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Tabetha. 25. She/her. Hope you like lesbians. And Asexuals. My url is an inside joke but it was too funny. I’m a bit weird.

[yourfriendlycouchlesbian]

Here’s the whole video of my puppy being a good boy!

[yourfriendlycouchlesbian]

For those who might actually give a crap about me

I’m going to stop posting on this blog since the tumblr ban marked me as explicit and took away my stuff.... so I made a side blog that will actually be my main now. So if you wanna keep up with me follow @thedemigaydisaster as that is where I’ll be posting most everything now. Don’t worry since it’s attached to the same account as this blog I have my dashboard and stuff so I still see all of you, but you’ll see me as the new account

[yourfriendlycouchlesbian]

So I had an issue

Tumblr was randomly undoing the notifications I got for a blog and everytime I went to said blogs it did it to (multiple blogs) the blog would glitch out and I couldn’t scroll, ask questions, send messages, see profile pics or really do anything. It’s been doing it for days. Finally I uninstalled and reinstalled the app and it seems to have let me back on the blogs and keep my notifications on.... so yeah if you’re experiencing some kind of issue check your App Store to make sure tumblr is still there to redownload if you uninstall, if it is then uninstall and reinstall, then log back in. It wouldn’t even fix when I just logged out and logged back in.... damn tumblr glitches. Also that is why I had unfollowed and refollowed you @forever-forgotten-angel my app literally wouldn’t let me on your blog and I was trying everything to fix it 😂

[badjokesbyjeff]

Congratulations USA

Zero school shootings so far this year.

[fenrirsclaws]

Last day to confidently reblog this!

[elliepw]

Isn’t school still out?

[lemon-geesus]

that’s the point

[uglyassprettyboy]

Why don’t we discuss the vast amount of underaged dating within the LGBT community? We only crucify creepy men preying on young girls, but it doesn’t stop there.

[uglyassprettyboy]

For example:

I know of a couple that met when one was 15-16, and according to my calculations, that would make her partner at least 26 at the time they got together. Now, they receive a lot of praise on here but every time I saw their pix, I felt sick to my stomach. 

[uglyassprettyboy]

Because we don’t talk about it, we young people walking around thinking this behaviour is okay.

I had a girl try to get at me one time who said she was 21 and ended up being 17. When I found out her real age I ceased communication and dead the shit immediately. She kept trying to contact me because she couldn’t wrap her mind around it…saying she was “grown” and that she’s “been with older women before,” like that makes it okay.

I’m in NO WAY blaming her…I blame all of us who see this shit going on and don’t speak up. When we see men seeking out younger women, we’re all up in arms and are quick to drag them. But when it’s a same-gender couple, why don’t we have the same reaction?

[sea-chief]

When I went to Pride I remember there was a girl in her 20s who thought I was cute and tried to flirt with me. When she asked my age and I said I was 17 she immediately backed off.

This is how people need to react to this shit. Stop flirting with minors when you’re an adult. Just because you’re gay doesn’t mean that it isn’t just as creepy as when college guys flirt with high school girls

[conways]

something that people really dont understand about ADHD is that we dont “jump from one idea to the next”

we have very fast, very associative minds that connect ideas. we have a train of thought, it just goes WAY faster than yours!

example: im thinking about dogs. that makes me think of pitbulls, which makes me think of an animal planet show i enjoy. the show connects to tv in general, which makes me think of my favorite cartoon. i associate my favorite cartoon with art and animation, and i wind up thinking about shading techniques.

TL;DR: having ADHD is kinda like playing a lifelong game of 7 Degrees of Kevin Bacon

[gazztron]

…WHAT THE FUCK

[daggers-drawn]

I am plagued by this but also that associative learning makes it really easy to be a hyper-generalist in terms of skills and knowledge.

[rptheturk]

This is how my brain works….

[reassambled-dragoon]

The downside is, very few people can keep pace with these jumps, and I’ve actually been told my “mind leaps” are annoying.

Yeah.

Let that sink in.

Being told that the way my mind makes connections between Point A and Point D while seemingly bypassing B and C is “annoying”.

[inyri]

… this.

