The Divine Feminine

INTJ — Cancer☀️, Libra⬆️, Leo🌙 — self development, female empowerment, healing, spiritual and personal insights 🌙

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You can't pretend to be experienced in something you haven't experienced yet.

Be gentle. You're learning. You won't scold a child just because he can't read yet.

[somethingtocallmine]

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Hi guys! 🌹

I'm here to tell you that I'm writing a story in Italian on Wattpad called "Invisible Man".

It's a mixture of dark romance, psychological thriller and a bit of "magic" and deep romance, with complex main characters❤️‍🔥

Go checkout! Here's the link 👇🏻

https://www.wattpad.com/story/404372091?utm_source=android&utm_medium=link&utm_content=share_writing&wp_page=create&wp_uname=deeploverxxx

Let me know what you think about it! 🤗❤️

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🌱TIP FROM AN EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT PERSON pt. 1🌱

Being an empath and an intuitive person doesn't make you desperate, miserable and cursed. Neither do you have to absorb and decode every glare, other's behavior, tone and everything you notice in a social field. That's not your job. You can observe without getting involved in others emotions and behaviors. This is how you keep yourself grounded and present.

🌱 Someone is looking at you in a ugly way? That's not your responsibility.

🌱 Is someone angry and overstimulated? These are not your emotions.

🌱 People acting strange? It's never about you, it's about them.

🌱 Someone stopped talking to you all of a sudden? If they have problems with you they'll tell you. From that moment, don't think about it and keep living your life.

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STOP OVERTHINKING: a technique that my therapist taught me in therapy

Overthinking it's draining. It steals your mental and emotional peace and wellbeing.

I struggle with overthinking, especially when it comes to people. I always tried to "read" their minds and spent hours trying to understand why they did this or why they did that. Which is crazy.

But I'm here to share with you this tip:

— When you feel you're about to start overthinking, focus immediately on what you are doing right now.

— Take a deep breath in, and out. This relaxes your tensed muscles.

— Then ask yourself: What am I doing right now?

AND ONLY FOCUS ON THAT.

For example: If you're cutting an apple, focus on the apple. Say/think random things like "Oooh, an apple" or "Oh, I like the textures and the color of this apple" and keep going like that. The more you're out of your mind, the more you're less stressed.

And ta daaa, peace found you so easily! 🌟

Try it and let me know❤️‍🩹

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Anger in healing

Being angry after realizing you're healing the pain that wasn't supposed to be yours in the first place, is extremely healthy. I know it is so painful. It wasn't fair. But you're transcending from your old self to your new self, the one who is more aware and won't let anyone make you feel again the way someone made you feel in the past. ❤️‍🩹

I repeat it, it's so painful. But you're doing a great job honey. Cry, scream as much as you need. You've got it.

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My astrology observation

All these observations come from my own experiences. I'm not an expert in astrology, so everything I write is subjective:

Aries women: They are the sweetest and yet hottest people I've ever met in my life. Every time I'm around an Aries woman I feel like home. They are like my homies.

Aries men: calm down. Please. But yeah, sometimes you have the right to be angry when it comes to injustice.

Taurus women: I. LOVE. THEM. They are my favorite, literally walking goddess on earth. I can become a lesbian only for them. *kiss kiss kiss*

Taurus men: Never met a Taurus man in my life.

Gemini women: Uuuh, the mental stimulation I have with them. I like the way I can talk about everything with them. To the most serious and unserious topics. Also, they are really sexy and funny.

Gemini men: I never met one. They exist?

Cancer men: It depends. If he is healed, cancer men are the most emotionally intelligent, smart, adventures and caring people. On the contrary, they are the most childish, stubborn and emotionally negative people.

Cancer women: Believe me or not, me as a cancer myself, I never met a cancer woman. But princess Diana will always be my pride.✨

Leo women: My sisters. They've always shown me new ways of thinking and seeing the world in a different way. I love how they always push me out of my comfort zone and I'll always be grateful for the way they always make me seen, heard, loved and cherished. Always genuine and loving😭

Leo men: mmmh... They can be the best or the worst partner in your life. But let's see the positive side, my celebrity crushes and the cousins I considered like my big brothers were Leo's, so they can be the sweetest people on earth.

Virgo women: Yes and no at the same time. They can be the best friends of your life, but sometimes they tend to be too hard on themselves and too critical about others. They're stunning for sure, they always have this office siren, model type of beauty. But please ladies, be gentle with yourself ❤️‍🩹

Virgo men: I'm always confused around them. What do you want???

