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[a-multidimentional-mess]

Hey I'm back!! Reminder to work on yourself:

What I've learned so far is that you don't need any plan or anything to grow or to get out of a bad mental state

You need two things: be honest with yourself (know the reason you got mad/sad/offended without any justification: your self is your biggest supporter)

Make the best desicions u can make at the moment (get away from your phone, if not change to an app that's better than the one u were before, decide not to scream to your sibling, stuff like that)

And lastly, if you think you have many issues, find one and try to fix that one

You don't have to know everything, just one issue you wanna better, for example setting boundaries or focusing on what u wanna do at the moment, anytjing

Also if u want any advice, i could help you! Believe me, i have MUCH shit that i can get experience from

Aaaaand that's all! There's always hope. Even for the most broken of us.

[a-multidimentional-mess]

You can name your cat cuticles and call it cutie. Thanks

[a-multidimentional-mess]

Yeah but, have you ever heard a body temple and intimacy in sex song that is so pure, that it doesn't say these lyrics to fight the concept of body hate and sex stigma?

Just a pure, out of the chest song that shares its emotions with the listener.

Exact translate:

" now I'm naked, i look like a god, bright, strong

You can love me, you can give me a moment (of your time, a memory), my body is only the cause"

-balada ton Esthiseon ke ton paresthiseon, (Spotify name)

And of course, Hozier

Whoever wants any translate in Greek or a Greek text in English can tell me, i am a pretty advanced speaker and also native

[mooonbride]

The funniest part about unlikeable geek men is they really are fully convinced people don’t like them because of their hobbies. They cannot even begin to process the idea that comics and D&D and shit have in fact always been kinda cool and their personslities might just be repulsive. The combined unwavering ego/persecution complex is… unreal.

[mooonbride]

“I was socially rejected because I like video games” no tyler, you were socially rejected because you turn every conversation you have into a competition and you call women “females”

[thelearnedwobbly]

“We are simultaneously persecuted and superior” is such a familiar refrain that in hindsight it’s not at all surprising that so many of them turned to fascism at the drop of a hat.

[earlgraytay]

…okay, so, uh… this is a really bad take. 

here’s the thing. comics and d&d and computers and superheroes are cool now. but they didn’t use to be that way. if you’re a zoomer, i don’t think you have the cultural context– and if you aren’t, you dodged a mighty big bullet. 

in a lot of places, if you were “ into nerd shit” in the 90s or oughts and you were in middle/high school, you were a social pariah.

 being into nerd shit meant you were sitting at the lunch table all by yourself. it meant you didn’t get to talk to the other kids, because they’d deliberately shun you. just because you were into nerd shit. just because you liked computers better than people, or had opinions about star wars. it was true whether you were a boy or a girl, whether you were a dick or a doormat, whether you had social skills or not. 

and this was a self-perpetuating cycle! being into Nerd Shit made you a social pariah, so you had to hang out with the other pariahs, and you got them interested in YOUR nerd shit and vice versa, and that made you even less ~cool~ in the eyes of the kids who decided what ~cool~ was. so you only hung out with nerds, and got further into nerd shit.

and guess what. being bullied is more likely to make you an asshole. because people develop terrible, terrible coping skills to deal with being bullied. it is monstrously unfair. it is one of the ways that the world sucks. but it is what it is. 

when you try to claim that no one was bullied for being a nerd- 

you are trying to claim that peer abuse is not real, that people who were abused by their peers must have done something to deserve it, and that anyone who says they were abused by their peers is making excuses. 

you are being an abuse apologist. 

i think you’re better than that. so, like, can you not? 

(obligatory side note that these things change over time, d&d was cool for a while in the 80s and then it wasn’t, ditto star wars, comics’ relative ‘coolness’ has always fluctuated, etc. etc.)  

[werewolf-cuddles]

As somebody who was picked on in high school (or the UK equivalent of it anyway) for being into nerdy shit like video games and anime, I would like to extend my sincerest “Go fuck yourself!” to OP and their shitty victim-blaming attitude.

I was a good kid. I always tried my best to be polite, friendly and respectful towards others. I rarely got into trouble, hell, I didn’t even swear until my second year.

Guess what? I still got bullied anyway because I was open about my interests, and what I was interested in wasn’t cool enough compared to everyone else. I got picked on because I liked cartoons and anime. I got picked on because I actively tried to avoid swearing. It was okay to like video games as long as you only played Call of Duty and FIFA, but since I was into things like Sonic and Guitar Hero, I got picked on for that too.

Nowadays, I have a much shorter temper, and I’ll admit that I can be a bit of an asshole sometimes. Yeah, guess what? Five fucking years of being relentlessly mocked and insulted by my peers for being a fat autistic nerd kinda fucked me up a bit, and I’m still not over it.

