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not a fan of resolutions. the universe has a tendency to make my life so deeply beautiful or completely f-upped that resolutions sort of go down the drain. this is just a shoutout to people who are not on the same boat as everybody else. just in case this pressure is getting to you, just letting you know that it’s okay. it’s okay if you don’t want to do anything big yet, i mean the physical things like travelling or saving more, and also emotional things like being kind to yourself more, or forgiving past mistakes, or putting yourself first. it’s okay. it’s okay. a couple of years ago, i realized i don’t have the same pace as everybody else. everybody else knew exactly what they wanted and who they want to be and i was sort of just in the middle of a mess over another mess over another. i was slow and that was okay. i was slow and i was learning and that was okay. you have your own pace. your own pace at being kind, wanting to travel, forgiving, falling in love, falling out, getting better, being selfless, even selfish. that’s okay. loving and living can also mean waking up in the morning, taking a shower, eating breakfast and getting yourself through the day. that’s enough. that’s enough, too.

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do u ever feel like you’ve accidentally tricked certain people into thinking you are smarter and have more potential than you actually do and do you ever think about how disappointed they’ll be when you inevitably crash and burn

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Fun fact: Impostor Syndrome is ridiculously common among high-achievers, particularly women. If you identify with this post, odds are pretty good that you’re exactly as smart as people think you are, and the failure you’re afraid of isn’t inevitable at all.

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Even Maya Angelou stated, “I have written 11 books, but each time I think, ‘Uh oh, they’re going to find out now. I’ve run a game on everybody, and they’re going to find me out.’”

and don’t forget this is one of the psychological barriers placed in by thousands years of patriarchy and male supremacy.

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My computer science professor actually talked about this on the first day, it was really cool.

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Fun brutal fact: in addition to the existence of imposter syndrome, being “twice exceptional” (also known as 2e) is also a thing. That means being intellectually gifted AND ALSO having a disability that affects your ability to succeed at study or work. Such as ADHD, autism, dyslexia, dyscalculia, etc etc etc. A lot of people believe that it’s not possible to be both, but it very much is.

Society tends to have very high expectations for how well gifted people will perform. Society tends to have low expectations for how well disabled people will perform. Society tends to attribute invisible disabilities, including mental illness, to a failure of willpower or effort or a bad attitude.

So if you read this post and went “no, but seriously, this is not just low self esteem on my part, people keep thinking I’m smart and then I keep crashing and burning and disappointing them and they can’t understand why I didn’t live up to their expectations, it happens again and again and when I tell someone how I feel and ask for help, they just tell me to stop being so hard on myself and that I’ll succeed if I have more self-confidence,” it is not just you.

(Also, one of the previous posts in this thread buried the lede a little. Imposter syndrome is ridiculously common in people from underrepresented groups in academia and other high pressure/high status fields, particularly women and people of colour. Maya Angelou did not only feel out of place because she was a woman.)

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This essay also totally changed my view on the intersection of impostor syndrome and mental illness.

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I’ve always known that the smartest people usually have a mental illness or a disability.

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So far you’ve survived 100% of your worst days. You’re doing great.

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I need to be alone for certain periods of time or I violate my own rhythm.

Lee Krasner (via wordsnquotes)

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Take a shower, wash off the day. Drink a glass of water. Make the room dark. Lie down and close your eyes. Notice the silence. Notice your heart. Still beating. Still fighting. You made it, after all. You made it, another day. And you can make it one more. You’re doing just fine.

Charlotte Eriksson (via wordsnquotes)

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Beautiful, powerful, and very surprising coming from P&G.

Agency: BBDO NYC

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Couple Celebrates Geometric Architecture Around the World With Eccentric Photographs

Anna Devis and Daniel Rueda, a couple based in Valencia, Spain plays around with architectural pieces sprawled all across the globe, their photographic series documenting the tales of their travels.

Keep reading

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Over his lifetime, acclaimed Nigerian photographer, J.D. Okhai Ojeikere, photographed thousands of hairstyles worn by Nigerian and African women. Today, these photographs have been seen around the world and continue to inspire stylists, hairdressers and photographers alike.

To pay homage to Ojeikere’s work, photographer Medina Dugger created the Chroma photo series, which she describes as “an ongoing series that celebrates women’s hairstyles in Lagos, Nigeria through a fanciful, contemporary lens.”

by Damilola Odufuwa

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Imagine if every single “black” African that came to Canada (or America) took photos of themselves sitting by homeless, emaciated and hungry individuals with the tag lines “my journey in North America” written beneath their newly updated facebook photos, how differently the world would regard North America. Well North Americans would surely respond with the following: “What a false presentation of North Americans! Not every single North American is homeless! And, stop calling us North Americans! We’re Canadians, not Americans…we have our own bloody identity!” Of course they would be right. My lovely fellow students and activists and humanitarians, try to think of this when you travel to anywhere in Africa or Latin America again. Not only do your images perpetuate stereotypes about these regions, but it also homogenizes the peoples experiences, stifles their voices, and inarguable propagates this Western Savior narrative. I understand that this is not your objective and your travels are undertaken for the purpose of your learning experiences and personal enlightenment, but when all the rest of the world perceives are hungry, naked children via the images you bring back, well…

My very smart friend, Ms. Ji-Ji Guerrera, on what the effects of telling a single story has on Africans (via lupinsavenger)

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How did they get away with that

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I LOVE THIS

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What do you mean how did they get away with it?

History isn’t one straight line progressing towards a liberal society.

Look how much Americans attitudes have changed between 1980 and today. 1980 was the first time most very religious people voted, they abstained before that at the behest of their churches. Now they dictate policy at every election.

In my family photo album there are pictures from the 20s of a woman called ‘uncle bob’. She dressed in men’s clothing, and had a ‘companion’. This was a rough industrial town, they were working class, nobody cared. It was her business.

This is why politics is important - the moment you think everything is better today than it was in the past, you let other people take control of the direction society goes in - with you sitting back presuming we’re going forwards.