It drives my husband absolutely NUTS- we’ll be having a conversation and in a lull between sentences I’ll have jumped ahead six topics, pop back in with a “Yeah, and-“

Meanwhile, he’s looking at me like I’ve grown another head. To him, whatever I’ve just said is a total non sequitur, but I can track EXACTLY how I got there… it just doesn’t make any sort of sense to anyone but me.

[real-istik]

Finally seeing this in words is very therapeutic for me

[scretladyspider]

Omg it’s explained

[randomslasher]

A positive flip side, though: when both of you have ADHD and you play a game of trying to guess how the other one got from where you both were and where you now are. It’s equally fun when you get it right as when you are way off base. It’s even better when you both make the exact same leaps and the conversation changes seamlessly and the people around you are convinced you must have psychic connection because you just went from talking about point A to point M and no one else can see the through line but you both can. 

@thuriweaver

[thegayestcowgirl]

Me going into 2019

[fiercefatfeminist]

It is our duty as feminists to protect and respect women in Hijabs

[fiercefatfeminist]

Now. More. Than. Ever.

[princeoftheplayground]

Question: if I see someone pull off a Hijab, what should I do? I know there are reasons they are worn so I want to if i should stand in between them and who did this, should i protect them from view somehow, or something else? This has been happening a lot so I feel it’s something everyone needs to know.

[protectnevillelongbottom]

Good question! I cannot correctly and effectively answer, as I am a white, non-Muslim person; however, I will reblog in case any of my followers can answer. 

[inquisitivespirit]

I asked my Hijabi friend, so here’s one Hijabi’s answer: 

“my opinion is, definitely try cover them or give them something to cover themselves with. And perhaps shoo off the person, without putting oneself in danger! God forbid, if that happened to me, I would like someone to come and comfort me and give me something to cover my hair with and then help me report it to the cops “

[animatedamerican]

(Followers, if any of you are hijabi and would like to expand on this answer or offer alternatives, please do.)

[scifibi77-deactivated20190412]

If u see it happen to 1 of us, pls cover our head + hair with a coat or shawl or any piece of cloth, while hugging us in comfort. Please don’t get hurt by lashing out @ the perpetrators in any way, coz if they dare to do that, they’re probably too far gone in their own hatred to listen to any reason. Much love + Thank You to anyone who supports us.

[meanieyards]

yes !! everything said here is important af. if you see someone pull off a girl’s hijab immediately cover her hair and provide comfort. don’t talk to the perpetrator but try to get the woman out of there if you can. maybe if you have a scarf on you at the time give it to her so she can wear it until she’s alone and can replace her hijab. please please protect muslim girls because we already had it hard before donald trump became president and now its gonna be worse with people going around thinking their violence and cruelty is justified 

[hollowedskin]

for my other white ppl who might have a hard time, it’s my understanding that a hijab is like a major item of clothing, not an accessory like a hat or a scarf. so think abt it more like if someone just ripped someone’s shirt or skirt off. u don’t want to be left there exposed or have to walk home without it.

everyone, even outside America needs to protect our Muslim sisters in these times.

[quadriparesis-deactivated201908]

as a man, what would be the best thing to do? should i turn my head and avoid looking at their hair? can i still offer a jacket or something similar?

[wear-it-like-armour-bastard]

^I’m hoping someone has an answer islamaphpbia is on the rise in my town and I want to be a good male non Muslim ally

[soul-angelos-deactivated2023102]

For men, yes please, we would prefer it if you avoided looking at our hair, and if we don’t have something to substitute as a hijab at that moment, anything you could lend us, a jacket, etc, would be very appreciated.

Also, since most girls avoid physical contact with men they’re not related to, please do not hug them, but rather shoo the offender away if you can, or at least escort the girl to a safe place. You can still offer words of encouragement and support. Furthermore, understand that the victim may not be very welcoming towards you because she’ll obviously be shaken, and won’t know where you are coming from. If that’s the case, please still give her something to cover herself (hijab is very important, think of it as someone ripping your shirt off) and stand some distance away until you are sure she’s in safe hands.

Thank you so much for your support, we really appreciate it, god bless all of you.

[clairethehuntress-deactivated20]

In the horrible climate we’re currently in, please take note of this.

