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a collective awakening happening on tiktok

233k likes and the comments were all agreeing, looks like women are starting to care less and less about terf accusations which is a good start 👀

bubbtub

I'm seeing pushback but it's from Exhibit A type of people throwing about accusations so they're digging themselves into an even deeper hole.

Hopefully, people start realizing that having a specific, derogatory, word for gender critical women, while it's males that commit the vast majority of violence against trans identifying individuals is not a coincidence. They stop using it to shut down all productive conversations, and then we can finally retake feminism back.

Without the humiliation ritual that is a thousand disclaimers before we even speak, that is.

vintage-bentley

I mean, labor and work always has to exist and the i dont dream of labor quote is more of a rail against making work your life, like in the US and Japan in extreme cases, and getting to live life. Like, most people even leftists don't mind work. They just wish that they got paid more than the leeches in the c-suite.

Also, legalizing sex work would make it easier to protect women who have been trafficked and punish their traffickers

That’s why the Nordic model exists. Legalise the work, criminalise the buying. The goal is to end the demand.

germananon

Legalising prostitution absolutely does not make it easier to protect women or punish traffickers. It makes it really easy to protect traffickers, who are now entrepeneurs and respectable businessmen and get to sit in talkshows to tell the world how great prostitution is until they get sentenced for all the trafficking they've been doing the whole time years later. It makes it so women who want out have no one to turn to because it's a normal job and you don't get help leaving a normal job. It makes it so the government would rather publish a brochure on how not to get murdered in prostitution than address the rampant murder of women in prostitution.

What makes it easier to protect women who have been trafficked is to give them help and support and a way out of prostitution, unconditional asylum, and criminalisation of everyone who benefits from their trafficking, whether it's traffickers, pimps or johns.

gandalfismyfather

I live in a country where it is legal but can attest it is not treated as a "job". Trafficked women can not be legally charged, the rapists ("clients") and pimps can though.

There was a statistic on radblr (don't recall who posted it) stating that a third of women inmates in the USA where jailed for prostitution. Don't know if it is true but you get the idea.

Hence why OP said that the Nordic model protects women, they do not risk jail time, the men do. The Nordic model is not the German one where "purchasing" aka raping those women is legal. It penalizes men but not trafficked ladies. Associations and social help is available for vulnerable women while prostitution is legal.

vintage-bentley

When leftists discuss work, we are very quick to point out that work is not enjoyable. Nobody enjoys stocking shelves all day every day, or dealing with customers, or having to show up to work every day for hours to provide a service. But as soon as “sex work” is being discussed, the tune changes. Suddenly, workers enjoy work. They want to show up to work and provide a service—sex—for hours. “Sex workers” love sex which is why they monetise it, so you’re actually doing them a favour by purchasing their service (sex)!

This is because as soon as you frame “sex work” the same way as any other work, it quickly begins to look like rape. Unwilling women forced to show up to work to afford to live, hating every second of the labour they provide by having sex (being raped) for hours with/by customers who treat them like shit (while raping them). Leftists understand, even if they don’t admit it, that sex is different than any kind of work you can name. And that as soon as it’s unwilling, it’s rape, even if a man pays a woman to stay quiet about it. But they believe that it’s so very important for men to be allowed to buy women, so instead of accepting that “sex work” is rape, they change the narrative about work only when discussing “sex work” so they don’t have to experience cognitive dissonance.

honeyblankets

the reality of sex ‘work’ is that millions of women and girls are being sexually abused, raped, beaten, killed, trafficked, kidnapped by men globally. the depiction/face of sex work being mega-rich women on OF is an intentional lie to draw criticism of sex work to these ‘privileged’ women instead of the men buying and raping girls. stop talking about sex work like it’s anything but one of the most violent and powerful forms of female oppression

antiporn-activist

Calling it “sex work” doesn’t help much. That’s adopting the language of the oppressive system. Multiple exited women have requested that we retire that term.

fidnru

“Rape is sexual harassment escalated to the level of physical violence. ‘The war of the sexes’ - as it used to be so cutely called - is about power. It has striking parallels to the wars of nations. As Karl von Clausewitz once put it, ‘All know that wars are caused only by the political relations of governments and of nations; but ordinarily one pictures the situation as if, with the beginning of the war, these relations cease and a totally new situation is created…. On the contrary…war is nothing but the continuation of political relations, with the intervention of other means.’ Rape/sexual harassment is nothing but the continuation of sexual politics - the unequal power relationship between men and women - and it is there that we must make a change.”

