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i’m just saying that gaara’s transformation was actually the best thing to happen to temari and kankuro and it 100% took them months to stop crying at the littlest shit like:
gaara: i’m gaara and these are my siblings—
temari and kankuro already in tears: he called us his siblings
gaara: please excuse them our family life was really fucked up
AVATAR: THE LAST AIRBENDER 2005-2008
hakoda borrowed it and forgot to give it back <3
the gays will get it
original source: chebbyart on twitter
god seeing people afraid to id as ace/aro because "what if it is just a phase? what if it is just hormones? what if it is just mental illness? what if I do find "the right person?"" makes me so righteously angry because I promise you, I promise no one in the community is going to revoke your aspec card on account of hypotheticals. if someone told you that then the stupid motherfucker lied to you. you do not look at water and go "well I'm not sure if I should drink this, because if the temperature drops below zero, it'll turn to ice." relax. let yourself just be. drink the water if you're thirsty. because it's water right now. doesn't matter if it'll be ice by tomorrow, or mist by next tuesday. it's water and you can drink it if you want to.
seriously i wish people understood that queerbaiting has almost nothing to do with the actual content of a story. two men can gaze soulfully into each other’s eyes for 45 minutes straight and then at the end be like “oh yes my good pal friend no homo” and its still not anything more than homoerotic and kind of stupid writing.
queerbaiting is a marketing technique to get gay people to buy a ticket. it’s hemming and hawing whenever someone asks about subtext, giving long answers that don’t mean anything to sort of imply “maybe you just need to wait and find out. ;)” it’s interviews where the actors talk about how much they love that particular relationship, and they think they will ~surprise~ you with how it turns out. it’s every single trailer showing these two people almost kissing, even as the creators talk about how offended they are that anyone would think it’s gay. it’s disney’s 65th First Gay Character that they sort of imply might actually be a main character this time but is yet another nameless asshole. it’s evil, because it’s completely deliberately misrepresenting the actual media just to make a buck.
my art for the @ineffableoracledeck ☆ currently being shipped out!
so happy to finally share it! waiting for GO 2 ☆
LOOK AT THISSS
I can’t get over how Aziraphale’s pose MATCHES THE SYMBOL ON TOP (his lapels complete some of the angles) and then Crowley is CROSSING HIS ARMS AT THE BOTTOM LIKE THE X
The silhouettes. The glamour. I saw this while scrolling and literally gasped out loud in my living room. AHH there’s so much other theming that I’m seeing right now also but this post would be way too long so I will leave it for y’all to find!! ART!!!!!!
The Two Genders: Fallen Angel and Angel (Retired)
(A repaint of Fallen Angel by Alexandre Cabanel that got a bit too ridiculous to finish xbfxhfcf)
YES
How to Kick a Reader in the Gut
Disrupt the reader’s sense of justice.
This generally means setting a character up to deserve one thing and then giving them the exact opposite.
Kill a character off before they can achieve their goal.
Let the bad guy get an extremely important win.
Set up a coup against a tyrannical king. The coup fails miserably.
Don’t always give characters closure.
(Excluding the end of the book, obviously)
A beloved friend dies in battle and there’s no time to mourn him.
A random tryst between two main characters is not (or cannot be) brought up again.
A character suddenly loses their job or can otherwise no longer keep up their old routine
Make it the main character’s fault sometimes.
And not in an “imposter syndrome” way. Make your MC do something bad, and make the blame they shoulder for it heavy and tangible.
MC must choose the lesser of two evils.
MC kills someone they believe to be a bad guy, only to later discover the bad guy was a different person altogether.
Rejection is a powerful tool.
People generally want to be understood, and if you can make a character think they are Known, and then rip that away from them with a rejection (romantic or platonic) people will empathize with it.
MC is finally accepting the Thing They Must Do/Become, and their love interest decides that that’s not a path they want to be on and breaks up with them
MC makes a decision they believe is right, everyone around them thinks they chose wrong.
MC finds kinship with someone Like Them, at long last, but that person later discovers that there is some inherent aspect of MC that they wholly reject. (Perhaps it was MC’s fault that their family member died, they have important religious differences, or WERE THE BAD GUY ALL ALONG!)
On the flipside, make your main character keep going.
Push them beyond what they are capable of, and then push them farther. Make them want something so deeply that they are willing to do literally anything to get it. Give them passion and drive and grit and more of that than they have fear.
