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Sex Ed: The Unbrainwashing

anything you learned from porn, forget it, actresses in porn get traumatized and injured and you do not want to do that to your partner

if you want any kind of real intimacy you’ll have to quit porn for a long time before trying

sex is not about showing off so don’t try to do things at your partner’s expense that you’re not sure they’ll enjoy

if your partner looks uncomfortable, stop.

if your partner gets tense, quiet, frozen, or their body goes limp when it shouldn’t, stop immediately! this is a trauma reaction and you’re hurting them if you continue.

if your partner sounds weird, withdraws physically, or you get any subtle hint that they do not want to do this with you, stop and let them go.

nobody owes you wanting to be intimate with you, not even long-term partners

don’t ever say any shit that would make your partner feel guilty for not wanting to do something. this is coercion and goes under rape category. if they don’t want to do it, they’re not supposed to do it.

no insults or slurs during intimacy. you do not want to say anything harmful to a person who is vulnerable in front of you.

no forceful actions. no restraining your partner so they can’t defend themselves properly. no putting your partner into any situation where they can’t safely fight back if they don’t like what’s going on. let your partner have every possible out and not depend solely on ther trust that you wont hurt them, not even you know if you’ll hurt them.

put your ego aside and put feelings of your partner first. your ego will recover if it gets hurt, your partner might not.

no violence, injuries, or inflicting pain on your partner. not even if they ask you to. you don’t want to aid someone in their self-harm via you as proxy. You do not want to learn to get off on someone’s pain. You will turn into a sociopath and your empathy towards your partner will lessen until it disappears, and they will learn to accept violence as a form of love. this is abuse of both of you.

do not get intimate with people you actually want to injure. this is unsafe both for you and them.

if you want to role-play, please do not even think about appropriating slavery, rape, pedophilia, power abuse and torture as a part of your game. It’s disrespectful to all of the victims of these atrocities, and it does not indicate a person emotionally healthy enough to engage in intimacy.

do not make your partner self conscious about their appearance, you do not want them worrying about their body when they should be enjoying themselves

if you don’t put any focus or effort on making your partner orgasm you basically just used their body to masturbate and it doesn’t even count

don’t attempt anything without considering what long term consequences it might have for your partner (contracting diseases, pregnancy, trauma, emotional pain)

the mood is not as important as your partner’s feelings

remember that everyone desires to feel wanted, so if you want your partner make sure they feel that way, show them.

do not harm your partner’s dignity

be kind and gentle both with your words and actions

feministism

radfemetc

If you need to understand the issue or need help explaining this to other people - this is it.

notable-spinster

at its core, the sex industry is not women selling their bodies to men, it is men selling women (and children’s) bodies to other men

daree-to-dream

Every girl has had the experience where a creepy guy asks for our number and we don’t want to give it to him, but we also don’t want to get gutted in a back alley. “Give him a fake number!” I hear you call, okay and then he says “okay let me call you real quick!” Because they are learning. “Give them your number and then block them!” Okay and then they can plug it into something like Spokeo, pay $10 and know everything about you. So what do you do?

First pick a fake name, I use Jessica, then download the Google Voice app, hook it up to your email, pick a number, and set up a fake greeting with your fake name. You can set it to ring your actual phone like a normal call or text but they don’t have real info on you.

Go forth and don’t get murdered, ladies!

luckys-horseshoe-deactivated202

Everyone reblog this post.

spacemonkeyg78

Why the fuck do women have to constantly think of new ways for men not to kill them while all men want to do is repetitively whine about it as if being called out for the violence they are responsible for is equal to being raped, assaulted or murdered for simply for saying no to them.

girlsfrommars

Man voice: Yeah, I totally understand being attacked, I know what it feels like. This one time, feminists on the Internet told me it’s inappropiate to whistle at women. This war on men needs to stop

paysagearchitectural

NAGAKIN CAPSULE TOWER

Architect : Kisho Kurokawa

Location: Tokyo, Japan

Start Project : 1970

Project Complete: 1972

drugdoer-deactivated20140123

holy shittt

cow-head-deactivated20250519

This is a step in the right direction for a dystopian future city

spirit-wormwood

I’ll take one right now please.

uwagoto

最近空室が貸しに出されていると聞きました

whateverandadayortwo

家賃は6万ぐらい。

the-radical-buzzard-of-discourse

11,470 votes and 504 comments so far on Reddit

(Spoiler alert: this dude is indeed a massive festering asshole.)

