often proneto staying incredibly busy (potential for being a ‘workaholic’). ESFJs areoften socially active and have a wide variety of interests, passions, andpursuits; they become more easily tired of something and move on (tert Ne) intoexpanding their interests into new areas. ESTJs are more focused on achievement– work hard, then come home and play hard with their family. More centeredaround accomplishing things and ‘reality.’

- ENFP Mod