[no-f-given]

It still shocks me that people nowadays discuss their fictional crushes, fanfiction and even pairings openly and even pester creators with their headcanons in social media or even in public. It shocks me even more than they think it has always been like that.

Bitch, if you even mentioned thinking that Wolverine is kinda hot, you bet you’d become a laughing stock for fucking months. 

I can’t even imagine how many people grew up having trust issues and had difficulties with starting a relationship because their fictional crushes treated them better than their freaking peers. 

[boss-hoody]

I remember as late as 2009 it was still a thing among the older crowd. We were talking about movies, and the new Star trek came up, and my cousin’s wife (at the time) who wasn’t a geek in school, and would have gone through high school in the late 90′s, was like “Star trek is nerd shit lets talk about something else”

Even now there’s a stark divide between my older cousins and I. I was born at the right time, but throughout their childhood and teenage years, geek shit was to be shunned, not embraced. It really is a completely different culture.

In short: OP you’re like 12, shut up

[angerydome]

I’ve been rewatching Malcolm in the Middle, and damn that show is a little slice of the 90’s/00’s views on “nerds” (especially with how Malcolm’s gifted class is treated, and anything related to Craig). I was lucky enough to avoid being physically bullied, but I absolutely got ostracized in K-7 for being an autistic “weirdo” who liked comic books and other “nerd shit”. I was terrified of people finding out I liked video games for ages, until I went to a better school. That one was all “gifted” kids, so you had to be kinda weird to make the cut. Some people still sucked but I was targeted way less.

[spicyteaboxes]

I can’t say it was all too long ago that kids would make fun of kids liking nerd stuff. Anime in particular. That was a death sentence in the early 2000s to 2010s if you were in K-12 - didn’t matter if you were girl, boy, or anything else.

‘Nerd shit’ is a fluid term that evolves with the times. Growing up for me, you could like playing Mario Kart but would get made fun of for playing Sonic the Hedgehog. Things stopped being ‘nerd shit’ when it entered mainstream. Liking Sonic is cool NOW because of the movie. Liking anime is cool NOW because animation studios now have a budget for more artful animation. Liking D&D is cool NOW because of things like critical roll and adventure zone. Liking comics NOW is because of the resurgence of superhero movies and films (though I don’t know how popular comics really are in current day). No, it was not always cool. If you thought otherwise, it is either you got extremely lucky growing up (in which case good for you really) or you got into the hobby because it became popular (in which case bad stop those are abuse apologist thoughts).

[noc10-moved]

executive dysfunction

[neil-gaiman]

Hey!! I love your work and you're by far my favourite author. Did you ever have to cope with low self esteem or impostor syndrome related to your writing? If yeah, did you overcome it and how?

Does this help? https://neil-gaiman.tumblr.com/post/160603396711/hi-i-read-that-youve-dealt-with-with-impostor

[a-multidimentional-mess]

*screaming in a very cringey way bc he answered my question*

[a-multidimentional-mess]

I live in a constant "oh!!!! I didn't know i was allowed to do this!!" when seeing something that someone else thought/did. Not like getting ice cream, more like "wait you can say this out loud?? You can look this up?? You're allowed to think that way??" and this reveals a lot abt me

[a-multidimentional-mess]

You're so beautiful. If you're having a hard time, we can talk about it :)

[a-multidimentional-mess]

The voices told me to do it

[a-multidimentional-mess]

*slowly approaches you and gives you a wet hug then licks your face*

[a-multidimentional-mess]

I love being kind to people that deserve it. You have to once live the bliss of seeing someone smiling with something you did for them, even if it was the littlest thing.

Gladly, the best thing you can do about many people is to exist, because they love you

and you're so lucky to live that

[a-multidimentional-mess]

Currently and all day thinking Abt how I'm going to sqeeze the life out of my boyfriend and kiss every inch of his face when i see him after 21 days

[a-multidimentional-mess]

[a-multidimentional-mess]

Y'all should know I'm pretty, so your crush on me should seriously intensify

[a-multidimentional-mess]

Bruh my hobbies and interests are literally unlimited but the hobbies and interests i actively do are 1.3 every time a Netflix apocalyptic show is aired

Which is a lot but still not enough for hobbies

[a-multidimentional-mess]

Can you be a writer and a shitty story teller?

Bc ye know, that shit is verbal

[a-multidimentional-mess]

Guys, can you vote based on my Tumblr posts what my type is?? I'm in a great need of an objective opinion and a way to challenge you

Help: I'm an unhealthy people pleaser, love debates, don't want to hurt anyone, deeply care about the ppl close to me, pretty harsh sometimes, def an intuitive, pretty outgoing, vibes with feelings and daydreams but when deep feelings and trust im outta here, some mental shit, can discuss anything, needs some alone time, gets bored of uninteresting ppl, is an excellent people reader, logical thinker but prioritizes feelings when logic isn't that important