I donât think feminism stands to gain anything by pretending that itâs easy to be a feminist. When I see or hear things like â80% of the world is feminist, a feminist is anyone who believes women should be equal,â Iâm not comforted. I donât see what the movement has to gain by pretending that misogyny is not the default in most people, and that being a feminist is as easy as buying into a buzzword. Feminism is hard. It requires examining our own beliefs and behaviors, a constant struggle to root out misogynist and patriarchal beliefs and behaviors, analysis of how our actions and the actions of others are harmful to women, and a conscious effort to change. Not just one time, but every day. To pretend that anyone who âbelieves in equalityâ is automatically a feminist is to leave the status quo untouched, to dress up oppressive behavior as liberating if we affix a âlikes womenâ badge to it. To pretend that the fix is easy is to ignore that the disease permeates every aspect of our society, and to avoid naming the problem and telling people that work is actually involved is to fail women in the name of making others comfortable.
For most people, âon time and on budgetâ means finishing a project by the deadline while spending no more than the budget. But for Christy Clarkâs B.C. Liberals, itâs more of a âstretched target.â
For most people, âon time and on budgetâ means finishing a project by the deadline while spending no more than the budget. But for Christy Clarkâs B.C. Liberals, itâs more of a âstretched target.â
This week Christy Clarkâs minister responsible for Translink told British Columbians that the Evergreen Line would be opened âon time and on budgetâ in early 2017 at a cost to the province of $586 million. But the B.C. Liberals committed to have it up and running in the summer of 2014 for $410 million.
Here are some other big promises that Christy Clark hasnât delivered on time, on budget, or at all:
GP for Me
Christy Clarkâs promise: A family doctor for everyone who wants one by 2015.
Reality Check: Health Minister Terry Lake admitted the government will never reach their goal. His excuse: it was âa very stretched target.â
Minimum Wage
Christy Clarkâs promise: âWeâre not going to be number one in the country⌠but weâre going to be catching up. We wonât be at the bottom anymore.â
Reality Check: B.C. has the lowest minimum wage in Canada.
LNG in BC
Christy Clarkâs promise: At least three LNG plants up and running by 2020, with the first one open by 2015.
Reality Check: There are exactly zero LNG plants under construction, zero final investment decisions made by companies to build any, and zero British Columbians working to build LNG plants.
$100 billion Prosperity Fund
Christy Clarkâs promise: To create a $100 billion âProsperity Fundâ out of revenue from the LNG industry. The fund was supposed to pay off massive provincial debts, remove tolls from the Port Mann bridge, eliminate the PST, and more.
Reality Check: Christy Clarkâs finance minister admitted (after the election, naturally) that the government was just âbeing aspirationalâ by promising the fund. With no LNG revenue coming in, and none forecast for the entire three-year budget plan, the finance minister created the fund anyway and seeded it with $100 million of taxpayersâ money, not LNG riches.
Site C
Christy Clarkâs promise: In 2010, then-Premier Gordon Campbell decided to build the Site C dam for âbetween $5 billion and $6.6 billionâ and be up and running by 2020.
Reality Check: The B.C. Liberalsâ latest definition of âon time and on budgetâ for Site C is now up to $8.9 billion by 2024. And Energy Minister Bill Bennett admitted last year that hydro projects cost estimates are a wild guess at best, saying âit could be 50 percent higher or 30 percent lower.â That means Site C could cost British Columbians as much as $13 billion.
Instead of telling yourself, âI should get up,â or âI should do this,â
Ask yourself, âWhen will I get up?â or âWhen will I be ready to do this?â
Instead of trying to order yourself to feel the signal to do something, which your brain is manifestly bad at, listen to yourself with compassionate curiosity and be ready to receive the signal to move when it comes.
Whatâs amazing is what happens when you do this with children.  I hit on it when working at the foster home, where nearly all our kids were on the autism spectrum, and they werenât âdefiantâ around me because I said things like, âHow long do you need to stand here before we can move?â and âCome into the kitchen when youâre readyâ instead of saying, âStop staring out the window, letâs go,â or âCome eat dinner,â and interpreting hesitation as refusal to obey.