— ‘She aked for it!’ Did She? by Carol Hanisch (via philosophy-lesbian)

catfinancier

does anyone have that post about OSHA compliant sex work? something about a dude who shows up to a guy's house in full ppe to give him a dry handjob

radfem-woman

femanthropy

just watched an episode on a serial rapist where a 18 year old girl was told by a policeman he’d put her in jail himself if she was lying, so she quickly changed her story & was fined $500. Years later a serial rapists computer was found where he documented all of these eapes & a photograph of her in the circumstance of her story was right there. “False reports” well I wonder how many “false reports” are true. & men are more likely to be raped than falsely accused also.

tomboydweeb

I've been saying. "False reports" are true reports that were recanted due to threats.

femanthropy

Yep!!! & I honestly hadn’t thought of that.

niiwa-angel

Police officers are also often abusers themselves, so what they consider "assault" against a woman is incredibly skewed.

kinvadel

For more information about this issue, check out Victim/Suspect (trailer) a Netflix documentary that follows the investigation by journalist Rachel de Leon on the disturbing pattern of young women going to the police to report they've been sexually assaulted, only to find themselves charged with the crime of making a false report.

End Violence Against Women International (EVAWI) has an informative publication on this issue called "Raped, Then Jailed: The Risks of Prosecution for Falsely Reporting Sexual Assault", which includes the case example of the 18-year old OP is referencing:

Sexual assault (SA) crimes are difficult to investigate and substantiate, and the police are pressured to "close cases", the easiest method for SA reports is to get the victim to recant her statement, thereby providing evidence for them to charge her with a false report which is a 100% slam dunk way of closing a brand new case.

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lambdoctrines

reminds me of a dateline episode i was listening to - they were trying to talk about a young girl who had been prostituted as a teenager, and despite her being a minor they still said that she was a "sex worker"

it's not *destigmatizing* to use language that actively harms victims. "work" implies that it's a choice, that it's a necessary thing happening to these girls/women that society just needs to accept. it completely erases the reality of what happens to women stuck in prostitution and how devastating and destructive it is to their lives

hugewoman

It’s language that intentionally covers up and sanitizes the ugliness and the cruelty and the abuse and the crimes. It’s a thought-terminating cliché, designed to be an easily repeatable slogan that makes you stop thinking critically and examining the subject further.

If you’re trying to talk about trafficked girls and your audience has someone in it who has been conditioned to believe the only morally upright and correct way to refer to any position in the sex trade is specifically as a “sex worker”, then they’re going to get up in arms about you referring to them as prostitutes or sex slaves, and you’re going to get derailed every time before you ever manage get to your point

That person is never going to hear about the child sex slaves, either because they interrupted the person trying to tell them about them to correct them on the terminology or because they were so steamed about it they stopped listening and labeled them a swerf, as if that actually means anything at all

Meanwhile they’re literally serving pimps and traffickers agendas with the language they’re choosing to use, simply because they like the sound of it better

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its-terf-or-nothin

This! A lot of the most popular porn categories fetishize men abusing women. Painal, beating, choking, etc. Men definitely know porn is unethical, they’re not clueless, they just don’t care and will defend anything that turns them on.

balkanradfem

I saw a video today about why making an OnlyFans was a bad idea for women, and it had something insigtful in it I never actually thought about. It was re-told from someone's personal experience and it wasn't what I'd expect to happen.

The woman in the video explains that a lot of women's expectations was to only be doing it for a short while, until they get out of a bad situation, and then quit, being more financially stable and on their feet. She explains that even if you have only 12 subscribers, that is 12 m*n who are used to having continuous intimate access to you, and if you one day decide to stop, they are immediately going to get offended and upset. Because they've been paying for this, they'll feel entitled to keep having continuous access, and they'll find a way to make it happen.

