Young & Stylish Living in Washington DC

There's plenty of us in Washington DC--20 somethings imported from across the country to work, live, and play in the capital city that everyone in the world has heard of. People may think they know DC, but the transformation from 'tourist' to 'Washingtonian' takes having the inside scoop from people who live it, love it , and breathe it. We're not New York, Chicago, or Los Angeles--and we intend on keeping it that way. This blog is devoted to presenting the latest in food, nightlife, fashion, sports, lifestyle, celeb buzz, and hottest deals in the nation's most underrated big city. Always honest (not necessarily nice), Young&Stylish is dedicated to the new DMV resident, living fabulously every day of our lives.

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excited to be covering the @shopvioletdc #anniversaryparty! congrats on two amazing years in business and cheers to many more. look for the article in @guestofaguest DC tomorrow! @stevesteinberg @jennanusholtz (at Violet Boutique)

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a huge thank you to my girl julie from @shopvioletdc for styling me for the #violetboutique 2nd anniversary party on thursday! there's a reason why my whole closet is from this store, y'all are the best! #shophere #shamelessplug (at Violet Boutique)

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"if you lived here right now, you'd be home but could not vote"washingtondc #ilovemycity #adamsmorgan

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I am humbled and excited to present my very first article for Guest of a Guest DC featuring the best Irish pubs in the Washington-area for St. Patrick's Day. I hope ya'll enjoy!

<3Young&StylishDC

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absolutely ecstatic to be the newest writer for @guestofaguest #washingtondc - thank you to everyone who listened, read, edited and supported my crazy goal in an industry few people have heard of and fewer understand. first article ready to drop next week. best birthday present ever. #dreamsworkifyoudo 👍🎉💻📱📝

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thank you to @fashiontographer for featuring me and my #nicolemiller gown on their #inauguralball #bestdressed blog! those two-a-days were totally worth it ;)

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Formal Events 101: When to Splurge, Save, and Compromise

Of the many things I love about Washingtonian living, the ability to attend social and networking events is undoubtedly my favorite. While each varies in dress code and alcohol availability (and cost), all offer the opportunity to celebrate something amongst friends, loved ones and peers--always a worthy cause, regardless of the occasion. And because there are so many of them going on at any given time, fitting one, a few, or a lot of these events into a busy DC schedule isn't particularly difficult. (Especially for those who are socially talented.)

As someone to attends and reviews these gatherings regularly, I can safely say it's the best part of my job. There's little I enjoy more than getting dolled up and sipping champagne while checking out the eye candy donning suits, ties, and driving loafers. No matter what cause the festivities are honoring, I'm humbled and excited to frequent each one I'm invited to, that my schedule allows. Being a lifelong social butterfly who popped her event cherry long ago, I fully understand the both the personal and business benefits of being a frequently featured face at such soirees. Of course, social affairs are meant to be fun and therefore often have a guest list comprised of 20-to-30-somethings that are ideal for mingling. (It's rare that I don't make at least one new friend at these shindigs, if not several. The often-present open bar helps.) But because such functions usually honor some cause or charity, it's more than likely that you'll collect several a few business cards as well. (For some reason, professionals love getting behind non-profits they've never heard of. Makes them seem pious, I suppose. But as usual, I digress.)

Since the schmoozing you'll do at any given affair will be in part, business-related, it's important to devote a considerable amount of preparation in advance as to put one's best foot forward on event day. Remember that stepping out to a social or networking gala is like presenting a live resume to the other guests--your behavior (and that of those you bring with you) most certainly reflects upon you both personally and professionally. And since you never know just who you will meet, it's always a good idea to be ready rather than sorry. (I refuse to say "safe" because in this world, playing it "safe" usually means coming in last.)

While this guideline applies to every Washingtonian event regardless of how fancy it is, formal and black tie affairs make it a rule to live by. Likely including an elegant dress code and affluent guest list, formal galas up the ante significantly. Aside from the fact that it's fun to feel like a VIP (if only for a night), the chances of meeting a really valuable contact (or famous person) are significantly increased. Social norms also tend to become more conservative at black tie events, and making a jackass of yourself at one can really come back to haunt you. (Especially if there are photographers in attendance. Did you know that all of those pictures are posted online? I bet you regret making that stupid kissy/platypus-looking face now, don't you?)

With the Presidential Inauguration right around the corner, it's more than likely that quite a few Washingtonians will losing their black-tie v-card next weekend. I admit it: taking all of this into consideration can be overwhelming, especially for first-timers. (I remember being really nervous for my formal event debut.) The pressure of making a positive professional impression while also enjoying oneself can be heavy--it's not a social equilibrium designed for the faint of heart. From choosing an outfit to a date and everything in between, it's easy for a newbie to prepare incorrectly. While some don't do nearly enough, most others women go overboard and often spend way too much cash on it in the process. Both are bad ideas. Take it from a seasoned veteran: being ready for a social affair (even a formal one) doesn't always require a credit card. To help my newly imported Washingtonians properly get ready for the 2013 Presidential Inauguration balls and galas, here's some friendly advice on where to splurge, how to save, and when to compromise.

Admission/Tickets: Splurge. (If absolutely necessary, that is!) Nearly all black tie social events (weddings aside) require a ticket for admission, much like other, less-fancy affairs. However, as expected, formal parties often come with a much steeper price tag. But, that doesn't mean you'll necessarily end up footing the bill. More often than not, gaining access to these soirees can be done simply by referencing your ever-growing Roladex and asking around. It's rare that I actually pay to attend any networking or social function, but instead get tickets from valued clients or friends who have better access than I. (In fact, this is how I received my two tickets to the inauguration gala I'll be attending, The All American Ball.) If you're not lucky enough to have insider connections with the ticket hookup, the price can be a little scary. (After checking online, I found out that tickets to the ball I'm attending are $215.00 a pop!) But in the case of the inauguration, I highly advise that you put your big boy/girl pants on, get over it, and splurge. Sure, admission can get really slightly expensive, but keep in mind that the cost most likely comes with amenities as well. (Think full meals, entertainment, open top-shelf bar, etc.) And since the Presidential Inauguration only happens every four years, it's worth it to spend a little extra just to celebrate history while hobnobbing with famous faces. Plus think of it this way: unless you have a connection to tickets, buying one is your only option if you want to attend. (Unless you want to be like that lameass DC housewife who crashed a White House party. Don't be the uninvited bitch at the party who isn't wanted.)

