Kali got a job Kali go to work

28, they/them, transmasc stone dyke

[thesituation]

insane how you can’t even bring up shaving on tumblr without getting inundated with people desperately justifying why they shave (nothing to do with the fact that they were afab and therefore forced to shave at an early age, it’s completely a free choice that has nothing to do with their upbringing of course) or acting like they’re an oppressed class for shaving their whole body. like you guys are such losers jesus christ get over yourself & learn to scroll past posts that you dont relate to. i do it all the time! you can too^_^

[breakfastonvenusss]

hate it when ppl think that two things can't exist at the same time like just because you shave doesn't mean you're not a feminist and u have no subjectivity I know plenty of girls that shave simply because the texture makes them uncomfortable

[thesituation]

yeah well i hate it when people put words in my mouth because where the fuck did i say that people who shave can’t be feminists. again, you guys are losers, learn to scroll past posts you don’t relate to instead of making your stupidity my issue

[strawberry-crocodile]

for real tho it feels exhausting that ive seen this whole "woman should be allowed to abstain from X beauty standard" -> "i perform X beauty standard, am i evil? do you think im evil? please forgive me i came up with a dozen excuses 🥺" since like 2015 (and i know its been going on longer than that) like girl thats not the poiiiiint

[strawberry-crocodile]

look me in the eyes. repeat after me. "i face societal pressure to perform this beauty standard. i should not face that pressure. i conform to this standard. i am rewarded for performing to this standard. i need to respect women who do not perform this standard. this is not about whether or not i am a sinner for wearing makeup."

[lesbianismst]

just unfollowed someone for rbing anti-manhating sentiments. it's very weird to me and I'm not sorry. there's a rise in conservatism and a big societal push to strip women of our rights and make us men's property, and your biggest priority is lecturing women on how we talk about men?? fuck right the fuck off actually

[lesbianismst]

"but it hurts their feelings!" it hurts MY feelings when my sisters and mothers don't have rights.

"but it doesn't help your goals!" meanwhile men are beating, raping, oppressing, and killing women everywhere to advance the goals of the patriarchy. don't tell me what I should and should not feel about that.

"but it harms trans men/men of color/other oppressed men!" does it? because trans men and men of color have way more serious shit to deal with than women expressing their feelings on the internet. such as transphobia and racism. meanwhile, women in their communities (trans women, women of color) have to deal with all of that PLUS oppression from the men.

you simply cannot convince me that anti-manhating arguments are anything more than patriarchy propaganda. "unhh we have all the power and rights, but if you don't worship at our feet, you're just as bad as us." fuck offfffff

[lesbianismst]

just unfollowed another person for rbing similar sentiments. I am NOT in the mood

[bitchautism]

everyone knows all women are able bodied white cisgender and rich while all men are disabled racialised transgender and poor

[wanderingcoasties]

“The LEGO Movie was my favorite movie of 2014, but it strikes me that the main character was male, because I feel like in our current culture, he HAD to be. The whole point of Emmett is that he’s the most boring average person in the world. It’s impossible to imagine a female character playing that role, because according to our pop culture, if she’s female she’s already SOMEthing, because she’s not male. The baseline is male. The average person is male. You can see this all over but it’s weirdly prevalent in children’s entertainment. Why are almost all of the muppets dudes, except for Miss Piggy, who’s a parody of femininity? Why do all of the Despicable Me minions, genderless blobs, have boy names? I love the story (which I read on Wikipedia) that when the director of The Brave Little Toaster cast a woman to play the toaster, one of the guys on the crew was so mad he stormed out of the room. Because he thought the toaster was a man. A TOASTER. The character is a toaster. I try to think about that when writing new characters— is there anything inherently gendered about what this character is doing? Or is it a toaster?”

— Bojack Horseman creator Raphael Bob-Waksberg commenting on how weird gendered defaults in entertainment are, and why we should think twice about them. Excerpted from this longer original post. (via 360degreesasthecrowflies)

[sapphireh3arts]

today is the ten year anniversary of the Pulse Nightclub shooting. a full decade ago, i lost a friend and a coworker. i was lucky. i had friends that lost several people. today, please remember and fight for all those that have died to live the live they should have been free to. i'll always remember you, Cory.

