I seldom get questions asking me, “how to be a proper Muslimah?” In order to be a proper Muslimah, a women (cis or trans), must become the product and extension of her husband’s and Islam’s discipline. She must understand the art of being demure, silent, subservient, subordinate to the almighty ALLAH SUBHANAHU WA TA’ALA first and second to her Husband. When she carries herself how she would in front of her husband in the world around her, she will exude elegance, femininity and modesty beyond all belief.
Despite being fully veiled, a proper Muslimah will turn eyes of all men and women because of her softness, frailty and divine feminine energy. For this reason, she should take extra precaution to ensure her visage is not up for display for lustful eyes and jealously.
Some tips you can follow in public:
Ditch revealing clothes. Change your wardrobe to flowly shawls and stoles. Cover your face with a face mask if you’re not a niqabi.
Occupy as little space as possible while sitting, standing or walking. Decrease the distance between your strides.
Speak only when spoken to. Don’t speak in front of any man, nod and say as little as possible if you can.
Do not shake hands with men. Greet men by nodding and greet women by hugging them or embracing them shoulder to shoulder. Do not shake hands with anyone.
Keep your gaze lowered, do not hold eye contact with men. If you must look at them, only do so for a quick second and then avert your gaze.
If a man is blocking your path, simply wait for him to move away. Do not invade his space. If a women is blocking your path, it is ok to kindly ask her to move and give her a warm smile and say “thank you.”
Do not attempt to walk faster or in front of men in public. Rather, slow down, take a deep breath and stride behind them. The fundamental rule of Islam is that a man’s eyes should never be on your back in prayer, in sitting or walking.
Avoid walking through groups of men or walking into a room filled exclusively with men. Stay in female only spaces.
Avoid harsh movements with hands or arms. Develop a whimsical, dance like and elegant way of hand movement and body positioning.
If fellow women are in need of assistance with their children, holding something or anything appropriate, offer to help them.
Always walk on the side away from the road by default. If the street is narrow and you must cross path with a man, hug the wall and allow him to pass.