LEDA

Cis, She/her • POC • 21 years old (10/17/2004) • This is an NSFT (not safe for tumblr) sideblog leaning account. While nothing too explicit, let alone won't always be posted, if you're under eighteen―you'll (respectfully) be blocked.

[aberrantmood]

A little bit about me! (That isn't already on my carrd) WARNING: I'm a multi-paragraph texter. This introduction may be a bit longer than common intro posts you'd come across, which is something that some people enjoy more than others. With that in mind, if you aren't willing to read at least my opinions/stances or carrd, you won't have the best time here.

In short, I can’t force you to read anything here. However, anything you come across on my blog that’s unsavory, uncomfortable, or you don’t agree with, I already warned about beforehand on this pinned post. 🍵 What's my general "vibe?" Grew up catholic, now I'm someone the priests I grew up with want burnt on a stake. I also often put my filter on the back burner when it comes to sexual topics. Although, because of that, I'm proud to say that various friends of mine have become more open with not only talking about their sexual thoughts and/or experiences, they've also become more comfortable and―dare I say―confident with themselves. I'm the one they come to if they're unsure of which toy to buy and if they're too scared to order/buy one themselves. I'm the one they come to if they need sexual advice, I'm the one they (specifically my writer friends) come to when they wanna ramble about their OCs sexual preferences and interests. Hence, I will absolutely be that same friend towards anyone who decides "Hey, her blog is pretty chill. I'll stick around."

🍵 Why am I on tumblr? To talk about sex and, hopefully, help break the stigma a little bit behind it. I'm hoping my frequent talk about it will help not only others out there feel more open―just as it did with my friends―but at least relieved to know that they aren't alone in any kinks they may have (and that they're completely valid, at that). I actually highly recommend Evie Lupine if you're looking for further and more in-depth kink education. She's asexual, too! Kinky asexuals aren't commonly known of nor talked about, and she plans to break that. So, despite not being asexual myself―she taught me a lot about the asexual spectrum community, and helped me immensely with fighting the common guilt that comes with being kinky. I highly, highly recommend her. I'm also here to spread education about LGBTQ+―specifically us Aromantic Allosexuals, which I am. "Aromantic Allopansexual," to be specific. I don't only post about sex and my sexual identity, though. I also may post about my personal interests/hobbies, which you can find on my carrd. Main topics might be about horror, as I've been a huge fan of it since toddler age.

🍵 What am I into (NSFW wise)? In short, I'm a "pillow princess" submissive. A sub is self-explanatory. For pillow princess though―to me, "pillow princess" means I'm all for receiving oral, but have an uncontrollable repulsion to giving it. I used to beat myself up for that, thanks to the common "give what you get" expectation when it comes to oral, but came to accept it. That I not only can't help my repulsion, but shouldn't "have" to do anything in sex I'm not comfortable with. That it does not make me boring or selfish. To anyone who's similar: I hear you. I understand you. And I promise you, there are many people out there entirely into it. Though I am curious to try out deepthroating a dick or strap-on, as I frequently do in my fantasies―a real dick would have to fit my personal bill of attractive to even want to touch it. As said before, though, there are people entirely into it. Hence, I prefer only sleeping with partners who don't want their own genitals touched. As I'll admit that giving-oral-repulsion guilt still lingers from time to time. But if I'm with a partner who doesn't want their genitals touched in the first place, it really shuts that inner guilt off. (Stone tops, we stand in solidarity). And as you can probably tell, I'm more than open with my insecurities. Please feel free to be on my blog as well. Kink wise and a more in depth list? Here's a document, if you're curious. 🍵 Tags? • #askLeda for my asks and answers. • #nsft for "not safe for tumblr/not safe for work" related posts. Mainly humerous/not so serious posts. • #sexualfantasy for, as it says, posts related to my fantasies. • #aromantic or #aroallo for Aromantic related posts. • #sexualeducation or #ethicalkink for, also, just as it says on the tin. Educational and encouragement, and potential ramblings/rants, of healthy practices when it comes to sex of all kinds. Be it vanilla or kinky. • #toyrec for adult toy recommendations and reviews.