[tamamita]

The settler state arguably got the worst white demons in the world

[dreadhordearcanist]

This post never goes out of style

[partypuppy-nastja]

Meanwhile, a little while back my friend Alaa was talking about "the best Italian restaurant in Gaza!", how everyone knew it; it was run by these two brothers who had migrated from Italy, what an experience it was, how on social media everyone was begging them for their recipes, that they had the best pasta sauces ever, that she was always recommending it and wanted everyone to be able to try it...

...and then finished with "but then of course the occupation bombed the restaurant with the entire family inside and they were all killed".

She's now working on a site dedicated to showing all the important little local places in Gaza that no longer exist—partly so that her own children can know them, and partly so they cannot be completely erased by the occupiers.

She's also working on this project, again to preserve the culture and history that the occupation is trying to wipe out, taking up the lead on this after her teacher Dr. Refaat Alareer (now most-known to English-speakers for his "If I must die" poem), who had started the project, was killed by the occupiers.

[save-the-child-ronza]

IF MY SISTER DIES, REMEMBER I BEGGED YOU.

My sister is still suffering and urgently needs medical care and supplies just to survive this nightmare.

[save-the-child-ronza]

Tonight, I could not properly help my sister because medical supplies are too expensive, so I stood there terrified, watching her condition grow worse before my eyes.

[save-the-child-ronza]

I beg you as a broken family member in Gaza who cannot protect his sister from pain, hunger, and death. Please, don’t leave my sister alone in this nightmare—donate now and help me save her life.

Gofundme - Vetted#213

[thatdiabolicalfeminist]

Please donate so little Ronza can get the care she needs! You have an opportunity to directly improve this child's life and that of her family by taking 30 seconds to send what you can spare.

[save-the-child-ronza]

Please help us, no one donated since 1 day, is that’s my sister deserves?! Please stand with us 🙏

[bunniesrabbits]

going on estrogen will make you like men, going on testosterone will also actually make you like men, breathing and existing in the world will make you like men too actually . what ? you’re a lesbian ? don’t be ridiculous . have you considered that you might just not be far enough in your transition to realize that you’re sexually available to men, actually ? what about men ? have you considered transitioning into being a sex object for men, actually ? after all, it’s only natural .

[drdarine]

My baby sister Maryam still isn't feeling well. If anything happens to her, remember I begged you for your help.

💳 Please Help

✅️ Verified #15 - 🔗 Previous post

Thanks to our closest friends for standing by us and supporting us every step of the way 💖🇵🇸

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Amazing artwork by my dear friend Notte💖 @rhymeswithfart

[gazavetters]

Poor Maryam deserves safety, care, and a chance to recover. Please, everyone, help in any way possible donate, share, or spread the word. Every bit of support truly matters.

[agenderakali]

I keep seeing people say things like "if a bisexual woman chooses to live as a lesbian and never act on her attraction to men what makes her any different from any other lesbian, why cant she call herself a lesbian?" And I could point out the obvious that the internal experience of lacking attraction to men is a factor that affects a lot of lesbians' lives in a major way, in addition to the fact we date women. But also how is "living as a lesbian" not considered garden variety "pick a side" biphobia? Bi women can prefer women, only date women, marry women, etc. You do not have to be a lesbian to do that.

[queer-as-city-folk]

Fun Fact: the primary victims of the Vietnam War were not the American soldiers, but the 3 million Vietnamese civilians

[queer-as-city-folk]

Similarly, if Trump sends troops to Iran (which is seeming likely) you need to understand that these people chose to go and kill civilians, the primary victims of American Imperialism are the ones who we wage war on

[queer-as-city-folk]

American Service Member are murderers and rapists, and they don't even try to hide it

[rimonoroni2]

my general opinion on what people should be "allowed" to portray and what topics they should be "allowed" to explore in fiction is that you can make whatever art with whatever themes you want but i'm also allowed to think the way you handled it was tasteless and should've been done differently. my negative opinion on your handling of sensitive topics is the price of admission for publicly showcasing your work. this is not a pro-censorship stance because i am not The Government

[deerg1rls-deactivated20200708]

I wonder if it’s not a coincidence that the women most vulnerable to violence and exploitation at the hands of everyone are consistently portrayed as being the most able to fend for themselves and that the women who are the least vulnerable are portrayed as the most needing of protection :/

[enoughtohold]

the most common way i see people on the left frame women not shaving is that women who don’t shave think they’re better than everyone else and need to be put in their place. this framing is so powerful i’m actually a little afraid to talk about it because i KNOW some people will read this and think i think i’m better than everyone else. but like we gotta know this isn’t actually progressive.

