Mean, Opinionated Woman

At any time, you are one “hot take” away from being labeled a “TERF”, regardless of who you are. And I know you know what “hot take” that is, because you’re already afraid to say it.

[kkoffin]

Update: I have turned reblogs back on, no thanks to tumblr staff, but because the person spamming constant sexually violent threats has gotten bored. I will once again see reblogs, hooray.

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Last updated: 18/12/25 - Hyperlinks for each topic to posts which address my stance in more detail, still WIP

Radical feminist - ALL women are my priority, above ALL else, including male feelings. Liberal vs radical feminism, why i am both and why both are good + why “libfem” is too good a term for those people.

Law and Criminology student with a focus on domestic and gendered violence Law posts The actual consequences of the UK supreme court decision for trans people

Secular Jewish and ex-muslim

Ex-trans-identified Gen-crit posts Transing historical women who suffer from misogyny (not my post) intersex conditions dont equal third sex Suggest me your favourite pro-trans literature to read!!!

Pro-women, pro-gender non-conformity, pro-reproductive-rights, anti-capitalist Women's Health posts Ward off dementia The iron post

Anti-Porn/Porn industry + Kink-Critical Porn/kink-crit posts "What did kink ever do to you?"

Anti "sex work" industry

Anti beauty/cosmetic surgery industry Anti-beauty industry posts Stop spending your youth on beauty do sudoku instead of beauty routines if you want to stay young

Literature lover (classic, gothic and feminist) Radfem fiction literature recommendations Herland Corrag Suggest me pro-trans theory to read!!! Other reading-related posts Non-book-store-genre-books Criticism of women's reading

Tea and herb lover

Not dianic wiccan, but I love + respect the literature and learning about the practice/history

My other blogs are k-coffin (shadowbanned or something) and carmillafem (backup + Reading threads account)

As you may have seen (twice in this post) I am open to reading and have read what pro-trans literature I've gotten my hands on!! If you think I'm a hateful, uneducated bigot, send me your recommendation of sourced pro-trans theory and I WILL add it to my reading list! (Assuming it's not "gender and sex isn't real because nothing is real" post-modern. Sorry, just pretty sick of it, and I don't take it seriously when women suffer in material reality, not in "constructed truths")

[kkoffin]

hey PinkNews let me fix ur title

Sarah Jane Baker, who was in prison for kidnapping, raping and torturing a 19 year old for over 24 hours, leaving the 19 year old tied up in wire in a closet to die, was given an extended sentence (he only served 30 years total, he’s now free, and has been since 2019, before this article was written) for attacking a prisoner he had a personal feud with. the other prisoner happened to also be a child sex offender.

[kkoffin]

btw his pfp on facebook rn his him bragging about being in a female-only space.

[average-tim-post]

So tims should get a free pass to shoot his parents over the annoyance of cancelling an appointment for which he can reschedule. But if I call an adult human male a man then EYE am the social murderer? Make it make sense

[kkoffin]

off topic but ai overview for a criminal case is deranged. i don’t care how you feel about the environment and whatever else but good god, do not trust AI with literal criminal allegations PLEASE

[kkoffin]

Every day I remember that post about TIMs opening tumblr and having like a corpse wave of their brothers in harm descend upon them and can't help laughing. They're so overdramatic for nothing.

i don’t consider myself fond of making fun of them but this and “if you’re wondering why they’re stopping trans people from leaving the country [putting M on their entirely valid passports] then look at what hitler did to the jews before he started the holocaust” is just too much.

most of the time it’s fucking infuriating when they act like they’re literally being put in camps and executed because it comes at the cost of literally any respect for actual persecuted minorities and their very real injustices, making a total (not funny) joke out of their suffering, but sometimes they’re just so over the top, it’s like a south park episode and you can only laugh. getting banned from tumblr for breaking TOS is literally an execution. you are dead and gone forever. having M/F on ur passport identifying ur sex (like literally everyone else does) is literally equivalent to “JUDE” stamps. what a world to live in.