“But what if my MC is quiet and meek?” Even better. They want something so deeply that every single moment they push themselves toward it is a moment spent outside their comfort zone. What must that do to a person?
Obviously, don’t do all of these things, or the story can begin to feel tedious or overly dramatic, and make sure that every decision you make is informed by your plot first and foremost.
Also remember that the things that make us sad, angry, or otherwise emotional as readers are the same things that make us feel that way in our day-to-day lives. Creating an empathetic main character is the foundation for all of the above tips.
"if you can't handle minor criticism you're never gonna make it in the real world" yep uh huh yes mhmm yeah agreed absolutely yup I know
one of the hard things to learn, once you're outside of it, is that people will get upset at you sometimes. sometimes they will be hurt, or disappointed, or frustrated. sometimes you will misunderstand them or they will misunderstand you, sometimes they will disagree with you passionately, sometimes they will just have had a hard day and feel annoyed by pretty much everything.
but people who are good people - the kind of people who you should keep - they do not rely on that feeling to guide them. they understand i'm upset right now. when they lash out, they apologize afterward. they take responsibility. even angry out of their wits, they try not to cross boundaries - they don't say things to hurt you, they don't break your things, they don't make you afraid. they take space or deep breaths or write it down before replying. they work hard to not-be-upset, they return to you and say. okay. i'm sorry i lost my temper, that was really upsetting for me. i'm ready to listen this time, let's solve this as a team.
there is a gripping , soul-crushing fear i have of making someone upset. i catastrophize the situation. being upset is dangerous. is to be solved immediately, regardless of what it takes out of me.
there is no person on earth who can always be happy with you. someone who is never upset with you is likely someone who is pretending. but the hard thing for me to learn was that being upset with me was not a binary love/unlove, friend/enemy. it was not - that person hates you now, forever. it was instead - there's a whole spectrum of use for an apology. my trauma doesn't understand the lighter grey shades at all - the idea someone can have just a passing displeasure because i stepped on their foot or misheard their coffee order. that a person might just be upset at the situation, and not even think to hold it against me.
i used to avoid any contact with a person i thought i had even vaguely upset - interrupting them by accident, or, once, because i had not known about a rare allergy before i made dessert for our company - on the assumption that it was one-and-done. once someone disliked me, it was permanent. or else, maybe worse: i would have to work, tirelessly, wrought over with it, like a sick sad puppy. i would do anything to make the person love me. i didn't make a lot of close friends. i assumed nobody really liked me, because of course they don't, i'm annoying. i wanted to get out of their life before they realized i am worse than they had expected. i wanted to get out before i could prove them right.
i wish i could give you a happy ending to this. i am still carrying it with me. people pleasing. my therapist admits she isn't too surprised ("well, it sort of perfectly fits with your history of trauma and adhd"). i feel rejection like an open wound, all gaping and torn inside me. i hate the idea so much that i simply assume the worst and skitter myself into the dark corners, cowering. thinking - i've done it! i've made everyone safe from me! if i'm in here, and they're out there, they can never be upset with me!
and what kind of a life it is. so safe and so potently lonely.
I have ADHD and CPTSD. And this is who I am and how I feel, *always*. Children of abuse are forced to sew themselves up with threads that say “I *made* them hurt me”, “I’m poisonous to others”, “the one good thing I can do is seal myself away so that nobody can be hurt by me”. It's revolting how deeply abuse cuts, especially in neurodivergent children - we gouge out our own organs because we have been told we have to, because we are evil, because we must atone. No child ever deserves abuse. We were not capable of regulating our emotions. We were not capable of understanding the dynamics at play. We did not deserve to burn.
“Family dysfunctionality is so commonplace and normal in our society that it is difficult to recognize. Ironically, those who did not suffer extended physical abuse in childhood are the most likely to ignore the adverse effects of their childhoods. Nonetheless, most of the adult suffering I witness as a psychotherapist is rooted in nonphysical forms of childhood abuse and neglect.
The most common characteristic of adult suffering is self-hatred, and the most common focus of this hatred is our feelings. Most of us were attacked, shamed or abandoned for being emotional at very early ages. Before we can remember, most of us were forced to renounce our feelings and hate ourselves for having them.”