Libra women: They are blunt af. But God bless your curves, your sense of style and fashion.🩷 I can't say much about them as I haven't had many Libra friends or acquaintances but they are very supportive.

Libra men: 💀💀💀💀 I just can't stand them. Like Virgo men, what the hell do you want???

Scorpio women: I love you. Baddies. Hottest. My best friends.

Scorpio men: If healed, *chef kiss*. Husband's. A mixture of intensity, emotional depth and deeeeep loyalty. On the contrary, stay away from every woman on this earth.

Sagittarius women: They are like my female cousins. Even though they are really calm and full of wisdom, they know how to have fun and be the life of the party. Like Leo women, they always open a new perspective of life!

Sagittarius men: My brothers🗿.

Capricorn women: Unfortunately I met unhealed Capricorn women, but deep inside they have a tender heart. The sweetness, the love they have for others is incomparable. They care so much. So, so much.

Capricorn men: STUBBORN AF. My brother is a Capricorn, Jesus sometimes I can't stand him but he has a good heart. Also they are very funny.

Aquarius women: Dear God, the world is always harsh to them but somehow they always have a big and generous heart. Always ready to help. There are times when they confuse me but you deserve so much. And yeah, they are soooo intelligent. God bless your brain.

Aquarius men: Very interesting and they make me very curious about how they think but I'd rather avoid them. I feel like they always want to dominate and have the control.

Pisces women: Never met pisces women but they are really underestimated in my mind. They are strong af but very sensitive and vulnerable deep inside.

Pisces men: Even though you have to mature and learn a lot, I thank you for treating my best friends in a sweet, genuine and loving way. They always remind me of the sweet second lead that tries everything for the female lead but end up failing because she chose the male lead.

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Building my scars into stars❤️‍🩹

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How to build the winner mindset (and how this will always save your life!)

The day I started to be optimistic and not seeing life from a lens of pain and negativity was the day I realized that I overcame the worst periods of my life and I'm still here, alive, and won.

I still remember the way my eyes sparkled when I realized "God, I went through this much and still made it?" And I smiled. Oh, the way I smiled. I said to myself:

«If I overcame that, then I can overcome everything and anything in my life.»

That's how you build the winner mindset. I strongly refuse to think of myself as the victim of life, of my past.

I always made it. Then who's going to stop me now? I'm the winner, even when I fail.

In this way, you train your brain to focus on every time you make it and there's no other way around!

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The more you try and show up for yourself the more obstacles become smaller and easier to overcome. Keep that in your mind. Our brain doesn't like the feeling of discomfort but you can make it believe that trying hard things is fun, rewarding and entertaining. Our brain plasticity is amazing for that. Use it wisely!

Me, as a psychology student, sometimes I find it hard to understand scientific words, theories and phrases. Even though sometimes I want to give up, I make a little effort, to understand what that paragraph is trying to tell me (with breaks in between to make my brain rest a bit).

And when I finally understand, scientific words, theories and terms don't scare me anymore.

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I always hear phrases like "When I will be rich, I will donate to poor/homeless people/orphan child" but,

Why waiting to get rich?

You can start donating even a small amount of money or buy something to eat/drink to someone who really needs it.

You have a warm, full meal everyday, homeless people every now and then. So don't wait for the right or perfect moment to fill someone's stomach. Just give.🌷🩷

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[traumasurvivors]

Sometimes we expect healing to mean peace, calm, or constant strength. But often it looks like crying, being angry, setting a boundary, or saying no for the first time. Healing doesn’t always feel pretty but it’s still healing.

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What is hookup culture? I was made to love in a deep and surreal way. I want to get under your skin, penetrate your heart, and touch your soul. I want to enter your mind and uncover all your fears and vulnerabilities. And so do you. I want to grow, mature, and transform into a real relationship. My love is intense, pure, and rare.

[scorpionlafemme]

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Your ability to stay calm under pressure, isn't something you should be proud of. Sometimes, it's a sign of trauma.

Ask yourself these questions:

- Were there any situations in your childhood where you had to rely only on yourself?

- During your childhood, did you have any responsibilities that weren't yours? Like taking care of your siblings or else.

- Did your parents or adults criticize you for being slow or unable to do something?

- Have you had an unpredictable past? Like sudden changes, sudden mood swings on the part of a parent...etc.

If you answered yes to any of the questions, know that it is a sign of trauma. Having all that pressure forced you into a state of survival, which then translated into the "ability" to stay calm under difficult situations. And remember, it was never your fault.

I hope you heal.🌷🩷