Okay, so here’s what we’re not gonna fucking do
1. We’re not gonna think we have any fucking say in Josh and Amanda’s relationship. Because we don’t. Literally the only people who have a say in that are Josh and Amanda. They’re adults. Even better, they’re intelligent adults who don’t need strangers to tell them something is bad for them. This isn’t telling the three year old not to put their hand on the stove burner, okay?
2. We’re not going to question their relationship under the guise of “caring”. It’s hurtful and it’s not helpful. Stop it. I know you’ve listened to all of the Marianas Trench discography, a lot of people have, its good fucking music, but it is nothing more than that. It’s art wrapped up in emotions and metaphors and we cannot be the people to try to decipher that. Like, we all have art. I write poetry, half of you I know write fan fiction out there. How the fuck would you feel if people told you you shouldn’t be in a relationship because you wrote a dramatic fanfic scene. They’re all fucking dramatic, okay? That’s the point. It’s not fucking real life which means it has nothing to do with the “problems” of the relationship and everything to do with yourself. So we’re not gonna fucking do that.
3. We’re are not and I repeat WE ARE NOT going to send any hate or negativity to Amanda. She has every right to her privacy, and so shocker, maybe she should be left alone?! Wild concept, I know. But here’s the thing: she did not sign up to be put on blast. She got married. A lot of people do that. It’s not a fucking crime. I know some of y’all think you’re trying to protect a musician you see as vulnerable, and you don’t see it as hate, but picture it this way: They’re strangers. They don’t know you. You wouldn’t walk up to someone on the street and tell them that you think their relationship is toxic. You save that for your friends and trust that Josh and Amanda have good support systems for themselves and each other that they will be (again, big shocker) fine without your negative input.
Okay? So here’s what we will do:
1. BE FUCKING RESPECTFUL MOTHERFUCKERS! Allow privacy where it’s asked for, keep your morherfucking noses out of other people’s business. If you’re asking questions be polite and (I cannot emphasize this enough) unbiased. No one has to put up with your shit, so if they’re giving you the time of day in any form, act like a human being how about.
2. Be supportive. Amanda seems like a fine person. She clearly is very smart and creative and seems like a fun, bright person. She’s an artist in her own right. She may not be as famous as Marianas Trench, but her work is valid and it is good. Send love her way and make sure to promote what she does just as much as you would anyone else affiliated with Marianas Trench. We all love Royce, DJ George Thoms, Emily Ayley, etc. Amanda is no fucking different and don’t you try to justify your actions by saying otherwise. She is open enough to have some public social media, so if you are accessing that GIVE LOVE NOT HATE. There’s no greater disappointment than taking someone’s art and turning it ugly with your own, unwarranted selfishness.
3. Trust Josh. He clearly cares about Amanda. They’ve been together for a long time and they just got FUCKING MARRIED!!! Like how cool is that?! So just trust that even though you see pain in his art, they have both grown and know what they’re doing. They made the choice to get married because with everything they know about their own relationship they decided that this would make them happy. So don’t argue or justify, just trust that he is happy and congratulate and support him in that.
Okay? Alright? Can we please do that? Because I’m not gonna sit around here and watch people justifying bullshit. I don’t care what you say, if you think you know enough to condemn a stranger’s relationship you’re deadass wrong. Stop it. Send them love, okay. If you’re hurt by this for whatever dumbass reason, just send them more love. I promise it’ll feel better than getting worked up.
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