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Pack stuffies for when we travel or go out! Obviously, babyboy can't sleep without his stuffies, even in a hotel... right?
Bring a diapee bag, even if we don't plan to use it!
Momma tax and butt pats: basically, if we hug, we're gonna grope, pat, and tease the other one. The pullup princess needs to be reminded she can be momma... and still a pullup princess!
Lots of physical closeness. On the couch we drape across one another, when hugging we keep it going a long time, when we get dinner, we regularly feed each other a bite! Just lots of lovey closeness-inducing things, nonstop!
Getting our partner food and water cuz "babies can be so forgetful" and tons of affectionate caregiver stuff. It's nice to be reminded it's "brekky time, sweetheart!" Is very fun and keeps our relationship kinky and cute!
Writing cute pictures and reminders to your partner, everyday. On the fridge, on post it notes, by text! Keep the fun going by showing a lot of daily affection and attention!
Making sure it's called the "potty" and an upset stomach is a "grumbly tummy" and using language that reminds you both... this is an ABDL or CG/L dynamic!
Names: I'm baby prince papi, not just my name. She's momma, or princess... we make sure the right title reinforces the right role!
Cummies apart don't mean much, when your mommy/ daddy/ caregiver partner expects you to THANK THEM and make lots of "cute noises"... suddenly your quick masturbating session feels much more controlled and kinky!
Help your partner pick their clothes! If they wear diapees, even if they change themselves make sure you watch and "help".
When they cross the street, hold their hand and give them praise for being good and holding on tight... REINFORCE the dynamic in little, subtle, private ways and you'll be far, far more invested and happy in the dynamic you build together!
Sharing in passions: my princess loves sports and I couldn't care less, but i'll celebrate her team's victories and be excited, the same way she celebrates and embraces my weird rants about the 1800s British navy, or the intricacies of bird mating habits... whatever fleeting interests we have, we share and get positive feedback on! And EXTRA points if you can tease about them being an excited little baby!
My point is this: 24/7 dynamics aren't all about sex and kink and nonstop sexytime or fetish play. But they can exist with daily reinforcement, reminders, and celebrating your nontraditional dynamics! So have fun, let your kinky self out, and don't forget to be happy, healthy, AUTHENTIC kinky people!
We speak with lots of couples or ABDL partners who want to go 24/7 but practically itâs hard and instead they find themselves bouncing around different rules, periods of wearing with lows of feelings of shame and highs where they worry itâs an addiction.
Weâre advocates for 24/7 as it normalizes wearing to prevent these highs and lows but I do understand this isnât always possible. Also trying and failing at 24/7 multiple times isnât good either.
When 24/7 lite is perfect:
- Your partner currently wears diapers around 50% of the time
- There are times were they currently canât or donât feel comfortable wearing diapers (work, friends, family, etc)
- They experience lows where the desire to wear goes away or they feel shame
- You are supportive of them wearing & using diapers more
So what is 24/7 lite:
Your partner will be diapered most of the time and you will normalize it in your relationship. Your involvement can vary but it canât be none. There will be agreed times they donât have to wear and flexibility for 1 cheat day a week where theyâre not diapered.
Recommended rules:
- Your partners default underwear is now a diaper
- When in diapers, they are your partners toilet, no exceptions
- Allowed exceptions to wear underwear:
- working in an office or with colleagues
- spending time with friends or family
- taking part in sport
- For clarity, these arenât exceptions:
- Being in public, going to the store, out for dinner
- Travelling by car, train, bus or plane
- Vacations
- Overnight (even if staying with friends / family and you have your own bedroom)
- Cheat Days:
- 1 cheat day is allowed per week
- It resets on Monday each week and doesnât carry over if unused
- Either partner can invoke the cheat day, this should happen in the morning before theyâre diapered for the day.
- A cheat day lasts until the next morning
- Your involvement:
- Changing them into a fresh diaper every morning
- Changing their wet evening diaper into their thick nighttime diaper
- Checking they are diapered when they should be
- Their diapers:
- At home and overnight = thick medical or ABDL diapers
- Traveling and vacations = thiner medical diapers allowed but recommend megamax level of protection where possible
- You can substitute their underwear during exceptions for pull ups, training pants or childish underwear if you wish
Are you ready for this?