She then goes on to say that if you want to make money at all, you'll have to show your face in the videos, and they'll be able to use AI tools to find your identity almost immediately. What happens next is they find your friends, family members, and your job site, and blackmail you; you either return to onlyfans, or they send the content to everyone you know. And if you say no, they will harass all your friends and family, and if you get any kind of job, this will get harassed too. Women then face the immense pressure of having not just themselves, but everyone in their life harassed to the point where they can't stand it anymore, and return to OnlyFans just to make it stop. They'll become isolated and have everyone in their life turned against them.

This effectively stops them for having any other kind of job or profession because it's impossible to stop the subscribers from finding out and sabotaging the entire thing. She explained a woman was put through this and forced to continue onlyfans, when she only had 12 subscribers. Two of them were blackmailing her. So thinking you can try it out and get out, you can't really, it's not just that the content might get out, but you're entire family and friend group and coworkers and job site might get involved.

The other meaningful fact she brings on is that you are unlikely to reach any success if you look like an adult women; it only works if you can pass as a child. I can't link the video because in the other half she berates women, and I don't want that content on my blog, but I found this story important, because it wouldn't cross my mind how big the danger is. I didn't know that if you get even one crazy subscriber, it's impossible to quit.

The other thing I saw women who previously had an OnlyFans account say, is how awful it was for their mental health, and the perception of their own bodies. They noted that even if it felt okay at the start, it keeps feeling worse and worse and they were deteriorating the entire time it was going on. It's impossible to not be affected. And the general, putting yourself in the harm's way, getting stalked, having to move often, having m*n break into your place, and delude themselves into thinking you want them and are specifically interested in them so any invasion in your life is welcome and warranted, is something women might not be aware they're exposing themselves to.

The woman in the video did note that most women don't even decide to do it themselves, but get groomed and pressured by promises of money and then someone else profits off of them. I think women should know exactly what it is and what is likely to happen to them, on top of the violation of intimacy they know they'll have to endure if they join.

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butterflyrocks

Never disrespect another woman.

Even more if you are a radical feminist.

You should acknowledge that women have been oppressed and degraded throughout all history and you continuating that abuse and degradation, specially when you don't agree with what she thinks or what she does is doing the dirty work for the patriarchy.

You should try to understand her, try to have a dialogue if you can, try to change her point of view if you want¹. And if you don't you let her live her life and don't expose her to more insults. That's just plainly misogynistic.

The moment you attack a woman because she disagrees with you, you are eroding your own rights and giving men the tools to attack you, and don't be surprised when women do it to. Patriarchy has always used this strategy against us, putting ua against each other, we can see when they try to pit mothers against daughters, friends againts friends, strangers against strangers, the thing is that we don't focus in the bigger issue.

So please, try to not fall for this and respect all of our sisters.

1. This doesn't mean that you can not try to help her. You can always advocate for things that would help her even if she, in that moment, doesn't want them, like I already said, the continuous abuse can affect her in a lot of ways, and also, remember to always advocate for them from a respectful and humane point of view.

i-was-a-naive--antifeminist

Obstetric violence is institutional violence. Break the silence.

katvontea

It really shouldn’t surprise us then that the US has one of the worst maternal mortality rates among 49 other developed countries. 20-50% of those deaths were found by the CDC to be from preventable causes such as hemorrhage, severe high blood pressure, and infection to which the popularity of the C-section has exacerbated. Some hospitals deliver as many as 70% of births by C-Section, due ENTIRELY to the delivery unit’s convenience, described as “pro-active”, and not because it’s a medically necessary procedure.

Black women are 3-4 times more likely to die in childbirth, dying at the same rates as women in Mexico or Uzbekistan.[x] It’s not a coincidence why many black mothers are turning to doulas and midwivery [x][x] more than other races - provided they’re in a position to get it. This is backed up by the US Department of Health and Human Services, CDC, and the National Center for Health Statistics - home birth and midwifery is providing better care and lower risks of maternal mortality.

We have a problem with misogyny in healthcare, and the United States is in absolutely no hurry to fix it.

