Ask Vanya

The place to ask your questions. Answers on everything from life to love and all the messy stuff in the middle. I believe in laughing, loving, and pushing through the struggles. I can't fix all of your problems, but I can listen. I believe in listening. Nobody should have to feel like they don't have anyone. So, I'm here, friends, I'm listening.

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Pretty woman! You are so much more beautiful than you believe! Keep up the faith!-V

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No need to think like this, friends, although I do enjoy this movie. There is much to live for, even in light of loss!

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Sometimes people are going to let you down. If you need someone to talk to, I'll be there for you-V

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Dont judge a book by it's cover!

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Sometimes we get over zealous in our endeavors. Fall seven times, get up eight! Don't give up!-V

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You have to find a way to motivate yourself! Need help? Message me! -V

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Sometimes it can be hard to put yourself out there. Message if you need any advice!-V

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I've never told anyone before, but I've thought about suicide a couple times. I'm a quiet person and all because I get anxiety attacks easily and stuff but I don't know what to do.. It's be so much easier to not have to worry about school and all that stuff, just to sleep forever. I'm a very sad person, depression runs through the family. My dad actually committed suicide because of his depression.. So I have no clue how to deal with all of this. Sorry if that's too much, just wanted advice.

Hi Anon!

I am sorry to hear that you are so down. There are a couple of options that I can give to you today. The first is to check out the links on the side of my page, because there are people who might know more about this than I do, and might be better equip to help you. The second thing is that it is difficult to help you without knowing why you are depressed. The third is that the decision to live happily is yours.

Now, I realize that it is easier said than done, and coming from someone who has battled depression, I know how hard it can be to get out of the black hole that seems to consume all of your thoughts. I would say to find one thing, just one thing that you are happy to be alive for. IN my case, it was my younger brother. Every time I thought about suicide, I thought about the one thing that kept me alive, which was him. How much I would miss him if I were gone. For my friend, it was her books. She loves to read, her books mean everything to her.

Everyone has their own interests, hobbies, and likes. Find one thing, just one, that makes you happy to be alive and keep that in mind. Find one person that you can confide in and talk to about your feelings, especially a person you can call when you feel like you are really depressed. The links on the side of my page will help you if you do not already have one person in your life like that. Ultimately, at least to me, being happy is a choice. I choose to be a happy person. Is it easy? No, no most days it is a struggle to keep the smile on my face. The smile isn't fake though, I just try to make it through every day happy. Tell yourself that you will have a good day, and say it in front of a mirror. At first it will feel stupid, but it is psychologically proven to help you feel more confident in yourself.

Hope this helps, message me if you need anything else, anything at all, -V

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Yes, yes you do!-V

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You are stronger than you think you are! -V

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There is this kid in my health class who started talking to me today. I think he is mentally slow (i dont mean to be offense by saying this, i just dont know how else to word it) but he was nice so i talked to him the whole class period. He asked me for my number and i gave it to him. I text him a little bit but then stopped. I hate to text/call and i feel horrible for pretty much blowing him off but i hate it. Now hes blowing up my phone and its kinda annoying. What do i do? (i want to be nice)

hi anon,

I have to tell you that I believe, because of past experience that honesty is the best policy. If you aren't interested in him, just tell him.

I think that either he is lonely and looking for a friend, or is interested. Clearly you dont want to date him so I would make sure to tell him that. Be clear about your intentions. Do you want to be friends with him? if you do, be clear that he just isn't what you're looking for but that you want to be friends. If you don't want to be his friend, tell him that you think he is a nice guy, and you were interested but now you aren't.

Either way, you need to tell him how you feel. You are going to hurt his feelings, I wont lie to you, but I would rather see him mad at you for being honest than to hate you for stringing him along and making him believe you were interested when you're not.

Best of luck,                 V.

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LIve your life to the fullest! Don't put off till tomorrow what you could say or get done today!

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Sometimes people just need a big surprise hug! -V

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Try to find the happy in your day! Here is a laugh for you!-V

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Opening up to people can be difficult! If you need help, send me a message!-V

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Remember to tell yourself that things will work themselves out! No pessimism! -V