These posts are so condescending
If they work for you, great, but when I ask people why they reblog them their answer is usually that they would feel guilty not to, they don’t actually find it inspiring.
Suicide isn’t about other people, how other people feel isn’t their problem and forcing it to be only makes it worse. Telling people how great they are just disregards what they are feeling and they will be less likely to talk about those feelings because it makes everyone else uncomfortable. Telling people to find value in the things they can do and how they can still contribute to society is incredibly ableist including the fact that sometimes people choose suicide because there won’t be a happy ending.
And don’t say “well, I wasn’t talking about them” because that’s exactly the point. You don’t know what you’re talking about so what the hell are you doing telling people considering suicide what they should do instead of asking them how they feel and what their thoughts are.
“1. We would miss you.” You don’t know me and I have enough I’m dealing with, I don’t need the burden of your ignorant and judgmental ass.
“2. It’s not worth the regret. Either by yourself if you failed or just simply left scars, or the regret everyone else feels by not doing enough to help you.” Again, none of this is about you and you should feel guilty if you are making it about you. Also, telling suicidal/disabled people to try not to get scars is so incomprehensibly offensive I don’t think I could articulate how utterly wrong it is.
“3. It does get better. Believe it or not it will eventually get better. Sometimes you have to go through the storm to get to the rainbow.” Who the fuck do you think you are? It gets better? When does it get better? How does it get better for people who have degenerative diseases? Who have terminal illnesses? At what point does all that suddenly get better?
I’ve talked to numerous people who have dealt with either being suicidal or who were considering suicide because of a disability and the consensus has always been that what helps is when people don’t condescend to you, don’t just tell you to feel better, don’t invalidate your right to do what you want with your body. What helps is being there, as an equal, to consider the decision further.
You may want to kill yourself and you have the right to do that but remember that you don’t have to do it right now. You will still have the option tomorrow or the day after. It is a huge and final decision and you need to consider it as clearly as possible. Do something fun or mundane or just distracting to get you through the next few minutes or hours and then explore all of your options.
A suicide hotline might not work for you, nor will a hospital but they are options that are not permanent. You can try them. If suicide is really the right decision for you it will still be an option after you explore these avenues.
Remember, you can always make the decision tomorrow. Give today a chance.
