Needing constant reassurance
Excessive interest to a point it’s unhealthy and potentially stalkerish behaviour.
Isolating you and making you rely on comfort from them alone (by making you feel as if they are your only friend)
Insulting other RP blogs, especially ones you RP with
Trying to control your dash and what you post (via excessive tag use)
Vague blogging when you show interest in other people (also just general vague blogging), this is also a guilt tripping tactic.
Attacking you and/or your muse via monologue in threads (I’m just jotting it down again even tho it’s up above because this seriously does happen!)
Using their muses as a scapegoat to their actual feelings (this happens with possessive and jealous mods a LOT)
Backhanded compliments (insulting you or your muse, only to try and make it a compliment afterwards)
Passive aggressive behaviour in general (goes with vague blogging)
Treating you negatively if you aren’t replying to them immediately (goes with guilt tripping)
Generally making you feel like a bad person and friend
You’ve somehow become their therapist
Guys, if you feel like you are being manipulated or a person is toxic, chances are that YOU ARE RIGHT. Some of these things don’t show themselves until it’s FAR TOO LATE and you’re stuck in a bad situation you don’t know how to get out of.
Empathetic people are often HUGE AND EASY targets for narcissists and manipulators.
Here’s a tip: TRUST YOUR GUT. If you don’t feel like you are comfortable talking to someone or Rping with someone, then don’t. You don’t owe anyone anything by being here. You’re here to enjoy your time, and people like this can be exceptionally clever in cornering and isolating you by using the methods above, but also note that these things often don’t show themselves straight away and you might be caught up in having a new friends who makes you feel special and loved.
But there are ALWAYS signs. Even if they are very small. Keep an eye on them and look after yourself, and I mean it: Trust. Your. Gut. It’s the only thing that will protect you from situations like this unless you’re lucky enough to have a close friend who can help you avoid situations like this.