• #Ledastunes for songs I'm either currently listening to on repeat, and/or just wanna recommend. 🍵 Some opinions/stances? • Sex and romance are not inherently bad. While the way that society, at large, interacts with them is flawed (e.g: toxic monogamy/amatonormativity)―completely getting rid of them is far from the solution. • Sex repulsion/aversion is not an excuse for sex negativity. (e.g: "Eww! People have sex?! Y'all are disgusting!") • Children shouldn't be sheltered from the topic of sex. And around teenage years, they should feel comfortable enough to ask you for a toy or advice. If your child grows up fearing you'll be disgusted by them, then I firmly believe you fucked up there. • As kinky and kink positive I am, kink should never be a replacement for therapy. • But with that in mind, kink (especially edgier/violent leaning ones) are far from inherently misogynistic and are a sign you need your head checked/of mental illness. Alt-right and radical feminists tend to have this viewpoint. And any reading this? I warn you again, you won’t have a good time here in the least. And any asks sent from you, to me, will be ignored.

• “Virginity” is not medically real. It’s not a medical term, and it’s not based on any scientifical evidence. Instead, virginity is a social and cultural concept that is more important in some cultures and religions than in others; though the importance causing much bloodshed for centuries. Particularly, purity culture. • Doms using safe words/hand signs/etc is absolutely necessary. The sub isn't the only one in control―both (or all) parties are. Each person in a power play dynamic absolutely deserve, and need, a safe word/hand sign/whatever. Including sadists. Far too many people (especially newcomers) in the BDSM community either aren't aware that doms, too, need check-ins and tap outs. Then once some people/subs do learn about/experience that, they scoff. This all goes for aftercare, too. • You aren't "sex positive" as you may think if you're anti-kink. I don't care if it's for personal reasons (in that case, that would be projection)―if your argument is "I support x because x is better than y" then you may really not support x, and I’d recommend reconsidering your viewpoints there. "Oh, have as much sex as you want! That's totally great for you! So long as it doesn't involve any kinks like masochism or anything. That's for brainwashed and gross people who are just inherently harming their mental state or are inherently abusers, haha :)" We've been told that sex is degrading and takes away a person's value one way or another, and a good amount of us have finally come to recognize that that's an awful viewpoint to hold. But instead of saying "no, that's not true" and instead saying "yeah, it's true, but not under these conditions" and you think you've made it better? Once again, I would highly recommend sitting back and listening to those with different experiences and thoughts. • You aren't supportive of aromantics and "all complex queer identities" until you learn and accept that not every aromantic is asexual. Neither that all aroallos are bi/pan/lesbian/etc―some are heterosexual, yet still absolutely belong in the community. Aromantic, in of itself, is a queer identity. 🍵 QUCK NOTE: Trans women, you are absolutely loved and welcome here, and it will be kept that way. Sit, have a warm drink, we’ll have a good time. You’re safe.

🍵 Rules for asking/interacting: Here.

[autistichalsin]

Because SOMEHOW people need to be reminded of things from literally ten years ago:

"Free the nipple" never meant "free to not wear a bra" or "free to breastfeed." Those were adjacent conversations that of course "free the nipple" supporters would boost, but that was NEVER the core of free the nipple.

The core of free the nipple was always that the breasts of people perceived as women ("female-presenting nipples" to use some Tumblr speak) are in no way different than the breasts of people perceived as men. And that since the chests of people perceived as men are not sexualized and are allowed to be exposed, so too should the breasts of people perceived as women. If men can be topless, so can women. If it's inappropriate for women to show their chests, neither should men. It isn't sexual assault for a woman to walk around barechested, because it isn't sexual assault for a man to do so either, and breasts are NOT sexual organs.

Claiming breasts are inherently sexual organs is factually and morally wrong, it is sexist and controlling, it is a tool of oppression, and it defines normal body parts (and bodily functions) as sex which leads to inherent sexualization of people with those parts. It leads to 12 year olds with large breasts being accused of seducing 40 year old men or trying to distract and corrupt their classmates.

"Free the nipple" doesn't mean "free the nipple in a god-fearing way." It means FREE THE NIPPLE, full stop, end of sentence. It means to free the nipple of the faulty social constructs that cast it as a sexualized, malicious force of seduction instead of a normal body part that should be free of expectations of shame or "modesty."

Breasts and nipples aren't shameful, sexual, immoral, porn-adjacent, kinks, a distraction, or things to be feared. They are a part of your body just like your elbows and ankles, and being afraid of them, thinking they will corrupt some innocent person or that being exposed to them is trauma akin to sexual assault, is the entire fucking problem.

Free the nipple, not just for breastfeeding, not just from bras, but from the fucked up social constructs that cast them as malicious instead of innocent. Stop trying to sanitize "free the nipple" for puritanical, conservative audiences who already hate you and the rest of us. You aren't helping anyone.

