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[dogpuppy]

[longseasons]

stop trusting chatgpt and start trusting a woman's intuition

[caribbeanangel]

Zanele Muholi (Johannesburg, 2007)

[heavensghost]

Accidentally put my whole fucking heart into something that wasnt fucking meant for me again fucking hell

[scorpionlafemme]

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[kaalbela]

Lebanon, 1980s. Photographed by Alain Nouges.

[heavensghost]

words from we hug now by sydney rose

[ttrraasshh]

[corvid-language-library]

Remember that if you want to do more of something, you have to do less of something else. It's that time of year where people set goals for the new year and they have plans and hopes and it's always focusing on what they want to do more of. More studying, more exercise, more crafting, more socialising, more making things from scratch. Okay, great. What are you going to do less of in order to have the time and energy to do more of those things you really want to do?

[corvid-language-library]

And if your answer to this is "less doomscrolling" or "less bedrotting" then great, but please think about why you're doing those things. No one's doomscrolling or bedrotting because they don't have things they'd rather be doing. Actually, I'm willing to bet you have a lot of things you'd rather be doing and you spend your life internally screaming at yourself to do literally any one of the many things you want to be doing instead, but you don't have the energy for them all and you can't work out how to prioritize them, so doomscrolling spares you from making that decision. Or perhaps you're burned out from taking on too many projects and you need to rest your brain, so you lie in bed because you don't even have the energy to get started anymore.

This is going to be a really hard pill to swallow, but the truth is you might not be able to balance all your hobbies and all your projects the way you'd like. If you want to finish writing that book, you might have to reduce your daily drawing habit to a couple of times a week. If you want to do yoga every morning, you might have to accept not cooking from scratch as often. If you want to spend more time with your family, you might have to cut down on your yearly reading goal. I'm not saying give up on your hobbies; I'm be realistic with your time and your energy and be kind to yourself. Stop expecting yourself to do more and do better every single year. You don't have to constantly be growing upwards and reaching for the stars; you can be content with where you are, or even cut parts of yourself back to make space for other things in your life to bloom.

Think about what your priorities are and make peace with doing less of other things. Less is okay. Less is not failing. Less is self care.

[qucko-deactivated20151208]

reblog this for good luck

[bakwaaas]

I’ve changed so much but actually I’m more myself than ever

[plumslices]

do you have more thoughts on the “young people not having a majority online space effecting their fashion” thing? that’s an interesting topic

I’m not good with long form writing but I’ll dump my general thoughts.

As someone who grew up with the internet and tumblr i think that the 2000s and early 2010s had spaces that were exclusive to or overwhelmingly young people. Children don’t have a way to engage in personal exploration, play games, or content for free online without the risk of being exposed to violence, advertisement, damaging media, or predators. I don’t want to over romanticize this time because there were issues then obviously and predators too. But as a kid there were websites with free games and platforms that had no mechanism to communicate with other users. There was less advertising also. Everyone knows how early tumblr was but the positives were you could exist in your own communities and share interests with less of a chance you would go viral and be subjected to the wider internet. Your teenage thoughts and ideas were less connected to your actual identity.

With tiktok starting as musical.ly it’s the same as any visual platform. Attractive rich white people are incentivized, the further you stray from that, less so. It’s also just not good for them to be that visible online with comment sections and dms. Also children being lolcows makes me feel nothing but dread. It’s an online form of a type of bullying people experience irl. I think adults mingling with children online is only bad but irreversible now. They have no third “it’s weird for old people to be here” spaces irl or online.

Specifically talking about fashion…what the fuck does a 16 year old know about “personal style” and why are they expected to? Adults and children mingling on tiktok has done nothing but worsened the idea of where you’re supposed to be at a certain age with knowing who and what you are. It’s also made the adults worse by thinking they’re on the same level as teenagers. I hate self-infantilization. Every generation borrows from the previous one, but the criticism they receive in this cycle has never been this accessible (and encouraged!) and it’s alienating the children. The push to “personal style” and individualism as a way to align with more things to buy has replaced life experience and literal time spent with yourself to know yourself. The kids are over-policed, sexualized, silenced, and victimized more than ever.

I’ll never forget I saw a grown man ridiculing teenage girls on TikTok for making Ethel Cain edits saying “what? Babies first experimental album”. Death! To all of them.

[bakwaaas]

I do feel like this whole self improvement culture thing can go too far where people are never happy with who they are and where they are because they’re constantly trying to be better or do better and they’re always waiting for some sort of glow up or achievement or therapy realisation that will make them feel complete but that isn’t real and life is actually in the every day

[cozyvu]

Hong Kong

[hannahleah]

Zinnia Kumar as a Runaway Bride. Vogue China October 2023 by Zhong Lin