Neither Here, Nor There

I’m a sad person. But I’m funny. [ 18+ Only ] | She/Her/They/Them | Demisexual | BLM | No pedos, racists, or trans-exclusionists.

[adreamofstarlight]

I don’t FEEL anything about it now. But I still view it this way. I was only selfish cuz it was the only way to make it stop. It’s like chess game… I only start playing chess when people stop acting like friends. I just start playing the moment it’s off now instead of waiting for people to fix themselves. They never do.

[flower-cute-posts]

[catchymemes]

one person's trash is another person's treasure

[super-hero-confessions]

[anxietyproblem]

[animusrox]

Toy Stoy 3 (2010) dir. Lee Unkrich

[anxietyproblem]

[anxietyproblem]

[tomhiddleston-loki]

Loki Thor Deleted Scene 

[charlesoberonn]

"It's so unrealistic for there to always be a tavern in D&D/fantasy!"

Map of Pubs in Britain:

[fred-the-dinosaur]

I believe Norwich used to be said to have "a church for every week of the year and a pub for every day"

[natequarter]

[ID: a map showing pubs in the UK; almost the entire landmass is covered. /end ID]

[mydignityisinflames]

Fun fact about this pub:

It's only accessible by ferry or by a 2 day, 18 mile hike

[asexual-thot]

There's areas that have no markers for pubs that I know have pubs.

This map under represents the amount of pubs in the uk.

[morganoperandi]

I’m a cis-gender man which basically means that, when I was born, the doctor went “It’s a boy!” and when I was old enough to understand I agreed with him.

The thing is, I don’t know why I feel like a man.  I was teased and bullied for it a lot when I was little.  I’ve never had stereotypically American male interests.  I never cared about sports or cars or guns.  I was more interested in music and cooking and the arts.  I’ve always been emotionally in tune and sensitive, even when I did my best to suppress my emotions to survive a childhood of abuse from other children.

It’s not physical either.  I don’t feel like a man because I have a penis or a beard.  If you put my brain in a robot body or any other body, my essence would still feel male (I assume).  I literally can’t imagine what being any other gender would feel like, since I feel so acutely male.

I think that’s why the concept of being transgender always made sense to me.  I’m a man.  I don’t have any bloody clue why I feel like a man, but I don’t feel that it’s tied to my body or my interests or the way that I’ve been treated.  I feel like a man because of something beyond that.  Something ephemeral.  So, why couldn’t others feel the same?  Why couldn’t a person who’s been misidentified as a girl feel like a boy for the exact same nebulous reasons that I do?

And, since gender really doesn’t make any sense to me anyway, why couldn’t there also be people who feel as if they don’t have one?  Or who flow across genders like a ship on a map?

Are there people out there whose sense of their own gender is inseparable from their physical form?  If you put those people into robot bodies or, simply, other physically different bodies, would their gender identity also swap?  If so, why?  Are they actually more lost in their gender identity than I am and they need to hone in on the physical in order to anchor themselves?

Why do people feel like they are the gender that they are?

[sir-renaissance]

This is very soul filling to read. Thank you

[5typesoftrash]

My grandfather, who had a difficult time coming to terms with it when I came out, has been working very hard to understand me and my experience. About 5 weeks ago, he asked me, almost offhand, “why are you so sure that you’re a man?”

And I replied, “well, I could ask you the same thing.” And I moved on, continued, tried to explain why I feel the way that I do, but I don’t think he heard any of those things that I said afterward. 

Because six days later, we talked about it again, and this is what he told me: 

“I couldn’t stop thinking about what you said last week. Because all my life I identified it as ‘these are the parts that I have, and so I am a man’. But you’re living proof that gender is not limited to what is attached to your body, so I asked myself, why am I a man? And all I can say is ‘because I have no idea what it feels like to be anything else’. I cannot imagine what it’s like to be a woman. Or neither, or both, or any other gender. I have always been a man.”

And I replied, “that’s exactly what it feels like for me.”

So, shoutout to my cisgender grandfather, for stumbling upon the essence of being trans accidentally, with very little help from me. I love you, grandpa.

[the-cimmerians]

watching cis folks suddenly and comprehensively grasp the inessential nature of gender is always a joy

[depsidase]

[thistle-onions]

[Image Description: White text on an orange background, reading: "When Trump shuts off food stamps. And you're in the grocery store and you see someone pocket a pound of meat or a bag of cereal.

No you did not.

These companies can write their loss s off. People die of starvation." End ID.]

[libraford]

I'm just saying, if there's a curse that runs along your family line and you don't tell your kids about it, how the hell are they supposed to go on a quest to stop it?

[libraford]

Tell your children about your medical history.

[anxietyproblem]

[anxietyproblem]

[helenvaughans]

likes to charge, reblogs to cast

[mariacallous]

#i’d rather he physically get sliced in half. but this is kind of nice

[catchymemes]

[catchymemes]