Ella

Speak the truth, even if your voice shakes.

[acknowledgebiology]

This is a friendly reminder that it is not a "hate crime" to say that biological men cannot and will never be women because it is literally a (very basic) scientific truth. It doesn't matter if a man "feels like a woman," he will never, ever be able to change the fact that he is male. His sex chromosomes will always be XY, regardless of what he does to alter his body and appearance or how badly he believes that he was "born in the wrong body." Femaleness is not merely a feeling; it cannot be experienced by anyone who is not born into it. A man may be able to put estrogen into his body, he may be able to appear traditionally feminine (although it is often painfully easy to tell that he is not really a woman), and he may be able to get surgeries to alter his body so that it looks more like a woman's, but what he cannot do is actually be a woman. He knows absolutely nothing about actual femaleness and never will because it is literally impossible for him, as someone who is inherently male, to do so. He can only pretend. I will never understand why some people find that so difficult to accept, or why it has become an offensive thing to say.

I feel the need to be mean about this because of how ridiculous of an issue it is. 🤦‍♀️

[femsolid]

"They found that teachers give different amounts and types of attention to different genders. Boys were called on more than girls and asked more challenging questions, particularly in STEM subjects. If they hesitated, teachers were more likely to give them more time or reframe the question. With girls, they were more likely to repeat it and ask someone else. Other studies have confirmed that boys get more attention from teachers throughout school. They are much more likely to get verbal and nonverbal attention from gym teachers specifically. This attention disparity reinforces, and is likely driven by, the idea that boys are “naturally” more aggressive while girls are more submissive; where boys demand attention (and are expected to demand more attention), girls are told to wait quietly for it. 

Studies have also found that boys and girls are praised for different things. Girls’ work is more often praised for physical appearance, like neatness, rather than content. They are often rewarded for success where boys are praised just for effort. They are also criticized more for incorrect answers while boys are praised more for correct answers. When it comes to behavior, girls are more often praised for good behavior (even if it isn’t related to the task or lesson) while boys are criticized more for bad behavior. This all reinforces the bias that girls’ effort and knowledge is less important than appearance and success. This may explain the trend of girls having higher GPAs than boys; from a young age, they are taught to hold themselves to a different standard, and to associate their self worth with their grades since they are praised for success and results rather than effort or knowledge. 

These differences in treatment impact what students think they are capable of. Boys are more likely to enroll in STEM classes and take higher level versions of those classes. As a result, there are significantly less women in STEM fields, which contributes to the bias that boys are better at math and science despite brain scans proving this to be false. While boys are often pushed into higher paying career roles (engineers, doctors and lawyers), girls are more often pushed into lower paying career roles that emphasize the stereotypically feminine role of caretaking (like nurses or teachers). It may be that women dominate these lower paying careers because they are seen as better suited for low paying jobs, or that these jobs are seen as women’s work and therefore undervalued in terms of pay. Regardless, the point stands; the subtle differences in how teachers treat students has a major impact. The wage gap still stands at around 82 cents to every dollar a man makes."

Sexism starts in the classroom

Article 26 of the United Nations’ Universal Declaration of Human Rights proclaims that everyone has the right to an equal education regardle

[ihave7mmalesinmybasement]

In the complex and often oppressive web of patriarchal structures, religion has long been a powerful tool wielded by males to subjugate, control, and harm women and girls. From the outset, most major world religions were established by males, for the benefit of males. These religions enshrine misogynistic values and practices, perpetuating the belief that women and girls are inherently inferior and exist only to serve males. Sacred texts, interpreted through a patriarchal lens, are rife with commandments that demand women and girls to obey their fathers, husbands, and even sons. These texts provide divine justification for the systemic oppression of women and girls ensuring that female subjugation is not only normalized but sanctified. Women and girls are cast as property, valued only for their ability to serve males through domestic labor, sexual availability, and childbearing. The doctrine of submission, often cited by religious males, is a cornerstone of this oppressive framework. On TikTok, you have males making slideshows and talking about that a woman's primary role is to cook, clean, and submit to her husband. The idea of female submission is a form of control. It strips women and girls of their autonomy and reduces them to mere extensions of their husbands' wills. This toxic belief is reinforced through religious rituals, community expectations, and legal structures in many societies. It creates an environment where abuse, both physical and emotional, is not only possible but often goes unchallenged, as women are taught that enduring such treatment is a virtue.

[ihave7mmalesinmybasement]

Being born a female is enough. I don’t have to wear make-up or shave my hair to conform to societal expectations of femininity in order to be recognized as a female. My entire existence is enough.