The Plus One: Compromise. (Not too much, of course.) For those fortunate enough to be in a committed relationship, the date question is a no-brainer. For the single ladies however, the plus-one choice is a little more difficult. Those without a devoted man are usually prompted to take the best looking guy they know--even without a close friendship or anything in common. Keep in mind however: hot guys are awesome, having nothing to talk about isn't. While having a Ryan-Gosling-level-sexy man on your arm is never a bad thing, don't forget that you'll actually have to spend the evening with this person and therefore should actually enjoy hanging out with him. Not only is it simply more fun take a date with whom you share similar interests, but inviting one that you have a solid connection with is more likely to attract potential business contacts as well. Remember that a plus-one is an extended reflection of yourself, personally and professionally. The twosomes with a natural and easy-going rapport act like magnets, attracting others wherever the evening takes them. These are the people that make guests just want to be around them. And of course, a date should also be a pro at handling social situations with the innate ability to talk to anyone and make a positive impression. (Just because he's hot, doesn't mean he's a fantastic conversationalist. I've learned this the hard way. #fact) That's why when it comes to a plus-one, I recommend my Washingtonian ladies to put some serious thought into their choice of guest and compromise. Who one associates with can be as great (positive or negative) of an impact as one's outfit, ultimately making your date choice among the most important pre-event decisions. Find a guest that not only looks good and dresses up well, but compliments who you are and what you bring to the table. (Because hey, if other great people want to be around you, then obviously you must be pretty cool... right?) That way, you can enjoy yourself all while sporting some eye candy and collecting business cards at the same time.

The Dress: Compromise. Being a staunch fashion enthusiast, it goes without saying that getting dressed for black tie soirees is nearly as awesome to me as attending the event itself. While I generally rotate through a series of dresses that can be considered business-casual or cocktail attire, formal affairs and their stricter dress codes make outfit choices a little more complicated--if for nothing else, because there are likely few black tie appropriate gowns hanging in a 20-to-30-somethings closet. If you're like me, chances are good that only one or two are owned, and have already been sported more than once. While I obviously don't want to continually wear the same exact thing, remember that buying something new for a one-time function is only exciting until the event is over. Then, you're just left with an expensive-ass dress that you'll rarely ever wear. First, I encourage readers to consider borrowing an outfit from a friend who wears a similar size, as it's the cheapest option and shopping in your pal's closet is totally fun. (Don't lie. It is.) If you're unable to track one down or aren't particularly thrilled at the idea of wearing your girlfriend's, check out Rent the Runway. This fantastic website allows users to rent outrageously expensive designer clothing for cheap. Worried about choosing the right size? Don't worry--RTR will ship you a second size for free. Nervous that you won't like the dress on? Again, fear not. Rent the Runway users can reserve a second dress (and size) for only $25.00. (You get to keep both for periods of four or eight days, so it's perfect if you've got more than one formal event to attend.) While they mostly offer dresses, it's also possible to rent high-end jewelry and purses for a low-cost as well. (In fact, the site is completely user interactive and a pleasure to use. In addition to offering fitting information and suggestions of matching accessories, it's also possible to see pictures and hear feedback from others who've rented the same dress. I'm a loyal believer.) There's nothing wrong with rental couture, regardless of whether you're shopping RTR or something else, like Bag Borrow and Steal. (Yes, Sex and the City fans, it's a real thing. And it's really, really awesome.) Sure, you have to return it in the end, but renting ensures you're dressed to the nines while being a hell-of-a-lot cheaper than purchasing an outfit you'll never wear again. Sounds like an ideal compromise to me. (Here are the three dresses I chose between for Sunday's inauguration festivities: #1, #2, #3. Guess you'll have to stay tuned to see which I went with!)

Beauty Preparations (Hair, Makeup, Nails, etc.): Splurge some, compromise some. Black tie events are meant to make guests feel like luxe VIPs, and therefore preparing for one should ignite similar emotions. Especially if you saved on your outfit (either by recycling one from your closet, borrowing from a friend, or renting one), pamper yourself a bit by indulging in some day-of beauty treatments. Women absolutely love spa days, so formal affairs are a perfect excuse to have one. If you have the financial means, I'd say get the works and turn to professionals to handle your hair, make-up, and nails. (If you're so inclined, spray tanning couldn't hurt either.) Even those with smaller budgets shouldn't neglect the fun of splurging. Most makeup kiosks in shopping malls will apply yours for free, assuming you purchase something from them. (It could be something small, even. Doing this with the MAC booth got me through every event I've gone to for next-to-nothing.) When it comes to hair and nails, pick which you aren't as stellar at doing yourself and book an appointment. Personally, I'm comfortable styling my hair but my nails need serious work, being a habitual biter. (Don't think hand care isn't important, because it is--especially as you'll be shaking hands and holding a drink in plain sight all evening.) Therefore, I chose to save by coloring and styling my hair myself but splurged by booking a much-needed date with a manicurist. Everyone has to make sacrifices sometimes, right?

