Calpurnia ⋆˚࿔

in my Palia obsession era, Jina and Tish are my wives|22| She/Her

[phleb0tomist]

reminder to all disabled people that you’re allowed to tell people “i can’t do that” about stuff you can ‘technically’ do but which harms you or requires a period of recovery or preparatory rest etc. you don’t have to explain the complex nuances of your condition to anybody who demands it. i’ve found it’s honestly better to give the least amount of info about your symptoms unless you trust a person a lot. you hold the power over your health information. you choose whether or not to share the details of your condition with people who might not understand.

[yuriflowersforever]

In my experience when I try to tell someone I cannot comfortably do something, they just brush it off as if I don't try hard enough. Especially the boomer generation.

"You're so old, why can't you drive yet?"

"I'm visually impaired sir, I can't comfortably be on the road or pass the eye exam"

"That's no excuse, you can read well enough to use your phone"

[yuriflowersforever]

My Random Mass Effect Headcanons About different species cultural quirks

• Salarians make for very good gamers due to their quick wits and fast reflexes, they dominate online competitive games.

• Most Asari who like humans tend to be more attracted to women. I imagine it's a socially acceptable way for Asari who like other Asari to express their desires without the stigma (since we know it's sort of a cultural taboo for Asari to have children with other Asari)

• Humans unintentionally mimic the behaviors and cultures of other species and many species either find this very odd or very rude.

• I think Angara and Turians would have a difficult time navigating interspecies romance/friendship. I'd imagine many Angara would find the Turians reserved nature to be sort of hurtful. Most Angara would be more likely to want to shout their feelings from the rooftops and most Turians would tend to want to keep personal matters more private.

• Turian food is more about using enhancing flavors by using quality ingredients like high quality grade meats instead of using lots of seasonings. Quarians tend to use a lot of herbs and spices in their food and thus find Turian food to be extremely bland.

• Asari have really long running TV shows, sometimes relationship payoff in an Asari show can take an entire salarian lifespan. Asari soap operas probably have thousands of seasons.

[yuriflowersforever]

"AI pets will replace real pets; you don't need to feed them, take them to the vet, or pick up their poo." Not only is that a selfish way to think about a relationship with another living creature, but my dog has the benefit of not being government spyware.

[themockingcrows]

they should put benches in stores over a certain size. Grocery stores, department stores, bigbox stores. Not just at the very front or outside or at the pharmacy, no. I mean sprinkled throughout the store.

why?

for fucking disabled people. for people who suddenly feel sick or in pain. for people who need a moment to sit and tend to a child's needs, or to rest with them to avoid a tantrum from their being tired. for anyone who just wants to sit and check their phone for a minute to stop feeling so rushed and hurried by everything around them.

i do not think i should have to sit on the fucking floor in every store i'm feeling bad in because there's zero places to sit that are accessible. i do not want to sit on the filthy floor and be in the way of other shoppers and risk being stepped on or tripped over because i Have To Sit Right Then Or Faint And Crack My Fucking Head Open. do you know the kinda shit that collects on store floors, despite regular cleaning???? the tracks of thousands of shoes bringing stuff in from outside.

i just want a bench. give me benches. this should not be a divisive issue, give me places to fucking sit.

[this-is-ableism]

this is ableism.

[taibhsearachd]

My disabled ass at all times in all locations:

[queer-riot-dragon]

This is also not accounting for disabled people who cannot just sit on the floor and *have* to power through it or use one of the limited power chairs (and get judged as lazy for being fat)

[153-centimeters-of-sass]

I was working at a bookstore when I encountered a young mom in the very back of our kid's section. It was very quiet that evening, and there weren't many other customers, so this poor woman sat down on the floor at the back of the kid's department to nurse her infant child while her toddler hung out close by. I stared at her, she stared at me, and I'm pretty sure I said something like "absolutely not" out loud and spun around to go find the nearest chair we used for customers who wanted to sit and read.

Upon my return to the small family, I found the mother getting up off the floor and gathering her things. I instantly realized that she had taken my words to mean she wasn't welcome and that my speed indicated I had gone to fetch a manager (I was gone barely twenty seconds). She was so surprised to see me hauling this wicker chair over to her, and all I think I said was "There you go, ma'am."

She thanked me. Simple as that. No muss. No fuss. Said a heartfelt and sincere thank you, and sat down to do her thing. I also brought a second chair for the toddler to chill in while his mom was busy.

Stores need places to sit for anyone who sits which is, frankly, everyone.

[aquilacalvitium]

I can't walk for long periods of time. I'm better than I was, but the more frequently I walk, the harder it gets. And the worse the weather outside is - regardless of whether I'm inside or outside - the worse my pain is.

