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they/she

[generaljenobi]

[agirlnamedbone]

Jenny Holzer | Truisms (1979-1981)

[digupreaganandkillhimagain]

im going crazy you have GOT to decouple romance/amatonormativity and marriage in your mind. you have GOT to understand that marriage is a legal document that protects you from exploitation especially if you are a woman or a stay-at-home anything. it is not some evil unique to heterosexual people. it is a legal document that says 'this is who i want in my hospital room when i die, this is who i want to have my stuff when i die, THIS PERSON OWES ME RECOMPENSE IF THEY KICK ME OUT OF THE HOUSE I LIVE IN"

You are not immune to being taken advantage of by your partner if you are queer. do not wind up homeless because your garbage live-ins name is on the lease and they decided to drop you like hot coals.

[elexuscal]

Adding to this:

This is why it is not assimilationist for gay/queer people to want to enshrine marriage rights in their country/region

Similarly, this is why polyamorous people are fighting for the right to have their relationships recognised by their states through marriage and/or similar agreements

Oh, and because on top of those aforementioned financial and medical protections, these laws also help you maintain connection to any kids you have and/or raise together!

I would go further and say, this is why we really should be looking to expand some of these rights so that marriage is NOT the only way they should be enshrined. (e.g. Why could I get married tonight to a guy I met this morning, and get him on my health insurance, but I cannot do the same for a sibling?)

[leaky-port-nacelle]

Remember the fight for same sex marriage was never “we feel left out”, it was “we’re sick and not allowed to see each other. We’re dying and not allowed at the funeral. Someone who kicked me out at 14 just showed up for the first time 24 years later to tell the doctor to pull the plug, and they did.”

Marriage is a legal documentation of rights. Fully agree with prev that those rights should be divested from the concept of monogamy entirely, but for now we have to at least understand what they are

[nyokoko]

Also look into Power of Attorney if marriage isn't accessible.

[aaaangel444]

[stuckinapril]

happy “the only way out is through” september

[le-bronzage-est-delicieux]

Borandá by Wallace Pato

[scorpionlafemme]

[wetheurban]

Remember, you are enough, exactly as you are, in this very moment.

[aries3k]

I am at the stage of my life where I have no choice but to trust the process.

[lionfloss]

by rrrunofthemill

[bienenkiste]

Photographed by Cécile Smetana for Róisín Pierce S/S 24

[redlipstickresurrected]

Yin 0909 aka 炭烤南瓜 (No Info) - 灌溉 (Irrigation), Painting

[junglejim4322]

Something that I have noticed is I know almost nobody my age that goes to a food pantry. I know people who regularly run out of money for food and in general have to eat an unsuitable diet because that’s what they can afford and they still don’t go to a food bank, im not sure if it’s because they’re embarrassed or maybe if you didn’t grow up going you don’t know much about it but if you’re financially struggling I really recommend it. And look into other options for food assistance too like community fridges and gardens and other programs that can assist you, where I live Salvation Army pays for an allotted amount of grocery delivery for low income people every month, in the summer farmers take excess produce to the library to be taken by anyone who needs it, etc. There are a LOT of resources for free food that you can look into especially if you are literally not eating because of your financial situation

[stuckinapril]

every summer night without fail is like . i should be in love right now but instead this loneliness envelopes me like a second skin

[tunisian]

im doing it alone…doing it scared…but im doing it

[artschoolglasses]

May Flowers, Carrie Mae Weems, 2003

[henk-heijmans]

Don't look back, 2023 - by David Galstyan (1986), Armenian