I love watching queer, LGBT+ movies and shows, especially as more and more well-thought-out, complex stories are released. Generally, I love to write about movies I love. Movies that make me want to recommend them to everyone I know. Movies that rip my heart out and then make me thank them for doing so. Movies that make me smile or sob uncontrollably.
This was not one of those movies. I have complicated feelings about it therefore I shall vomit it all here for any passer-by to glance at.
Lost to Shame (2016).
I went into this thinking it might be something like Method which I have also written about. It... wasnāt? Honestly, I havenāt tried to compare the two too much because I donāt want to compare them.
The story: young actor, Oh Song Joon auditions for the role of Judy in Dark Life, a play about the pain of being a transwoman. In preparation for this role, Oh Song Joon studies the struggles of the trans community and meets Kang Yi Na who helps him understand her world. With the help of Yi Na and his dancer brother Oh Song Hyuk, Song Joon gets the role and things seem to be looking up for him until one day he finds out something about his brother and his best friend that has him questioning things he thought he knew about himself. Sometimes, we donāt even realise we are pretending until that pretence is tested and our fear reveals our true self.
Before I get into the negative, I just want to say how much I loved Kang Yi Na. She is a beautiful character and I loved seeing how confident she was as herself, how she had a loving community, and how strong of a character she was. She isnāt made out to be weak or a pity project for the main character. I also respect her for not standing any of Song Joonās bullshit when he reveals his hypocrisy and for cutting him off completely when he a hundred percent deserves it. She doesnāt make any excuses for him just because heās her friend and she doesnāt allow him to maintain his double standards in staying friends with her but rejecting his brother and his friend.
Which leads me to the main problem of this movie: Oh Song Joon. Iām not going to write an entire essay about how I hate his character and all the things he did wrong. I understand that the story is about revealing his hypocrisy and the struggle between what you thought you knew and your true fears that are forced out into the open. That being said, I do not enjoy watching straight homophobic main characters beating up decent LGBT+ characters just because their feelings are hurt, and then not even apologising properly or showing remorse. If they keep secrets from you then maybe thereās a reason and reacting in a toxic and cruel way only justifies their fear of telling you.
Another thing is that I did not enjoy the ending of this movie. Song Joon fails to reconcile with his brother who says heāll die in the military because of what heās done. Song Joon apologies to his co-workers but in a way that to me felt forced and self-satisfying. He plays the role of Judy for the last showing of the play and sees, Sung Wu Jae, the friend he beat up, in the crowd with a massive bruise covering half his face that Song Joon put there and he gets angry, asking what he did wrong in a way that blends his pain with that of Judyās. But they are not the same. Not at all. Which frustrates me because it feels like he is victimising himself and then he cuts the blade into his wrist claiming he should die. Am I supposed to feel sorry for him? Am I supposed to worry about whether he will actually die or not? All I was concerned with in that scene is Wu Jae watching this all and what he thought. Why had he gone to see the man who had beat him up and then not even bothered to apologise? Was he supposed to see how much pain Song Joon was in and forgive him? How when the man hadnāt done anything to resolve anything? Heād never tried to talk to him or truly understood.
Maybe I misunderstood the ending of the movie or whatever the directorās intentions were but I was very dissatisfied and felt that the characters of the brother and the friend deserved better. So much better. And in the end Oh Song Joon is just a weak hypocritical character. The emotions of this movie... they donāt feel powerful or touching to me because we see everything from the eyes of the self-victimizing, straight cis male main character. He loses everything and learns nothing. It just feels like a hopeless movie that I found hard to see the beauty in. But thatās just my perspective.
Maybe someone else can enjoy it.


