“Throwaway because I’m sure some people will find this controversial and I don’t want it tied to my main.

When my wife and I got married we agreed that we would have 2 kids unless both were girls, then we’d have a 3rd to try for a boy. I’m a guy’s guy and I grew up with only brothers so I feel strongly that I want a son to bond with.

That’s not to say that I don’t love my daughter equally. I just want to raise someone to follow in my footsteps with sports and girls and stuff. After some convincing, my wife agreed to this but said that if the 3rd kid was a girl, we’d stop trying. Anyway, we ended up having one boy (8 years old) and one girl (5 years old). This background is important because you need to know that having a 3rd kid was something that was on the table.

My wife doesn’t think that this is a good reason to have a 3rd kid. She said that she would be open to having a 3rd kid but that she finds my reasoning disgusting and she doesn’t think she can go through with it knowing the reason for me wanting one. I don’t think she understands how special it is for a father to have a son who can follow in his footsteps.

Am I the asshole or is she overreacting?”

Any science ladies out there feel like developing a virus that can cause a man’s junk to shrivel away the instant he starts feeling entitled to dictate women’s reproductive labor, the sex of his children, or the sexuality of his children? PM me, I have ideas.

kittiesatemypronouns

Imagine putting your wife through all that—life, body, health, spirit, energy—just to roll the dice and see if you get a boy this time. I feel sorry not only for his wife but for his daughter.

Edit: Also, I don’t get what his problem is.

When my wife and I got married we agreed that we would have 2 kids unless both were girls, then we’d have a 3rd to try for a boy.

So they had one of each. What is he saying he wants a third for?

revengeofthehorsegirl

Men who feel entitled to children please die

radicaltomie

I’m not sure why the OP left out the most important part.

Last month, our son told us that he likes boys. This is totally fine, I’m not a homophobe, but I’m starting to feel like I want to have a 3rd kid so we can try to have a straight boy. I love my son more than anything and I wouldn’t love a straight kid more than him, but at the end of the day I wanted to be able to bond with one of my kids over traditional masculine stuff, which includes women.

terfvania

I feel so bad for his son.

rad-virgo

Ewww

whateverandadayortwo

He wants to pass his misogyny on to his son.

scoundreltime

ehlihr

gus johnson 2 electric boogaloo

antiporn-activist

virulentblog-deactivated2023080

The more I see genderists combine their “love hearts not parts” rhetoric with “love their soul”, the more sickeningly religious the whole trans and nonbinary movement feels. In the end, what primarily gay people are being told is that they’re bigoted for being genital fetishists (Or in other words, indulging in carnal sins) instead of loving people for their very spiritual, intimate, soul-like gender identity. Or even discarding the gender pretense at all and just saying “love them for their hearts/mind/soul” up front. Straight people pat themselves on the back for being “enlightened” by this genderless nirvana of love, and gay people who don’t agree to fuck the opposite sex based on soul-feelings get branded flesh-bigots and sinners who can’t see past the material world and accept the spiritual. It’s sick, pretentious, and it frightens me. Turning sexual and romantic relationships into a testing theocracy governed by how people feel “in their soul” and which throws out sexuality or sexual attraction is dangerous.

radafayscage

Not only that, it frames homosexuality as something that is innately and only sexual. The amount of times I’ve been forced to clarify my lack of attraction to males in the most clinical, you’d-have-to-be-an-idiot to misunderstand manner only to have that turned against me with epithets of genital fetishism is exhausting.

They’ve taken our language from us, they’ve verbally backed us into a corner until we are reduced to the most simple definition. Then, the manufactured distinction between homosexual and homoromantic (a la dual model) created a divide between “bodily desires” and romance. Then the physical aspect of sexuality was derided. To admit to being a homosexual, I feel, is communicating to them that you are not interested in love, or connection, or human contact, personality, intimacy, shared experiences. It feels like a return to “the homosexual is perverted” thought of the 1950s that proliferated psychology and institutionalised academia.

There are many churches who will admit that same-sex attraction occurs. They will even “accept” you for being gay; as long as you don’t act on the attraction. Same-sex attraction is temptation leading you astray from the path of God, the nuclear family unit and the foundation of society. They say that love exists in many forms, but it is unifying. As you can love a friend, you can love a spouse, and by doing so they manufacture a divide between sexual attraction and love, just as the genderists have learned to replicate in their own dogma.

there-was-a-girl

…created a divide between “bodily desires” and romance. Then the physical aspect of sexuality was derided. To admit to being a homosexual, I feel, is communicating to them that you are not interested in love, or connection, or human contact, personality, intimacy, shared experiences. It feels like a return to “the homosexual is perverted” thought of the 1950s that proliferated psychology and institutionalised academia.