24/7 Lite is still a big lifestyle change so you need to ask yourself if youâre ready to help your partner do this and:
- Accept your partner as being primarily a diaper wearer
- Be comfortable with the idea that theyâll be peeing and pooping in their diapers including times when youâre together
- Be willing to provide encouragement to keep them wearing and using their diapers
- Youâre happy to deal with the extra work of bringing diaper and changing supplies with you on day trips and vacations
- Ready to make changes to your home life to normalize their diaper wearing
Other changes you should make:
- Have a diaper bag packed and ready at all times, this can be a backpack and include at least 2 diapers, wipes, powder, a changing mat / disposal mat, diaper disposal bags and a change of clothes in case of leaks.â¨
- Stock up on diapers, you should have at least a month of diapers available so around 100â¨
- Setup a dedicated diaper changing area. Ideally this should include an adult changing table, all the supplies you need and a diaper pail.â¨
- Donât hide their diaper wearing in the house (unless you have guests coming). Their diapers should be visible in the changing area and you should encourage exposed diapers or clothing which doesnât hide them around the house.
Getting Started
- This change shouldnât be thought of as being for a few weeks but a long term and potentially permanent decision
- Iâd recommend throwing away their underwear so only a few remain for exception times and have a way to secure these to prevent the temptation to cheat (lockbox / safe).
- Set up the changing area, I do feel this is an important step in accepting this as being a reality.
- Make sure you have at least a 1 month diaper supply (120+ diapers)
- Review and agree the rules together and decide a starting date.
- Optionally, start them on Devrom a few days before to reduce the smell of BMâs and lower their embarrassment when getting used to messing their diaper regularly. It may also help you to normalize them being messy around you without accidentally giving a negative reaction.
- When the day comes you should take the lead and diaper them and remind them of the new rules.
- In the first few weeks give as much positive reassurance as possible, telling them theyâre good for wearing their diapers, when they wet them, when theyâre messy, etc.
When is the time is right to switch to true 24/7
24/7 Lite might be the perfect balance for you but itâs not unlikely that the time might come to switch to true 24/7.
Iâd recommend having at least a few months of 24/7 Lite working well before changing things but if youâre now used to seeing them diapered while dry, wet and messy, and diapers changes, wearing in public all feel routine it could be the right moment to increase things.
To do this you can decide to first remove cheat days meaning at home and when together theyâll always be diapered. Then switch to pull ups for exceptions and throw away all their underwear. Finally transition them to thinner diapers around colleagues, friends and family.
Who thinks this would be good for them or their partner?
This is such a fantastic post! The idea of 24/7 Lite is such a great way to play with the idea of wearing 24/7 without making the commitment, which is substantial. Excellent ideas and advice. My gateway into wearing 24/7 was nighttime training. I wore every night for months before diving into the 24/7 poolâŚthat was my 24/7 Lite.
The sun felt warm on my skin. The sand under my knees was rough, but forgiving under my weight. The gentle breeze brought the smells of spring to my nose, reminding me of the joys of being alive and outside.
As I pushed the toy bulldozer in my hand around, creating roads in my sand city, I didn't have a care in the world. I made pretend tractor noises as my tummy started to rumble uncomfortably.
I looked back at Mommy, sunbathing on a blanket in the grass nearby and smiled. She looked as content as I felt. Interrupting that would be criminal.
So, without a second thought, I, a 34-year-old man, grunted and pushed, releasing a large, stinky mess into my already soggy diaper. I couldn't help but let out the tiniest sigh of relief as the discomfort in my tummy dissipated.
Without any fanfare, I leaned back and sat in my mess. Was it kind of icky? Sure. But, I didn't care. It wasn't my job to care about the state of my diaper. It wasn't my job to care about anything.
On a beautiful day like today, my only job was to bask in the joy of nature.
âHey mister, where do you think youâre waddling off to all alone?â
Of all the people you wanted to avoid right now, Robin was at the top of your list.
âUmmmâŚt-to get something.â
You were never a good liar.
âIs that so? It has nothing to do with that big brown bulge in your Lil Swimmer?â
What could you possibly say in a situation like this?
It was bad enough Mommy dressed you in nothing but an oversized Lil Swimmers diaper and dinosaur floaties around your former friends.
And in Robinâs case, former crush.
It was bad enough having to surreptitiously squat down and load that swim diaper.
But somehow, this made it even worse.
Here you areâblubbering an excuse after Robin caught you red-handed trying to hide in your poopy diaper.
Exactly like a shy toddler.
