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Adjoa ≥ {sex educator, SRHR activist, nerdbomber, researcher, feminist, counselor, busybody, altruist, observer, dreamer, consumer, geek, scrabble fiend} You can learn more about me and connect with me in other spaces (here). I rage and share things & thoughts (here). I like a lot of stuff (here). You can ask me questions about life, sexual and reproductive health, activism, geekery, and more (here).

[subtlecluster]

(via Ask an Autistic - What Shouldn’t I Say to Autistic People? - YouTube)

[adjoa]

#NYC friends, save the date (02/03) & stay tuned for more details later this week on my upcoming event w/ @ppnycaction, Creating Space, Taking Space (#CSTS2015) on the role and experiences of men in the movements for #genderequity, sexual/repro health, rights & justice, and ending gender-based violence. We hope you'll join the conversation! #GBV #feminism #SRHRJ

[adjoa]

#regram from last week's #clinicescort shift where I met the new love of my life, @izzyadog! #socuteithurts #cheesingwaytoohard #protecthezone #wehaveadorablesupporters FROM @izzyadog: "Visiting my buddies at Planned Parenthood. Hi #plannedparenthood!"

[adjoa]

@TrixieFilms & I at #FeministKaraoke (or as Therese says Femeoke/Febrile Hastening) last night in honor of @huskiesforchoice's visit to NYC! #regram #imastrongman #whaaat

[adjoa]

Merry Christmas! #merryxmas #charliebrowntree #littletreeftw (at Chez RAR)

[adjoa]

Traveled to Worcester, MA tonight to speak about sexuality myths through a social justice lens at an event hosted by Clark University Choices, the only safer sex resource on campus. I'm honored by their invitation, inspired by their work & thankful for the awesome swag!

[girlsgetbusyzine]

“Shit Men Say to Men Who Say Shit to Women on the Street” was inspired by International Anti-Street Harassment Week. It was created by a group of women and men in NYC who believe that street harassment is wrong, and that we all have a role to play in ending it - especially us guys. The video shows some non-violent ways that men can interrupt street harassment as it happens. (And it happens all the time. Seriously. Go check. We will wait.) Join us by sharing this video. And the next time you witness street harassment - and you will - say some shit. Please. For more information on this video, email: [email protected]

[feminist-space]

I love these guys.

[deliciouskaek]

I wish this were commonplace. :<

[grassflowergrey]

“REALLY MAN?!” *throws hat*

[herelieslill-deactivated2022041]

I think my favorite was the porch full of dudes, going “ARRRGGHHH” in unison.

[jhameia]

The porch bit (0:46) and daffodil dude (0:41) are ace. I also liked:

“You’re giving Dominican men a bad name.” (1:22) “You’re giving the Bronx a bad name!” (1:23) “C’mon son, you’re giving Queens a bad name” (1:24) “You’re really giving white guys a bad name.” (1:27) “You’re also giving black guys a bad name.” (1:30) “You’re giving us ALL a pretty bad name.” (1:32)

And (0:22) “Sweetheart, please stop perpetuating the patriarchal (??), it is SO over.” 

[latinosexuality-blog]

using in class

[adjoa]

This. <3. Shout-out to some of NYC's awesome male advocates fighting against sexual harassment/violence!

[pain-femme]

[adjoa]

cripqueer:

Video: Crip Sex, Crip Lust, and the Lust of Recognition by Mia Mingus

Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha and Ellery Russian talk about Crip Sex. This video is part of a blog post and has a transcript available here.

[pain-femme]

[adjoa]

cripqueer:

Video: Crip Sex, Crip Lust, and the Lust of Recognition by Mia Mingus

Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha and Ellery Russian talk about Crip Sex. This video is part of a blog post and has a transcript available here.

[nicoleclarkconsulting]

Women Making Moves!: Interview with Arielle Loren

[adjoa]

Great interview and wise words.

nicole-clark:

Hey y’all,

This week kicks off a new segment called “Women Making Moves!” Each week, I interview a woman or girl of color who is (or is aspiring in) making a name for herself in the areas of sexual/reproductive health, overall health and wellness, feminism, activism, entrepreneurship, the arts and sciences, and in all-around pro-woman goodness. The goals of “Women Making Moves!” are to 1) add to the growing images and stories of women and girls of color that defy societal stereotypes, 2) expose you all to potential career paths and opportunities, and 3) give our featured person more exposure so you can support them and their work.

Kicking off the segment is writer and filmmaker Arielle Loren. I was introduced to Arielle and her amazing work via Twitter (you can follow her here ) . While a student at New York University, Arielle wrote her senior thesis on African American women’s experience with dating men who identify as bisexual, and her documentary Bideology was born, and it will be premiering at film festivals in Spring 2012. Arielle is also a regular writer for such sites as Clutch Magazine and Frugivore Magazine. Presently, Arielle is gearing up to travel the world for the next year! Not only is Arielle great at what she does, but she’s also a wonderful person. Read more about Arielle and her work, and support!

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[anarchyagogo]

[adjoa]

Deep.

[adjoa]

Incredible. Just incredible. Too much to even handle. 

Though on a serious note, it's not government-funded, it's the insurance company (and thus those insured through premiums) that absorbs the cost.

[standupforwomen-blog]

[adjoa]

standupforwomen:

(via The Cost of Being Female: How Much the Average Woman Spends on a Lifetime of Basic Health Care - Health - GOOD)

[adjoa]

Via HuffingtonPost: Sexygenerians: Why the Taboo Against Candor, Safety With Senior Sex?

Important reflection on the need for more safer sex outreach with middle-aged and older adults. Their STI (esp. HIV) rates are climbing and public health professionals and citizens of the world alike need to move past their squeamishness and denial of senior sexuality to do what we can to help curb them. Cites a study done by one of my mentors and ego-ideal, Dr. Stacy Tessler Lindau. (It was in her research lab that overcame my own uneasiness about sexuality in older ages)

[adjoa]

A Modern Sexual-Assault Tale

Man: Hello, I'd like to report a mugging.

Officer: A mugging, eh? Where did it take place?

Man: I was walking by 21st and Dundritch Street and a man pulled out a gun and said, "Give me all your money."

Officer: And did you?

Man: Yes, I co-operated.

Officer: So you willingly gave the man your money without fighting back, calling for help or trying to escape?

Man: Well, yes, but I was terrified. I thought he was going to kill me!

Officer: Mmm. But you did co-operate with him. And I've been informed that you're quite a philanthropist, too.

Man: I give to charity, yes.

Officer: So you like to give money away. You make a habit of giving money away.

Man: What does that have to do with this situation?

Officer: You knowingly walked down Dundritch Street in your suit when everyone knows you like to give away money, and then you didn't fight back. It sounds like you gave money to someone, but now you're having after-donation regret. Tell me, do you really want to ruin his life because of your mistake?

Man: This is ridiculous!

Officer: This is a rape analogy. This is what women face every single day when they try to bring their rapists to justice.

Man: Damn the patriarchy.

Officer: Word.

[adjoa]

"Optimism is a political act. Those who benefit from the status quo are perfectly happy for us to think nothing is going to get any better. In fact, these days, cynicism is obedience. What's really radical is being willing to look right at the problems we face and still insist that we can solve them. A stubborn commitment to solving problems and a faith in our ability to do so doesn't need to be naïve."

- Alex Steffen, worldchanging.com

[aeide-thea]

[adjoa]

<3

subtlecluster:

aeide-thea:

xkcd isn’t always a feminist success, but this strip is pretty great.

THIS TO THE MAX.