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[arichblessingtoyourlife]

💰888💰

This is your sign that money is on its way to you💸

[kissmethroughthebone]

Sugar goals for 2021:

Being able to create freely with whatever form of expression I please, without financial repercussions or terrible employing bosses from shitty jobs judging me. Say what I want, when I want to whoever, and never ever being worried about losing rights in life over it. I live freely, and happily knowing I'm true to myself, always. Always. 💖

Being able to travel and enjoy wonderful tasty restaurants. Beautiful scenery, sights, and spending galore to savour whichever environments I choose to please myself to.

Being able to afford whatever food I desire to eat, and keep a healthy balanced lifestyle. Healthy gains, more stamina, and a natural glow that comes with nonstop abundance like this is amazing. All the food in the world, is mine!

Being able to afford rent and the apartment of my dreams with ease month to month, to keep myself afloat as I become the writer and artist I've always aspired to be in my life. Screenwriting, singing, beat making, lyric writing, concept art... can do it, always.

Never blinking twice at a membership cost for networking, screenwriting, e-books or comic reading service, food service, or even the price of a nice basket of jewelry or clothes. Whatever I want, I always get. Period.

Getting my hair done when I want, brows waxed and nails done with an Uber to and fro without stress. Even treat myself to anything I want for a whole day, without one drop of sweat forming on me. Effortless, no stress life with anything I want my way. Treating myself to desserts, beauty supplies, candles, fancy oils, crystals, games.... anything. The whole world is mine to enjoy, and there's no limits at all, to my happiness or peace. I exist in a natural state of infectious and generous happiness that I spread to others, always, and forever. :D

What you want is out there.

Go on, and achieve it.

It's easy and fast.

Now. 💖💐

[sbcalin]

Self-Discipline Is Essential

SELF DISCIPLINE IS A FORM OF SELF LOVE.

So I've been getting some questions about discipline. and thought I'd share some tips!

So maybe you have the vision? Maybe you have the ambition? You feel like you’ve got the “right” tools to get to the next level, BUT you’re lacking in discipline? Unsurprisingly, this is a problem that MOST people have, so you’re definitely not alone. But is this a club that you really want to be a part of?

Discipline is a skill, and just like any skill, it needs to be practiced and improved upon incrementally. So, do you have a concrete goal? I’ve noticed that there are a lot of vague goals out there (be financially stable or become an influencer). It’s a great place to start, but most people that lack discipline have a habit of getting too far ahead of themselves. They focus on the bigger picture so much that they have no idea how to actually achieve it.

Big ambitions without a clear plan with visible steps, will lead you to give up on yourself before you really try. It’s great to have a starting point, and to know what you want in the end. But it’s up to you to lay every brick. You are your engineer, your investor, your janitor, your ceo, you are everything!

Each day that you try is more practice, and each day that you practice, is more improvement. Your commitment to practicing discipline will pay dividends in the long run, so don’t give up.

Every single thing that you have gone through in your life (every high, every low, and everything in between) has all led you to the moment you’re experiencing right now. I’d like to think that means that you are exactly where you need to be to get to where you want to go. You are always starting from a place of experience.

Start with a simple question: What do you want to change in your life? If you’re a coach, or have worked with a coach, you know how useful the wheel of life can be and how much awareness it can provide regarding your current satisfaction with each dimension of your well-being. So that is where I would recommend you start. Figure out what area needs your attention the most right now. You may be surprised.

In my notes on goal-planning, I started thinking how most people still neglect to show up even when everything is planned out thoroughly. Now, I love preaching about discipline and how THAT is what makes the difference. Intentions and goals alone don’t make positive changes happen, you do.

If you want to change your life, find a way to turn your goal into a daily ritual. That’s the secret sauce If you want to write a book, figure out how much time you can dedicate to it daily. If it’s just 10 minutes, then ok write for 10 minutes a day every day for 30 days. Not seeing enough progress? Bump it up to 15 minutes. Or 20. You get it.

AND PLEASE--I cannot stress this enough--find yourself an accountability partner! Preferably someone that has already done what you want to accomplish! If your only option is your best friend, your mother, your brother, your co-worker, that's okay! As long as they want to see you succeed!

[lilly-onthevalley]

Island Retreat 🗻

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[juliedillon]

note to self: just because someone did the thing you were thinking about doing, and did it way better than you could ever hope to do, doesn’t mean it would be stupid or pointless to go ahead and try to still do the thing anyway. 

[lizardywizard]

Also, when it comes to creative things? There really is no “better”.

Sure, someone might be more technically accomplished than you - you might not be able to colour as nicely or craft a sentence that rings as poetically - but art is only really secondarily about that. It’s firstmost about what you, uniquely, have to express, and how the precise way you express it might be what others need to relate to it - even if it’s less flashy, less “beautiful”, and gets fewer notes.

