Reaching The Stars

[fucklovepayme]

I Can Not Stress This Enough

IF YOU CAN NOT SPEAK UP FOR YOURSELF, DO NOT SUGAR

IF YOU CAN NOT USE YOUR INSTINCTS OR BETTER JUDGEMENT, DO NOT SUGAR

IF YOU HAVE LOW SELF-ESTEEM/CONFIDENCE, DO NOT SUGAR

IF YOU THINK THIS SHIT IS EASY, DO NOT SUGAR

IF YOU ARE DESPERATE FOR MONEY, DO NOT SUGAR

IF YOU THINK YOUR SUGAR DADDY IS GOING TO LOOK LIKE GEORGE CLOONEY OR JOHNNY DEPP, DO NOT SUGAR

IF YOU DON’T HAVE TOUGH SKIN, DO NOT SUGAR

IF YOU CAN’T DO YOUR RESEARCH ON SUGARING, DO NOT SUGAR

IF YOU DON’T KNOW HOW TO DO A SIMPLE BACKGROUND CHECK ON A PERSON, DO NOT SUGAR

IF YOU CAN’T FOLLOW BASIC SAFETY PRECAUTIONS, DO NOT SUGAR

IF YOU CAN’T THINK FOR YOURSELF, DO NOT SUGAR

IF YOU THINK YOU’RE GOING TO FIND A SUGAR DADDY FAST, DO NOT SUGAR

IF YOU THINK YOUR SUGAR DADDY WON’T GHOST YOUR ASS OR BE CHEAP, DO NOT SUGAR

IF YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT IN AN ARRANGEMENT, DO NOT SUGAR

[theforce]

i was 14 and i was walking through a mall by myself at 12am after my shift at coldstone creamery lol and a bunch of men started whistling and meowing and getting really close to me and they kept asking me questions and i kept not answering until i didn’t know what else to do so i said “i’m only 14” and almost in unison they said “we don’t care” i was so fucking scared i didn’t know what to do and they kept talking about how i looked and how my body looked and what they would do i was on the verge of tears i was all alone in a huge mall i knew i couldn’t outrun them all i felt totally hopeless until a maintenance worker came up to all of us with a huge industrial broom in her hand, i thought she was going to yell at all of us for being in the mall after hours bc she probably thought we were all friends but instead she cursed all of them out in spanish, threatened to press a panic button on her belt and then proceeded to walk me to the basement garage and waited with me until my mom got there to pick me up she had a death grip on her cart the whole time and a face of steel she looked so strong and i just kept saying thank you and she kept saying not to thank her because she had to stop them.

that was the moment i realized women were the most important beings on this planet and we have to protect each other bc nobody else is going to, she didn’t even know me, we couldn’t even communicate that well because of the language barrier, she could have lost her job for waiting with me in the parking lot but she looked out for me when she didn’t have to, she had nothing to gain from it, i’m 21 now and i tell everyone this story even though it happened 7 years ago, what she did that night helped me form and shape lot of my beliefs early on. 

[actuallunalovegood]

i was at a grocery store really late one night and some old guy kind of eyed me as i walked out of the store next to this other lady. She and I made eye contact and i knew she was scared too. we loaded up our groceries into our cars as fast as possible and I had way more bags than her so she got done faster than me. I panicked because i was sure she was going to leave so i just hurried faster, shaking a little, and then i noticed she sat in her car, watching me and making sure nobody came near. She waited not until all my groceries were loaded, or until my cart was put away, or until I got into my car. No, she didn’t drive away until I drove away. 

And that was the moment that I realized how much women need other women. That we can’t win this war without each other and we have to be looking out for each other, every second. 

[ofgeography]

my last year in new york city, i got off the subway around 9 or 10p.m. i only lived about 5 blocks from the f train, but i hadn’t gotten more than two before a woman’s hand suddenly touched my arm. 

“that guy behind us is following you,” she said. “he was watching you leave the train car and followed you up.”

i hadn’t noticed him, or at least not noticed him following me. when we stopped outside a grocery store, he stopped half a block back and loitered. the woman linked her arm with mine and walked me several blocks out of her way to my front door and made sure i got inside safely.

another time, nocigar and i were walking home and at a stoplight a stranger grabbed my arm when i wouldn’t respond to him and tried to physically drag me over to him. she—who is, by the way, not a very physically imposing girl—ripped his hand off my arm and snarled, “don’t fucking touch her.”

protect your friends. protect strangers. there are good men in the world, but don’t wait for them to do something if you can do it yourself.

