how do you respond to a pot when he asks you how you "like to be spoiled"
Well, this could turn into a long opened ended discussion. There are many ways to be spoiled. Such as financially, materialistically, spiritually and sexually etc.
It’s probably safe to say that you’d prefer to tell him that you’d like to be spoiled either monetarily or materialistically, and believe it or not, there are ways to go about this, that come off less “gold-diggerish”. I wouldn’t advise just flat out saying you want money!
Personally, if I were given a choice, I would prefer to be spoiled with money. It doesn’t matter if it comes in the form of cash, a certified cheque, an email transfer or as a prepaid visa etc and for these reasons:
1) Priorities. Having cash, enables me to accomplish my goals quicker and to keep my priorities in check. A new computer is nice, but if I have to pawn it off to pay my car insurance bill…what good has that done for me?
2) Freedom. It gives me a sense of freedom, that I am able to look after things instead of just at things, and can plan for a rainy day.
3) Control. It limits his amount of control over me. He doesn’t get to decide what I will do with the money, he has allotted for me. Trust me, they always think of it as their money, even when it’s in our hands. No man wants to know that we are going shopping for an outfit to wear with some other guy with the money they gave us. It not only gives me control over how I use it to help myself, but in how I am able to help others, such as with my family, boyfriends, charities or friends
4) Things change. What I want now, may be a waste of a $1,000 in a year or two. Items depreciate in value, and we (people) are notorious for always wanting the biggest, fastest, prettier version of what we have now. Plus, things become broken, stolen, misplaced and are most often underused. That same $1,000 in my bank, whether its invested or saved, will still be there…except it will have increased in value.
Now, as for asking to be spoiled financially or materialistically, which ever you choose, you can go about it by mentioning things similar to this:
“How do you want to be spoiled?”
1) Well, to be honest, I’d like to be spoiled financially. It gives me a sense of freedom that I find to be liberating. It takes the stress away from having to work so many hours while trying to study for school at the same time.
2) Actually, I’d like to be spoiled with material gifts. The allowance that you are (will be) giving me, is enough to take care of all of my expenses. So it would be really sweet of you to surprise me with items that I maybe can not afford for myself. I can give you a list if it’ll help?
3) This is a tough question. I would love to be spoiled both financially and with material gifts. But it’s just not feasible because I still live at home. In order for me to avoid my parents/boyfriend asking me a lot of questions about the gifts that you will give me, its simply smarter to chose financially, for now. Imagine if I started to give you gifts that you had to try to hide from your wife/co-workers etc? Its just extra stress that you and I don’t really need. This is supposed to be fun right! Since I keep my finances separate, its a more private way of being spoiled, because I can use it to buy myself gifts that I know my parents won’t suspect anything about.
4) To be honest, I’m content in our arrangement, and I feel blessed with the allowance that you currently give me. I’d like to leave it up to you to surprise me! Of course, I can drop little hints for certain things that catch my eye here and there, or I can make you a quick list of items that I’ll need next semester for school/work? I’m sure along the way, that something will pop up that I may need a little extra help with financially, such as car trouble or maybe a flight to see my best friend for a weekend (who just happens to live in NY or Vegas lol)? Maybe you can help me with that?
5) Listen, we’re both adults and although I’m a reserved girl, I’ve never been too shy to go after what I want. And I want you. I want us to work and have a great arrangement. To put it bluntly, I’ll take care of you sexually while you take care of me financially. It’s a win-win because I doubt that you want me to buy you a new dress or treat you to a spa day? Lol.
With the last one #5, I’m just throwing it out there, because 9x out of 10…we know what line is coming next, “I’ll spoil you, if you spoil me” ugh lol. I hope that helps. Regardless of what ever it is that you want, either in the moment or for the future, whether its money, gifts or sex, the best thing to do is to tell him, before its too late and he makes the decision for you!
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