im alloaro shut up

this is just where i put my bullshit. Arrow, pronoun indifferent, alloaro queer and vv tired. adult.

[puddleorganism]

Aroallo+rabbit for the ask game? Pretty please?:))

Bnnuy!

Love rabbits. What a shape.

Free to use as an icon or whatever, with credit!

[kausijuoppo]

Keeping it casual

[alloaro-azelf]

let’s settle this

aroallo

alloaro

Voting ended onFeb 28, 2023

[mspec-aspec-culture-is]

mspec aspec aroallo culture brings a double meaning to ‘fuck everyone’

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[alloaro-azelf]

fellow alloaros! do you perceive kissing as romantic, sexual, and/or platonic? also, do you personally like kissing?

[alloaro-azelf]

Aromantic Views on Kissing

A short questionnaire on how arospec people view kissing.

actually, could y’all fill this out instead? it’s only 4 questions long, so I’d really appreciate if you could take a look at it ^_^

[aroallow]

a little tired of aro rep being about prioritizing friendship. me personally? i would like to be a slut. thanks

[aroallow]

this being said. my aromanticism does not need to be socially acceptable or presentable to be valid <3

[romance-evil-aro]

i would like to thank aroallos. for their services. thank you aroallos

[alloarrow]

i hate the whole "actually love is everything and before you say anything not all love is romantic" thing

like first of all, if you have to clarify that not all love is romantic then you're admitting that people are gonna associate the word "love" with romance and the "not all love is romantic" thing is just to avoid criticism (mainly from aros who would naturally be excluded from the whole "romantic love" thing)

second of all how fucking dare you decide what i might find important. love doesn't mean jack shit to me, regardless of what kind it is. just because i enjoy or care about something doesn't mean i love it. i think i understand my own feelings, actually, i don't need you to try to decide what i feel and what i value in life

[trupowieszcz-moved-deactivated2]

people talk about gay coding villains all the time but never about aro coding villains and it’s honestly everywhere it’s like “oh this terrible guy cannot feel love and it makes them a horrible person”

[trupowieszcz-moved-deactivated2]

and before someone tries to debunk this with “oh but theyre not actually aro theyre cant feel any kind of love theyre a psychopath” that’s like saying buffallo bill from silence of the lambs isnt a transphobic caricature because he’s not actually a trans woman

[trupowieszcz-moved-deactivated2]

adding this here for the record

[qpeople]

[ID: cropped screenshot of a tumblr tag that reads “also using the ‘theyre a psychopath'excuse is also bad bc uhh Ableism yknow’ end ID]

[an-aro-without-an-ace]

Dear Alloro's,

We appreciate the sentiment but just make sure you don't go too far into the "just because you're aro doesn't mean you can't love" pool, it sounds a bit preachy sometimes. Intentions to include us are all well! Just, be mindful of how you do it 👀👌

Your Local Alloaro Loser

[daring-elm]

i want to see aro headcanons where the character doesn't end up in a queerplatonic relationship or have a squish

i want to see aro headcanons where they don't compensate for their lack of romantic attraction with platonic love

i want to see aro headcanons without the character also being hc'ed as ace

i want to see aro headcanons where the character is aromantic because they just are, not because they "don't understand romance"

i want to see romance-repulsed aro headcanons

i want to see aro headcanons where the character doesn't have internalised aphobia

i want characters other than the gross or unfeeling or "crazy" characters to be hc'ed as aro

i don't want to have to explain my aro headcanons for them to be valid

i want a space for better aro rep in fandom because canon certainly won't give it to us

[alloaroghost]

It doesn’t make much sense to me why alloaro and alloace people are grouped together. Like yes, both groups don’t experience attraction in one way, but really the two groups are the complete opposite of each other. Any attraction and alloaro feels, and alloace doesn’t and vice versa. On top of that both groups face different forms of discrimination.

As an alloaro, I feel like I have more in common with any orientation other than asexuality. And that’s not me saying that I have a problem with asexual people, they’re great, it’s just that we’re actually very different from each other.

I think a lot of it comes from the wider lgbtq+ community seeing asexual and aromantic people as basically the same since both experience a lack of attraction in some way.

I think if also comes from the fact that many people see aromntiscim at a subset of asexuality when it is actually something very different. Most people will see that the main word for bi is bisexuality and if someone says otherwise, people will assume that the person is also biromantic. And that is the case for many people. But that becomes a problem when it it’s applied to asexuality and aromantiscm. And since most other ‘main parts’ of orientations usually end with ‘sexuality’ it is assumed that asexuality is the main orientation while aromantic people are a subset, which is incorrect. This view can often work to exclude aromantic people from the aspec community too and is incredibly harmful.

Now all of this isn’t to say I dislike alloace people, I love them. While I don’t have much in common with alloace people, were still both queer and I will still stand p for them no matter what. It’s just that I want people to understand that alloaro people and alloace people shouldn’t be grouped together because of some basic ideas and arophobia. We should have a space to talk about our common experiences and problems, but it’s also important that we have spaces for just alloaros and just alloaces.

It’s important to recognise that we have stuff in common, but it’s also important to recognise that we have a lot of differences too

[lamphous]

concept: a tv show with absolutely no romance. no romance at all. no contrived love triangles or forbidden love or unsolicited advances. the villian kidnaps a best friend because they’re the most important person to the hero. there’s no kissing in the rain and no dying confessions of endless burning love. instead there’s friendship and hugging and platonic i love you’s and no one ever thinks there need be “more.”

[jay-aro]

why must my headcannons have "reasoning"? isn't it enough to have my favorite characters be sexy and aromantic?

[amatopunk]

whenever i see posts about “infighting in aro communities”, between alloaros, aroaces, etc… i do get concerned. because, do they view just the “fighting” as an issue, or do they mean the “angry alloaros who keep demanding they be treated better?”

because let me tell you this: if combating alloarophobia, and wanting equal treatment in the community is something that’s going to require fighting (which it will), that is a fight worth having. as ace and aro people have struggled to become accepted in the LGBTQ+ community due to exclusionists trying to keep them out, that caused “in-fighting” in the LGBTQ+ community, didn’t it? so why are alloaros not able to ask for more respect in aspec spaces? why is that the thing that everyone seems to disregard as unnecessary?

it’s hardly a question, though. we all know what the answer to that is, even if nobody wants to say it.

maybe, just maybe, instead of viewing this as nothing more than discourse that will go away in a few weeks, maybe we should try to actually stand up for our fellow aspecs.

[murdereyesnicky]

Are any other aspecs exhausted or frustrated by the amount of "support" that just says we're valid? Like it feels so cheap and it's barely bare minimum. And yeah i know that posts saying we're valid can be helpful and are good but fuck's sake there's more us than just our fucking validity. There's so many different ways to support us other than just posting the same validity posts over and over again like a broken record.

[alloaro]

Hey just a reminder that being alloaro puts a person in a unique situation where our allosexuality and our arospec orientations cannot be separated, since our arospec identity inherently affects how we approach our allosexuality