âAwww, donât be embarrassed, cutiepie! Itâs just a poopy diapie. Poor thing, were you trying to hide from us?â
âIâŚâ
âCome here, little guy. Youâre okay,â she coos, pulling you into a hug, âYouâre safe. How about I grab your diaper bag and get you out of that icky diapie, hmm?â
âB-butâŚwha-what about myâŚâ
âI can change you, sweetie. Your Mommy is having some fun, Iâll give her a break.â
She pulls your hand to the group of sunbathing girls, giving you no choice but to follow.
âFound this lil stinker trying to hide his poopy diaper.â She tousles your hair. âAnyone know where Liz put his diaper bag?â
You felt every eye on you as you waited for Robin to grab your diaper bag, your drooping brown diaper unmistakable.
To your horror, she places the changing mat right next to you.
âH-here?! Canât we g-go to the car?â
âThatâs all the way up the hill, honey. Your Mommy would kill me if I let you walk that far in a poopy diaper! Besides, youâve been playing in nothing but your diaper all afternoon, nobody will be surprised itâs getting changed.â
The other girls laugh, but not you.
âLay down, kiddo.â As you do, she slides a paci into your mouth.
She rips the sides of your Lil Swimmers.
âYou know, when I first heard your Mommy did this after your accidents started, I thought she was crazy. I mean, diapers or not, I always thought you were a good guy. I even had a crush on you!â
Waitâshe had a crush? On you?
âAnd then to have your adulthood ripped away like thisâŚI mean, youâre genuinely no different than my three-year-old niece. It just seemed soâŚcruel. But now that Iâve spent time around you, your Mommy chose right! This is sooo better for you!â
She starts wiping you clean.
âThink about it. No woman would ever want to be with someone in diapers. And who could possibly respect someone who might poop his diaper at any moment? Thatâs no way for an adult to live. So why try? Youâre already closer to a baby than an adult, so why pretend? Why confuse you?â
âArenât you better off without any big boy expectations? Free from the burdens of adulthood? Doesnât it make this diaper change easier knowing I think of you as a toddler, not an adult?â
She lifts your legs into the air.
âYouâre free, honey. Babies arenât embarrassed by their diapers because babies arenât judged for needing diapers. Itâs the most natural thing in the world for them. Expected. Just like you!â
She rolls up your messy diaper, grabbing a new Lil Swimmer, baby powder, and rash cream.
âYour Mommy gave you a gift: your Second Babyhood. Now nobody will judge you as an adult. Isnât that great? You never need to be embarrassed again!â
She boops your nose.
âYou can run around to your heartâs content in your cutie swim diapie like itâs the most normal thing in the world! Because it is! All us girls think itâs the most adorable thing!â
She sprinkles baby powder on you.
âSo no more running off to hide because you made a poopoo, okay, mister? Thatâs why your Mommy put it on! Let us worry about your diapies, your job is to build the biggest sandcastle ever!â
You finally find your voice as she slides your Lil Swimmers on you.
âO-okayâŚâ
She laughs. âSilly boy, you can do better than that! Arenât you excited to show your Mommy the sandcastle youâre making her?â
âY-yeah!â
âHmmm, what do you think, girls? Is he excited enough?â
A collective murmur of encouragement rings out.
âI thought so!â Now,â she coos, tickling your tummy, âWho wants to build a sandcastle?â
âMeeeee!â you wail, laughing from the tickles.
âGood boy! Câmon lil stinker, letâs go build a sandcastle!â
The next hour flies by. For the first time since you were demoted to babyhood, you werenât worried about your lost adulthood.
You were having fun!
It didnât matter that you were building a sandcastle in nothing but a Lil Swimmer, surrounded by pretty girls your âage.â It didnât matter that every so often, the back of your diaper was pulled back to inspect it for poopoo.
Robin was rightâyou were finally free.
You arenât an adult, so why be judged like one? Why live by adult standards? Why fight to be seen as an adult, when youâll never be one of them?
You finally embrace your new life and let go of who you were before the diapers. Let go of worrying what the girls next to you think you.
This is who you are.
A carefree baby boy. You have Mommy to care for you. She makes all the decisions. Whatâs there to fuss about?
âWook Mommy!â you squeal when you see her, âI builded a thancathle!â
Pullups are such a wonderful in-between state of potty training. Because it's like, clearly you need some form of protection. You just can't control yourself and still have little "accidents," so you can't be trusted in big girl panties. But there's still some hope of you learning and figuring it out, so we haven't fully stepped you back down into diapers yet, even if it's constantly a question of whether you're even ready to try potty training at all.
