Paid readings are now open back up again! For now, I'm only doing tarot readings. It's $6 for a 1 question 3 card reading. Want to ask more? Message me and we can work out a price ❤️
Want to send a tip to say thanks for my free readings? There's a few ways to do so!
Hi, I just read about everything that happened to you while you away. I can't imagine how painful it must've been. I'm sending you strength and hope you feel completely better soon. I am also wishing your uncle a speedy recovery. And congrats on your good news!! 💕💕
Thank you so much ❤️❤️ We're worried my uncle has an infection because he's backsliding a bit more than what should be expected... Any good wishes or prayers for him are greatly appreciated ❤️
And thank you!!!!! He's getting the ring on Monday (for my bday) but not showing me till he proposes 😭 I can't freaking wait. I've been so so blessed with this love 🥰
This may seem like a weird question but smth I’ve always thought/wondered, how does asking questions make you feel? I mean ur one of the only people I know who do free readings regularly, and you’re so consistent and helpful and accurate 🥹 im not complaining like you’re amazing — but like from the way I see it some people get tired so how do you find the motivation to do it
🏔️ anon
No such thing as weird questions here 🥰
It can definitely be draining at times 😅 However, I've been on Tumblr offering free readings for probably about 10 years now? Maybe a bit longer? So I've had a longgggg time to learn how to protect my energy! There's a balance readers have to find between connecting with each and every person's energy, while also not letting it linger after the reading. Which can be hard to do! I try to stay in like... A relaxed, meditative type state when I do readings, which helps a lot with not getting too overwhelmed or exhausted.
I've also learnt that it's okay to take breaks between answering, or finishing answering for the day, even if I still have asks left. I used to try to answer each and every ask, which sometimes, especially back in the day, would mean trying to do 100-200 free readings, while still receiving more asks. I wouldn't stop till my inbox was empty, which sometimes would take a full day. And that absolutely drains me, and eventually leads to extended hiatuses because of how exhausted I get. So I've begun to tell myself if I start getting tired... It's okay to leave asks in my inbox until the next day, or whatever. Which has helped a lot!
Motivation is tough for me 😅 as someone with ADHD and FASD, I suffer biggggg time from executive dysfunction. Switching tasks/starting tasks can be quite difficult for me. Shortly before I disappeared however many months ago, I was suffering from my yearly depression bout, which makes my low motivation even less, and I was trying to do a paid reading. I had the tarot cards in front of me, the questions written down, Docs opened up to start writing, everything was right there. And I spent probably... An hour and a half? Just staring at everything, telling myself to just START (and having Will encouraging me to do it as well). Starting is always hard for me 😅 I wish I could tell you the tips and tricks I have to help with that low motivation, but I don't have any 😅 The only thing I do is tell myself I can't do anything else, until I start. That doesn't really work, but it does prevent me from getting distracted by something else! Once I start doing readings though (paid or free), I go into like a flow state lol and will write/answer without an issue for a good while. But yea, the motivation to start has always been the hardest thing for me 😅 If any of you have tips for executive dysfunction, please share them 🙏
I guess the last thing I have to say about this, I genuinely enjoy and love doing readings!! I love talking to you all, I love hearing your stories, I love the things you ask, I love helping in whatever capacity I can (whether that be through free readings or advice or just being a safe space to rant). I feel so lucky to be here with you all. I feel so lucky for the trust you all put in me. And that love and enjoyment for this helps a lot with answering consistently, being motivated, not getting drained!
And thank you for your kind words 🥰 this past hiatus was rough for me, it always feels like something is missing from my life when I'm not on here with everyone🥹
Wait im gonna be 🏔️ anon, I just sent the recent ask about you being back
I’ve been good 😫 finished school! Which is kinda crazy cause I’ve been following you since my first year 🥹 I kinda thought of you/your account after I graduated!! And now you’re back during my summer!!
I hope everything is okay and goes up from here :)❤️
Omg you have my whole heart for choosing that emoji!!!! The mountains are my first love ❤️ moving home to them 2 years ago is the best decision I've ever made (apart from choosing Will).
That's amazing, congratulations!!!! I'm so proud of you for graduating ❤️ What are your post-school plans, if you don't mind me asking? It's okay if your answer right now is just to enjoy the summer, lol! Im very happy for you ❤️
My plan, when I moved back to BC, was to go back to school for Biotechnology at UBC (UBC is one of the best Canadian schools for genetic engineering). Turns out mature students cannot go into that program; you either need to have a degree/diploma in something else to apply, or go to a different school for a similar degree and request to transfer to UBC. I wasn't sure what I wanted to do about that, but after some recent events in my life ... I think I might go back to school to become a paramedic. Or maybe a community support worker. And then go to UBC with that degree/diploma under my belt!
Also thank you for being here for so long!! I'm always so amazed, and flattered in a way, when I see how long some of you have followed me! Thank you for your support and love ❤️
Thank you for your kind words! I hope everything goes up from here too 😅😅 I hope you have a super fun summer!!
hi alexander how's life been lately? Hope you're safe & healthy always 🩷
Hiii lovely, life has been difficult lately. Just answered an ask before yours with a lengthy life update if you're curious 😅 I'm trying to be okay ❤️ how have you been? I hope life has been kind to you ❤️
Hi love! I've been struggling, but I'm trying to feel, and be, better! Life has been hard for me lately. Ill spill the deets to this ask, but I'm going to put it under a cut!
Trigger warnings for drug use, miscarriage, infertility, and suicide!!!!! Please read with caution.
