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2026 is going to work out even better than you expect.

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Start planning 2025

Make a list of all the emotions you want to feel at the end of 2025.

Now work backwards and write down all the tasks you need to do in order to feel that way.

Make a separate list of all the “gaps” - what do you currently not have in order to do those tasks to make you feel the way you want?

And lastly, write down how you can fill those gaps. Do you need a gym membership to become fit to feel good about your yourself? Do you need to learn how to cook better meals in order to feel healthy and energised? Do you need to start applying to jobs, in order to secure one, in order to feel financially safe? Do you need to buy an old school alarm clock that’s going to wake up your entire apartment building in order to wake up early? what do you need to DO?

also, make a list of all the things that worked out for you in 2024. Learn to celebrate and appreciate, even the smallest of wins.

For the next two months start the trial and error process of this program. Let’s say you decide that you want to work out 7 days a week in order to feel good about your body. Now halfway through November you realise that 7 days is probably too much, and 5 days would be better for your schedule. Or you decide to read 3 books a week, but realistically, maybe a chapter a day is better.

November and December are your trial months. By the time January starts, be ready with a program that is built for you, works for you, and can be completed by you.

Don’t forget about keeping a reward mechanism. If you complete your daily tasks for 1 month straight, buy that little purse you were eyeing, or take yourself to a spa. Reward yourself in ways you like so that :

a) you’re not in an endless cycle of never being satisfied

b) you don’t drop everything for a man or a friend who shows you the slightest bit of affection because you won’t show it to yourself

c) it encourages you to work harder for yourself.

hanavbara

APT. ⚡️🎸

adviceformefromme

I want you to start asking yourself questions, get curious about why you’re clinging onto the guy that’s offering you nothing, why you feel so anxious when you’re around that group, why you felt triggered when that happened. Start getting to know who you are, write in your journal, start asking yourself, and if you don’t know the answers to the questions you are asking yourself unpack that, where are my blockages? Why don’t I have access to the parts of me that contain the answers? How can I know myself better? There is a higher wisdom that is guiding you ALWAYS. There will be answers when you allow, but you have get curious though, that is your task. You have to know yourself to understand who you are in order to make changes. This isn’t about seeking anything or anyone outside yourself, the answers aren’t out there, they are within. TAP IN. Tap into you, into your truth, into what’s really going in inside. This is the journey of self discovery.

adviceformefromme

SHOW. UP. AS. HER. Not next week, not next month. Not next year. In real-time, in the present moment right now. Each time you delay your very best self in the future you’re screaming to the universe ‘I am not worthy as I am right now’. I am not worthy of investing in me, in how I look, in going to the pilates classes, in taking myself out for the nice lunch I promised, on going on the trip that’s been on my bucket-list for years. On waking up early like I promised myself. Delay, delay, delay. There will always be delays unless you DECIDE to take control. Unless you decide that the version of you in this moment IS WORTHY of the investment. Each of us has in mind this higher, elevated version. The 2.0. The upgraded you. Your job is to build habits that bridge the current you to the elevated you. What needs to change to get you over the bridge? What do you need to do? What do you need to stop doing? These are the daily questions. Do some reflections. Make a plan. Stick to it.

theambitiouswoman

You can tell how much someone loves themselves by the partners they choose.

When someone truly loves themselves, they pick a partner who treats them with respect & care, where both people grow together and support each other. They avoid relationships that drain their energy or make them feel less than they are, and they set healthy boundaries that are respected. Instead of relying on a relationship to feel complete, they know they’re already enough on their own & their partner just adds to their happiness.

But when someone struggles with self love, they find themselves chasing people who don’t want to be with them or know aren’t right for them. This usually comes from feeling insecure or needing validation. They are trying to prove they’re enough without having to open up emotionally.

Chasing something out of reach is a way to avoid getting too close to something real, because real connections can feel scary. They will settle for scraps and because they are so desperate for love, those feelings become intensified. By focusing on what they can’t have, they keep themselves safe from the vulnerability of truly being seen.