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@amberrassing
Every night I ask myself "is it better to stay up and make sure something gets done, or bank on going to sleep early-ish and being more productive tomorrow" and then land on a worst of both worlds compromise.
This one is becoming a hit with the sleep deprivation fandom.
you wouldn’t last an hour in the asylum where they raised me
it makes me so mad people won't leave this poor kid alone but every single response he shoots off is funnier than if you gave me a week to think of one
Lil nas x is like if bugs bunny were a real person
Really …?
Do you think I’m an idiot, Kevin?
the "I'm just some guy" neutrality movement helped me so much more than "everyone is hot and beautiful" positivity movement ever did tbh
skincare focused on how to keep your skin well hydrated, protect against skin cancer, how your skin can indicate what may be going on internally 🫶🏼💛🦋🐥❣️🌟📝
skincare focused on how to look 19 forever and hate every aspect of your physical being without optimizing it peeling it pumping it full of fillers feeding into youth obsessed culture that makes you even more afraid to die 🤒🤢🔪🦠✂️❌🚫
i enjoy it when girls play the sims on dogshit laptops at 10 fps because i love chaos
my sister would try and play the sims 3 on her macbook air and it sounded like a fucking boeing 737 getting ready to take off
“actually op was lying for notes SO” so what? do you think i come to tumblr, a casual blogging website on the internet, to listen to board tested & reviewed personal stories? do you think I sit there patiently, tapping a merry little tune, as the op gets cross-examined by the tumblr jury to ensure they aren’t lying under oath? do you think your blorbos and bleebees will be tarnished if they exist on the same dash as a tall tale?
absolutely lost in the sauce
Length of the summer school break across Europe.
terfs are so fucking stupid its actually funny
I probably shouldn't be surprised about this, but a lot of people missing the point here. the joke isn't "terfs calling Sigourney weaver, a hot woman, unattractive" and tbh I think seeing this post and going "terfs are so stupid because Sigourney weaver is obviously gorgeous" is even potentially harmful or at least hurtful
the joke here is terfs seeing a picture of Sigourney Weaver, famous actress and cis woman, but because they were told its a picture of a trans woman they're immediately yakking about how 'clockable' she is
Reminds me of when me and a friend were tabling for Mermaids and some TERF came over and told us, in great detail, why we, two cis women, would never "pass". Because its incomprehensible to them that any actual cis people would just support trans rights. I'm obviously taller than any real woman and my tits are obviously fake, and her man hands and "beer belly" gave her away.
She was six months pregnant
I've yet to hear any definition of womanhood as set by TERFs that doesn't exclude huge swathes of women, both cis and trans alike.
social anxiety will really have you doin dumbass things like looking at something like free donuts at work and thinking "they probably don't include me in the group of people who are allowed to take from this"
Me @ my ADHD clients: What if........... we DIDN’T do this.........
I'm,,,,, having a hard time getting out of this mindset so do you have any tips on not doing this? 😅
Feather has some good initial thoughts. Tied in with that, I have one tip on what NOT to rely on:
Anger, fear, and frustration. People who struggle with executive function (as in, doing something on time) spend so long pressing this button long after it’s ceased functioning for a very good reason: It USED to work! It SOMETIMES works! It’s the technique How to ADHD calls “Hulk Smashing through the Wall of Awful”. Hoooowever. As well as the downsides How to ADHD mentions (that it damages your relationships and self-esteem), building up enough adrenaline to get something done is extremely costly to your body--when you invoke the body’s stress response, you’re diverting a lot of resources from normal healthy processing--and it gets less useful the more you use it. Your body loses its sensitivity to that level of stress and you need ever-increasing amounts of anger and fear and frustration and self-hatred to motivate yourself. If you use this method enough, you can eventually become completely desensitized to these emotions, and literally no amount of them will motivate you, and it can take months or years of low-stress living before your brain will begin to respond to them again.
I hit that point somewhere around year four of a 2-year Master’s degree program. It was Not Fun. (I just had a dream last night that I had to go back to Vancouver to finish an assignment I’d left undone or they’d take away my license to practice. I graduated half a decade ago.)
