36 Things Every Black Woman Needs to Hear Right Now to Win
Accept nothing less than the best in love, your career, and in your life. Thatâs the key to happiness.
Your past doesnât have to be your future.
Take responsibility for your life. You control your reactions, emotions, choices, body and life.
Try everything. Even the stuff that scares you. Our fears are irrational.
Date! I mean actual dating. Not this Netflix and chill trash. Netflix and chill is an option men give women so that he can get cheap booty. Give that to him and heâll always treat you like cheap booty. Men value women who demand more.
The dating stage is where he is supposed to prove his worthiness of you. If you tell a man you donât like expensive meals, dates, etc., because you are afraid he will think you are a gold digger or youâre different from other women (whoâve probably said the same thing) heâll always give you cheap. Again, men value women who demand more. If he gives you cheap on his best, imagine what he will do on his worst.
Date all kinds of men. Pick a mate based on their actions and not potential.
Stay away from broke and broken men that need to be fixed. People arenât projects to be put together. That is what therapy is for and you arenât a therapist.
Men show us who they are. Some of us refuse to listen. After the relationship is over, we wonder why things went wrong. You just refused to listen.
If a man canât afford a date, he certainly canât afford marriage.
Never chase a man. It reeks of desperation. When youâre desperate you can be manipulated. You have the power. Use it. Let men prove they are worthy of you.
If a man loves you, he will come to you with his sh** together. If not, heâs holding you back because heâs afraid youâll find someone better.
If a man asks you âwhat do you bring to the tableâ he doesnât value womanhood and he isnât ready for you. You are the table, forks, plates, napkins, spoons and the butter A womanâs presence instantly improves a manâs quality of life. A married man lives longer. He is healthier and happier. He has a support system. It is women who have the most to lose in marriage.
If he disrespects you the first time and you let him get away with it, he will do it again. Men love to see how far you will let them go. If you set boundaries from the start and stick to them, they will not cross them.
Get on birth control. Having children you canât afford is an easy way to get in poverty.
Wait until marriage to have children and make sure he is a provider. Children need more than love. I donât give a damn what people think. Sure, some children came out fine, but why take that chance when you donât have to. Raising children is hard and expensive as heck. Children NEED stable financial and parental support.
Never forget your girlfriends while you are in a relationship. If he is gone, youâll always have your girlsâ shoulders to cry on.
Have a life. Be interesting. Like I said earlier. Travel! Learn another language. Find out who you are. Finding out who you are, separates you from the masses who copy someone else. We copy others because most of us are boring
Love yourself more than you love any man.
Fall in love with a man who loves you more than you love him.
If you canât do any of the last 17 things, go to therapy before getting into any relationship. Fix you first.
Use protection. If a partner doesnât want to use protection, leave him. FYI, you can always use female condoms.
Donât be nice. Be polite. Donât take anyoneâs sh**.
Donât hesitate to cut toxic people out of your life. If they cared about you, they wouldnât be toxic. These people are time wasters and energy stealers. Their purpose serves to distract you from achieving your goals. Get some ovaries and get rid of them.
Donât live in the hood. Move out. Your mental and physical health depends on it. Living in violent neighborhoods means stress and bad choices. By the way, you canât do anything if youâre dead.
Avoid helping jobs. They donât pay well. Donât try to save the world. Get a lucrative career and help by donating to charity.
What people think about you is none of your business.
Surround yourself with successful people. You are who you spend the most time with.
Take a financial management class and do the opposite things poor people do when it comes to money.
Buy things in cash. You will save money.
If you need credit, pay your bills on time.
Save as much money as possible and never spend it on or lend money to men who are not your spouse. If they have their sh** together, they shouldnât be asking you for money.
If an opportunity comes, take it. Donât hesitate. Donât wait. Stop worrying about family or friends. This is your life. JUST DO IT! You may never get that opportunity again.
Prayer is great. Prayer without action is nothing but talk. Take action.
It is a privilege for others to be in your space. Remember you deserve the best. Anything less is selling yourself short.
We Black women canât afford to be passive. We must put ourselves first. If not, people eat you up and spit you out and then blame you for them hurting you. We must be on a ruthless pursuit of our self-actualization and happiness.
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