Words cannot even begin to describe my state of immense confusion and anger.
So I went to their place yesterday after the ringleader cancelled on me at like noon, because she had to go meet the realtor and loan company on opposite sides of the state and didn't know when she'd get home. I'm totally fine with that; I could not care less so long as we schedule something at some time.
I get to my girlfriend's house. We make dinner. Ringleader comes skulking in through a side door and tries to scurry upstairs like I'm not four steps away and can't see her bright green hair. I think nothing of it. I truly do not care.
We go upstairs. My girl goes to the basement to get her laundry. Ringleader materializes in the hallway outside her bedroom door and goes, "I'm going to the gym." I think she's talking to the ghosts of roommates past because surely she's not talking to me; I ignore her. She repeats herself. I look up from my phone, nod, and say, "Okay, have fun, dude." Shorty can't stand it apparently. She goes off about how "that wasn't even the important part of our conversation" (the convo was about my girl moving in with me in May instead of November because a new roommate is suddenly moving in this week, and "that" is her referring to me as an aggressive, predatory, and controlling person who is going to trap my gf in my apartment just like I've isolated her in our relationship from her friends), and "it was honestly just a misunderstanding" (homie where), and "I don't even think we have to actually talk about it all," and "I have more important things going on." To which I just acknowledged that she is going through a lot right now and is very busy, but that doesn't invalidate how I feel about what was said or mean that it's not worthy of being discussed. To which shorty became like this hunched over lil shell of herself and went, "Okay, well, bye."
Now already I am displeased. Because wtf. But then my girl comes in and we eat, and then I tell her what was said and how it really bothered me. And then it gets worse. Because then she pulls out her phone and shows me that Ringleader had actually sent her Paragraphs about how predatory and awful and unsafe I apparently have been the two (2) times I attended their parties (once in Nov and once in Dec) and that she can't support my girlfriend's decision to live with me because I'm not the right or safe choice here.
Now you can imagine my dismay when my girl quickly scrolls through these long ass messages - so fast I can barely read them all - and then I go, "So what did you say about all of that," and she says nothing; she ignored it and only talked about the stuff that "related directly to her." I asked if she has ever felt that way about me, and she was baffled why I would even ask that, and I'm just looking at these texts like
So obviously I talked to her about the importance of refuting such wild and baseless accusations whenever possible, because our silence has clearly been taken as encouragement by the Ringleader at this point. But also . . . oh my god. I have never in my life had 1) a person who is kind to my face and then viciously against me when I'm not around like this and 2) to explain to a partner that defending me when I'm not around is important to me. So you can imagine the general state of "wtf even was that" I have been walking around in since.
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