all humour aside, it does genuinely remind me of when i was a child, my aunt worked in a psych ward, and she explained to me how her patients live in a very scary world, where they believe they are never safe because the government is out to get them, or they’ve got assassins trained on them, or they’ve got demons living in the walls. back on topic, this is obviously merely delusion, and for some, they’re just being dramatic because they want to win oppression olympics. however: i can only imagine the horror it instills into psychologically unwell people who see these posts. there are people who live in entirely unnecessary terror, believing they are being hunted and targeted by murderers and the government.

no one in their community will tell them “it’s okay. you don’t need to be afraid. no one is out to get you, no one is going to put you in a camp.”. they will just be pushed into further terror. this also applies to children. “protect trans kids” meanwhile they convince them they are constantly in mortal danger from the government, their parents and even their therapists. it’s not a shock they have high suicide rates when they believe they’re a cow to slaughter and if they aren’t granted a full and free hormone treatment, bottom surgery and facial reconstruction then they’re doomed to be depressed forever. i wanted to kill myself too when i was told “you want to kill yourself and you will never get better” over and fucking over

[kkoffin]

i think about this a lot.

[kkoffin]

big shout out to Italian too

[kkoffin]

i think about this a lot.

[thehairiestfeminist]

Let me describe to you what kind of world gender abolitionists actually dream about:

When a child would be born it’s biological sex, being an actual physical reality, would be noticed but not a single assumption regarding the child’s personality would be made based on it.

Growing up, children would be free to chose what toys and clothes they prefer. If they want to play with toy trucks or dolls, it would be fine either way. If they want to dress comfortably or in frilly colorful dresses, it would be fine.

Certain personality traits would not be encouraged in members of one sex and discouraged in the other. Females would be free to be strong, brave and assertive and males would not be shamed for being shy and soft spoken.

No female child would be called a tomboy and no male child would be called a sissy. No kid would ever be bullied for what we in our gendered world call “gender expression”.

When children would reach puberty they would still be free to dress how they want. Females would not be pressured to wear clothes that reveal their bodies and males would not be shamed if they chose to. Everybody would have a free choice of accessories, which would not be categorized as “men’s” or “women’s” but people could should whichever they liked. Or chose to not wear accessories at all if that’s what they are more comfortable with.

Females would not be pressured to keep their bodies slim, soft and hairless. Males would not be pressured to be athletic and muscular. Expectations of femininity and masculinity upon the body would not exist and affect negatively people’s relationship with their own body.

Everyone could choose a career without fearing stigmatization within that particular field because of their biological sex. The most important thing would be competence and not what someone has between their legs.

Domestic work would not be considered “women’s work” and would be shared equally between the sexes.

Biological sex would only be thought about when relevant. And everyone would be free to be themselves without ever having to worry about gender expectations. Nobody would feel the need to repress certain parts of their personality and exaggerate others in order to fit into some gender role that is being forced on them.

Gender abolitionism is not about restricting people’s choices but about giving them greater freedom.

- http://burningax.wordpress.com/2014/10/06/a-gender-free-world-boring/

[thehorseshoetheorist]

My biggest takeaway from Invisible Women is you cannot read it and maintain the delusion that women are oppressed on the basis of gender rather than sex.

Medication, crash test dummies, office temperature - these things affect you on the basis of your sex, and claiming a different gender doesn't change any of it, nor does it challenge the systems and structures that are built to put women at a disadvantage. If every woman on earth woke up tomorrow and realized they were non-binary or trans men, they would still be at a significant disadvantage compared to men.

We have to fight female oppression on the basis of sex, or all we'll do is change the label for which half of the population is default and which is afterthought without any actual change.

[manhatingfascist-deactivated202]

not our culture. never will be.

[safije]

Jeans, t-shirts, leggings and mini skirts aren't originally part of India's, Iran's or Somalia's culture either, yet I do not see you making a comparison complaining about that, even though westernization is WAY more prevalent than the niqab in most of these countries mentioned. It's almost like you just have a problem with Arabs or something...