Transportation: Save. (Showing up is half the battle) Of all the costs associated with attending a black tie affair, transportation should be the least expensive--who the hell cares as long as you get there, right? If the function is close enough, walking or taking the Metro is a perfectly acceptable option. (I actually love the attention garnered from sporting formal wear through the Metro. Surprised? Me neither.) For the soirees too far to walk or metro, any taxi cab that will drop you off alive will do just fine. (Because drunk driving is a stupid idea, no matter what.) It's unlikely that people will be standing outside, so no one will see what whip you show up in anyways. Again, just get there. But of course, if you're looking to arrive a little more stylishly, Uber Cab always does the trick. Classy and cashless, Ubers are town cars or luxury SUVs that can be called, tracked, and paid for from any location via smart phone. While I think they're the quickest and most efficient way of travel in the DMV, Uber Cabs are definitely more expensive than a regular taxi--especially on high volume evenings. (On New Years Eve, I was too drunk didn't notice the "Rates = 4x" notice Uber put up prior to reservation and ultimately paid nearly $300.00 in transportation alone. #majorouch) That experience, combined with my rare inclination to be cheap, prompts me to encourage inaugural-ball-going Washingtonians to arrive by the most cost-effective means possible. Again, the important thing is just getting there, not what you arrive in.

Whether you take all, some, or none of my advice, remember: although formal functions are meant to be fun, there is always a professional bottom line attached. Keep in mind that your presence at such events is a direct reflection on your personal and business life, therefore requiring the utmost attention. Don't forget my newly imported Washingtonians, that those with a plan are often also the ones who come out rocking it, both inside and outside of the office. Neglecting to put thought and consideration into one's tickets, date, outfit or beauty efforts pre-party can end up being costly in more ways than one. It doesn't matter if you splurge, save, or compromise on everything. A lack or preparation will ultimately turn networking and social events into work, rather than a medium that works for you--something you're not paid nearly enough to do past 6:00 anyways, regardless of what job you have.

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Make Your Gratitude Sparkle: The Importance of Showing Appreciation

Like most other social behaviors, we are taught the rules of appreciation from a very early age. Whether it be remembering to say please or thank you, children are constantly reminded of these guidelines throughout adolescence. Ideally, the regular use of these simple phrases as a means of expressing gratitude turns such behavior into habit, eventually developing mature, polite adults. And as the definition of "appreciation" grows increasingly more complex with age, remembering to be outwardly thankful for whatever positive things are thrown your way becomes more important than ever before. When you're a kid, forgetting to say "please" or "thank you" can be chalked up a youngster who hasn't fully matured yet. On the other hand, adults who neglect such terms are seen as rude assholes--an opinion that will reflect upon the individual personally and professionally.

Despite the fact that expressing gratitude can often be accomplished with just a few short words, I've found that several grown adults leave them out of their regular vocabulary--a personal pet peeve of mine. (I've been known to scold friends who don't say "please" on more than one occasion, even if they intended to follow up with "thank you." Can't have one without the other. #neverbeenlesssorry) Especially with those you know well, it's easy to become too comfortable and assume that "please", "thank you", and other displays of appreciation are implied and therefore unnecessary to repeat. This my friends, is a misconception that can get one into trouble both in and out of the office. Regardless of whether it was a friend, romantic partner, business contact, or coworker that went the extra mile for you, showing gratitude is a key component to maintaining and strengthening such relationship. Often, these people have gone above and beyond out of the goodness of their heart, and aren't looking for a grand overture of thanks. Usually, just simple acknowledgement will go a long, long way. Without it however, one can assume that you're unappreciative and will be left with little to no incentive to help (or interact with) you in the future. (i.e. You're a douche bag.) And while friends or lovers may be more lenient regarding such rude behavior, don't think for a second they won't eventually get fed up. Trust me, they will.

I was reminded of the importance of showing appreciation last week when I attended the 2013 Sparkle Lounge event hosted by the Ronald Reagan Building and International Trade Center. As a party dedicated to expressing gratitude to the many clients and vendors the RRB staff works with regularly, I was hyped to attend. (Especially because it had also been a year since I began reviewing their events. Happy Anniversary!) Humbled to receive multiple invitations to the Sparkle Lounge, I promptly extended them to five close friends. (One of which I invited specifically as a means of thanking him for the gorgeous photos he took, which I used on my marketing company website. You rule MM!)

Like expected, the entire evening was planned to perfection with strict adherence to detail--something I've come to love and expect from this talented group of event planners. Whether it be the uniquely prepared finger foods, swanky and cool decor, or fully stocked open bar, the hosts took every step possible to ensure that guests enjoyed the party. And with a cocktail attire dress code and a DJ spinning the hottest beats, it was clear that the staff wanted all attendees to feel like a luxe VIP--regardless of whether the client was a regular guest or a first-timer. I beamed with excitement when my pals entered the Atrium and were awestruck by it's splendor. Walking down the beautifully lit staircase, I felt nothing but pride regarding my fantastic and highly valued relationship with the event planning and sales staff. It was undeniably clear that the Ronald Reagan Building team wanted every vendor to know how important they (and their business) was to them--an objective they successfully accomplished. It wasn't just what was said to guests that made the evening a smashing success, however. But instead, how attendees felt while mixing, mingling, and schmoozing: like a complete badass.

After such an experience, it's impossible for me (or anyone else for that matter) to not want to do business with the Ronald Reagan Building and International Trade Center. Not only did they go above and beyond to thank me for my hard work over the past year, but they gave me a reason to dress up and celebrate 2013 with my friends. (One of every Washingtonian's my favorite activities.) I can firmly say my buddies and I had a fantastic time. (The massive hangover I woke up with the next morning was even worth it.) And as each of my personal guests overflowed my phone with text messages and calls thanking me for including them, I was humbly reminded that the social rules of appreciation are necessary in every relationship--business or otherwise. Had they neglected to simply say "thank you" to me, the chances of them snagging access to the next baller soiree would be slim to none. (And frankly, I'd be slightly pissed off offended, too.) It just goes to show: displays of appreciation can come in any size, but their presence is paramount. My new Washingtonians, remember that even the smallest gesture can go a long way--in business, love, and life.