Will and I suffered our 4th miscarriage 11 months into trying. It was the worst one. The first 3 were chemical pregnancies, this one was around 7/8 weeks. I miscarried for 16 days. It was heartbreaking, for us both. I've named her Freya, to join my beautiful baby boy DJ ❤️ Obvi we didn't know her gender yet, but in my heart, she's Freya. My altar still has the positive pregnancy test on it. This happened in March. Prior to that, I was incredibly depressed throughout the winter. My bipolar reacts quite poorly to winter, which I had hoped would be better in BC, but it has not been 😅 we got rid of the time change this year though, so I'm hoping this winter may be better! But yea, I was dealing with awful depression, and then the miscarriage happened.
I went to my gynecologist to figure out why I've had 4 miscarriages in just under a year. I have to get an HSG test (which apparently is incredibly painful... Comparable to being in labour), because we suspect one of my fallopian tubes is damaged from having PID twice, and causing toxic fluid to build in my uterus, and kill any fetus that tries to grow. This means I'll need surgery to remove the tube, so I'll only be fertile every other month, but... I'll be fertile! Cuz right now I'm not. It's been a big stress though, thinking that I'll be 25 (well, 26 when I get the test and surgery) with only one fallopian tube.
I tried to start feeling better after the miscarriage, and it was spring! Will and I moved into our own place at the start of April, my mom & uncle moved in together two doors down, so I started to grow a better relationship with my uncle. Right after Will and I moved in though, Will got sepsis from a skin infection. He's okay and alive! Hospital got him hopped up on antibiotics, and he has a shockingly amazing immune system (okay maybe it isn't shocking, but as someone who is immunocompromised, I was shocked to see someone with a good immune system) and recovered quick! But that was a big, stressful event.
A bit later, I ended up relapsing on my DOC. Hard. I was 3 and a half years clean, had a slip the summer of 2023, and then was coming up on 2 years clean and slipped way harder than I did in 2023. To be completely transparent with you all, I'm still trying to come back from that relapse & get clean. Ive been sober from drinking though for a long time now, and have cut back on my substance abuse significantly! But it is still a fight that I'm fighting. And something I feel very upset with myself for & ashamed.
June, I was feeling better. No longer depressed (went off my Divalproex, realized it was making me feel depressed, still taking 500mg of Quetiapine though to prevent mania!) stable home life, finally getting better, finally financially okay(ish). Started running every day. Got some plants to take care of. Cut off some people who encouraged bad habits. Was getting ready to come back here! And then the unthinkable happened.
My uncle, someone who has suffered from depression his whole life, attempted suicide towards the end of June. We live on the 4th floor of our apartment. I can see his balcony. I won't go into details, but I was trying to talk him down, while Will was inside calling 911. And I was unsuccessful, my uncle jumped off his balcony. He is still alive, he was very, very lucky. And I'm so glad no one else saw it except me, because the sight of a loved one doing that... I don't wish that upon anyone. I ran to him after he jumped, and stayed by his side, blocking his body as best I could from anyone who may have tried to see him, and kept asking him to breathe for me, until the paramedics and cops arrived.
The first 11 days were tough. And scary. But he's officially no longer in critical condition, and is out of the ICU & into his own hospital room! He has suffered a massive traumatic brain injury, he will remain in the hospital for a long, long time still as his body and brain heal, as best they can. He'll likely be on dialysis for the rest of his life; I'm going to get tested to see if I can donate my kidney. And we don't know yet about how well his motor functions will recover, or his memory & brain. He currently can't form new memories, his short term memory is shot. But he remembers us! I visit him every evening to help him eat dinner, and sit by his side as he falls asleep for the night. It's gonna be a long journey for all of us, and his life will never look the same, and neither will ours. But at least he's alive!
Financial stability that I briefly had is lost for a bit, as my mom can't afford her rent & bills without him, and she has to go through a legal process to get power of attorney in order to access his money. And his memory isn't well enough yet to remember how to get into his bank accounts. So Will and I will be paying her rent, on-top of our own for the next month or two. But frankly, that's okay. Because again, at least he's alive. And at least we can help her so she doesn't lose her apartment!
This is why I've been gone so long. I kept waiting for life to feel okay again before coming back. With what happened to my uncle though, I've been reminded that life can change in an instant. And if I keep waiting for the "right time" or for things to be better, I may end up waiting the rest of my life.
So, with that being said, I've chosen life again. I'm sick of just surviving and floating through life. I'm gonna start running again. I force myself to go on my balcony to water my plants, despite the PTSD-esque anxiety that grips me when I'm on it. I'm spending time with my loved ones. And I'm back on here. Which I'm happy about 🥰 I may have to force myself to do the things that make me happy for a bit, but I think, in time, happiness will override the stress and anxiety I feel all the time. I hope so at least.
If you made it this far... I'd like to share with you a happy thing. Will is going to be proposing to me on our anniversary (September 13th) this year, at a concert. And I am so, so overjoyed about that! I cannot wait to finally be engaged to a man who not only loves me, but actually likes me and the person I am. I cannot wait to wear that engagement ring with pride, and I can't wait to start planning our wedding 🥰
Hello old friend, I have been wondering where you've been as I have noticed you haven't been on Tumblr anymore for 2 months now. I'm starting to think something bad has happened and you may be dead or something although I really hope not.... Hope your okay and just living your life. Anyway, I miss your presence on here. It's so boring without you and all your posts about your life and you answering questions and all that. Hope you come back soon, if not soon well hope you come back one day. Whenever you are I remember you - M 💖
Hello my friend! This almost makes me tear up 🥹 I'm sorry for making you worry, I'm alive ❤️ thank you for sending this, it means the world to me. No matter how long I may disappear (hopefully never this long again!) I will always come back to you all ❤️
And FYI, if I ever die, Will or my mom would post from my account to let you all know. I've always been afraid of leaving you all without closure, so I've set plans up to make sure you will get that closure ❤️
Not a day went by where I didn't miss you, and everyone else ❤️