By the way, face covering IS part of Gulf Arab culture.

It also says a lot that you cherry picked images of women without headcoverings like the example for Bosnia even though headscarves are part of Balkan folk clothing including for Christians like Greeks and Serbs. You clearly don't know anything.

[manhatingfascist-deactivated202]

The difference is that no one's forced to wear jeans or tshirts you moron. I'm an ex muslim from india and I live in a predominantly muslim village. I still get judgemental looks when I wear pants. I can't walk around my neighborhood without a shawl on my head because I get stopped by random grown ass men and women who slutshame me for not wearing one. Yes it's a "choice". But made at what cost? How much of a choice is there when the only alternative is to suffer humiliation and bullying? It might be a choice for you because you live in fucking Germany. Why don't you go live in Afghanistan or Iran to experience true freedom of choice?

And I don't have a problem with Arabs. I have a problem with arab imperialism. Because if they hadn't invaded our country and forced their barbaric religion on us, millions of girls like me wouldn't be forced into this fucking cult. You can all pretend that arab imperialism isn't real and that only the British invaded us but fact remains that both Arabs and the British irreparably damaged our country. I was taught to read and write arabic at the age of 6 by an ustad who would pinch my arm for every little mistake. so hard that it would bleed but I wasn't allowed to cry or complain because I'm learning a "holy language". At the age where I should've been eating mud, I learnt to hide my pain and smile. You tell us to learn your superior godly language and visit your godly worship site in Saudi Arabia and I'm supposed to pretend that shit is not imperialism?

I know face covering is a part of arab culture that's exactly why I tagged this as #arab imperialism ? I don't care about your culture. Just don't force that shit on us.

And I did not cherry pick pictures of women without head coverings tf ☠️ are you blind? there's like 5 or 6 women in that picture with head coverings.

Edit: also the implication that most people here wear jeans and t shirts ☠️ girl literally 95% of the non-Muslim women around me wear sarees and churidhars. there's women that wear jeans and t shirts but they get shamed for it. And the women that wear them do not stop wearing traditional clothes either. Even in my age group most girls wear churidhars.

[gluten-free-pussy]

Swinging at the hornets nest here (the “sex work is work” crowd won’t like this one lol) but there was a post going around about like “if you work in hospitality and you think you see a sex worker, no you didn’t. Keep your mouth shut and let them make their money” is honestly sending me. As many of you know, one of my jobs is working front desk at a hotel and like no lads…we can’t “look the other way” at times. Yes, we know when the working girls check in (many are regulars who are open about it, plus after working their long enough you Know™️ when a woman is because you can clock the signs) and of course we can’t stop them but there are times when you literally have to say something. Here are a couple of instances that have happened on my shifts alone:

-I was checking in two girls and knew something was off and asked to see both their ID’s. Only one had a passport and her 18th birthday was literally a week ago. The other one handed me her high school student card. We had to call the police when their pimp came in and started making threats bc we refused to check them in.

-a sex worker checked in the night before and a housekeeper went into the room the next morning and found the woman in a bloody mess. There were chunks of human tissue scattered throughout the room (the housekeeper quit after that. Honestly, housekeepers are literally on the front lines of the bullshit but that’s another story)

-something about a “couple” was offfffffff at check in. The woman was standing with her hands behind her back, had her eyes glued to the floor, and wouldn’t answer questions despite her name being on the reservation. The man was answering for her. When I asked to see her ID, he hands it to me, and when I handed it to her, her arms were covered in bruises. We didn’t let them check in

-there are two properties and one of them has an agreement with a women’s shelter. I’ve checked in women into one property only to see them come in months later to the other property under the womens shelters’ reservation with bruises and broken limbs (many of whom are indigenous women).

So yeah bottom line: with the World Cup soon approaching, all of us -front desk, maintenance, housekeeping, the kitchen staff, sales, you name it all departments- have had to do extensive modules on clocking the signs of human trafficking. You can’t just look the other way because it can mean missing the underaged girl or preventing horrific violence. Yes we have our regulars and yes sometimes it is what it is but no you can’t just look the other way and let them “secure the bag” because I guarantee there’s a pimp in the lobby/parking lot who’s the one getting the bag at her expense.