So we keep you in pullups, "just in case," even though we know you're going to wind up using them more often than not. And they can hold one or maybe two wettings of course, but beyond that? If you go potty in them you might as well be peeing your pants. It's the best of both worlds. I get to see the embarrassment in your eyes of knowing you need protection because you just can't hold it, and also watch as the pee spreads throughout your pants, turning the fabric on your inner legs dark. Which of course just means I get to tease you for making such a mess all over yourself and tell you how this means maybe you aren't ready for pullups after all.
And messing in pullups is something else entirely. If you're a baby still in diapers, it's almost expected that you aren't potty trained whatsoever. So if you have a messy accident, it's not like anyone expected anything more from you. You're just a baby, after all. But if you're in pullups? Well clearly you must be beyond that level of potty training. You're a big enough kiddo that you can be trusted to at least make it to the potty for that, can't you? And when you prove to us that you can't, when you squat down and fill your pullups like the little toddler you are, that just makes it all the better, all the blushier.
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Whether a Little craves, curses, or cringes at an unexpected bombardment of cutesy nonsensical babble, they will be captivated. An enthrallment, that to the uninitiated is no more than mere teasing or the expected affections of many couples, but to a Little, it is validation, vulnerability, even vindication.
A Big, with baby talk, can show acceptance, appreciation, and adoration or the reverse belittle, berate, and bemoan. To free or ensnare their Little in a way absent of elaborate scenarios, discreet actions, and verbosity.
With sing-song delivery, words become sugary atrocities, ânighty-night,â âboo-boo,â âdiiiapee,â hell, a simple coo will do. Simple speech and sounds send the most stubborn of littles into a series of face-searing blushes and, on occasion, a loss of words.
Such a hold over another should not be used frivolously, becoming an expected indulgence, its luster dulled, giving way to mundanity. Instead, be sparse, even sporadic, a light sprinkling of syrupiness here, an occasional binge of deep satisfaction there; this will sustain your bonds⌠And who doesnât want a little spontaneity?
This is a mommy reminder that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you, kiddo đ
Youâre not weird. Youâre not unlovable. Youâre no better or worse than anyone around you đ
Thereâs a lot of shame that comes with this kink (and not the sexy kind). The massive intersection with the queer community is not lost on me either. Itâs okay to have a weird fetish. It doesnât make you a bad person. We are all consenting adults. Let your freak flag fly.
I need a best friend who pulls my shirt down when my waistband is showing in public, fixing it without a word.
One who discreetly asks me if I have any spare changes with.
Who asks me how Iâm doing every hour or so and keeps an eye on how much Iâm drinking.
Who doesnât mind helping me find a spot to change or assisting me even.
One who doesnât bat an eye when I very obviously have an accident while weâre napping cuddled on the couch.
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I need a best friend who simply understands, accepts and maybe cares for me in the gentlest most platonic ways.
Laughing when I settle in for the LOTR marathon because I didnât even bother trying to hide the pretty printed abdl diaper beneath a band tee I stole from them.
Commenting playfully on how theyâre jealous I wonât have to get up for potty breaks.
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A best friend who keeps spare diapers for me and maybe other supplies over at their place! They could ask me to stay the night on a whim and I wouldnât even need to bring anything!!
They probably took this opportunity to stock diapers they specifically wanted to see on meâŚ
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A best friend who might insist on cutting my food up for me at the restaurant, despite my protest. They know Iâm specific about what I eat and how I eat it.
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A best friend who leads me to a secluded spot or a private bathroom without warning at some sort of big event. Telling me I need to change, no choice or questions about it as they hand me supplies they packed. Asking if I need or want help maybe..
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I need a best friend who helps or guides me in the littlest ways, accepting me for who I am and embracing it.
I want a true connection, someone whom I can be vulnerable and intimate with very comfortably.
Someone with whom I can be silly and unashamed. Affectionately, honestly...
