Black Woman Stereotypes 2 / 4
[ These are just some thoughts I have in my head about this topic, it isn’t meant to be a purely academic discussion. It’s meant to be a conversation to learn about another perspective. ]
The angry Black Woman stereotype is very interesting to me. I feel like that everyone except Black Women consciously or subconsciously apply the stereotype to Black Women. I don’t mean that as an insult, I’ve just noticed it. I’ve been called “an angry Black Woman” in my English class where I experienced the most racism so I’ve explicitly experienced this one.
I will go talk about three groups I’ve noticed take part in applying this stereotype.
After I watched American Son, a movie/play based on a Black Woman searching for her son who was stopped by cops, I went on Youtube to see how other Black people reacted to the movie/play. I came across multiple videos of Black Men talking about how the Mother was acting “Crazy” and “Hysterical”.
Ummmm this Woman was looking for her BLACK son who was stopped by the COPS in his CAR late at NIGHT and has been MISSING for hours?
SHE IS ALLOWED TO EXPRESS HER FRUSTRATION???
So this is just one example of how, even in the Black community, Black Women are seen as too sensitive or hysterical because we express ourselves just as much as Black/White Men.
2. White Women/White Friends/ White People
White Women specifically and White people generally seem to be intimidated by Black Women expressing themselves. It’s shocking to them. I’ve heard many White Women/people in my life say,
“Why don’t you cool off?”
“Don’t let it get to you.”
“Don’t worry about it.”
“Take a breath.”
Mind you, I never scream at anyone. All I do is calmly say “What the fuck” at someone acting like an idiot lol. I do understand it comes from a good place sometimes, but ultimately it just seems like they’re trying to “handle” me. Because I’m so damn angry. When I’m not.
3. People I Confront For Being Stupid
On here, I’ve dealt with idiots. If the 100th person reblogs my petition post and says,
“dOn’T dOnAtE tO cHaNgE.oRg”
“sO i’M nOt AlLoWeD tO eXpReSs My OpInIoN?”
I am straight up. I will say:
“So you’re making this about you? The OPPRESSED WHITE WOMAN? AHHHHHHH WAAAA” lol
“Wow, you didn’t even read my post before reblogging?”
I use humor. But my God does it trigger these people!
If I’m right I will explain why in depth but if I can tell you didn’t even read/consider the info and are just complaining, yeah I’ll poke fun at you. Because you’re acting stupid. If you make valid points, I’ll discuss it with you. And I have done this with multiple people privately and resolved multiple posts. I even got a friend out of it, @yeshasays .
Does my tone come off as passive aggressive or aggressive? Well, I sure damn hope so, because I’m TIRED of y’all’s bullshit. My first week doing this I was nicer, no, actually I was protecting White people’s feelings. But now, I’m just being completely transparent.
I’m telling you all of this because usually when I say, “I’m done” or “Bye”, the person being an ass will be like,
“Wow it was just a question…”
“Glad we had a civilized talk….”
These people see me as screaming at them when really, I’m excited I get to find a Nicki Minaj gif to react to this convo. But those phrases above, just prove that people read into Black “anger”/Black Women’s “anger” soooo much. They’ll think I’m having a breakdown when I’m laughing at them.
I’m laughing at them. I don’t give a shit. I’m past the point of crying about it or being angry. I don’t feel anything. And yes that’s a warning sign, but right now that’s how I’m coping.
So when I get “mean” asks or “mean” comments, I’ll expose you. And top it off with a Nicki Gif. Because that’s how little I give a shit. If I know you’re a big problem, I’ll call in my bro, @yeshasays to handle your fuckin’ ass. Because I don’t have the time to write out a response to protect your White fragility.
I do notice though, when a White person confronts another White person instead of me, they are wayyyy more chill. Kind of like,
“But Mommy she hurt my feewings!”
Which sucks because I’d like to be able to say what I need to say without backup, but we don’t live in that kind of world.
Black Women are allowed to have feelings because we are human. We get to cry, scream, feel just like you. If a Black Woman is angry, let her be. She is most likely angry for a logical reason. And before you tell her to “calm down” or “let it go”, imagine your friend saying that to you, when you are expressing your feelings. We as Black Women shouldn’t have to keep our problems to ourselves because it makes you uncomfortable.
My Mother even does this. She assumes I’m more upset than I am. When I have a healthy relationship with confrontation and I should be allowed to express myself as a human. I will NOT hide away my honesty, humor, and irritation because it makes others uncomfortable. If they feel uncomfortable with me, they damn well know where the door is.
I suggest my Black Sistas adopt this ideology.
Whew that was a lot of rambling.
Please participate in this discussion, don’t be scared to say something stupid, I’ll know if you’re coming from a genuine place lol.
Let me know what you think here
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