[kkoffin]

bisexualdarling deactivated???

appears so. apparently she was talking about leaving tumblr before due to her being sick of the way radblr treats jews and bisexuals

[kkoffin]

If you don't mind me asking, but what happened to bisexualdarling? Why did she deactivate?

i have no idea unfortunately. if anyone does know lmk

[kkoffin]

That person who sent you the ask about the poly family wasn’t clear- they don’t know the group IRL they’re talking about watching an episode of “love don’t judge” that went viral lmfao, anyway-

It’s nice to see a couple radfems posting things that aren’t “poly is disgusting and immoral and poly people need to be euthanized” or whatever the usual sentiment is (I’ve seen all of that before about a dozen times) because I’m a radfem lesbian in a poly relationship with two other radfem lesbians and genuinely it’s really nice, we’ve been together for a long time now. From the people we’ve spoken to it’s pretty consistent that same sex poly relationships work far, far better than heterosexual ones. I think it’s more common with gay men though, because it’s rare for us to find another lesbian group to talk to about our experience that isn’t completely overrun with TIMs.

im gonna b fr that sounds awesome and if it works then that's fantastic. genuinely so long as a polycule isn't unethical i don't see anyone's beef w it. let people do what they wanna do even if you think it'll cause them emotional distress, who give a fuck. if someone i knew said they wanted to join a polycule i'd think "ion think it'll work but whatever. good luck.". maybe that makes me an unsupportive debby downer but at least i'm not saying it's inherently WRONG for them to try

I did have a friend who kept returning to a poly relationship when clearly she was not build for polyamory. that did piss me off but only bc she was my best friend and it was pretty solidly my issue when she got suicidal about it for the hundredth time. i guess that's sorta an exception to the previously stated rule but even then, this is applying to a case where you are extremely close to the polyamory-attempter + you are personally affected by their decisions/mental health + there's solid historical evidence that this will almost certainly end badly

the only immoral comparison i could make would be to bdsm, in that it's what "two(or more) consenting parties choose to do behind closed doors" but unlike hitting and degrading ur parter, i dont think loving multiple people is gonna necessarily cause DV. tldr i'm yet to see a convincing argument as to why all polyamory is inherently wrong.

[kkoffin]

“if you think transwomen are a threat in female bathrooms you should just advocate for floor—to-ceiling individual cubicles” okay but we were fucking fine before bc women have super basic decency and respect for one another. but now, because you’re here, we can’t have a mutual trusting and safe space. now we all have to be high-security guarded against one another. now we gotta feel as though anyone around us could be a predator and we are entirely against the rest of the world.

taking female spaces away doesn’t just deprive women of safety, but also solidarity, dignity and trust. female spaces need to exist because men are consistently historically and statistically proven to be a threat, but also because women have been deprived the ability to exist and especially congregate without male supervision by all highly misogynistic societies, as women are safer and less vulnerable when they are together or know there are women who they can trust.

this obviously isn’t just about bathrooms. as it stands, in my country, women cannot form their own groups without a male being allowed in at any time. we are not allowed to formally congregate without male supervision.

“bathrooms are just where you pee and then come out!!” then use the male bathrooms if it matters that little. “but we might get assaulted” oh that’s crazy. imagine someone getting assaulted in a bathroom. i thought that never happens?? anyways, women and our spaces don’t exist to cushion male problems. you cannot remove the things we fought for the rights for because other males cause you problems.