Yup, thatâs way better for toddlers and younger kids. Â It helps when they donât have the self-awareness, attention span, or concept of the passage of time to estimate when theyâll be ready by themselves.
WELL OKAY WHOOPS XD I should not have been overspecific, I was just thinking about teaching this stuff to the parents at my job and your reblog made me immediately think of you with Banana and the kidlets.
Another hack: when you want to get up but are stalled by your brain and frustrated â stop. Breathe. Think about what you want to do once youâre up, without thinking about getting up. Treat it like a fantasy, no pressure, just thinking about something youâd like to do in the future. Instead of thinking âI should get upâ over and over, think about having a bagel for breakfast, or getting dressed in your soft green sweater. Imagine yourself doing the thing.
I find that exercise often side-steps the block and the next thing I know Iâm out of bed and on my way to doing the other thing I thought about.
Works for other things too, if youâre stuck on one step and having a hard time doing it, think about the step after that. Need to do laundry and you canât get yourself to gather up your dirty clothes in the hamper? Think instead about carrying the hamper full of dirty clothes to the laundry room. And when you get to that next step, if you get stuck again, think about the step after it â you have a hamper of dirty clothes that needs to be put in the wash, let your subconscious handle the âcarry hamper to laundry roomâ step while youâre thinking about the âputting them in the washâ part.
YMMV of course, and this doesnât even always work for me (particularly not when I need to do a collection of tasks in no particular order, like packing for a trip⌠âpack socks, pack underwear, pack toothbrush, pack pants, pack shirtsâ is the kind of non-linear task list where this trick doesnât help at all), but itâs something Iâve found helpful often enough.
This is one of the most beautiful threads Iâve seen on Tumblr simply because it deals so compassionately with an issue so many of us have and can barely even articulate to ourselves, let alone to anyone else. <3
I think I get overwhelmed from the thought of all of the consequent steps, so maybe Iâll do the reverse of the advice above and try to focus on the first one.
@the-rain-monster i was just about to say something similar. that can work too sometimes. instead of going âugh i need to eat somethingâ for four hours, i try to focus on each step in turn.
and i mean each TINY step. just getting out of my chair has this many steps:
pause music
remove headphones
hang headphones on laptop screen
pick up laptop
leg-bend recliner footrest shut
set laptop aside
stand
and i reckon thatâs why i get stuck on it; because iâm trying to treat it as one thing, while executive dysfunction is treating it as seven things, and choking on trying to skip to step seven.
concurrent with this is a method i call âjunebuggingâ. which is where i go to the location of the thing i want to do, and just sort of bump around the region like a big stupid beetle until the thing somehow accidentally magically gets done. this is an attempt to leverage ADHD into an advantage; i may not have the executive function to make myself a sandwich on purpose, but if i fidget in the kitchen long enough, some kind of food is going to end up in my mouth eventually. and hell, even if i fail on that front, i will probably have achieved something, even if itâs only pouring all my loose leaf tea into decorative jars.*
@star-anise please may i give you an internet hug *hug!* because god how i wish anyone had known to do that for me when i was a kid. my childhood was one big overload, and like 99% of the huge dramatic meltdowns that made me the scapegoat/laughingstock/target of my entire elementary school were simply due to people not giving me time to process the next step, and interpreting a bluescreen as defiance/insult.
*this happened when i was trying to do dishes actually but the principle is sound
âŚI needed to see this thread, because one of my big dysfunctions is going to bed, of all things, so Iâll end up being up until 2 am on a daily basis doing fucking nothing because I cannot will my limbs to move from their current spot and it always ends up fucking me over.
I havenât seen a lot of posts that shed some positivity for non-binary Muslims who wear the hijab â I personally sometimes feel itâs frustrating that people see hijabi non-binary people as âfemaleâ just because the hijab is an obligation for women. My hijab does not define my gender; only my obligation to my God and my religion!Â
Shoutout to all non-binary hijabi Muslims out there; you are valid and Allah loves you, insya-Allah!
Solar power is making huge strides as a reliable, renewable energy source, but there's still a lot of untapped potential in terms of the efficiency of photovoltaic cells and what happens at night and during inclement weather. Now a solution has...
The City of Vancouver passed a policy to provide access to city services without fear to people with uncertain immigration status.