[catticalfeminism]

it’s frustrating how “feminism” now seems to cater to everyone except actual women. our issues are being pushed aside, and we’re expected to just go along with it.

being a woman is more than just a label, and it’s not something that can be claimed without living our reality. we deserve our own spaces, our own voices, and the respect that comes with them. feminism needs to center women, not bend over backward for everyone else.

[kkoffin]

The most beautiful and amazing thing a woman can do with her body can do is be living. That’s enough. That’s insane. Acne forming, gaining weight from eating, skin becoming droopy and wrinkles forming are only signs of being alive.

You are not a doll, with a fixed, plastic-moulded body and face. your body will change, and move.

Being alive means running through fields, having picnics, jumping, swimming, petting animals, breathing, talking, writing, admiring views, learning, thinking, engaging with interests.

Your body is enough. Don’t do something to your body if it prevents you from being as alive as you can, because that’s the most amazing part. New breasts or a thinner body is never worth the life you can live. Nature doesn’t care. It only matters to people who shouldn’t matter to you.

waterfalls and foxes and grass and the sun doesn’t care. your favourite TV show or book doesn’t care.

[acknowledgebiology]

Something I've noticed about TRAs is that they are literally the epitome of hypocrisy.

They claim to advocate for inclusivity and to disapprove of discrimination based solely on someone's beliefs, yet see no wrong in treating people who don't agree with them on the issue of transgenderism with the highest level of disrespect and contempt, nor do many of them seem to have a problem with using threats of violence to silence dissent, as they are aware that at this point they will ultimately face little to no consequences for doing so. In fact, they believe that in doing so they are performing some heroic deed, justifying their actions by claiming that they only do it to protect people while refusing to acknowledge that they're actually doing the opposite.

They claim to oppose gender stereotypes (particularly those regarding appearance), yet when arguing with a non-TRA on the issue of, say, a biological man claiming to be a woman, they will immediately say something along the lines of "You're ridiculous for calling 'her' a man; 'she' looks more womanly than you!" or, for the opposite scenario, "It makes no sense for you to call 'him' a woman; 'he' has a flat chest, a deep voice, and facial hair!" So we aren't allowed, for example, to say that it's completely absurd for someone to claim to be the opposite sex while not at least putting any effort into looking the part—since, according to them, a woman or a man is anyone who identifies as a woman or a man and to say otherwise is bigotry—but they're allowed to say that simply possessing the physical features associated with the sex a "trans" person claims to be is enough and that people should use a "trans" person's appearance as an indicator? These ideologies completely contradict each other. Do they really believe that "gender is a social construct"? Clearly not, since they rely so heavily on the gender stereotypes they supposedly believe shouldn't exist even to support their own arguments. They just use that phrase to make themselves look intelligent and philosophical.

You can't just say that one way of thinking is correct at one point and then—to prevent yourself from getting confused about the unnecessary and nonsensical complicatedness of your own ideology—say that a different way of thinking is correct at another point.

[burningtheroots]

The idea that women deny "transwomen" their womanhood is ridiculous, and also proves our point further.

You can‘t deny someone something that is innate to them. When you‘re actually a woman — female —, you don’t need anyone else‘s validation or approval. People may treat you better or worse based on the stereotypes and misogyny they believe in, but your womanhood remains innate & independent. Your womanhood is simply you being an adult female human being. Womanhood isn‘t something you "achieve", and it certainly isn’t a choice, or a "gender" (—> social construct).

"Transwomen" aren’t denied womanhood by anyone — they‘ve been denied womanhood in the moment they were conceived. As male.

[no-just-hell-no]

Protect trans kids. But please, dont investigate what happens in childrens gender clinics. Please dont do any research on puberty blockers. And please, dont why the numbers of trans identified youth skyrocketed over the last past years. We don't really need to know why some people regret transistion, so don't tell the trans kids detransitioners exist. Don't let them hear those stories, don't do any research on why they thought they where trans but regret it now. Protect trans kids by never challenging their claims, never be cautious when you see homophobic parents who clearly show signs of transhausen by proxy. Don't be alarmed when doctors from a childrens hospital talk about how puberty blockers ata certain age will render them unable to orgasm. Just hand out puberty blockers and hormones and send them off to surgery, but please don't ask why, don't ask if this is safe, don't ask what will happen in 10, 20 or more years, because, they are so vulnerable, we need to protect them.