I promise you this: there are obscure fanfics with only a handful of notes that are the read-and-re-read favourites of someone too anxious to comment. There are drawings done by 14-year-olds in poorly-blended markers that are someone’s favourite because they spoke to something that nothing else did. There are covers of songs where your voice cracks and you cringe every time you hear it but someone thinks the way it cracked just at that moment added beauty to the song. There are angsty three-line poems you wrote at 4am that someone once called “pretentious emo trash” that are loved by someone else going through the same thing as you.

And I guarantee you, there is something unique about your art. Even if you’re “saying something someone else has said”. Even if you’re the thousandth person to take on the subject. Even if you feel like you’re not at all unique. You’re bound to express something, however subtle, that didn’t exist until then.

Art is about connection. And the more you create, the more chance you have of finding other people who experience the world the way you do.

[writedreamlie]

“But the one thing that you have that nobody else has is you. Your voice, your mind, your story, your vision. So write and draw and build and play and dance and live as only you can.“ via @neil-gaiman

[hazeldomain]

The “two cakes” theory of content production. 

[glyndarling]

It was only yesterday that I was lamenting thing I no longer felt allowed to do because someone had done similar.   I ought to read this post daily.  Maybe twice daily.

[sassbewitchedmyass]

Art is about connection. And the more you create, the more chance you have of finding other people who experience the world the way you do.

[fangirltothefullest]

“But if multiple people do the same thing then it’s not unique” -> how do you think art movements were made? A bunch of artists all did the same thing in their own ways and we praise them for that.

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

How to be Genuine in Relationships

1. Try to be as natural as you can when you’re with others. Just be “you”. Don’t put on a false self and try to be someone you’re not. Accept your flaws and imperfections – as everyone has them anyway!

2. Listen carefully when others are speaking. Give them your full and undivided attention. And really listen when other people are speaking: don’t just act as if you’re interested in them.

3. If you say or do something that’s inept or stupid, then be the first to laugh at yourself. Also, don’t blame others if you do something wrong – you’ll be much more respected if you say that it was you.

4. Be quick to notice and to show appreciation for other people, and what they do for you. Also, notice their successes and the things that they do well, and praise them openly, so others know as well. (But don’t usually flattery as it sounds insincere.)

5. Be honest (but tactful) when you’re asked for your opinion. That sends the message that you usually speak the truth.

6. Look for ways that you can help other people, as genuine people are sensitive and caring. As a side effect, it will likely boost your mood – and others will be drawn by your inner happiness.

[2productive]

You mention getting "crystal clear" on what you want for your future. What are your best practices for dialing that in? I feel so vague about everything. Would love to hear what works for you if you're open to sharing. Congratulations on school btw!❀

Think about the absolute ideal dream life you could ever possibly have. The best possible homes, zip code, clothing, husband, help around the house, career, etc etc etc. Think about the pinnacle of what would make your life feel like a million bucks.

Now take away a few things. Are you still happy in that scenario? I’m sure you are. You’re still living well and have all of your needs met. Now take away a few more things. Are you still happy in that scenario? Sure. Maybe you could wish for a little bit more but I bet thats still an amazing life to live. Take away a bit more. Still happy? Keep going until you reach the point where you are just “good”. Certainly not unhappy, but you’re just alright. Where you can’t compromise on anything more or else you’ll always be yearning for more. That is your bare minimum life. The bare minimum salary that would satisfy you, the bare minimum car, the bare minimum husband qualities, etc etc. Don’t ever settle for anything less than that or else you’ll be unsatisfied in life.

That’s where you start. Go get your bare minimum as soon as possible and then you can go up from there. For some, their peak dream would be to marry a british prince and become a dutchess in a large castle, but their bare minimum would be an old money british nobleman who has connections with other royals and she can still indulge in some of the lifestyle. For others, their peak dream would be to have a 5 bedroom mcmansion in pennsylvania with 2 dogs, no man, and all paid for by their surgeon salary. But their bare minimum would be a really nice apartment in a safe city with one dog and paid for by their RN salary. Find what is best for you and your needs.

As far as possessions go, if you were to suddenly lose everything that you own in a fire, what would you prioritize getting back first? Those are the things that are most important to you. That may sound like an unlikely thing to happen, but thats exactly what happened to me. I lost everything in a fire a few years ago and had to start back over from scratch. The things you miss the most, say a lot about you and what makes you most content. The hobbies you care about most, the memories you cherished most, and the items you used the most.

I realized that I didn’t want aaaallll of the clothes, shoes, and accessories I had before. I prioritized my staples and let go of the rest. This told me that I actually am perfectly happy with a minimalist wardrobe. I also didn’t care to replace everything that I previously had in my room, just the most important things. Minimalist living is perfect for me and it is something that became crystal clear that I want to take into the rest of my adult life.