City of Vancouver councillors unanimously approved a policy to provide people with uncertain immigration status access to services without fear that employees will share their information with public agencies that could deport them.
The policy will allow vulnerable residents, whether theyâre foreign students or workers with expired permits, refugees whose claims were rejected or temporary foreign workers who lost their jobs, to interact with civil servants without being afraid theyâll get reported to the Canada Border Services Agency, unless required by law.
âThis policy at its root is about safety,â B.C. Civil Liberties Association director Josh Paterson told council in support of the policy.
âItâs about a woman being able to come forward and seek help in a situation of domestic abuse, itâs about a family not being afraid to call a building inspector because of the conditions of their apartment, itâs about making sure children that live in this city have the right to access programs and services on an equal basis.â
The approval comes more than two years after Lucia Vega Jiminez, a Mexican woman living in Vancouver who had her refugee claim rejected, died by suicide while in CBSA custody. She was detained after Transit Police handed her over to the CBSA after discovering her identity during a routine fare check.
Shortly thereafter, the city started exploring becoming a âsanctuary city.â The final policy, which involved consultation with 100 people, dropped the term âsanctuaryâ since itâs a bit misleading because municipalities do not have the jurisdiction to offer actual sanctuary to people without status.
The policy would not necessarily have prevented Jiminezâs death, as it does not apply to transit police. Nor does it apply to Vancouverâs police department, the park board or the library. Â
But Mayor Gregor Robertson promised to take it up with the Vancouver Police Board and said itâs a good step to ensuring the city is safe for everyone.
Vancouver Coastal Healthâs executive director of population health Juan Solorzano agreed the policy is a step in the right direction, saying it shows leadership in advocating for people with uncertain status.
âIt helps address some concerns about fear of prosecution and sense of belonging in the community⌠these things contribute to health,â Solorzano said.
In fairy tales and fantasy, two types of people go in towers:Â princesses and wizards.
Princesses are placed there against their will or with the intention of âkeeping them safe.â
This is very different from wizards, who seek out towers to hone their sorcery in solitude.
I would like a story where a princess is placed in an abandoned tower that used to belong to a wizard, and so she spends long years learning the craft of wizardry from the scraps left behind and becomes the most powerful magic wielder the world has seen in centuries, busts out of the tower and wreaks glorious, bloody vengeance on the fools that imprisoned her.Â
Why isnât Tumblr freaking out about the biggest leak in history?
The Panama Papers are information that has the potential to change the world and this story broke over 2 hours ago now. Putin might go to prison. Same with the Saudi-Arabian king Salman ibn Abd al-Asis, the Ukranian president Petro Poroschenko, the former Georgian prime minister Bidsina Iwanischwili, the Argentinian president Mauricio Macri, a quarter of the Icelandic cabinet, 11 other world leaders, and âbest soccer player of all timeâ Lionel Messi.
This is 2.6 terabytes of leaked data about tax evasion and off-shore companies, drug trade, etc etc etc. Remember Wikileaks? That was huge, right? The Panama Papers dwarf the 1.7GB of data we got out of that.
THE VIDEO
Just watch it. Think about it. Talk about it. This is real journalism and probably the biggest scandal of our lifetimes.
April 1
The quaver in my voice betrays me.
The anger in my words dissolved by the tears vibrating in my throat.
I want to scream the fury of my anger,
I don't want to bare my vulnerability,
I don't trust you.
The pity on your face enrages me.
Iâm still working on my Year Deconstructed collection, but this month is special because Iâll be posting each and every one of the 30 poems I write for April on social media.
Bonus! Vote for your favourite poem with your likes and hearts, and I will turn it into a hand lettered and/or calligraphy-ed poster for your enjoyment!
Iâll be cross-posting on Facebook (Rian J. Lloyd), instagram (@rj.lloyd), and on my blog (http://www.rj-lloyd.ca/#!blog/vqc97)
on the one hand i agree with this but on the other hand one of my coworkers rented an alpaca from a petting zoo and brought it to work because my boss said she wanted an alpaca sweater but the guy didnât hear her say sweater and didnât want to upset her by asking why the fuck sheâd want an alpaca
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