so, basically

he/they - y'know. this dude. this guy. this person

[rorytelling]

I think if your thought process in any way resembles "I hate trans men because I hate men," you need to like, fully start over your understanding of feminism. Because not only are you harming marginalized men (which is anti-feminist whether you like it or not), this type of gender essentialism ALSO!!! HURTS WOMEN!!!!

If men are inherently evil and bad and violent and predatory... Why is anyone doing anything? It will never change because it's inherent. So just take it, I guess. It's all for nothing. You're too small and weak to change biology/socialization/male audacity. It's patriarchy spun around to sound like it isn't.

Erase this idea from your mind. You learned it from a TERF.

[screwed-in-life]

"But radfems support trans men!"

Radfems supporting trans men:

[lexisrants]

hate when men complain about how theyre not allowed to be vulnerable and people will be like "and who set that system up?" as a gotcha moment. stop acting like patriarchy was funded by calling in Every Man Ever in a room and letting them all singularly decide if they wanted it. patriarchy hurts everyone in different ways, they're allowed to complain and you shutting them down and telling them to stop complaining are doing exactly what toxic masculinity wants you to enforce

[sodapillz]

Ok first of all fuck misandrists

[max-2-well]

"Misandry doesn't exist!!!"

Me, showing them this post:

[transautismman]

Malgendering is still transphobic.

[itsallmyocdatp]

Radical feminism is just repackaged gender essentialism

[genderkoolaid]

like 99% of "men and women are soooo different!!!" comedy is literally just describing the experience of not understanding other people. like it's not that women never say what they mean talking to other people is just like that. it can be hard to understand what other people are thinking. bioessentialism really rots the brain

@ the cis women reblogging this: you do this to. this post is also about you. this post is not just about male comedians it is about gender essentialism in general

[venice-1987]

Welcome to transmasculinity. You got two options, what'll it be.

1) Genderessentialism (men are inherently designed to play a stoic, strong role, so you gotta push down your emotions and accept that you'll get no support from a conservative society)

Or

2) Genderessentialism (men are inherently predatory, evil, callous monsters, so you gotta push down your emotions when we generalize you to be a horrible person with too much privilege and you gotta accept that you will get no support from a liberal society)

[rjalker]

if you think about it like a gradient if someone whos only ever been he/him is suddenly they/them, well, they have taken a step in the direction of girl, whether they are girl or not

Sigh. Binary trans people, please stop saying things like this.

Especially please stop acting like nonbinary identities are literal temporary phases and just a stepping stone to a true binary trans identity.

[k-dreemurr]

can't believe i have to say this, but "headcanoning" a nonbinary character who canonically uses they/them exclusively as using she/they or he/they, and then making jokes about how estrogen/testosterone "could save them," is erasure??? you're doing exorsexism?????

please can we just let neutral nonbinary characters be neutral nonbinary thank you

[ifvwasix]

I made a thing because I keep seeing people refer to other people they don’t know this way

[perverted-asexual]

Every day tumblr users get closer and closer to saying you can only be trans in a god honouring way.

Edit: my problem is with the comparison and trying to rate people's transness and who's more transgressive. If you attempt to turn this into a trans guys vs trans girls post you are missing the point.

[redhairandpronouns]

"if men could get pregnant-" they can. "if men got periods-" they do. "men never experience-" they do. "men would never understand-" i promise you whatever you are about to say there are men who go through the exact same thing

[transmasc-is-life]

'Why does every nonbinary person want top surgery' I dunno maybe because having visible breasts immediately makes everyone assume you're female and only female, and therefore put you into a binary. Also why are you assuming every nonbinary person has breasts.

[mx-macintosh]

assuming nonbinary people are "eggs" that will end up binary trans is bigoted, by the way

[hyperlexichypatia]

Shocking development: in a language and culture where most given names are considered masculine or feminine, some genderqueer and nonbinary people choose given names that seem unusual!