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If you want to do scenes with someone, or want them to be your capital D Dominant, there are some very simple things you should do.

1. Let them know your limits- everyone deserves to stand up for themselves, even (especially) subs.

2. Research or ask questions- don't ever go into something being confused about what's going on

3. Communicate with them- most people I know would like to know a little bit about you before doing anything. Go in with a "hey, how are you?" Instead of a "please degrade me mistress"

4. Be RESPECTFUL - this is a DOMINANT we're talking about. Show some respect. If you fuck up, ask how you can make it right. Say please and thank you, you little asshole.

In my experience, subs who don't care about these things are not interested in reality. They just want a "kink machine" that they can put money/time into and get kink out of. If you're a dominant- you are NOT a kink machine. You are a person. You deserve more.

#bd/sm kink #k!nk #bd/sm community #dominant #submissive #the real hater

dieselfutch

does anyone fw subby pleasure tops? like, gentle giant cocky butches who pick you up with one arm and talk a big game about how they’re gonna split you open on their strap later but can’t help but go all glossy eyed and whimpery the second they taste you and all they can focus on is making you feel as good as possible so all pretense of them being in control goes out the window. is that. is there a market for that

#yes

butch-pilot

need to pull a shy butch boy’s head up by the hair and ask them to repeat themself and look me in the eye while they beg me to touch them

tgirl-tamag0tchi

Women should destroy me and treasure me.

#my pleasure

queer-karu

I need to fuck until I can’t move, my brain can’t think, and the concept of reality becomes temporarily meaningless as I slip into that blissful state of being utterly spent.

Then we can eat food and cuddle while watching trash tv.

sunny-aside

It is so hot when someone wants you so badly that they need to corrupt you. They know they should just leave you alone, but they can't help themselves when it comes to you. They just keep finding ways to get closer to you, to brush against you. They ask you questions, getting increasingly intimate. You answer honestly, you realize that you want them to know the side of you that you keep private. You lean in, and a part of you wants them to go further. They sense it, they keep coaxing you, gently teasing out your hidden desires, until you want them so badly that you wish they would just take you already.

preydefiiler

you're so cute. im gonna fantasize about torturing you

strbrryfemme

i love when a butch is actually just a gross pervert

#ya

basementvhs

craving to be mockingly teased.. told im not allowed to orgasm but shes obviously working me till I break. "Aw, poor thing," while being thrust into, reminded gently im not allowed to cum. She's dragging her nails down my belly if only to tease how deep she is. "Does it hurt?" another deep grind, she doesnt care. "Youre so close? All that tension in your sweet little body, and nothing you can do about it?"

#cute

apexpred

"Wah nobody wants to dom anymore" Have you tried treating doms like people who you respect instead of pleasure dispensers?

butchergirrl

“Wah nobody wants to dom anymore” have you tried actually engaging and being an active participant with your dom instead of replying with exclusively keysmashes and expecting them to do all the work?

houndmother

“Wah nobody wants to dom anymore” have you created an environment where your dom feels safe expressing desire, especially when that desire is sadistic? have you established a system of communication that protects BOTH of you?

blazing-butterfly-inactive

"Wah nobody wants to dom anymore" have you recognized that doms have boundaries too, and are you prepared to respect those boundaries? if a dom isn't comfortable doing something you want done to you, will you accept their "no" without pushing them or making them feel guilty?