Philophobic

[ceruleanheaven]

religion is so fucking funny the world is just too beautiful there must be a higher entity behind all this. lets oppress women

[aetas-aurea]

So many women have internalized the idea that being difficult makes people think less of them, when in my experience the opposite is almost always true. Every single time I have spoken up, voiced what I actually need and refused to shrink the moment in order to be more comfortable for everyone else in the room, I have been approached afterward by people who wanted to know me better. There is no reward waiting for you on the other side of making yourself smaller. People do not love you more for taking up less space, they simply get used to you taking up less space and adjust their expectations accordingly. Every time I have been exactly as audacious as the moment required, it has opened doors rather than closed them and I have made real connections directly because of it rather than in spite of it.

[avpdvoidspace]

Having a traumatic childhood means you cannot talk even objectively about your basic foundational experiences without it being "venting", even if you're not actually venting. You just straight up have a huge chunk of your life you can't talk about, full stop, without it being trauma dumping.

And it not being socially acceptable to talk about your own childhood is super alienating. Sometimes people want to know why, and any answer you can give them is going to be off putting.

It's to the point I get irritated when something I said is framed as venting when I'm literally just talking about my life experiences, doing my best to keep emotion out of it.

[savouryduck]

when I was in high school, I overheard two older students talking about a friend of theirs.

One of them said something like, "it doesn't bother me that [Friend] was in residential mental health treatment, I just wish they wouldn't talk about it ALL the time".

The other replied, "Well, that was all of last year for them. So when they say 'when I was in treatment,' it's like when you say 'last year'."

I try to remember that any time someone says something that sounds Shocking to me. sometimes one person's scary special crisis is another person's last year.

[wherethewildcatsare]

If you want to be accepting of mental illness, you need to accept the fact that some people's everyday lives are going to be terrifying to you. That doesn't mean they don't get to talk about it. Stop forcing hurt, isolated people to become even MORE hurt and isolated because you can't fathom toughening up a bit.

[kosmogrl]

[stuckinapril]

[icaseybaybee]

[whoelsebtme]

Another life update 🏵️

Stream my band’s new EP entitled ‘Synephoric’ on ALL streaming platforms

[whoelsebtme]

I thoroughly enjoy being around my family. Yes, they might work my nerves from time to time but I love them. I’m grateful to be able to see them

Being around today was bittersweet. The joy was amazing to see, and feel, but I know we’re still hittin from our losses. To lose my cousin and uncle months apart…devastating is the word that comes to mind.

I feel loved though. I feel joy. I feel gratitude

[whoelsebtme]

Feel like I’ve been moving too fast to feel the sadness I *thought I* escaped

I drown it out with the weed and going out with my friends, but I never fully confront it…or at least successfully. Like I sit with my emotions, but sometimes it’s hard cause folks are always like “don’t let it consume you”; and if you felt as deeply as I did, you’d find it difficult to not

If I carry out the energy I’m actually feeling, I’d be seething with darkness you wouldn’t want to feel

[wifislim]

[hotvampireadjacent]

[tuckedinbugw]

Nothing like holding my love

[stuckinapril]

I wish you nothing but beautiful ardent experiences that bring you a little closer to yourself for what we have left of summer

[icaseybaybee]

[butmyloveyouhavewings]

[nevver]

Where’s your head at? Greg Dunn

[whoelsebtme]

So I’ve taken a step back from my responsibilities, as far as the band is concerned, and have just been watching things unfold.

It’s been entertaining watching these niggas stress for help when it comes to social media, as well as watching this specific nigga complain he feels like we’re behind. Unfortunately, honey, that’s the band and we knew that. You decided to still be ill prepared and not take my advice. You decided that everything will work itself out; or it was simply that you didn’t have the time to focus on this.

So here we are: them niggas stressing, and me honestly not giving a fuck 🤷🏾‍♂️