[bebemoon]

“The young woman with the waist-length ash blond hair, oval face, and doll-like mouth had already caught the king’s eye, making sure to accidentally-on-purpose cross paths with his hunting party. When following the royal hunt, Madame d'Etioles, exquisite in petal pink satin, drove herself with panache in a small sky-blue phaeton, her full silk skirts almost covering its high pink wheels. On her head, at a jaunty angle, she set a coral pink tricorne trimmed with pink down; in her pale-gloved hands she held pink silk reins. Flicking a little whip of blue ribbons, she expertly maneuvered her ponies to keep herself in full view of the king. Beside her she had placed a basket of gardenias, and behind, holding a pink silk parasol, sat her young servant. Impossible for the king and court to ignore, the vision in pink and blue was universally admired and discussed.”

— how Madame de Pompadour caught the eye of Louis XV (x) (x)

[sensualites]

let this be the year you finish what you start. the year you cultivate the discipline to see things through.

[glamorousacademiabyimangrace]

I need this

[theblackcourtesan]

“But if you don’t make a choice, the choice will be made for you.” 

Such a great motivational book. Relentless by Tim Grover.

[soulfulfilled1]

The Law of Attraction Technique More Powerful Than Visualizing:

What is it? Re-writing or imagining the day as you wished it had been. Every incident and conversation.

Where did it come from? Neville Goddard, a mystic teacher who taught in Los Angeles and New York in the 1950s, was the first to understand and apply the technique of revision.

How do I do it? In your mind recall the day from when you woke up. Make each incident conform to your ideal wishes. So, if you woke to a loud bang from the neighbour above, you would change that to seeing that you woke peacefully. If you received a letter with disappointing news, mentally read the letter you wished you had read instead! Imagine all your bills were paid. Imagine he/she didn’t snap at you, but infact helped you. Imagine that phone call you’ve been waiting for. Imagine you had a sense of peace that never left you today. Imagine you had more than enough time, money and energy left over at the end of the day! And either see this in your mind or write it out. The essential point is to feel the reality of what you wished had happened.

Why does it work? Neville Goddard said revision allows you to radically change your attitude to your present circumstances and to the world. And to the degree you can change your attitude, the world around you will change to reflect that.

What are the benefits? •It is similar to mindfulness meditation because it helps remove the residue of stress that builds up daily. •It helps you press Pause on the negative flow if you are in one. •It enhances your mental faculties of imagination and willpower as you imagine what you’d like •It helps you believe you are more in control of your life than you know.

Examples: •A woman that saw a hat she wanted but couldn’t afford, imagined she had it and was later gifted the exact same hat. •A boss that was hard to work with for 11 years, became more appreciative of his employer overnight, praising her design skills. All the designer did that morning was imagine on her walk to work that her boss was with her the whole commute, praising her. •A young person imagined a tax refund letter and a revised bill, with an apology for the over-charge, came within a week.

*For affordable private law of attraction coaching please see: http://manifestingsuccess.tumblr.com/post/159165420894/new-offer-law-of-attraction-life-coaching-for-10*

Change your today, and tomorrow will follow.

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

Understanding the Road to Success

1. It will hurt.

2. It will take time and effort.

3. It will require commitment.

4. It will require perseverance.

5. You will need to keep on making make healthy decisions.

6. It will require pain and sacrifice.

7. You will need to push yourself to the max at times.

8. There will be tough days and discouragement.

9. There will be temptations that you’ll have to push against.

10. But it will all be worth it – and you’ll get there in the end.

[redsugarlipsbaby-blog]

How to get any guy to come to you freestyling..

Or in any situation really.

If you notice a guy who has potential or you’re attracted to, the best thing you can do is eye contact. Not random but purposeful and distracting eye contact that sends a message.

Example: You are in a bar and see a man across the way, expensive suit, hot, ect ect. If he’s not glancing at you yet every now and then (he should be you’re hot as fuck) look in his general direction (not straight at him) until you see him look your way. Then clearly lock eyes, smile and look down still smiling. Don’t look to the side it shows disinterest like your passing over them for the next guy or not seeing them at all.

Now his interest should be piqued. Keep your peripherals open so you can tell when he’s looking at you again and do the same thing, with small changes in reaction. Sometimes a small wink or tilt of head or a slight smile with longer eye contact. Nothing over the top. It’s all about the obvious but small body language. 2 or 3 times of this I guarantee he will come over to buy you a drink.

Guys usually don’t approach you in a bar purely because they are worried about getting rejected. Showing them that your welcome to them approaching at that time will increase the chances of them meeting you. And it’s not obvious so if he’s a douche and you want to continue searching, you’re not announcing to the whole room your intentions by walking up to random dudes.

[theblackcourtesan]

“She is proud, she is struggling with herself; but kind, polite, resilient.”

— Fyodor Dostoevsky, The Brothers Karamazov  (via lesgardenias)

[theblackcourtesan]

“It takes a lot to start over again … But you owe it to yourself.”

— Unknown (via onlinecounsellingcollege)

[theblackcourtesan]

Just When You Think You’ve Learned The Lesson...

It will come back. It will test you. It will try you.

Do not waver. Do not falter. Do not give in.

HOLD THE FUCKING LINE.