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reimu

i literally hate ads so much there NEEDS to be a decible limit on them or something because i should not be able to hear screaming from an ad from my otherwise quiet downstairs neighbours

its the horror movie equivalent of using cheap jumpscares instead of good setting and storytelling, no yelling into my ears will actually make me hate you

you are an AD, you are not. ALIVE, you have not LIVED, you were born from the FILTH of humanity that is corporate greed, your only purpose is to get my (very fickle) attention and you DAREE talk to ME (a real living person) like we're EQUALS?? you FOOL, you are worth less than the dirt on the bottom of my shoes, because atleast the dirt will someday nurture a plant somewhere but YOU will cut that plant down to put up a BILLBOARd for more ADSgixlpqimn,,,.snaj

tatters-the-bat

Reports say Windows 15 will be "a transparent pane of glass" that will be installed into frames on a wall; Lead developer comments, "finally, we got it right. Somehow we kept making operating systems instead and it was getting really frustrating."

catcrumb

wolfboyft

fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck

rumade

I’d divorce him too lmao

sustainableseparatists

sisyphereantask

It’s never JUST about the tomatoes.

probablyasocialecologist

Basically!

Throughout the day, partners would make requests for connection, what Gottman calls “bids.” For example, say that the husband is a bird enthusiast and notices a goldfinch fly across the yard. He might say to his wife, “Look at that beautiful bird outside!” He’s not just commenting on the bird here: He’s requesting a response from his wife—a sign of interest or support—hoping they’ll connect, however momentarily, over the bird.

The wife now has a choice. She can respond by either “turning toward” or “turning away” from her husband, as Gottman puts it. Though the bird-bid might seem minor and silly, it can actually reveal a lot about the health of the relationship. The husband thought the bird was important enough to bring it up in conversation and the question is whether his wife recognizes and respects that.

These bidding interactions had profound effects on marital well-being. Couples who had divorced after a six-year follow-up had “turn-toward bids” 33 percent of the time. Only three in 10 of their bids for emotional connection were met with intimacy. The couples who were still together after six years had “turn-toward bids” 87 percent of the time. Nine times out of 10, they were meeting their partner’s emotional needs.

Those who showed genuine interest in their partner’s joys were more likely to be together.

educatedsavage

Damn, this made me think of all the “shouting into the void” social media posts everyone makes. Just bids for connection. From ANYONE.

c-ptsdrecovery

I think that is ABSOLUTELY what a lot of that is. Our culture is very isolated (even BEFORE covid!), and we’re desperate to connect with others. I read an article one time that suggested that childcare workers stop saying that a child is “Just wants attention” and start saying that the child is “looking for connection.” We’re starved for it even from childhood.

wolfboyft

The world we live under is keen on telling us that our needs or bad or wrong or that it's entitlement to speak them.

Love and compassion are a fundamental good. To be honest, I feel that no other truth is more fundamental.

(Also FTR I don't really approve of the tone of "I'd divorce him too lmao" up above.)

twistcmyk

art block

tidesandtwilight

what is with the cop hate??

Oh sorry for the confusion. It’s because I hate cops

veryluckyclovers

wolfboyft

as it should be :3

iwilleatyourenglish

i think it's actually really horrifying and detrimental that it's considered socially unacceptable to tell parents when they are making mistakes while raising their kids

iwilleatyourenglish

"don't tell me how to raise my kids" is seen as a good defense and it's so disturbing to me.

children are not your property that you can do whatever you like with.

giving birth or impregnating someone or adopting doesn't give you some inherent wisdom that means you can never fuck up.

and you shouldn't have the right to abuse or neglect or misinform a child just because you have legal guardianship of them.

they deserve to have others speak up on their behalf. i don't care if it hurts your ego.

iwilleatyourenglish

the vast majority of the time, it is all about ego and control btw.

a staggering amount of parents view their children as their property and see advice as someone trying to take away their "deserved" control.

a ton of them are more concerned with being perceived as a good parent over actually being one.

illufinch

in the grass wip

lifeafterpsychiatry

I am so very serious when I say that minors should have a legal and easily reinforceable right to say "I don't want to live with my parents (or other adult caretakers)/I don't want to be around that person/I don't want to go to that place" and actually get their wish accommodated. So much childhood trauma could be avoided or ended if children actually had the right to leave the situation or the person hurting them.

text into the title wtf tumblr

stop refocusing my

i love the starbound orchestral ost

veryluckyclovers

katie-official

hey watch out, theres a piece of malware going around. i would categorize it as bloatware, adware and spyware. its called "Microsoft Windows"

certified-anti-microsoft-posts

Certified Anti-Microsoft post

katie-official

microslop only gets worse every day. You dont need to put up with it, linux is intimidating but not that hard to learn. do yourself a favor and make a mint usb, or whatever distro your heart desires and install it. just back up your data

wolfboyft

the whole "linux is too hard" thing is, while something the people who develop software for linux need to help with, largely rooted in a systemic issue of intentionally-poor tech literacy, which is... capitalism's fault.

you're taught how to use MS word and be an office worker when you're a kid, but you're not taught the equally-learnable (while you're as open to learning as a kid) terminal and how to become a hacker. as such, people think that sticking to microslop stuff is their destiny (doom) and that living in a world of freedom is totally inaccessible.

like... the basic perspective shift i'm really trying to push here is that there are a lot of things that can stop people from using Linux and that they are by no means all Linux's fault. in general, we should think more broadly than just the perspective of someone who was raised with a specific upbringing. consider all the social factors etc and how things could be.

if we are raised with a different relationship to tech, if the organisations that make the tech that is so integrated with our lives are actually on our side, then the problems that keep people on windows vanish. i honestly think this is useful information to keep in mind if you're telling yourself other reasons that you're struggling to make the switch <3

housegoblin

love your friends, let your friends love you

wolfboyft

yeag

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