[oak-antlers]

Reblogging this again for the guy-instructions

[geekandmisandry]

Same

[90sjeno]

tag the reason that made u follow the person u reblogged this from

[foolblue]

i aM nOt a gOoD rOLe mOdEL

[disasterbisexual-moved]

if you’re ever scared you’re not a good person, remember that bad people don’t care about being better 

[pla-a-nt-deactivated20181018]

This is actually very important, so I’m gonna hit that reblog button again

[yourfriendlycouchlesbian]

I didn’t even drink last night but my body’s inability to stay the fuck asleep lately and the fact that it doesn’t care that I went to bed at 20 mins to 4 am has me feeling all kinds of hungover. I didn’t even sleep 4 hours

[thefruitthatgodforgot]

Funny how sex is an irresistible human urge when a man rapes a woman but when a woman gets pregnant and wants an abortion she should have been smarter and thought twice before having sex if she didn’t want a child

[feminismcollectives]

My reblog speed tho -

[danandphileveryday]

So quick

[letitbefiction]

I think I’ve became the flash with how fast I rebloged this

[alexaduke]

[adrienetteandladynoir]

Happy New Year’s Day Everyone

[heckinlesbeans]

I see wlw posts on here a lot that emphasize the endgame: being married, living in a cottage together, having lots of pets, etc. But not enough posts take into account the incredible journey of getting there and all the amazing firsts you’ll experience. Let’s romanticize the goofy, awkward first kiss. The first time you say you love each other. The first time you hold hands in public and don’t care who stares. Moving in together, celebrating every anniversary on the way. The endgame isn’t all there is to it. Being in love is more than reaching a goal, it’s taking a journey with the person you’re spending your life with. Enjoy every single step.

[yourfriendlycouchlesbian]

Y’all ignore my dumbass reposting of my long winded coming out shit

I made a new blog I meant to post those to but I forgot to change the blog under my blogs 😂

[yourfriendlycouchlesbian]

So while on tumblr hiatus yesterday my anxiety over my nightmare about my friends having a bad reaction to me being demisexual reached an unbearable point and rather than wait until I saw my friends in person to tell them I went full ripped bandaid style and sent it to our group chat. Of course as my logical brain expected I was met with love and of course it doesn’t change anything about us, and they even pointed out that it’s not necessarily a game changer as I had mentioned. Yeah it’s gonna make meeting someone a little more complicated, but not a complete game changer. And then I ended up at one of my friends houses last night cuz I had a package shipped there and I went to pick it up and she and I ended up sitting down for like an hour and a half talking about this and other things. It felt so awesome to finally be able to talk out loud about something I’ve mostly kept to myself for the past 3 years and 10 months. And then I come back to this hellsite this morning and my damn demisexual flag header is gone…. I tried to put it back and it was gone again a few minutes later. Is this tumblr’s new dumb AI? Am I missing something??? What the hell is going on????

[yourfriendlycouchlesbian]

My friends were so understanding, even though they didn’t know the word demisexuality before I said what I said. And I was able to talk to both of them in person just a few days later and I also came out to the third friend (best friend’s boyfriend) and he also was confused at first but after explaining myself he totally accepted me too. Talking to them even allowed me more insight into how my demisexuality has played into my life in the past. And the reason why today I made this blog.... tumblr flagged my main and I want a safe place to go to for these things. So here I am!

[yourfriendlycouchlesbian]

I had a nightmare last night

In said nightmare me and 3 of my friends were in my grandmas basement for some reason and my guy friend pulled me into the unfinished part of her basement because he wanted to talk to me and his girlfriend, another friend of mine, asked if she could be in the convo and he said no so I thought he wanted to ask me what to get her for christmas but then he refused to let our other friend in either. Once in the room he told me he had seen what I recently posted on tumblr about being demisexual (he doesn’t even have a tumblr???) and basically proceeded to degrade me for it and tell me I was making shit up and all the aphobia that exists in the world. So of course I’m crying now because I had planned to come out to these friends at some point about it but now they knew and were reacting terribly. That’s where the dream ended….. I don’t foresee these friends having this reaction at all, or at least I didn’t, but now I may wait awhile before bringing it up.

[yourfriendlycouchlesbian]

The nightmare I had 2 days after my own acceptance that made me have so much anxiety I had to come out to my friends much sooner than I planned just to calm the anxiety that was taking over my life