The Grad Student Shuffle- Christ Fleming

throesofincreasingwonder

barbievspredator

I’m always saying this: men don’t have political beliefs. Men are self serving and the only thing they care about is their own convenience and interest.

shinpaishite

a thing that really shook me was the study where women performed worse in a math test when they were wearing a swimsuit vs a sweater whereas for men there was no difference. objectification literally diminishes your brain capacity. i can't help but wonder what we could be in a truly liberated society because there's no way that how we are raised to be objectified and to even self objectify hasn't thoroughly poisoned our brains to always underperform even in normal clothes.

female-malice

Okay now think of how many sports expect women to compete in revealing uniforms

Think about how that might be effecting performance outcomes

femme3fatale

I highly advise every woman to read ‚Objectification Theory‘ by Frederickson and Roberts (they also did the swimsuit study mentioned above to prove their assumptions). It’s a detailed explanation on how the sexualized male gaze and sexual objectification affect women‘s psychological state. The effect described above is explained by them as a result of constant body monitoring caused by self-objectification, which basically takes up a major chunk of our attentional resources and impairs our cognitive performance.

leftistfeminista

And now you have Elon Musk's Grok AI allowing Alt-Right misogynists to virtually put women in bikinis against their will. In what once was as Twitter the global town square of political discussion. It is the same attempt to keep women too focused on sexual harassment and the male gaze to focus on what is important.

We see how it impacts women's abilities to focus on academics and sports. But what about even our ability to politically engage and make political change? In both the virtual and real worlds, misogynist fascists find these outfits the best way to keep our minds off politics.

Users of AI image generators are offering each other instructions on how to use the tech to alter pictures of women into realistic, revealin

In the policy of the Argentine and Chilean military Juntas to keep leftist women political prisoners in nothing but skimpy underwear. It was not just a humiliation tactic and security precaution, although it was that. It was about exactly this- "The effect described above is explained by them as a result of constant body monitoring caused by self-objectification, which basically takes up a major chunk of our attentional resources and impairs our cognitive performance."

While women do have the freedom to wear what clothing we want. We have to ask why are there certain types of clothing, that military dictatorships think is the best weapon against women making revolution?

This very important Harvard paper by Dr. Barbara Sutton demonstrates how feminine beauty practices was literally used as torture against leftist women. As a way to control us so we couldn’t even think of politics-

Beauty is the last word that comes to mind when thinking about the state-run torture centers that proliferated under authoritarian regimes i

In listening to women’s testimonies, I learned that feminine beauty products, including makeup, hair removal wax and nail polish, became available in at least some of the camps. Relatedly, survivor Isabel Fernández Blanco also spoke about a kind of “rehabilitation” directed to some detainees in El Olimpo: in one of the offices of this CDC, “women painted their nails, combed their hair [. . . .] I suppose that the compañeras who were in charge of taking us out and bringing us to the GT2 Office were in charge of rehabilitating us, right? But nobody ever talked about politics either, or . . . anything. As I tell you, it was mere . . . nail painting” (Memoria Abierta, Testimonio de Isabel Fernández Blanco, Buenos Aires, 2005). As many of the detainees were activists, the absence of political talk and the presence of beauty practices is especially significant. The activist body was apparently to be replaced, in the case of women, by a domesticated, conventionally beautiful, feminine body.

Survivor Graciela García said that it was at ESMA that some women started to engage in certain beauty practices, such as the removal of body hair and the use of cosmetics. The result contrasted with the look that Graciela described as typical for women in her activist circles: jeans, sneakers, and sweaters that were similar to the attire of activist men. Graciela explained how in a situation as grim as the one in the camps, it makes sense to look for something that “would make you smile.” She added: “I think that it was one of the first times that we used makeup, and waxed ourselves, and looked at the color of our hair” (Memoria Abierta, Testimonio de Graciela García, Buenos Aires, 2007). While many beauty practices function as disciplining mechanisms—and can be conceived as particularly oppressive when performed to live up to repressors’ expectations—Graciela also hinted at the pleasurable aspect of these practices, of this particular way of “caring” for the body in a place where the body was the site of torture, humiliation and pain. In its capacity to produce a smile, beauty could also acquire a more resistant meaning associated with survival.

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