— Pete Walker, The Tao of Fully Feeling
me, all my childhood: this isn’t that bad, i’m being dramatic, i’m exaggerating, i’m making things up, if I wait this will go away, it’s nothing, I’m just being stupid
me now: so all of these were hard PTSD symptoms, and I’ve been taught to gaslight myself into tolerating terror and trauma as something I either deserve or have made up.
diluc is the harvest moon bachelor i would wake up for at 6 am everyday to give grape juice to
something about dilk sharing such a soulful and pained look with this cow is KILLING ME 😂😂
I fucking. love him.
[Video Description: A tiktok of a man replying to a comment by @/heatherblue50, that reads: I love parenting. I hope you consider it at some point in life. It really stretches you to grow as a person. I’m sure I’ll adopt again.
The man says:
I’m absolutely not going to consider parenting for the same reason that you’re talking about. I’m not going to use a child as a way to stretch my ability to grow as a person. What a gross thing to do. What a gross thing to do—what a gross amount of pressure to put on a child. Nope, I am not going to have children because I know that I wouldn’t be a good father, well aware of it. Well aware of it—I barely take care of myself. I’m not patient with myself, how am I gonna be patient with a child? And then when I make mistakes, have the luxury of saying, ‘Well, there’s no way to be a perfect parent, I did the best I could—’I mean you could have done a lot better, you could have not had me. That would of been—*laughs* anyway. I’m not going to consider it, I already considered it and I’ve come to a logical—and the Earth is on fire! But anyway, I’ve come to a logical conclusion to not have children because I’m incapable of doing so ‘cause I don’t have that type of patience. I know that I don’t. And I’m not going to torture a child so that I can learn how to get it.
/End video description]
"I am not a robot" asserts the aroace pride post, the same kind of one that says aces can still have romance and aros can still have friends and conveniently ignores the complexities and intricacies of those things, and their absence is some corners of our community.
"I am not a robot" because I can still...
Sing? Dance? Pretend? Grow? Change?
None of those things are beyond the reach of a robot. At least not far enough out of reach that you couldn't be tricked, at least for a while.
"I am not a robot" because if I were you wouldn't have to care about my struggles. Because if I were I'd stop mattering. Because 'robot' and 'human' are somehow mutually exclusive.
Then ten minutes later we're talking about AI and would you let a truly intelligent robot vote and would it be possible for a robot to feel pain or joy or sadness. Yes you say, of course, if the robot met your criteria for being a human intelligence, of course it would have rights, of course you would care if it suffers.
Which criteria do I need to meet, to not be a robot in your eyes?
What if I was? What if I turned around tomorrow, opened up a hatch and showed you the wires. Showed you the hydraulic fluid spilling over the floor, and the cables and the tubes and the motors.
What if I opened you up and showed you those things that already live in you.
What if I spent countless hours building ever more complex simulations of a human body, getting every detail of every bone and muscle and every tube and wire.
"I am not a robot" is not for my sake, it is for yours, so you don't yet have to grapple with the idea that something that doesn't meet your definition of a human can still matter as much as one.
Did you know, 'not' is a boolean operator. It reverses whatever you feed into it.
not("I am a robot")
not(this.isRobot);
Maybe if I could talk to a person as easily as a machine I wouldn't need to justify this is much.
if("I can talk to people")
"I am not a robot"
if(this.canCommunicateWithPeople){
this.isRobot = false;
}
What if I'm not interested in your ideas of what makes someone a human? Certainly by a lot of standards I don't pass the test.
if("I give a shit what you think")
"I must be a robot"
else
"Does it matter?"
if(this.caresAboutYourOpinion"){
this.isRobot = true;
} else {
this.isRobot = null;
System.out.println("further querying of this value will result in an exception being thrown");
}
try {
if(this.isRobot) {
this.isHuman = false;
} else {
this.isHuman = true;
}
} catch (Exception e) {
this.isHuman = null;
System.out.println("Stop asking that question like it means something");
}
THIS
(also a really awesome way to write, using just-understandable-enough coding language. would love to see a short story like this!)
Comic on having long-COVID as a young person. Sending love to others who may be similarly suffering.
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This is getting traction again as cases surge. I want to repeat what I’ve said on Twitter: In the 4 months since I’ve posted this, none of my symptoms have improved. I’m nearing 2 years post-COVID with zero improvement, no answers, and little hope. Take this seriously.