Always blissfully thankful for friends, family, and clients,

<3Y&SDC

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The Best Inauguration Viewing Spots in DC: Anywhere BUT the National Mall

Living in the nation's capitol, it goes without saying that some pretty cool shit happens in Washington DC each and every day. Even if it wasn't where most of our country's major decisions are made, there is always something going on and seeing famous faces isn't uncommon. (You just have to keep an eye out, as the hype following them will be much smaller than if spotted in a larger city.) For those who call the DMV home, it's easy to take such events for granted or be annoyed by their great frequency. In addition to being overloaded with promotional advertisements, many Washingtonians take the attitude of "That's cool, but I'll catch the next one..." due to their constantly reoccurring nature. After all, who wants to attend the same party with the same people, week in and week out? (Even when for different causes, I'd still pass.)

And while practically everything that goes down in Washington DC is broadcast nationwide, those living outsize the cozy Beltway bubble generally don't trek down here for each one. Much to the dismay of DMV residents however, every once in a while there is an event so nationally recognized that it draws swarms people to our little slice of paradise. Sure, it's awesome having friends and family visit for such instances, but we already have way too many tourists regularly haunting our streets, bars, and public transport systems--the last thing we need are more. (You remember tourists, right? They're my favorite people... behind absolutely everyone else.) Festivities of grand proportions, such as the upcoming Presidential Inauguration for example, make tiny and usually peaceful DC overfilled with large and loud outsiders. When the nation's eyes are focused on the DMV, everything from getting a drink to riding the Metro becomes about a million times slower, more complicated, and obnoxious.

Barack Obama's January 2009 inauguration was the first I experienced as an official Washingtonian. Being our nation's only African American president, DMV residents knew in advance that the tourist levels would reach annoyingly new heights. In the days leading up to inauguration, enormous buses flowed downtown constantly, lining the DC streets and dumping droves of fanny-pack wearing, map-carrying individuals along the way. Working on the National Mall as the public relations intern for the Natural History Museum, I witnessed and dealt with these people first-hand. Their numbers were outstanding, army-like even. And despite the unusually cold winter weather, visitors used every opportunity to get the "complete" District experience--usually resulting in tourists trying (and miserably failing) to use our metro systems, all while stopping to take pictures along the way. Trust me, simply getting up the escalator to get to work was a complete pain in the ass circa January 2009. (We understand that you're on vacation, but Washingtonians aren't. Basically: get the hell out of our way and capture precious moments elsewhere.) 

For this reason (among others), my then-boyfriend and I chose to watch the historic inauguration from the comfort of our cozy Arlington bedroom--a decision I've never regretted, especially as my friends who did attend said they froze-to-death and were unable to see anything thanks to the massive crowd. In the end, every one said that being on the National Mall that day was their first mistake, as they failed to get anything truly meaningful out of it. Instead, it was just a lot of shivering and standing in line. Each reported that the experience would have been the opposite of miserable if they spent it elsewhere.

Even though I likely won't be as domesticated for Obama's 2013 inauguration, I will be avoiding the National Mall like the plague. (And advise all Washingtonians to do so as well.) Fortunately, there are several other options for established residents looking to watch inauguration over cheap drinks in a tourist-free location. Here are the Young&Stylish DC top picks:

A viewing party held by a friend, family member, or co-worker. Attending a get-together hosted by a close pal or relative is great for those interested in a calmer and more relaxing inaugural experience. Chances are good that attending guests will be already-made buddies or acquaintances, offering a chance to reconnect and catch up with those you may not have seen recently. But as people generally surround the television for the majority of such gatherings, it's unlikely that the party will become a blowout bash--perfect if you have to return to the office the next day or aren't looking to spend money at the bar. (Not to say that people won't be drinking, because they will. Most Washingtonians have a massive slight alcohol problem.) And because these shindigs are intended for a smaller number of people, it's more than likely that the provided munchables will be outstanding as well. An obvious win-win in my book.

Any bar or restaurant, with TVs, located nowhere near the National Mall. For those looking to use inauguration as an excuse to rage, you're in luck. With most DC bars open until 4 am, pretty much any place showing the event is ideal... as long as it's not near the National Mall. (To be safe, I'd say that anything below I Street NW is tourist territory.) As these venues will be jam-packed with visitors ordering food and drinks, Washingtonians must venture to spots set at a distance to receive the same quick and efficient service they would normally. Regardless of their location, many bars and restaurants across the DMV are offering drink and food specials to patrons coming in to watch inauguration--ultimately allowing residents to save money, avoid crowds, and get their jam dance on all at the same time. (Whoever said you can't have your cake and eat it too was obviously seriously misinformed.)

A fancy ball or gala hosted by some DC society you've likely never heard of. Washingtonians who are down to get down stylishly would enjoy attending one of the many balls or galas held District-wide in honor of inauguration. Aside from giving guests a reason to get dolled up, an open-bar, entertainment, and free finger foods are virtually guaranteed. More often than not, the party is hosted by some organization or nonprofit that you've never heard of and consequently requires a purchased ticket for admission. Even if you're not lucky enough to have free passes graciously handed to you, attending these fancy events are still worth your time and money. In addition to the aforementioned amenities, these extravagant galas are always filled with powerful and famous people (politicians are people too, despite the common misconception) to mix and mingle with--a networking dreamboat. Any time is a good time to collect business cards in DC, so why not expand your Roladex while Obama is put on display before every contact in his? It takes the pressure and attention off, allowing one to drink eat run-around-naked celebrate alongside countrymen and advance professionally at the same time. And as efficiency mongers, there's nothing Washingtonians love more than killing two birds with one stone.

