seren

it/its

[weirdopositive]

hello !

call me seren, it/its. this account is for me first and foremost, but i aim to make it a safe space for everyone who feels they don't fit in to traditional mental health communities. i will try my best to keep posting positive and informative for this reason.

this account is 18+, please. i don't have a strict dni other than not wanting people who are pro-endogenic to interact. i don't get involved in much other discourse, but i will block people who have scary takes.

why make this? i've always felt as if i stick out like a sore thumb amongst other mentally ill people. as an adult with severe mental health difficulties, likely undiagnosed plurality, i struggle to relate to the experiences of others, and i know i'm not alone. i want to be able to foster my own little community so nobody has to feel by themself.

about me? i'm an adult, starting university for forensic psychology. under a care team for my mental health. bulimia, depression, ptsd. i consider myself plural but am waiting on a key worker to be able to look further into it. because of my mental health i don't really have hobbies or interests but i would love to pick some up. i also have fnd.

[weirdopositive]

systems, don't feel ashamed of the way your life made you. you developed this way for a reason, the world wasn't kind to you. it's hard to love every part of yourself, but know they exist for a purpose. you never overreacted to the things that happened to you. if it wasn't that serious, you wouldn't have alters.

[weirdopositive]

forgive yourself for your psychosis.

forgive yourself for the strange things you say, do, the lengths you went to just to isolate yourself or do what you thought was "right", the ways you might've even hurt people during episodes.

you may feel embarrassed, ashamed, guilty. forgive yourself. beating yourself up helps nobody. you're gonna learn to live with it eventually, my lovelies. i promise.

[funeral--pyre]

'Cause people tend to not get the memo: People acting strangely in public is not a danger to you. Pacing, talking to themselves or something you can't see, laughing to themselves, stimming, twitching, ticcing, making "weird" noises--it doesn't fucking matter. They're not your personal freak show, they're not broken, they're not a murderer and they're definitely not going to be fucking helped by you calling the authorities or anyone else on em. These actions alone are not indicative of danger to you, as a random person on the street. Shut the fuck up and move on, leave disabled people alone.

[sagewing]

Carrd

[weirdopositive]

if you feel lost, alienated, lonely, like you don't fit into the world - make a life that works for you. if you're outcasted, show the world you didn't need them. plenty of people are living outside of the norms of the world, and when you meet them, you'll find they're doing just fine. and so will you.

[anti-willo-fluttergoth]

As an autistic system I do notice that the way endos/ntgs view/treat plurality/systems is very similar to how (mostly allistic but sometimes autistic folks too) view and treat autism.

"It's not a disability it's a superpower! You're not disabled your differently abled! Everyone's a little bit on the spectrum! Oh yeah I'm sooo autistic" autism has been made something cute and quirky. Men are wanting "autistic" girlfriends but I'm sure if a real autistic woman was anywhere near them they'd revert back to bully they were in middleschool. Traits like stimming and special interests are romanticised, while the more "ugly" parts are all ignored and forgotten. White autistics with Lower supports needs are centred and most often leave their POC and higher supports needs siblings behind and/or speak over them.

DID too has suffered from being sensationalised and glamorized, the alters/multiplicity aspect has been romanticised and taken by outsiders while the "ugly" parts have been left out and forgotten. "Plurality isn't a disorder it's just some vague phenomena anyone can experience! If you wish you were a system, now you can be!" It's just a quirky identity stripped of it's "baggage". Plural communities constantly decentre CDD systems, their most vulnerable group, we are not listened to because our disorder isn't pretty, because we don't want our experiences and language appropriated , because we don't abide by their idealised version of Plurality and blindly agree with their community.

The "tiktokification" of autism does not represent me, the "tiktokification" of systems doesn't either. I'm not against sharing the good parts of your disorder/disability but you must remember it IS a disorder/disability. There is also nothing wrong with relating to traits of a disorder without having it. But,once again, do not speak over us!!

(Sorry if what's written I all over the place, the post was started by one alter and its been a few day I've decided to finish it and post it. I hope what we've written makes sense. Be kind and have a lovely day)

[anti-willo-john-pork]

no wait you cooked

[2003-playground]

Can we stop using "still lives with their parents" or "unemployed" or "doesn't have a drivers license" or "didn't graduate high school" as an insult or evidence that someone is a bad person? Struggling with independence or meeting milestones is not a moral failing.

[weirdopositive]

it's okay to do things wrong. it's okay to make mistakes. it's okay to make decisions you regret. no matter how big or how small. we all do things wrong. own up to your mistakes, apologise to whoever you need to, and learn from it. you're not a bad person, you just did something bad. don't be hard on yourself or you won't grow.

[weirdopositive]

being plural and having fnd is so dramatic. i have a seizure and all of a sudden im a different guy. could u not be any slicker about it

[oursystemblog]

sure

[weirdopositive]

it's ok if your mental illness doesn't "look" the way you think it should.

it's ok if you're depressed, but you look like you're functioning on the outside.

it's ok if you're anxious, but everyone you know would describe you as confident.

it's ok if you self harm, but there's no scars on your body.

it's okay if you have an eating disorder, but you're not underweight.

it's okay if you have a cdd, but your switches aren't obvious.

it's okay if you have a personality disorder, but the parts people expect to be loud are quiet.

it's okay if you have ocd, but your compulsions aren't just "washing your hands and locking the door".

it's okay if you don't fit the stereotype. it's okay if nobody can tell you're sick. it's okay if you're healing, and your healing makes you look "fine". it doesn't make you cured, or a liar, or overexaggerating, to seem okay.