[acknowledgebiology]

Wow! What a womanly thing to say! Real women definitely threaten people who don't entertain their delusions with violence and flaunt the fact that they were once a man (which is absolutely possible). And it's not like the entire point of transgenderism is to separate oneself from their biological sex or anything like that. If you're MTF it totally makes sense for you to stay intact with your male self and mention as often as possible that you still have male characteristics and could use them to hurt someone who doesn't agree with you. I suppose it really is us "cis" women who aren't acting womanly enough. 🥺

[animentality]

[butterflyrocks]

One of the things to say about surrogacy [there are a lot of things to say about this topic], is not only that it commodifies women's bodies, it also denies body autonomy to every woman, by using the argument of the right to have a family (in this case a biological one).

Let's start with the basics. Having a family is not a right. It's a desire.

Having a family is something that happens if you have the means to make it happen (you and your partner are able to have kids, neither of you are infertile, you have enough money to take care of a child...), and everyone involved is okay with it {you and your partner want to have children and are okay with it}.By no means having a family is something anyone is entitled to.

But using this rhetoric of the right to have a family makes men think that they are indeed entitled to form a family (a biological one), and that makes them entitled to women's bodies.

And entitlement to women's bodies has consequences [rape, anti-abortions laws (that deny body autonomy to the woman), emotional manipulation...]

Surrogacy is using the body of another woman, usually one without resources to have a biological child, because you think you are entitled to it. But this rhetoric used here, like I have said above, not only hurts the women in surrogacy, it hurts all of us.

What happens with women that are fertile but don't want kids? If their boyfriends want kids, they feel entitled to them too. It isn't uncommon to hear stories of boyfriends emotionally manipulating their girlfriends to have kids instead of being reasonable human beings and realizing that their expectations of the future are not compatible and they should part ways.

[honeyblankets]

i am so sick of the blame/accountability always landing on the woman no matter the situation.

a woman’s nudes leaked? why did she take them in the first place?

a woman is assaulted? what was she wearing?

a woman has trauma from sex work? why would she enter that work to begin with?

why is a woman labelled as having “daddy issues” instead of a man labelled as a bad father?

why is a woman pressing charges against her assaulter “ruining his future” but assaulting a woman is not?

[lavendermenacing]

Like y’all it’s not an accident that the aspects of womanhood which are constantly emphasized today as vital to the “identity” are the ones that men can access if they choose to.

Men can buy makeup, can wear clothes marketed to women, can participate in beauty rituals typically required of women, can have tendencies towards “feminine” things. Some men can do these things and be read as women in some situations. These experiences are held up as innate to womanhood, as some sort of “feminine identity” despite the fact that they don’t even apply to many women.  These things are not innate or inevitable, are actively harmful to women, and many of us choose to discard them if we are in a position to do so. But we have men musing genuinely that because they liked dresses and dolls as a kid, or have some notion of “feeling like a woman” (based only on the limited experiences of ours they can access, again) they were a woman all along.

You know what’s not held up as important to womanhood? Having a female body, facing issues related to female reproductive health, and undergoing female socialization as a child. These things are facing lashback for being suggested to be experiences of women at all. Why? Because men cannot access them. They do not happen to men. And because they don’t happen to men, they aren’t valued, they in fact need to be silenced for interrupting the views some men have of themselves as being women.

The parts of womanhood that men can access, the physical trappings of it that they themselves forced on us, are the important parts. The parts they can’t access must necessarily be denigrated as unimportant, no matter the impact these aspects have on the lives and wellbeing of women. It is the only way their misogynistic ideology can work.

[sleevebuscemii]

so sick of this backtracking of feminism being led by OTHER WOMEN. these (wealthy conventionally attractive white) women are sending us back to the stone ages as a ‘lifestyle trend’ because nothing is at stake for them like ok. you gave up and decided to be some sugar daddys tradwife. fine whatever. KEEP THAT SHIT TO YOURSELF. you actually loooooove makeup and shaving and cooking for your husband with ribbons in your hair and your dream has always been to be a stay at home mom who makes organic granola. nothing wrong with that fundamentally but keep it to your fucking self!!!!!!!! stop imposing it like this is a base level of womanhood stop promoting it as the ideal lifestyle for other women stop letting the patriarchy use you as an example as to why women should be and are actually happy in the stereotypical roles theyve been cornered into for centuries. fuck OFF.

[read-books-by-women]

Women's pain is entertainment for men. If the women is sexy or if the nature of her suffering is sexual (such as rape) or just easy to sexualize, it's porn. If the woman is not sexy or the suffering doesn't lend itself to sexualization, it's comedy.

[patinaed-heart-deactivated20240]

You don't see transmen overwhelmingly bogarting their way into male spaces, locker rooms, group therapy, gay clubs, or demanding that males stop talking about their anatomy and life experiences. You don't see 5'4" transmen threatening to beat up 6' cismales in a bathroom, or trying to worm their way into men's shelters.

And you know full well why.