Free the nipple means FREE THE NIPPLE.

[femperor]

When I say purity culture has no endpoint, what I mean is that they will never run out of people to cut down. If porn was made illegal and all of the perverts were run out of the country, the jesus freaks would immediately turn on each other. They require an enemy to function, and will create one of their friends if need be.

[charlesoberonn]

Christians used to excommunicate each other (back when that was tantamount to a diplomatic boycott) over whether the Eucharist should be done with leavened or unleavened bread.

When you're convinced that the fate of your immortal soul and its relationship with the ultimate force of good is on the line, no quibble is too small.

[yourfavpunchesnazis]

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(requested by anonymous)

[yourfavpunchesnazis]

[tnystrk-exe]

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[mommyownsmee]

What the fuck is wrong with 90% of the

“Dom/mes” on Tumblr?

I swear, the sheer audacity of some so-called “Dominants” on this site is generously shocking. What the fuck is wrong with most of you?

Since when did being a Dom/me mean treating submissives like disposable playthings? Since when did it mean demanding obedience without offering respect, boundaries, or basic human decency? You don’t get to call yourself a Dominant just because you slap “Sir” or “Mistress” in your bio and bark orders at strangers like a power-starved brat.

A real Dom/me knows that dominance isn’t about control alone—it’s about trust, responsibility, mutual pleasure. It’s about understanding the submissive’s needs, limits, and desires just as much as your own. It’s about care. And yet, I keep seeing these arrogant, unskilled, self-absorbed pricks who think submission is owed to them just because they exist.

You are not entitled to anyone’s submission.

You are not a Dom/me just because you think you are.

And you sure as fuck are not dominant if you don’t understand that submission is given, not taken.

If your idea of dominance is ghosting subs after using them, ignoring boundaries, degrading without consent, or treating submission like a free service, then you are not a Dom/me—you’re a walking red flag.

This space should be built on mutual desire, mutual respect, and mutual pleasure. If you can’t understand that, then step the fuck away from the title of Dom/me and sit down!!

And to the submissives out here: You don’t owe these people anything. A Dom/me who doesn’t respect you, your limits, or your autonomy is not a Dom/me you should waste a single second on. Call them out! Do not keep the damage they did to your body and mental health in! SCREAM. YELL. TOGETHER WE CAN MAKE THEM STOP.

[aberrantmood]

Unfortunately, I stumbled across many radfem posts full of kink negativity/hard criticism on Pinterest. Of course, it was the usual—how women are brainwashed and “fell prey” to the “bad, disgusting perverted men who have something wrong with them for getting off on hurting the poor, victim women.”

The usual: “Aftercare is just trauma bonding, you’re fucked up for being a sadist and need therapy for getting off on hurting your partner/wanting to be hurt, what’s wrong with you? All you guys can argue with is that it’s consensual! But we’re talking about why you’re even into this! Psychology plays a huge role, so you must be coping/unhealthy/abusive/sick in the head!” and so it goes.

Had to watch Evie Lupine to recover from such a mindfuck.

These posts, and how many people are genuinely believing it (even those who used to be heavily into BDSM. Which, shame and guilt runs rapid from many of those with kinks of any kind, so let’s not forget how easy it is for those who feel that shame and guilt to fall for all of these kinds of posts and google articles—causing them, who used to be all for it, to push down their own “wrong” desires for the sake of being “right” and “good/healthy” again), never fails to remind me how I’m not only a “victim woman who fell under the influence of pornography and the patriarchy, needs severe therapy too” to these people, but also a cold-hearted, broken predator once they figure out about my Aromantic Allosexualism.

Oh, how history repeats.

[radicalrav]

I am normal for feeling disgusted at the thought of getting pregnant and married. I'm normal for preferring fwb and hookups, just as someone is normal for wanting monogamy.

Who's weird are the freaks who shame, degrade and legislate laws to make life harder for those who aren't like them.

[1greenteasupernova]

I’m so fucking easy to turn on it makes me feel like a pervert i get a kiss that lasts for a whole second and i’m like “hey you wanna fuck. Right here right now”

[aberrantmood]

I’ve always been this way. Which was actually part of what made me discover I was aroallo. I never thought of “man, I love this person,” even if we kissed and I was attracted to them (confused aesthetic attraction with romantic for a long while, at that). It was always “that singular kiss sent butterflies, but not to my stomach.”

[tgi-funguys]

back to regularly scheduled yearning hours...

