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As the road leads cursed and charmed I have several side blogs.

[nuveau-deco]

A Selection of Ceramic Works by Theo Colenbrander from the Centraal Museum, Utrecht’s Digital Collection. All dated ca. 1923 and manufactured by pottery factory NV Plateelbakkerij Ram in Arnhem, the Netherlands. Medium is pencil and watercolour on biscuit (unglazed) ceramic.

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[comparativetarot]

The Fountain. Art by Mike Willcox, from the Mike Willcox Tarot & Oracle.

[comparativetarot]

The Star. Art by Mike Willcox, from the Mike Willcox Tarot & Oracle.

[comparativetarot]

The Labyrinth. Art by Mike Willcox, from the Mike Willcox Tarot & Oracle.

[ciaran2020]

people are like “I support sex workers” until they actually have to support sex workers by critiquing their ingrained ideas about sex and work and then they're suddenly like “we need to rescue girls from thinking selling their bodies is okay!1!!”

[ciaran2020]

when sex workers say that “sex work is work” it means sex work, like all work, functions in a capitalist framework. yes, you can be exploited as a sex worker. but you can also be exploited as a garment factory worker, in retail (!), as a teacher, as a games developer. capitalism is exploitative at the core and making this out to be a trait unique to sex work—often solely due to the sexual aspect, like it's okay for someone to be objectified and overworked and abused but only if they're no sex in the equation, or as though it's especially bad if there's sex in the equation—harms sex workers and harms critiques of capitalism at large by distracting you from the core concern of workers' rights, which are rights for all workers including sex workers.

[politicalsci]

[whitepeopletwitter]

[contentmlm]

stages of gay courtship:

1. joke flirting

2. real flirting but still pretending it’s joke flirting

3. sharing ur childhood trauma

4. hold hands

[krayonders]

[everythingfox]

The suspense

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[nightbringer117]

She’s trying so hard. Good baby.

[ilya-rozanovs]

Heathers (1988) dir. Michael Lehmann The Cabin in the Woods (2012) dir. Drew Goddard Ready or Not (2019) dir. Matt Bettinelli-Olpin, Tyler Gillett

[vampireapologist-archive-deacti]

acknowledging hate and bigotry is extremely important but everyone needs to stop from time to time and ask: “is the only time I acknowledge the affected group when I’m acknowledging the struggles they face? Do I ever learn from and share posts about this group that are positive, joyful, and educational?

Do I ever share optimistic affirmations for this group in order to show them my support, or is my only interaction with and knowledge of this group anchored in their suffering? In my attempt to support this group, am I constantly exposing its members to a non-stop barrage of the newest demon they have to face? Do I ever reblog hope and positivity?”

I’ve been asking myself this more often these days and attempting to change the way I share knowledge & information, and show support.

[cerixe]

[farfetch]

[bauliya]

so women are supposed to grin and bear the books, the comics, the movies, the plays, the tv shows, the stories, the sci-fi, the translated ancient poems, the fucking millennia of men writing about their self inserts torturing women and it being declared as High Art by other men, we’re supposed to read it in our free time, study it in classrooms, include their styles in our own writing, accept their cultural influence as natural, watch it in the cinema, write about it, talk about it, accept it, aspire it, but men can’t tolerate three seconds of female wish fulfilment of a woman snapping the wrist of a creep without feeling personally kicked in the balls.

[darkshrimpemotions]

This reminds me of something I observed in college while I was doing my honors thesis on women in modern horror films. I watched a LOT of horror during that time as part of my research, and sometimes that was done with my family around.

And my dad and brothers? Were deeply disturbed by the movie Jennifer’s Body. I was flabbergasted. It’s not scary! It’s not even that gory. But they were horrified by it. These men who grew up on 70s slashers were legitimately shook by 90 minutes of Megan Fox eating a few teenage boys, mostly off-screen.

Similarly, my all-male reading panel for my thesis? Were so disturbed by my synopsis of the film Teeth that they couldn’t even talk about it. One of them said he couldn’t look at his wife for a week after reading it.

Again, grown-ass men who study and teach media for a living. Who definitely watch and enjoy horror movies. One of whom was a huge Tarantino buff. We watched and read worse in his intro to mass media class! But one movie about a girl whose vag could bite was enough to haunt him.

Then of course you have things like the Gone Girl backlash–men yelling that Amy Dunne is evil and women clamoring to assure everyone that they know she is not someone to emulate–the backlash against Carol Danvers, and, more recently, the griping from MRAs against the upcoming film Hustlers, which is about strippers scamming their Wall Street clients.

My conclusion? Most men–at least most straight, cisgender men, who are both my sample population and most of the ones whining that Carol is a “villain”–are perfectly fine with, and desensitized to, media where men do violence to women (horror movies), or men do violence to men (horror and action movies). They’re even sort of fine when women do violence to women (“ooooo cat fight!”).

But they get intensely uncomfortable when women are depicted doing any kind of violence to men, especially in films that tilt the balance of power to the other side of the m/f gender binary beyond a single moment or scene.

So woman as flesh-eating monster with men as her preferred cuisine? Woman who responds to unwanted sexual contact by biting it off? Woman who frames her cheating husband for murder? Woman whose response to harassment–behavior that many of the loudest whiners know is both creepy and reflective of their own thoughts/actions–is to break something?

Too scary. Unacceptable. Disturbing. These men hate being presented with the idea, even in fiction, that their position of power is socially constructed, that it could easily be flipped the other way. It terrifies them.

In feeling that terror, they experience a tiny modicum of what living, existing, moving, being perceived as a woman in the world is like.

And they flinch every time.

[tzikeh]

Here have a newspaper comic from 1993

[may-shepard]

This is why women in horror are so important. Good horror should always make someone uncomfortable, and here is a giant frontier of easy pickins that probably isn’t going to be written by men. 

[theunitofcaring]

A lot of the advice I got about learning to enforce my boundaries was framed as an adversarial thing. Like, ‘yes, it might upset and disappoint the people around you, but you have to learn to tell them ‘no’ anyway.’ At best, ‘good people will still like you if you enforce your boundaries’.

What I wish I’d been told is that good people will think it's awesome that you enforce your boundaries, that there are people who will respect the hell out of you for it, that there are people who will admire you not despite you telling them no, but because of it. That most people don’t want to make you do something you don’t enjoy,and so they’ll actively be happier and more relaxed around you if they know they can trust you to decline to do things you don’t enjoy and to ask them to stop things that bother you.

It helped me a lot, personally, to stop thinking of ‘enforcing my boundaries’ as something I did for me and more as something I did to empower the people I was close with, to build a situation where they and I felt sure everything that was going on was something we all wanted.

Most advice isn’t good for everyone and this advice seems maybe bad for people in abusive situations, because sometimes you do need to learn to enforce boundaries against people who will try to violate them. But if there are other brains like me out there: your partner will be really happy you can say no to them. your friend will be really happy you change the subject when you hate it. your roommate will really appreciate that you tell them to turn down the music. most people will feel safer and more comfortable around you if they know you’ll reliably express your needs, AND they’ll feel better about voicing theirs.

[mockwa]

☻unmute☻

[armadillo-dreaming]

[Video: a construction worker shoveling dirt as children on the other side of the fence yell “YAY!” every time dirt is moved.]

[ayellowbirds]

these kids have the right priorities in life and i hope nothing ever shakes that.

[lisatrimtrimm]

I tried to recreate this feeling I had while lying in the sun yesterday.

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