[kkoffin]

i’m sick to death of seeing male cosmetic surgeons on social media with this “cunty” “gay best friend” personality, making jokes about being “snatched” and “skinni” knowing damn well they’re all fucking evil greedy misogynists.

i also regularly see them making jokes about their young female clients being with elderly and borderline abusive men. also jokes about “maybe a bbl will make you feel better”, “you aren’t ugly, you just need to get bread and come into my practice”

THESE MFS ARE EVIL!! THEY ARE FUCKING EVIL!!! i want to throw BRICKS THROUGH THEIR PRACTICE WINDOWS WHENEVER I SEE THEM!!! THEY ARE FUCKING LYING TO YOU THEY ARE PROFITING OFF FEMALE INSECURITY THEY WANT YOU TO FEEL FAT AND UGLY!! THEY WILL BUTCHER UR SURGERY AND THEN TELL YOU ITS SUPPOSED TO LOOK LIKE THAT!! MOTHER FUCKER THEY WILL KILL YOU!! THEY ARE NOT UR FRIEND THEY ARE TRYING TO MAKE YOU HATE YOURSELF!! THEY ARE THE FUCKING ENEMY TO ALL WOMEN!!

DO NOT CALL ME BESTIE, GIRLIE, WHATEVER!! I NEED YOU IN A CELL!!!!!!

EHEHE!! NOT EATING FOR 8 HOURS AND CLOTHING SO TIGHT IT RESTRICTS YOU IS SO CUTE AND “SNATCHED” HEHE!! ANYWAYS UR UGLY IF YOU DONT PAY THOUSANDS FOR A BBL!! AAAAHH

[coochiequeens]

i have no words

[chadradfem]

Urgh imagine your dying wish is to donate your body to medicine thinking that maybe you will give a child a new lease on life with a heart transplant or help someone whose liver is failing and then your skin ends up in some fetishistic, misogynistic male’s open wound… disgosteng

[coochiequeens]

@chadradfem those are the words I was looking for

[powerfem]

Wow this makes me so fucking mad. Alloderm is a very expensive material, because it comes from a donor of course, but also because of the process to make it. So expensive that they use a limited amount on burn victims, its intended use, only on very mobile areas or in very grave cases.

Imagine seeing person with the majority of their body burned, who isn't getting alloderm everywhere because it is very expensive, and then reading this 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬 Did you now that many times doctor struggle finding donor skin for burn patients? That can easily mean life or death.

[some-random-radfem]

Considering that I am currently struggling with kidney disease, I can not describe to you the levels of furious that this makes me on behalf of every person requiring any kind of life-saving organ donation at all. There aren't even words. The only real reaction I can think of besides writing this post is to throw every fetishistic TiM into a wood chipper, and then to start screaming and never, ever stop. 🤬🤬🤬

[some-random-radfem]

Sorry not sorry, but I have to share this again because someone posted something in the tags that is just making me RAGE at this TiM all over again.

This is so utterly infuriating to me ("this" referring to the dude's surgery, not the tagger's decision, just to be clear). When these fetishistic males do these things, when they go in for these purely elective surgeries, not only do they take organs away from potentially dying people who really need them for totally redundant and unnecessary purposes, but they also scare people off of becoming organ donors due to the fear of one's organs being used for this purpose once deceased. Yet, requirements for life-saving organ transplants are not going to disappear just because some disgusting male fetishist is pining for his own personal designer "vagina" (translation: open surgical wound). There are still going to be dying people who desperately need them. And now, because of the trans cult and their plastic surgery obsession, there are fewer of them to go around, and what's there may not even be used on them.

These men are so utterly, clinically narcissistic and self-centered that they are willing to let terminally ill or severely injured innocent people suffer and die because these misogynistic AGPs have decided that they want, idk, boob jobs or some shit.

Do you all understand my wood chipper comment now? 🤬🤬🤬

[ihatemenandtherearereasons]

Exhibit 1480

[yenneterf]

As someone who works in the field of tissue/eye donation, this shit absolutely infuriates me. Especially because of how difficult and opportunistic it can feel to speak to families (which I do!! daily!!!) about how life-saving tissue donation can be, and now knowing it can go to some man's fetishistic impulses. it breaks my heart.

these surgeries aren't life-saving. they're for men's sexual gratification. they're a waste of valuable tissue that could save the lives of burn victims. i'm livld.

[nansheonearth]

[kiefbowl]

I had to share this nugget from my morning scroll today