kid who sticks to their carer, holding their hand when out in public, glued to their side n being guided along ā shyly peeking from behind their caregiver when speaking to someone, remembering to be polite n use their manners the way their mama / dada taught them !!
toddler who loves skin to skin cuddles, clinging onto their carer at home, never far away from their mommy / daddy . . . carer who holds their tiny one close, soothing the baby with the gentle sound of their heartbeat <3
Hello there! This post is for caregivers who care for littles who are autistic. Here's some ways to help with meltdowns or times when autism is being meaner than usual!
(All from my personal experience as someone with autism! Not everyone is the same!)
First, let's start with some of the possible warning signs of a meltdown!
1. Sensory Issues worse than usual
-> Textures may be described as "wrong" or "bad"
-> Things may be perceived as louder than they actually are
-> Things may be perceived as brighter than they actually are
-> Room feels like it's closing in around you
2. May become more irritable
-> May be more prone to snapping or having an attitude
-> Could possibly be described as more "stubborn"
3. Trouble communicating
-> Being non-verbal for a prolonged amount of time
-> Trouble expressing feelings or emotions
-> Could also speak faster than usual or slower than usual
-> Saying things like "I don't know what's wrong" or "I can't figure out what's happening"
4. Difficulty taking care of self
-> Forgetting to eat/not wanting to
-> Not sleeping as they normally would
-> Not having the motivation or energy to do basic tasks
5. Isolation
-> This is a big warning sign!
-> Not wanting to go out/leave the house/leave their room
-> Struggling when they do leave their space
6. Increase in stimming (whether super noticeable stims, or more passive ones)
-> Hand flapping, rocking, mouth popping, hair fidgeting, fidgeting with hands, etc
These are some of the possible warning signs, but everyone is different. Now, here's some ways you can help a little experiencing this.
~Be patient and understanding. Autism can be scary outside of littlespace, but it can be scarier when little. Try not to get angry or frustrated.
~Avoid yelling or any other loud noises
~Don't force them to talk or communicate. Sometimes it's better to just have someone there
~Listen if they do try and communicate their needs.
~Going along with the one above, but don't feel hurt or like you did something wrong if they ask to be left alone or tell you they need space. Sometimes having someone around is too much and they might just need to process their emotions on their own.
~Communicate on ways to help once the meltdown seems to subside
~Remember that everyone is different. What you've seen work for someone might not work for someone else. It varies (which is why communication is good)
~Try to give suggestions if sensory issues is something that's a main struggle ("Try changing into comfy clothes" "Try a different blanket" "Turn off the TV?" "Turn off the lights?") Just trying to figure out what helps and what doesn't
~Offer a distraction if that's what they need (Ask about hyperfixations, even if you already know the answers to the questions. One of the good ones for me that always seems to come up is dinosaurs <3)
Remember: It's okay if something you do doesn't help. That's how you learn and you know not to do that thing next time. It's okay <3 You're doing great
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Hi! Could you maybe do cg!Hotch headcannons? Gender neutral little who works at the bau (no diapers) with little ages around 2-4 ā¤ļø
CG HOTCH OWNS MY SOUL!! I remember starting Criminal minds and after watching an episode I was like āYup that man is a Caregiver and no one can change my mind.āšš I hope you donāt mind, I did a strictly Caregiver Hotch Headcannon meaning thereās little to no mention of the others from criminal minds on here. I wanted to focus on his character and give the best Headcannons I could for him!š I hope you enjoy!! Thank you for your request @teddysterk !!š
Caregiver Aaron Hotchner Headcannons
TW- mentions of FBI work and everything that entails, mention of nightmares and (spoilers) past trauma from Hotch loosing his family.
Being the youngest at the BAU already earns you the nickname kid and kiddo without them getting to know know you. Oh how they truly donāt know how close to home the nickname is for you.
When youāre an agent at the BAU you get a lot of perks. But the disadvantage? You have to live with what youāve seen. Itās either unhealthy coping mechanisms or healthy ones. Luckily for Y/N, they choose one of the healthiest one thereās is, Regression.
Your regression is TOP SECRET. The team already think of you as a kid so they donāt need your regression to prove it even more. But what Y/N doesnāt know is someone is already onto them.
Hotch has been and always will be coined as the token Dad of the BAU family. Not only is he their boss but he takes care of them and makes sure theyāre all doing okay. So when he starts to notice a particular case getting to Y/N. He steps in to make sure theyāre okay.
He doesnāt embarrass them infront of the team. But he begins to notice small things about them that peaks his worries. He canāt turn off being a profiler, after all itās his job, so when he starts to really take notice of Y/N, he thinks heās stumbled upon a Regressor.
Hotch, being an educated man, knows about age regression. Heās seen some victims regress and even fellow colleagues from years ago regress. But he hasnāt been around a Regressor as young or as close to him as Y/N.