End of Story: Regardless of where one watches the 2013 Presidential Inauguration, it's important to make it enjoyable and memorable. As it's rare that our country can agree on anything, an event which unites us as a nation can be a pretty powerful thing. While I encourage all Americans to keep their eyes on Washington, viewing location is paramount to the overall experience. It's far better to digest inauguration from a location where you can actually watch the ceremony, amongst friends and with a drink than anything else... especially bobbing and weaving between tourists in the cold. Take my advice and you'll thank me later. Guaranteed. 

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Roll Tide.

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” I love everything about her and I’m not a guy who says that lightly. I’m a guy who has faked love his entire life. I thought love was just something idiots thought they felt but this woman has a hold on my heart that I could not break if I wanted to. And there have been times when I wanted to. It has been overwhelming and humbling and even painful at times. But I could not stop loving her any more than I could stop breathing. I am hopelessly and irretrievably in love with her. More than she knows. “

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Another true feeling. (Just switch around the female pronouns.)

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With a love of cigars, suits, and scotch, it's no wonder that my best girls are all dudes. But that works both ways, I suppose. 

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The Five Types of Men You'll Meet in Northern Virginia

When I relocated to the Commonwealth in August, it wasn't my first time residing on this side of the river. Upon initially moving to the DMV, I lived with my then-boyfriend and his roommates in a small home near the Courthouse metro. (And as a Wolverine cohabiting with four Buckeyes during the Rich Rodriguez years, let me attest: it was a particularly difficult experience.) But it was only after living amidst the bustling melting pot that is downtown DC for a few years did I realize that Northern Virginia (Arlington, specifically) for the most part, is lacking any great air of diversity or uniqueness.

No you mean asshole, I'm not talking about racial or ethnic differences; there's plenty of those to go around. If one takes that factor out of the equation, all that's left is a slew of houses and apartments that look exactly the same, located near bars and restaurants that are practically carbon copies of each other. Despite it's few charming and picturesque parks and trails, Northern VA is undoubtedly an example of stereotypical American suburbia. Not that it's a bad thing of course, but there isn't a whole lot about Yuppieville, Virginia, that is cultural, urban, or unique--and I don't know about ya'll, but plain vanilla gets real boring after a while.

Just like the housing and retail landscape varies from neighborhood to neighborhood in the District, so do the men. Dating as a single gal living in Washington DC is like going to a gourmet buffet with samples of every different type of food one could possibly want. Dig a guy who's got a hipster heart? Check out U Street or Shaw. Looking for a man with an intellectual mind? Hang around Foggy Bottom. Interested in a gent with an expendable bank account? Head straight for Georgetown. I told you, the possibilities are endless. Downtown, you'll be hard-pressed to find the same guy twice.

As you may have guessed, NOVA's minimal sense of diversity also carries over to the guys as well. Sure, the dudes who call Northern Virginia home are imported from all over the country and come in a variety of races, ethnic backgrounds and religions. Still, it's undeniable that on first glance, the majority of Arlington's male 20-to-30-somethings look like they're all members of the same preptastic fraternity. Every time I frequent a local bar, the vast majority (if not all) of the men are at least moderately well-dressed, usually donning a button-down shirt or a polo and a sweater, with a closed-toe shoe that's classier than a sneaker. (Usually a boat shoe. And if he's not wearing it then, I'd put my salary on the fact that he owns at least one pair, if not several.)

Even when putting outward appearances to the wayside, preventing a decently handsome guy with a good job from blending into the next can be a serious mental challenge--especially when single dudes in Arlington and Alexandria are in such great supply. (I know that sounds shallow. I'm sorry that I'm not sorry.) The vast majority are college educated, plays or played a handful of sports, and holds a decently interesting job that pays a respectable salary. Sure, when this type of male is a rare specimen, it's fantastic--qualities any girl would value in her man. But with an overwhelming number of options, distinguishing between them is total pain in the ass. And since Arlington isn't the biggest city in the world, it's more than likely that you'll run into the same decent dude more than once, despite their great numbers.

Eventually, the lack of variation prompted my girlfriends and I to call the act of scoping a bar in Arlington for men "fishing." After all, since they have comparable credentials (and look/dress fairly similar), hooking one that you'll probably like (at least for a few nights, anyways) isn't exactly rocket science. If a lady can convey a strong dedication to her career and desire to still have fun, she's more than likely got his attention. If she can throw in a sports fact or two, a first date is virtually guaranteed. At first, the effortless nature of picking up men in the Commonwealth is fun. But over time, it gets monotonous. Are they seriously all that easy? Even though I know it's not really true, it sometimes seems that way.

Please understand that I'm not pointing out these similarities, no matter how basic, as a means of insulting the dudes residing in Arlington--I absolutely love the selection here and I'd prefer to have too many great options rather than too few. Anyone who knows me personally (or reads this blog frequently) is well aware that intelligent, hard-working, and preppily dressed men are my weakness and personal favorite. But because not every girl's heart melts for a man in a button-down, khakis, and boat shoes, the lack of quirkiness among the gents can bore some. #justsaying. After months of hard research, I've come to the conclusion that there are really only five types of men living in Northern Virginia. Each coming with their own pros and cons, it's important to note these variances because after all, it's really all the diversity these guys have. #stillnotsorry

He who is brand new to town. Pros: A man who just moved to the area recently is more likely to willingly try new things and places. Because he has little experience with all of the cool things DC has to offer, a newly imported guy would genuinely appreciate a tour guide that also happens to be a hot girl. Cons: As most people relocate to the area for work, chances are good that a new male Arlingtonian (yep, I went there) has few friends outside of those he knows from the office. While it's awesome when a dude hangs with your pals and becomes friendly with them, a man who spends time with few others outside of you can easily become clingy and smothering. And even if he doesn't become a stage five clinger, intertwining him deeply into your life can be dangerous. Should the relationship ever dissolve, the connections he's made with your friends will make him much harder to avoid.