[aberrantmood]

What’s a woman gotta do to come back from a long day at work, flop onto a bed, before getting surprised by her legs being forcefully open and a vibrator held to her clothed clit?

“Don’t mind me, little one. I wanna hear all about how your day went.”

But I can’t even get a word out, because the vibes are so fucking high and too strong, and I’m so tired and worked up and still trying to comprehend the situation and holy fuck, I should be pissed but it hurts in the best way possible—but there they are, smiling as if they didn’t just come out of nowhere and gave no warning.

As if they’re sitting with me at the kitchen table, instead of holding their hard working sub down and most likely going to punish me if they get a moan instead of a proper response.

[redinkletters]

hear me out: putting your sub in a position where your strap gets so, so deep inside and making them say how good they’re feeling but every time they open their mouth, your hips give them a sharp, deep thrust that makes their words turn into a pathetic cry, not letting them even talk. that’s when you grab their face and say “i told you to talk. real words, honey. or else i’ll stop fucking you.” now enjoy watching them struggle <3

[aberrantmood]

Or better yet, “I didn’t give you permission to speak yet, have I? Moan for me, but one fucking word out of that mouth and I’ll have to pull my cock out. We don’t want that, do we?”

[doggyhour]

Fuck my thighs while I’m sleeping, push up my sleep shorts and pull my hips up off the bed, keep my thighs pressed tight together with your hands on my hips and slide into that little gap where my thighs meet and almost touch my cunt, where the head of your cock pushes up against my clit with every thrust and my juices makes it easier and easier for you to fake-fuck me… my thighs are warm and soft and my pussy gets so wet it’ll feel almost like actually using my holes

[aberrantmood]

Please.

[aberrantmood]

Hopefully not sounding whiny here. Just wanted to vent a bit.

Despite my almost constant sexual thoughts involving fantasies of penetration, I’d be lying if I said any of these fantasies are remotely possible for me at this time in my life.

And that is thanks to: Vaginismus.

It’s so bad, that I can’t insert a tampon. I can’t insert anything. It feels like a brick wall; and even when my gynecologist actually managed to get something in there, it hurt a fuck ton. So much so, that I actually began sweating and couldn’t help but move my body from the sheer agonizing pain.

It pains me to say that this condition makes me miserable every time I think about it. Or every time I masturbate watching a vagina haver get railed, and think: “Damn. Wouldn’t that be a dream, to get dicked down?”

I don’t know how I’d even be able to confront a dom who’s interested in me, strap on user or not, with giant fantasies of fucking me from penetration.

“As much as I yearn for it, as much as the thought makes me incredibly horny, that literally can’t be accomplished until I go through months of pelvic floor therapy.”

A good dom will settle for pleasuring me in other ways, biggest part being clit stimulation. This I know of. Would hopefully still be turned on and have a good, even great, time themselves and want to keep coming back for more.

I also would open up anyway—already do on my google docs BDSM list for any doms interested in engaging with me, that I have it.

It’s incredibly important to be upfront and honest about everything, of course. Even of any sexual insecurities.

But it still, well… deeply upsets me that I have it in the first place; hence, having to talk about it before any sexual scene/activity.

Just wanted to get this off my chest after reading a few NSFW/NSFT posts and fantasizing, before the reminder that I apparently have shit luck when it comes to my vagina.

To any very sexual person out there with vaginismus: You are heard. Loud and very fucking clear. You are not alone. Far from it. You are not being dramatic nor unreasonable; Vaginismus is like a laugh in the face from the universe.

Especially if your biggest fantasies are often something you could play out, could do, if you didn’t have it.

[gdsplicer]

Playing with that "red string of fate" like it's a goddamn strawberry lace

[aberrantmood]

Found this "Aromantic Allosexual Experiences" bingo.

Here's my results:

Multiple bingos. Nice! Unsure if I missed anymore.

(While this isn't an NSFT post, putting this divider here as my account in of itself isn't entirely SFW. 👍🏾)

[chubby-baby-deactivated20220630]

Reminder

18+ means 18+, not “I’m 14 but I don’t get offended by your posts” or “I’m 16 but I’m mature for my age”

// If you’re a minor, get off my page, this isn’t for you //

[please-let-me-be-horny]

This isn’t about excluding you.

This is about keeping YOU SAFE from the monsters that hide in this community, and keeping US SAFE from the damage and trouble you can cause by being underage.

This community will welcome you with open arms ONCE YOU ARE OLD ENOUGH.

Until then, STAY SAFE, STAY RESPONSIBLE, and STAY AWAY FROM 18+ BLOGS.