So, this is me ranting about a little something I've seen, and I just wanted to express my opinion. I don't mean to offend anyone, I hate hurting other people's feelings. This is my personal opinion.
The thing goes that a few days ago, while scrolling, I saw a post joking about how Karura (the sand sibs' mom) gave Gaara all her love in the form of his absolute sand defense/shield, while Kankuro and Temari got nothing from her. Now, my opinion is not about Karura only having ever been shown 'loving' Gaara. I don't resent her for that or anything. She's more of a plot device in Gaara's tragic backstory than a full-fledged character herself, and there's always plenty of fics out there of her bonding with her elder kids, that actually make her a character. That is okay. Fanfic authors are great, and I appreciate them for it! This is not about Karura at all. It's about the comments attached to that post. It was the people justifying it as "Well, maybe Kankuro and Temari never got anything from their mom to make up for the fact their childhoods weren't that tragic, and were actually okay, for ninja standards." Which baffled me.
Now, yeah, maybe those comments were meant as jokes. But even if they were jokes, it was still very apparent to me that the commenters genuinely believed Kankuro and Temari had nice, good childhoods. I also hold nothing against the people who left those comments, I respect their opinions! Kankuro and Temari were being compared to Gaara, and yeah, anyone's tragic childhoods would fall short when compared to that. I just wanted to clarify that Kankuro and Temari never had it easy by any means.
In fact, I'm sure that when looking objectively at it, I would even go as far as to make the bold claim that K and T had it rougher than Naruto growing up. After all, at age 12, Naruto already had a bunch of people who cared about his well-being. Teuchi, the Ramen guy and his daughter Ayame, Iruka, who was legit like his big brother, Kakashi, Sasuke, Sakura, after she got to know him better, and the other Leaf kids would at least, tolerate him.
Who did Kankuro and Temari have when they were 12? No one but each other, I'll tell you that. No mom, their dad was more than likely forced into neglecting them and viewing them as soldiers, the same as any other Suna shinobi, pushed by his grief and his position as leader of a rapidly declining village. Their uncle was absent due to being tasked with caring for their demon brother and later killed, too. And their little brother, a demon with a mind so broken he'd threaten and maim anyone who'd even look at him wrong. On top of that, add that they, in all likelihood, also had no friends due to their circumstances. They were GAARA'S SIBLINGS, after all. Who'd get close to them, knowing that approaching Tem and Kank could more than certainly lead to your lifespan shortening cause it'd mean getting closer to Gaara by association. especially after the 3 siblings were put on the same team. Not to mention that Kankuro ended up becoming a bully with anger issues as a way to cope with his trauma, and I can imagine that Temari would've become a bully as well, in her own way. I ask you, knowing all that: who would dare approach them in those circumstances?
So now, add to that: what if Kankuro and Temari ever fought or had an argument as pre-teens? Siblings argue all the time, but these two only ever had each other in the whole world! If they ever argued, leading to them not talking to each other for a while, I'm telling you, the loneliness they would've experienced then could only be compared to Sasuke's. Sasuke! The most tragic character in the show! And Kanks' and Tems' loneliness could certainly be compared to his if they ever fought over anything, since you know, they had no one else in the world looking out for them or their safety.
Kankuro and Temari wouldn't even start getting their lives in any kind of order and finally attain a bit of normalcy until they were 15-16, respectively. I would say, one year after the chunin exams, cause I can't imagine the year following that fiasco would've been easy for them, especially with them becoming totally orphaned pariahs, too. At that age, Naruto had already beaten Pain and was considered the Leaf hero, with all those Leaf hypocrites kissing his feet cause he saved their lives.
So, yeah, Kankuro and Temari did have a worse childhood than Naruto when you think about it. I'm really sorry, I didn't mean to compare traumas like this was the Olympics or something, but I just needed a method to prove how harsh their circumstances were, and alas, comparing them to the main character was the best way to prove my point. I'm not saying or even concluding that Naruto's childhood was a happy one by any means. It's just that Tem and Kank were just as lonely, if not more so, in my opinion, at least.
It's just that I'm so surprised every time I see anyone affirm that Kank and Tem had easy childhoods, that I had to write this. Kank and Tem had to survive Gaara going Berserk Shukaku on the village after Yashamaru's crazy murder attempt on him, at 7 and 8 years old!! At those tender ages, they had to contend with their uncle dying, their baby brother turning into desert Satan and wrecking their village to fine sand dust, destroying buildings and in all likelihood killing some of their friends in the process (which also begs repeating: how many kids were left in Suna their age, who would want to approach Tem and Kank after they all saw Gaara do all that? None, obviously). That's, I'm sure, one of the most traumatizing events any kid in Naruto must've had to go through. You can't deny that.
Also, I know I sound like I'm blaming Gaara, and I want to assure you that I'm not. I also know that objectively, he had it way worse, and it's all their dads' and the councils' faults. It's just an objective fact that due to Gaara's childhood being as effed up as it was, his siblings' childhoods were also going to be super effed up as a result of just.... being related to him.
Yeah, my rant is over now. I apologize if I offended anyone. I just wanted to clarify, from my point of view at least, how cruel their childhoods were. They didn't even have childhoods, damn it. And it's about time that more people started acknowledging that.