The Pleasure Principal

Relationship & Intimacy, Spiritual Guidance, Yoga & Meditation

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“The moment you feel like you have to prove your worth to someone is the moment you absolutely and utterly have to walk away.”

— Alyssia Harris

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Kathy Clayton and I both have held a lot of experienced trauma, and we KNOW it needs to be talked about. We are not the only ones, and we KNOW silence eats away from the inside-out. We have been having open, frank conversations for a while. Now we are opening them up to you.

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She Talks to Angels...and rugs. #blackcrows #singlemom #singleparenting #fleamarket #energy #energyhealing #kids #thepleasureprincipal #divdesignagency #dignity #integrity #veritas #verity #seattle https://www.instagram.com/p/B4IU0Kog_A4/?igshid=1r25jkssk03n0

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When you’re a single mom, it’s important to understand the infinite energy exchange that occurs between you and your kids—especially when you make THEM a little bonkers. #singleparent #singlemom #parenting #thepleasureprincipal #divdesignagency #dignity #integrity #verity #veritas https://www.instagram.com/p/B4IUFi4gGDe/?igshid=14ue52m42cxom

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Sunday morning coming down. #singlemom #seattle #parenting #thepleasureprincipal #divdesignagency #children #dignity #integrity #verity #veritas https://www.instagram.com/p/B4IQwz0AgQl/?igshid=1t4ibyt9wx0tu

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Subjective well-being is the term I use instead of happiness to describe a person’s desire to change. People don’t often desire change unless they feel some unhappiness, but the pursuit of happiness can be confused with hedonism, and hedonism alone externalizes a person’s feeling of contentment or ups the ante when it comes to what a person “needs” to feel “good.” I challenge my clients to identify their wants and differentiate them from needs, to look not just to thrills or pleasure but also to altruism and helping behaviors to give meaning to their lives. The research shows that it is not an austere life nor is it a hedonistic life that brings lasting satisfaction, but novelty and curiosity that can be found in a balance of both eudaemonism and hedonism. To that end, I encourage you to make a list and begin to discover what brings you not only joy, but also satisfaction and meaning... What do you look forward to? Who or what motivates you? What does your job do for you? Does it give you challenge and a good income? Does it allow you the freedom to self-determine other areas of your life? In what areas do you have agency—not just the ability, but also the determination and motivation— to make rational-to-you free choice to further your goals and have autonomy? Look at your relationships. Do you experience a kind of contentment or ease within them, or are they fraught with conflict or obligation? Can they be improved with more self-knowing and understanding? Can they be improved with better knowing of the Other? Stay tuned for more on subjective we’ll-being. The D-I-V Design Agency Mediation & Family Advocacy divdesignagency.com The Pleasure Principal Intimacy in Conflict & Sex thepleasureprincipal.org #subjectivewell-being #happiness #joy #eudaemonism #hedonism #dignity #integrity #veritas #thepleasureprincipal #divdesignagency #values #PERMA #PERMA-H #yoga #niyama #yama #nondualistictantra #tantra https://www.instagram.com/p/BwSXarZH91q/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=coetlj6qwv39

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As a mediator, intimacy & conflict pedagogista, I come across people firmly entrenched in their version of what is “true,” and want vindication somehow from me to validate that their truth and their reality is not only “true” but also “right.” The truth is, “true” is subjective. Both tellings of an event are true for the tellers because the story unfolded has been given meaning by the storyteller and it is that meaning attached to the story that creates its “truth.” So when the attribution of that meaning is assigned as negative, the storyteller has likely also FELT the experience as negative, and that experienced negativity is what the teller remembers—how it made them FEEL. The person sitting next to them may have a completely different version of the same event. Intent, meaning, narrative, and prior experience that the brain has attached meaning to are gauges of how an event took place. Therefore, if I am pained because I am triggered by a situation that you experienced as largely positive, then not only might I have a completely different rendition of an account of the event, but I also now may add on that you are insensitive or don’t respect me because you enjoyed a thing I despised. This is the nature of relational conflict. #behavior #truth #verità #dignity #integra #integrity #balance #neuroscience #brain #conflict #attribution #gottman #lovelanguages #trauma #amygdala #pituitary #endocrine #buddha #rickhanson #danariely #samharris https://www.instagram.com/p/BvmIGeinLN6/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=566n4zo05n36

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“I want to talk about what happened without mentioning how much it hurt. There has to be a way. To care for the wounds without reopening them. To name the pain without inviting it back into me.”

— Lora Mathis

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This is something I hear repeating in the words of my clients.

[purplebuddhaquotes]

“The mind is so much more interesting than the body.”

— Isabel Allende

[gosh]

“Loneliness is a sign you are in desperate need of yourself.”

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Rupi Kaur

(via ignorance)

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“Nobody wants to hear this, but sometimes the person you want the most is the person you’re best without.”

— Unknown

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“We cannot simply sit and stare at our wounds forever. We must stand up and move on to the next action.”

— Haruki Murakami, 1Q84 (via thoughtkick)

[thoughtkick]

“The world will knock you down plenty. You don’t need to be doing it to yourself.”

— Elizabeth Scott (via thoughtkick)

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