So one thing that works for me is to think in terms of what we know about optimal productive experience, a concept in psychology called Flow:
Flow means hitting the sweet spot of something challenging and interesting enough that you want to do it, and that you feel you have the skills and ability to do.
So if you want to be able to do something, you need to adjust the parameters of that task to make it either easier, more challenging, more interesting, or less overwhelming, until you feel capable of doing it.
For people locked up in the realm of anxiety, that often means cutting your workload until it actually feels manageable--lowering your standards or decreasing the amount you’re expected to take on until you can start. Often once you’ve started, you feel more capable and can up the challenge level again, but it can be important to give yourself an on-ramp.
On the other hand, it may involve increasing the skills you bring to bear. You can cast around for any related skills, anything that it feels like you do easily or well, to help you out, or even just remind yourself that you’ve been skilled enough in the past to help your confidence.
If what you’re dealing with instead is apathy or boredom, then you may need to make something more of a challenge or more intrinsically interesting, until you have a reason to want to do it. This is why gamification of basic tasks, like Habitica, can be so successful.
Other than that... I have an executive dysfunction tag, How to ADHD has a video on overcoming the wall of awful, and ADDitude mag has a whole ton of stuff!
For me personally the idea of needing to be in a flow state to get things done is terrifying. For me, flow = hyperfocus and I can not trigger that at will. (Also, it has knock-on negative effects on my day/life.). The idea of adjusting parameters to bring tasks back into the realm of possible is useful. But needing to pursue a flow state or potato and I end up living the life of potato.
I've been thinking about this reply all day, about the difference between flow and hyperfocus, and what to aim for. About what "executive function" actually is.
For me, the goal I strive for is being able to reflect on how I feel about an experience and think, "Is this what I want to be doing? Do I like the way I'm doing it? Am I forgetting anything? Where will I go next?
That's moments like tonight when I was in a grocery store, distracted by the bulk nuts aisle, then realizing, "I don't need this. I'm being distracted." I closed my eyes and took a deep breath, and reminded myself I didn't have to decide which type of nut was better or cheaper; trying to calculate that was overwhelming me when I needed to calm down and focus on my goals. I could remind myself of my budget, look at the cart and judge that it was already going to be heavy to carry home without adding more stuff, and called up my shopping list in the phone so I could walk away from the nuts and buy the one thing I needed before checking out. That's... not the kind of thing I was really capable of when I first went on ADHD meds.
Hyperfocus is just the flipside of inattention. It's still about being out of touch with the world as it's happening around you, and not aware of your own functioning or able to question or change how your attention is spent.
Flow, meanwhile... can mean figuring out that everything else is overwhelming, but you can bring your empty dishes to the kitchen. That today is going to be a potato day, so it might be time to stop doomscrolling through Twitter and pull out that new book you haven't read yet. It's just... finding a way to connect to where you are and what's going on around you, and being able to actually engage with it.
"Executive function" is the ability to be aware of what's around you and what your priorities are. It's the ability to make decisions about how to get where you want to go, and then follow through on them. That's the basic ability people with ADHD struggle with, and therefore the thing we try to use strategies and coping skills and medications to try to replace. Which is hard, because for everyone with ADHD, the cockpit of your brain will look very different and the "go" button will always be in a different place. The most important thing is getting to know your brain and what makes it tick.
New Year, New Gifs Challenge Day 3 ● Comfort movie ● Enchanted (2007)
You have such strange ideas about love!
anakin skywalker does not use jedi mind tricks
not once in the films
do you think that’s a coincidence
not on your life buddy
anakin skywalker does not have it in him to overrule another being’s free will
he murders a bunch of children with a laser sword
your fave is problematic
actually Darth Vader killed those kids. he also killed Anakin, from a certain point of view
just ‘cause he changed his name doesn’t mean he’s a different person, he was the same dude under different circumstances. anakin’s life prior to being darth vader was not destroyed by an invading darth vader, it was darth vader’s backstory.
I’m going to help a Sith Lord overthrow the Galactic Republic and systematically hunt down and murder every member of the Jedi order and when Obi-Wan comes for me I’m going to tell him it was my alter ego Countess Boochie Flagrante