THIS

cishits

How would you define male and female?

To me? They are meaningless. I cannot for the life of me fathom what they are and what they mean.

apparentlyevil-deactivated20150

“Black women wake up in the morning, look in the mirror, and see black women. White women wake up in the morning, look in the mirror, and see women. White men wake up in the morning, look in the mirror, and see human beings.” — Michelle Haimoff.

The meaninglessness of biology in a world where female biology is overwhelmingly the target of anti-choice legislation, slavery, the withholding of education, forced/mandatory pregnancy, rape, murder, incest, paedophilia and mutilation, is a privilege that very few female human beings on this planet have access to. If you are able to say to biology, “you are meaningless” then you have no idea what it is like to be oppressed on the axis of biology, and ignoring it is a violent slap in the face of the women and girls all over the world who are oppressed on the basis of being born female. This cavalier attitude towards human biology and the behaviours that exist in response to it is dishonest, it is in denial, it is oppressive, and it is above all, misogynistic. It is also anti-intersectional, as it completely ignores how women of colour are further violated on the grounds of their biology. Saying that sexual biology is meaningless is on the same level of delusion as, “skin colour is meaningless” or “disability is meaningless” or “race is meaningless, I cannot for the life of me fathom it or what it means”. It is not meaningless. It is a biological reality, it is a group that people are born into and on this basis are subjected to horrific treatment that is specific to that particular group.

fairypage-deactivated20190421

You're 15, why are you such a big terf?

i never saw zootopia

itnerlude

lol girls really aren’t allowed to enjoy anything if a girl wears vans and american eagle jeans and posts selfies on vsco she’s a basic bitch if a girl gets drunk at parties and wears tube tops and has sex she’s a slut if a girl has pressed flowers in her phone case and wears doc martens and eats vegetarian she’s an ~ uwu wannabe quirky girl ~ if a girl hangs out with guys and plays video games she’s still a slut she’s just pretending to be a bro we aren’t allowed to enjoy anything or be ourselves under any circumstances you can really smell the misogyny can’t you

thesilencedmasses

Misogyny makes the assumption that women are never sincere about anything, and bases its entire ideology on that

antiporn-activist

The follow up questions are:

• Do you think this is an isolated incident?

• If it is, how would you know for sure?

• If it’s not, what is the acceptable number of drugged women you would accept in your porn?

thevaginamonoblogs

^ these three questions can also be used for age violations in the porn industry and sex trafficking in the porn industry. Do you think children in porn are an isolated incident? If it is, how would you know for sure? If it’s not, what is the acceptable number of children you would accept in your porn?

(Use the word for what they really are - children - no one wants to admit to being a pedophile and when they realise they are you either stop them or show them for the pedophiles they really are.

The pedophiles will always try to explain away how teenagers and ‘almost-legal’ girls are basically the same as legally aged women. Follow this up with: So if 17 is okay because it’s almost 18 does it follow that 16 is okay because it’s nearly 17 which is basically the same as 18? Then 15 is basically 16… 14 is basically 15… 13… 12… 11… where does the line get drawn if crossing the line is okay? And if crossing the line is okay when it is close enough - then wherever a new line is drawn will it also be okay to cross? Where does it stop? Where is your actual bottom line of what’s okay?

Do you think sex trafficking in porn is an isolated incident? If it is, how would you know for sure? If it’s not, what is the acceptable number of forced and raped women and children you would accept in your porn?

Again. No man wants to admit they’re rapists and pedophiles, but if they watch porn, it’s likely they’ve jacked off to rape and child porn. And ignorance is not an excuse. One should be taking every measure to avoid supporting rape and child porn, if not, you’re actively supporting it happening.

chloeniccole

Some of you have a serious lack of understanding of historical systematic oppression of marginalized groups and it shows. Having your feelings hurt or not dating or fucking someone is not the same as having structures built in place to keep you from achieving things like financial freedom, bodily autonomy, the rights to marry, the rights to LIVE, gaining access to adequate housing and schooling, etc…. some things are unfortunate and unpleasant but are not equivalent to systematic oppression and we do not need to compare them to cases of systematic oppression for them to matter.