He who was raised in Northern Virgina. Pros: A NOVA native is awesome to date because their seniority gives them a great lay of the land. Not only will navigating the area be a breeze, but these dudes are the ones most likely to know about local hidden gem spots. Whether it be a fantastic hole-in-the-wall diner or a rockin' dive bar off the beaten path, those raised here always know the best places and will therefore take you to some fantastic location you've never heard of. Cons: Unfortunately, men who were raised Arlington and other municipalities in Northern Virginia get a little too comfortable here. Odds are good that these guys will be the least willing to try new spots they've never heard of. (They're also the first to complain about venturing downtown or to Maryland, as well.) After living in the area for several years, he's already firmly made his mind up about certain neighborhoods, bars, or other activities beyond the cozy, white-bread bubble that is Northern Virginia. And from experience, let me attest: changing his opinions, regardless of how valiant an effort, is damned near impossible.

He who is already in your group of friends. Pros: Engaging in a romantic relationship with a man who's an established member of your inner circle can result in one of the most solid connections possible. Because you two run with the same crowd, it's more than likely that you know each other well and have a solid connection as a foundation for the more-than-friends relationship you're forming. And since the buddies are all the same, you'll never need to convince him to hang with your pals or pretend to be thrilled when with his. Cons: Just like when it happens within the same family, incest among a group of long-time buddies is wrong and should be illegal. It never seems to end well. Ever. For some unknown reason, getting involved with a dude who shares the same friends seems to give the rest of your group a free-access pass to talk about your relationship, both with and without you, at their leisure. They'll voice their opinion often, and because they're close with both parties, assume it should hold any sort of weight. Even putting that notion aside, dating a guy who's firmly inside your tight-knit group can be easy and seemingly uncomplicated... as long as you're still dating that is. Should the likely unthinkable happen and the relationship dissolve, the breakup will result in extreme awkwardness for everyone. This is true not only for you two, but your entire circle as well. Of course, there is the fact that the once solid friendship you had will never return to it's pre-romance state--the relationship will forever be different going forward. And regardless of how smoothly things ended, your buddies will choose sides and friendships will undoubtedly be broken or damaged because of it.

He who haunts the same bar Thursday, Friday, and Saturday night. Pros: There's definitely little wrong with a man who knows better than to ruin a good thing. Once Northern Virginia dude finds a bar he likes, he'll definitely be back--and that's just fine, as where he frequents in his spare time says a lot about him. And if he's drinking at one spot regularly, he's probably also familiar with the drink specials and friendly with bartenders and waitstaff--a crucial factor to getting cheap or free stuff. (Who doesn't like free booze or munchables?) Lastly, his consistency will come in handy should you two ever split--because he goes to the same bar every night, avoiding him will be painless. Cons: Aside from the fact that a guy who refuses to expand his party hotspot horizons can get boring real fast, chances are high the he's a serial bar hawk too. Should you ever decide hang out at his favorite nightlife location post-breakup, you'll be subjected to witnessing him pick up (and often, make out with) new love interests--even if she only lasts the night. Even though ladies all know this predatory behavior is nothing short of pathetic and sad, it's still not particularly fun to see a guy you previously dated act like a total slut.

He who is glued to the hip with his roommate(s). Pros: No one can ever have too many friends, so dating a guy who's tight with his roommates is great for meeting new people. Close buddies who live together generally have similar interests and values, and therefore are likely to get along well with you. And in addition to having access to the inside scoop of what he says when you're not around, your girlfriends will be more than willing to meet them... if they're cute, that is. Cons: Of course, it's important to have friends outside of a relationship--no one wants their own personal Yoko Ono. But getting romantically involved with a man who is seemingly connected at the hip with his roommate often results in spending dates or "alone" time in a trio, as opposed to just the two of you. And even if one does manage to tear him away from his brotastic other half, it's always a good idea to exercise caution when telling him private or embarrassing things. Little known fact, but guys gossip and talk with each other as freely as girls--if not more so. Therefore, chances are really good that whatever you tell your man will also be relayed to his housemate as well, making an established sense of trust a difficult thing to maintain.  

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Putting the 'Social' Back Into 'Socialite' - My Happy Hour with DC Princess Sondra Ortagus

It's been nearly five years since I moved to the DMV, and I can firmly say that I'm in love. (Obviously, why else would I waste spend so much time writing this blog?) Aside from the fact that it's the spot where our nation's major decisions are made, Washington DC is a buzzing metropolis that posses a fantastic sense of culture that's completely unique. While those from New York, Chicago, or Los Angeles may try to call bull shit on that notion, that's only because they're unable to separate the forest from the trees.

Only after mentally eliminating the droves of really, really annoying tourists haunting our streets and metros can one see the District for what it really is: a sincere melting pot of ambitious professionals who value business prowess and acknowledge the importance of networking. (An entrepreneur's utopia, if you will.) As most professional connections eventually become personal friends (and vice versa), making contacts in the DMV is essentially socializing with a bottom line. Maybe it's because I'm just a particularly outgoing gal, but I personally love the Washingtonian emphasis on networking--in fact, expanding my Roladex is among my favorite hobbies. (After all, if all else fails, these events usually have an absurd amount of free booze and well-dressed men.) 

While the District's smaller size provides opportunities to develop strong contacts (seeing the same people accidentally happens real often), making an initial connection requires a sincere effort. Social crowds in the DMV are small, and by nature, cliquey. Although sweet as pie once introduced, Washingtonians generally aren't known for extending their inner circle much, if ever. For most new residents, the exclusive nature to networking (and often, making friends) can be discouraging and therefore usually opt to opt out of events where they're likely to know no one. Those who find the most success from contact building in DC are the ones who take advantage of the general, standoffish societal norm and stand out by going the extra mile to be seen and heard. (It's a solid fact that "networking" is just less irresponsible sounding word for "socializing," anyway.) Simply put, those Washington residents who emphasize actually being social rather than network building are typically the victorious ones, professionally and personally.