So one day when itās just him and Y/N in the office. He brings the subject up. He put Y/Nās worried right away at bay, letting them know from the start that their regression is okay and that it would change nothing about their status on the team and would be between the two of them.
Maybe hiding it for so long wasnāt the best choice because after Hotch explains it to Y/N, they begin to break down and regress.
Hotch immediately swoops in and takes over, wrapping Y/N in a tight but gentle hug, shushing and reassuring them thatās itās okay, and that their regression is valid.
After that night though, Y/N regression seemed pulled to Hotch, feeling comfortable and safe around him.
So one night, when everyoneās left again, Y/N walks into Y/Nās office and ask if he would be their Caregiver.
Hotch smile, something only Y/N seems to pull from him, and happily accepts. He then becomes their Caregiver both on and off cases.
Hotch as Y/Nās Caregiver is both similar and different to how he is on the team.
For one, he stern but a softie as well. He big on rules but he also is a softie when Y/N gets upset after breaking one or really really wants something.
Heās a terrible cook. He tries, he really does to be a good cook and make nice meals for the two of them but it usually ends up burnt and the kitchen full of smoke.
*The smoke detectors go off while Y/N sits in the living room. They run into the kitchen with a fire extinguisher and spray Hotch more than the burnt chicken*
When theyāre on cases together, Hotch can know just by one glance whether youāre feeling Little or not. Heās developed a knack for the little things you do when you start to regress.
No one is allowed to touch Hotchās brief case. For one he has classified files in there. But two, he also has your little gear inside incase you regress while theyāre on a case. Inside he has a pacifier, some fidget toys, a small palm size plushie, and even some snacks.
Back at the BAU office, he has a whole drawer dedicated to you. Some blankets, coloring books and crayons, sippy cups, pacifiers, small animal figures. You name it, he has it. He likes to be prepared whenever you need to regress.
Sometimes you start to regress at work, right before the two of you leave. Thatās fine with Hotch! He closes the door to his office, wraps you in a blanket and gets everything set up so you can feel safe to regress while he works.
Heās definitely the type of CG that would buckle you up in the car and go: āThere we go. All buckled up and safe.ā
Heās the king of forehead kisses. On and off cases, in and out of regression. Itās his way of reassuring or comforting you.
Heās also huge on holding your hand when youāre regressed. He likes to have you safe and next to him when youāre both out of the house. Itās not just security for you, but also reassurance for him. As you walks heāll tend to rub his thumb against your knuckles as small gesture to himself that your next to him and okay.
Being in the FBI for all these years his biggest fear is someone trying to hurt you to get to him. It happened to him once, taking out his entire family, but he will NEVER let it happen again with you. You come to realize you somethingās have to be patient with him, knowing his trauma.
Love to read to you before bed. Itās not only a nice way to send Y/N off to sleep, but also to help relax the two of you away from your thoughts of work.
Heās the type to wake up to any little noise. If you cry out in your sleep, wake up to grab some water, whatever it is heās up in two seconds. Heās not a deep sleeper.
Heās also the type that can see through it all. Any kind of lie or act you try to play, he sees through you like a window. āWhereās your vegetables?ā āOh I ate themā¦ā āYou ate them?ā āYeahā¦ā āReally? So if I checked the garbage disposal it wouldnāt-ā¦ā āWaitwaitwait!ā
Always make sure you have your comfort items close at all times incase you could need them, including fidget toys.
Very outdoorsy! Whether itās taking you to the park, riding your bikes or simply just playing in his backyard together. Hotch loves to be outdoors with his little one.
When you cry or get upset, Hotch swoops in. He gently hold you in his arms, slightly rocking the two of you as he reassures and shushes your worries away. āYou okay. Just let it all out. Iām here, Iāve got you.ā
Working from home with him becomes an impossible task with a regressed Y/N coming up to him every minute. āLook at my toy lion!ā āCan I have a snack?ā āWhatās this paper say?ā āCan I draw on your papers?ā āCome watch Bluey with me! I wanna cuddle.ā He doesnāt really end up doing much work, not that he minds at all.
At the end of the day, Hotch may seem like a stern and yet protective boss to everyone at the BAU, but to you, heās a gentle, caring and loving Caregiver who finds your regression an escape for you and him to enjoy.
normalize cuddling with your stuffies every single night so that you will be protected from the evil monsters (anxiety) and that you will be happy while you sleep :)
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normalize cuddling with your stuffies every single night so that you will be protected from the evil monsters (anxiety) and that you will be happy while you sleep :)
i get a new dino calls troy an he a tri cera tols!
(i can no remmeber if i hav a emoji but can i hav š¦ or šø?)
Hiya dear !! Ooh oh my goodness, happy birthday !! Iām sending you lots of birthday wishes kiddo, and Troy sounds super cute !! Tell him Papa Wolf says hi ! ^_^ (And I donāt think you do, Iāll add you to the list !)
their names sre ty, garby, troy, zeb and skya. i named da t-rex, stegossurus and vrachiossurus after da characters from dino trux!
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