As a caretaker of a 1 -3 year old little you duties and responsibilities are more so than most. More for all the little jobs, and less for how hard they really are.Â
Here is a list, not necessarily in order of importance. These an vary from relationship to relationship.Â
1. Diaper checks/changes. These are mandatory. Checks should happen every ½ hour to 1 hour. Just putting a diaper on your abdl isnât going to satisfy them. Checking them tells them you accept them and are thinking about what is going on. It brings about regular interactions. recommended sticking you finger inside to feel. Why it invades a space of theirs that they arnât used to. a reminder of just how vulnerable they are. Â
2. Make their food. give them 2 options. then make it, cut it up, then make a big deal about it. If you feel inclined feed it to them. Do not under any circumstances give them formula though. Formula can actually hurt adults. Baby food is acceptable. When they are done, make sure to clean up after them.Â
3. Bath. Bathing your little is essential. It is a very bonding exercise. I personally recommend that every couple should bath one another. Take your time. wash them down thoroughly. Make sure to coo them and play with them during this exercise. If you want to, get some bath toys, and bubble bath. Bath time is fun time.Â
4. Rule enforcement. As the cg/dd/md you need to set up rules. These are mandatory. no ifs/ands/or buts about it. Every couple should have different rules. Some to think about are things like, mandatory baby talk, No taking diaper off, No walking, keep pacifier in your mouth, ectâŚÂ  Once these rules are put down you need to set up disciplines with them. Best to write down everything as well. Start out small with corner time, ignored for x amount of time. The last rule and one you should rarely use is to end it. That punishment should be the last resort. Once these are set; donât let them break them with out discipline. Consistency is key here.Â
5. Bottle or Sippy cups regularly. As the cg you are in charge of looking after the well being of your little/abdl. This includes their liquid intake At least once a day you need to bottle feed or sippy cup feed your little. This should be done while holding them. Again it tells them you care, It is good cuddle time for bonding, as well as it reinforces who is in charge. This also means that they have to use their diaper regularly.Â
6. Moderate electronic time. Any good parent knows that to much electronic time is bad for their kids. So moderate how much they are getting. If they refuse to comply then you need to unplug what they are doing. Again reinforces who is in charge.Â
7. Make decisions for them. There is a lot that fits into this category. Everything from their clothing to what time they go to bed. these all need to be moderated. as a little/abdl. There are many more things that could go into this category. the point is limit them down. If you are going to give them a choice, give them 2.
8. Make a schedule. This isnât mandatory, and really helps more with lifestyle than anything. Anything that is going to be more than 4 hours, i would recomend making a schedule. It helps for you to know what to do, as well as let your little to know what to expect.Â
9. Activities. Will be doing a list of possible activities later. How ever for now you should be trying to do activities outside watching a movie with your little if you are doing this more than once a month. These allow you to break up the monotony of what is going on. These can either be in the community, or in the house itself. There are tons of them out there. So pick one that seems fun and appropriate.Â
Well that is all I have. If you have felt that I have left something out feel free to leave a comment or send me a message.Â
On May 9th, 2015 I was violently raped by a member of the kink community. I was not dating this person, he was involved with another girl who Iâm friends with. We were both at a small house party when this happened. I went to the police immediately after.
There is a LOT of evidence in my case, much more than a usual rape case. From forensic and DNA, to photos, to six witness statements, and not to mention my rapist confessed fully in writing to his crime only days after it occurred.
However, last week, my case was dismissed by the district attorney on account of the kink that I have (Ageplay). He thought it would be too difficult to explain ageplay to a jury, even with the overwhelming amount of evidence.
This dismissal is in clear violation of rape shield laws, which protect sexual assault victims from having to explain any past sexual conduct in their cases. They exist exactly for this reason: so that rape victims can get the prosecution they need without having to explain themselves in a manner that biases the jury and is irrelevant.
When I was raped, it had nothing to do with my kink. The man who raped me did not even share my fetish. And certainly when he forced his penis into my vagina and then my anus, it still then didnât, and never will, contain any relevancy to my kink.
I feel extremely discriminated against for being kinky. Itâs the first time that I really felt like being into ABDL has worked against me. This verdict really pertains to anyone who is kinky - does being kinky mean that if someone is assaulted, their assailant will walk free? Why am I not allowed the right to a fair trial just because Iâm kinky? There are a lot of implications from this prosecutors decision.
I want to fight this decision and I think if I do, it might make a difference for future criminal cases that involve kink and fetishes. But Iâm just one person and I donât have much money. Please if you can help me out so that I can hire a lawyer, it would appreciated so much! Please help make a difference, not just in my life but possibly in anyoneâs life if youâve ever been kinky, especially if you are into ageplay which is wthe specific kink they discriminated against.