I only recently realized that this technique applied to literally every DMV social circle--regardless of whether members are well-known socialites or complete no-namers. The benefits (and pitfalls) of being outgoing are definitely not new to me, but I had always thought these methods applied only to the latter category. With a Detroit background, no trust fund, and a closet of designers I purchased myself, the glamorized world of high Washingtonian society isn't one I'm especially familiar with (despite my increasing awe and fascination). While most with lesser means usually assume the socialite stereotype of lazy with a built in silver spoon, I simply figured they have their own set of rules. And because I assumed the aforementioned socializing methods would fall flat among DC's pretty and powerful, I previously neglected to make an effort.

Never being a shy person, I've always found setting up meetings with anyone, let alone a potential business or personal contact, to be among the easiest and most enjoyable parts of my job. But as I waited at Paolo's on Tuesday for my happy hour guest, I found myself strangely anxious. Perhaps it's because I rarely find myself hanging with DC's in-crowd or the fact that I've made avoiding public situations with girls significantly hotter than I an art form, but meeting with popular Washingtonian socialite Sondra Ortagus made me real nervous. As a frequently featured face at exclusive events and on DC's Guest of a Guest, we can safely say that her social calendar is about a million times larger (and cooler) than mine. (GoaG even named her one of Washington DC's most highly sought after party hostesses. See the article here.) And with every little girl's dream job as the head booking agent for THE Modeling Agency, a perfect figure, and a closet that would make Blair Waldorf jealous, one can't help but be slightly intimidated.

I started to relax when Ortagus strolled into the restaurant and approached the table with a large, welcoming smile. (And being dressed oh-so-cool business casual, I respected her outfit choices immediately. I knew right away I'd like her.) Conversation flowed effortlessly as we covered the introductory basics: where she's from originally (Northern Virginia), her college years (Kappa Kappa Gamma at Tennessee), favorite new hotspot (The Huxley) and what she really wants for Christmas (a zone two parking permit). I eased up quickly, as I found that Sondra and I actually had a lot in common. We have a love of well-styled men, enjoy Malbec wine, and root for the Redskins. And as a fashion enthusiast, she's one of the few people I know who has a similar appreciation for labels, lines, and trends. Personally, I found her warm, engaging, and genuine.

When I finally asked Sondra about her so-called socialite status, she humbly made light of it, explaining that anything allowing her to dress up, enjoy a free drink, and collect business cards amongst friends is more than worth the time. (Which is awesome, because that's also why I love attending these little functions.) Ortagus credited her networking successes to a love of being social; a point evidenced by more than just the fact that every other person who walked into the restaurant knew her. Although our conversation turned professional more than once, her likeable and sweet nature caused me to consider the discussion very casual. Because of this, we could network with each other simply by chatting over a glass of wine. With this in mind, it's no wonder the girl kills it in the boardroom and on the high society scene. Even if I knew nothing about her professional expertise, I'd be much more likely to do business with Sondra because I respected her personally. She not only regularly puts herself out there (while dressed impeccably well), but also makes it a point to build and develop connections without a price tag attached.

Getting to know Ortagus reminded me of the importance of genuine socialization. I've said it before and I'll say it again: the key, is being liked both in and out of the office. While I never doubted the validity of that rule, it was nice to confirm that those who play it safe get nowhere in the District, regardless of affluence. By putting the 'social' back into 'socialite,' Sondra has truly earned the title and acclaim that comes with it. (She's so nice, I can even say I know a 'socialite' now and not feel like a total douche bag.) After all, she built it from the ground up--with hard work and self-branding, just like everyone else. And while that fact tends to get lost in the haze of champagne and couture, the reminder is welcome as it proves that the outgoing and personable Washingtonians survive and thrive... not just the hot and wealthy.

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Perhaps it's the former dancer in me, but few things can make or break a night out quite like the music selection. If the tunes rock, a party or bar will undoubtedly erupt--drunken attendees love to rush to the dance floor, pump their fists, and air hump the most reasonably attractive person they can find within a two foot radius. Should the beats absolutely suck however, a watering hole or a social gathering will almost certainly follow suit. After all, no one wants to get drunk and make bad decisions to music the elderly listens to--where's the fun in that? The best sounds are those that ignite feeling, encourage movement, and are felt in the soul. (Think that's cheesy? You clearly haven't heard anything good lately. #notsorry)

Sure, any bartender or party host can provide decent background noise just by flipping on the radio or plugging in an iPod. It's undeniable however, that some of the greatest nights are those where the music is experienced live. It's important to note that local bands and artists certainly aren't created equal by any means. I've seen and heard horrendous groups perform throughout the DMV more than once--and almost always, the experience is more disappointing than taking home a hot guy who's had a little way too much whiskey. On the flip side, discovering a band that performs in genres or styles one appreciates is like finding the golden ticket to an evening out, the ultimate win-win. Even if the bar is packed and the quality of potential love interests weak, a rockin' group will prevent the experience from being a total waste of time.

While my preferred tunes are generally appreciated by few others (I have a not-so-secret love of country), my absolute favorite music is encompassed in the wide spectrum that comprises 1990s alternative and pop. Not only do these songs tend to discuss more realistic topics (and refrain from cursing every other breath, like most currently released tracks), but I can't help but feel like 90s music makes up the soundtrack to my youth. From Sublime to Pearl Jam to Sir-Mix-a-Lot, the lyrics to popular songs released during that decade will forever be engrained in my memory--regardless of how long it's been since I listened to them. And just like every other girl my age: I danced in the mirror to Spice Girls, blasted GooGoo Dolls in the car, and loved everything about Justin Timberlake. (Come on, admit it. He was hot, even in his curly 'fro days.) And although I haven't busted a move for my own reflection a whole lot in recent years, I personally think 90s music was epic back then. In fact, who am I kidding? 90s music is still the shit.