[gracklesong]

It’s really telling that being able to push through constant negative societal and personal feedback in order to allow your body to just Exist is seen as “thinking you’re better than everyone else”. Shame is so fundamental to womanhood that being able to shake off even just some of it is perceived as arrogance. (When it is not possible to write it off as slovenliness anyway; if they can dismiss you as a less-than-woman or not-woman then they don’t bother labeling you arrogant! If they’re ~progressive~ they have to find another reason to express disgust, e.g. by linking it to character.)

[agenderakali]

It really gets me upset when the trans man lesbian crowd spreads these soft positivity posts like “trans men have always had a place in the lesbian community uwu” with not a degree of awareness. It’s been shown statistically, that a majority of cis lesbians will proudly state they would prefer to date trans men over trans women. It’s been shown how trans men are accepted by cis lesbians and welcomed in lesbian spaces over trans women. And it isn’t because of beautiful beautiful solidarity, its because they see them as women and they see trans women as men. Trans men have been equated with masc lesbians for decades and continue to this day, especially by terfs who use butch lesbian and trans man as interchangeable words.  The absolute tone deafness I’ve seen in these discussions boggles the mind, like saying trans men grew up identifying as lesbians, being treated as women, being “socialized” as women, so they have a ‘right’ to lesbian spaces. As if it doesn’t subtlety imply that transfems have less of a right to be there then they do, as if it isn’t regurgitated terf “male/female socialization” rhetoric. And when I point out these problematic elements I often get the trans men who argue for this stuff lecturing me about denying their agency and how they choose to be with lesbians. If yall want to date lesbians that’s fine, I literally cant stop you nor care to. It’s worth noting though, that there have been plenty of instances of trans men voluntarily dating straight men, yet we dont have this community push to validate straight men chasers and their trans boyfriends. For good reason, too.  I am not saying trans men need to be “kicked out” of lesbian spaces, I understand the solidarity between our communities. That solidarity will always exist. (And again I want to point out for the most part they are NOT being kicked out or excluded. Trans fems are) And I understand that “man” doesnt always mean man in a binary sense, some people are nonbinary men and women and things aren’t always as clear cut. As a transmasc, nonbinary lesbian I understand that. This does not apply to you. I just want people to please take note of the transphobic, specifically transmisogynistic overtones that accompany a widespread push to have trans men as a group be considered as exceptions to lesbian attraction. 

[netherator]

The absolute tone deafness I’ve seen in these discussions boggles the mind, like saying trans men grew up identifying as lesbians, being treated as women, being “socialized” as women, so they have a ‘right’ to lesbian spaces. As if it doesn’t subtlety imply that transfems have less of a right to be there then they do

“you like pancakes, so you must hate waffles?”

[agenderakali]

“Socialization” is a term/theory directly weaponized against transfeminine people, especially by transmisogynistic liberals/progressives and TERFs. They frequently point to “male socialization” of trans women to justify their exclusion and abuse. They point to trans masc’s “female socialization” to cast us as safer, more trustworthy, more authentic voices in feminism/women’s issues. They are directly related. It’s biological essentialism dressed up in progressive language.

[hairspray-heart]

I don’t know what TERFs intend by anything they say, so I’m not speaking to that at all here. And admittedly, my perspective is rather limited to my lived experience, so if there’s stuff I’m missing, I’m happy to listen.

What follows is my experience, my thoughts, and honestly my frustration. Nothing here is a personal jab at any of the previous posters or anyone specifically.

NOTICE: Mentions of CSA, religious trauma, and spousal abuse. Proceed at your own risk.

Keep reading

[agenderakali]

thanks for the trauma dump and hypothesizing about how 1 trans woman identified and why that justifies you seeing all trans women as less fundamentally lesbian than you are because of "how they were raised" aka biology. I wont be fully reading it though and I will be blocking you

[daciancatamite]

a misogynistic society is so threatened by the concept of trans women - women that "had the opportunity" to be privileged men and chose not to - that they start making up privileges women have in order to explain why trans women exist. going into womens restrooms isnt a privilege, playing womens sports isnt a privilege, lesbianism isnt a privilege, yet they present them as such to try and explain why trans women are women for nefarious reasons. a misogynistic society will never understand that trans women have no ulterior motive for being women