I have a cane, but that can only get me so far. That keeps me mobile when I have no other choice, but I'm still in pain.

I have to sit when I get a flare-up, otherwise I'm half-walking-half-limping everywhere, not to mention that after like an hour or two of using my cane my wrist starts to hurt.

I once had a flare-up in a supermarket. It took us ten minutes to find one of those tiny rolling stools at which point I said "good enough" and very gratefully sat down. And a young, healthy-looking person sitting on a stool in the middle of a busy supermarket attracts attention. I got several people asking me what was wrong.

I personally have no issues sharing details about my pain and disability, but a lot of people do and would rather other people don't know about it. A filthy stool is not discreet. Benches are. Not to mention dignified.

I was smaller at the time which is why the stool helped. Now, with my longer legs, sitting on a stool that height wouldn't help nearly as much! It'd take the majority of the weight off my legs for sure, but I'd still be somewhat hunched up to the degree that my legs aren't getting the rest they need. My only other option would be to sit with them straight out in front of me, but I reiterate - I was in a busy supermarket. I can't do that or I'll risk tripping people up!

It's not that difficult to just put more benches or chairs in public places! Especially indoors where they don't have to be nailed down!

[alexseanchai]

It is also less difficult to install benches with at most two armrests, one on either end, than to install benches with at least three armrests dividing it into multiple seats, which may not accommodate fat people and definitely do not accommodate people lying down.

[yuriflowersforever]

We all know why they refuse to do this (they hate homeless people and want them to die)

[yuriflowersforever]

It's always "straight girl with a gay male bestie" or "bi girl with a gay man bestie" what about the undefeated duo of lesbian/gay friendships? It feels like siblings who always bicker with each other but at the end of the days that's your brother 😭

Will never fall for the propaganda that gay men and lesbians should hate one another. Like.... that's my brother......

[ryann-44]

there will never be another character like Oghren

[yuriflowersforever]

Hazbin Hotel fans tweaking about Abel being straight is so funny to me.

"He's straight. I can't ship him with St. Peter anymore :(" You are aware that's the entire point of shipping? It doesn't have to make sense or even be canon compliant.

Modern fandom culture literally originated from women writing Star Trek Yaoi.

[yuriflowersforever]

I heard Rotta the Hutt had an 8 pack, that he was shredded.

[yuriflowersforever]

Korra being so divisive in the fandom makes a lot of sense when you realize that she's the water avatar. Water represents change. Winter is both the end of our year and the beginning of a new one.

People who hate change are more likely to hate Korra due to the changes she made when she was the Avatar: "Korra ruined the world"

People who understand change are more likely to understand Korra even though they may not agree with the decisions she made.

[yuriflowersforever]

The Overwatch community has been misogynistic, but the hate women receive for playing "girly" characters is stupid as fuck.

It's almost like the companies know lots of female fans like to play as those characters ; why the fuck else would there be a Sanrio or Kpop collab?

If women want to play as Mercy, Juno, Dva, Kirko, Mei or Widowmaker then why do you give a fuck?

[yuriflowersforever]

Marvel Rivals & OW fans: *Arguing over which of their games are better and accusing the games of copying each other*

Me who enjoys both games, realizing that competition makes both the games better in the end:

[yuriflowersforever]

Playing Marvel Rivals before you go to bed and hearing the faint sound of ults as you fall asleep is the gamer version of counting sheep.

[yuriflowersforever]

Invincible fandom when Nolan is a genocidal space fascist and mass murderer: "Omni-Man the GOAT 🐐🗿🗿"

Invincible fans when Atom Eve decides to get an abortion: "I can't believe she would kill Mark's baby, this is unforgivable and downright evil"

[pocketpauling]

Was Debbie even in the room when that baby was made 😭

[yuriflowersforever]

All of Debbie's genes came through with Mark's beard. He can't become evil because Debbie's genes prevent him from growing a full mustache/s

[prokopetz]

Enemies-to-lovers pairing who spend a few years trying to make it work as a couple, then mutually agree to go back to trying to kill each other for real because it's hotter that way.

[yuriflowersforever]

It's these two

[minart-was-taken]

So, season 4 huh? Template by @sillygoose-xp

[ahotknife]

your work does not belong in the age gap tag if the aforementioned gap of age is not in the double digits. five years? i have good personal friends five years younger/older than me that's nothing. there is nothing scandalous about a 2-8 year age gap. we have another word for that, it's called a "peer". a real age gap is bare minimum a decade. a real age gap is two decades if you're committed to really doing it right

[yuriflowersforever]

If your work isn't about fucking middle aged people or grandpas don't tag it as age gap