Fortunately, Washingtonian twenty-somethings who prefer the musical beats of their awkward childhood years can indulge in a fun bar night and great live tunes thanks to White Ford Bronco. As a popular local DC cover band, the five members of WFB are seemingly equal opportunity 90s music enthusiasts--their edgy take on songs ranging from "Livin' La Vida Loca" (featured in the video above) to "Santeria," puts an new and unique spin on old favorites. And with a badass redhead female for a lead singer, White Ford Bronco's performances encourage people to not just sing along, but haul ass to the dance floor as well. Having seen them perform several times over the years, I can personally attest that WFB starts and perpetuates a damned good party. (And for the record, absolutely no one performs "Semi-Charmed Life" or "Slide" better, aside from the original artists themselves.)

Putting their ability to belt out 90s hits with flawless momentum aside, the members of WFB constantly embody a fun, cool, and casual demeanor that easily engages the audience. I know I don't speak for myself alone when I say that the only thing better than listening to White Ford Bronco, would be hanging out with the band post-show. Even if one has never seen their live performances, just looking at the WFB Facebook page clues you in to their easygoing and clever sense of humor. When asked to describe their influences, band members composed the following:

"White Ford Bronco is influenced by the critical parental advice of Danny Tanner and the food at the Max. And the Peach Pit. The cuckolding of 90210 and Melrose Place. The red one pieces and the authority of David Hasselhoff that looks over the Los Angeles County Beaches. The Reebok Pump. Carlton's dance moves. The sound of a slammer pounding down on a pile of pogs. The snap of a slap bracelet. George Herbert Walker Bush. William Jefferson Clinton. And at times Ross Perot, Al Gore, Bob Dole and Dan Quayle. Wayne's World. Hypercolor T- Shirts. The ever so adorable Jonathan Taylor Thomas and Tim Allen's two other kids. Scratch that, JTT and the Olson Twins. And of course the same thing we try to do everyday Pinky...try to take over the world."

Humorous and witty, White Ford Bronco's popularity isn't just based off of their ability to wail on stage. Because their undeniable cool factor makes it impossible to not want to be their best friend, new listeners are effortlessly converted into longtime supporters and fans. And when one combines the soulful sounds with their overall likability, it's clear why they have such a massive following in the Washington DC area. Many fans (myself included) have been known to trek across the DMV just to see WFB live--regardless of whether they're performing at a bar, The National's Stadium, or Top Golf. In fact, the location is completely meaningless as the band consistently outshines the venue anyways. Simply put, White Ford Bronco is always, always worth it. They're just that good and never disappoint. Period. 

Even if you have shitty less-than-awesome musical preferences and lack an appreciation for the sounds of the 90s, attending a White Ford Bronco show is still worth it. This is especially true for guys, as they are the most likely to be incapable of understanding the greatness of a rock version of "Wannabe". For gents who are attached, taking a lady friend to see WFB is an excellent date idea as it provides a whole lot of fun for little cost. (Don't quote me on this, but I've never actually paid to gain entrance to a White Ford Bronco show... not saying that I wouldn't donate if asked, of course.) And as their music pulls ladies to the dance floor like a magnet, both single and taken men can get close to new or current love interests without looking like a total creeper.

So if singing old school Backstreet Boys or belting 4Non Blondes iconic chorus "HEYYYYYYYY, HEEYYYYYY" gets you hyped and moving, your transformation into a White Ford Bronco fan will be instantaneous. Even if those songs don't increase personal motivation levels, you'll probably still like WFB anyway--if for nothing else, because they're down-to-earth, cool people who headline feel-good, bumpin' parties. And if by some miracle a White Ford Bronco show still doesn't sound appealing, you're likely incapable of recognizing a good time and therefore probably spend Thursday thru Saturday night alone anyways. The way I see it, WFB concerts provide a win-win experience for all involved. While all the non-douche bags get to rock out to solidly classic tunes, Debbie Downers can maintain their weekend routine and continue to complain... to themselves. Which is just fine, as the last thing anyone wants raining on their parade is an tone-deaf asshole.

Check out White Ford Bronco Online: Band Website | Facebook Page Booking Information: [email protected] Song Requests: [email protected]

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Hello! I saw you said you work in fashion and I was just curious, where do you work? I'm a Washington native looking to get involved in fashion but I've had trouble finding opportunities in DC. Thanks!

Hi there :)

I currently am the marketing manager for Universal Gear, a men's fashion retailer in Logan Circle (but we have stores up the east coast, in Rehoboth Beach and NYC too!)

I definitely feel your pain - there can be such few fashion-related opportunities in DC, as it's one of the most underrated style hubs in the country. But, there are ways you can get involved still - especially if you have a web or writing background. Lots of magazines in the area such as Washington Life or DC Modern Luxury have very heavy style and fashion sections, and there is a heavy blogger scene in the area for the matter.

If I were you, I'd really take a look around and start getting to know the unique shops and boutiques in the area. Find out what makes them special and develop a good relationship with their management. That method certainly helped me secure the job I have now.

Hope that helps,

<3Young & Stylish DC

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The woman is alive! (...barely) Working in the fashion industry is more time consuming (and awesome) than I ever imagined - hence my long absence from Y&SDC. But even in a world full of divas, I'm still a preppy princess to the core. (I get to dress casually to work everyday. Jealous?) Here's my workday choice: Jeans: Hudson Shoes: Tory Burch Shirt: Ralph Lauren Boyfriend Jacket: JCrew Glasses: RayBan Watch: Michael Kors Ring: David Yurman Silver Bracelet: David Yurman Pearls: Antique Vintage