Even if you canât help financially, please, spread the word. Reblog this and share it with your friends. Spread the word and make it loud! Itâs not okay to discriminate against someone just because they are kinky! Loud voices can make a difference. Please donât let this happen again! Letâs refuse to back down.
If you would like to help fund a lawyer, you can do so by either finding me on cam or you can help directly by donating via Google Wallet or giftrocket.com to [email protected]
Please spread the word! I refuse to just willingly back down and let them make this choice based on discrimination, which in turn allows a serial rapist walk this country free. Being kinky should NEVER be a reason that someone is denied justice.
Not only is @misspandapants a friend of ours, but she is a wonderful soul and a constant champion of welcoming folks into the ABDL community. Whether you donate to her effort to set a precedent in her state that everybody deserves justice, kinky and non-kinky alike. I know we will. Thank you, misspandapants, for fighting for all of us. Everybody else, please reblog. And thanks. -RY & rnt
This is something that really hits home with me. Please consider donating if you are in the financial position to.
More importantly PLEASE REBLOG.
The more people hear this story the louder our voices will be.
Itâs free to reblog and if you donât have room for it or it doesnât fit with your âaestheticâ please reconsider your life.
To be clear, these are common misconceptions ABDLs have, not common misconceptions ABOUT us ABDLs!
1. "My kink is so rare!"
Really? Because candidly, abdl, ageplay, and diaper fetishism intersect in a fascinating way. There are diaper fetishists who despise any form of ageplay or regression, there are ageplayers who get off on the Ageplay, or the diapers, or the humiliation, teasing, or any other aspect of the kink. And candidly, you can tell ABDL really isn't that uncommon when the communities that show up are this large and varied. Heck, there's entire communities on reddit with tens of thousands of abdls, and that's just one site (and not the most kink friendly space to begin with.) Add in the fact that many people are very embarrassed or worried about this kink and you've got an even better explanation for why it can FEEL very rare or isolating... but it often comes down to just being hard to find, at first!
2. "Nobody vanilla will accept me! They must all think I'm a freak" (or similar negative expectation setting)
Except.. they do, all the time, every day. I've personally avoided most vanilla relationships, but I know MARRIED abdl couples who started with one partner totally vanilla, and some of the biggest and most successful content creators in this space are well known for having partners not into ABDL.
Simply put, if you assume it'll go wrong and you'll be judged, your body language, words, and tone can be much more nervous and defensive and make your partner feel ill at ease. Try to not go in with negative assumptions!
3. "I have to find a caregiver to feel little!"
Uh... no you don't. Your kink might involve a partner, your desires might include one or more people around to care for you or dominate you or join you in diapered submission... but none of that means you can't enjoy still, and have a GREAT time. You can try to foster your own regressive or littlespace mindset, happily. And you don't need ANYONE else to enable that. If you're expecting that just having sometime else around will fix things, you're sadly incorrect! You need, at some level, to be comfortable enough to not just rely on EXTERNAL enforcement of your abdl side!
4. "I should get rid of [x] because I feel embarrassed/bad/upset!" (Or any similar variant of the binge/ purge mentality)
Binge and purge cycles happen, and can be very emotionally destructive. Try to instead put the object in storage instead of throwing it out, because often your emotional negative response will only get worse when you later regret it or judge your own reaction.
Try to give yourself the space to struggle, but don't just throw things away or destroy them if they're kink items... instead, realize you might feel differently later and give yourself the grace to be allowed to change your mind without any further fear or judgment!
5. "Everybody can tell if I'm padded/ little/ going out discretely!"
No they can't. I could stop there but truly let's consider this: you realize that incontinence is common... shockingly common. You've passed people in adult diapers, pull ups, discrete pads, you've likely even been in a room with another heavily diapered adult and NEVER realized. Because unless you're being obvious, have leaks, or make a point to wear very form fitting clothing, nobody will notice or likely even look! You're much less exposed than your brain makes you think!!
My point is this: be nice to yourself, and work hard to challenge those negative self talk moments that come up for so many abdls. Your interests and desires aren't as rare as you think, more people are ok with it than you realize, nobody can usually tell even if you are padded (and would be more likely to assume it medical than kinky even if they noticed), and struggling with this is normal too!
BE NICER TO YOURSELF: THAT'S THIS PAPI'S ORDERS! You don't deserve to feel bad about something that helps you feel good!
And as always; stay happy, stay healthy, and stay kinky!
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