[edmundo-noches-buckley]

I was at a club once and my friend left with her boyfriend so I finished my drink and was heading out to the parking lot when three girls came up to me and basically surrounded me. 

“Those guys behind us were talking about following you. We can walk with you.” 

I have MMA training but have never in my life had been offered the protection and sanction of my own gender. This is so important. 

[stele3]

GIRL CODE. FUCKIN’ GIRL CODE. LEAVE NO GIRL BEHIND. EVER.

[brownbarbiesugar-deactivated201]

Tearing up reading this because women are really each other’s angels walking earth together protecting each other.

Keep on sistas 💛

[sophisticatedtemptress]

List of products and little tips that have made my skin (and my life) better pt. 2🌸

once again, this turned out way longer than expected, but this particular post doesn’t have as many product recommendations as pt. 1. this is more focused on tips that, i feel, make me a better version of myself

*the links show the brands i use but there are cheaper options you can find that work just as well

• shower at least two times a day.

• after showering at night use a pumice stone to remove dead skin from your feet then coat your feet with shea butter and put on socks overnight.

• have a diy manicure weekly. even if you dont paint your nails, make sure theyre clean and trimmed (or get your nails done professionally, whatever floats your boat.

• floss.

• y’all know im a natural ho when it comes to things i put in or on my body. ive always struggled with my teeth. they were yellow asf and i didn’t like it (if you dont care if your teeth are yellow and love them that way, kudos for you, i am not). i tried turmeric, oil pulling method, banana peels, strawberries, charcoal, baking soda… basically everything and it didnt work (these may work for some but they didn’t for me) so i bought crest strips and bitch. for $22 i have the whitest teeth ive ever had. it may not work for everyone but it did for me(ik that some dentists and orthodontists offer whitening services but my mom had it done and she has had sensitive gums ever since so due it at your own discretion).

• for fucks sake. clean. your. damn. ears. theres this beautiful invention called Q-Tips. use them.

• NEVER look at the floor while walking. look straight forward. if you make eye contact with a stranger, smile. this shows confidence and tbh i hate it when people, specially attractive girls, give you a nasty look. just smile. youll look good and possibly even male someones day.

• again, eye contact is hot. make eye contact. always.

• be polite and friendly. when entering a place say “good morning”, when leaving say “have a nice/good afternoon/evening”.

• your back should always be straight. posture is attractive.

• wake up early. (i usually wake up at six, go to the gym and in my opinion its the best way to start your day. ik its not for everyone but if you can, do so).

• do not. DO. NOT. drink sodas. its bad for you. plain and simple. drink water.

• try to get in 8 hours at the gym weekly. you dont have to go the 7 days but if you to two hours a day and have rests days in between youll be good. (before someone starts talking shit, im not saying to do two hours of cardio. nope. you do you. you can do 30 minutes of cardio and do weights or mat exercises for the remaining time. i usually do 1 hour of cardio and 1 hour of whatever i feel like doing (legs, arms, abs… sometimes i’ll combine them))

• i developed the bad habit of weighing myself everyday and im currently going to the gym and trying to lose weight so it’s frustrating if i dont lose as much as i wanted or stay the same weight. so if you can, try to weigh yourself only once a week. this is a tip im trying to apply to myself because obsessing over one’s weight is just unhealthy.

• if you part your hair, make sure the line is straight, not necessarily centralized.

• i have curly hair and my life has been a constant cycle of buying different hair products bc none of them ever seem to work but ive been using shea butter mixed with vanilla oil and damn. my hair has never looked/smelled better.

• own nice pjs. you never know if theres an emergency and you have to run out of your house with what you’re wearing. (i dont sleep with clothes so i just keep my silk robe near my bed whenever i go to sleep)

• this goes for underwear too. if you have hispanic parents you know what im talking about. (i don’t believe in period underwear. fight me.)

• please. please. always match your bra and panties. i was at the mall the other day and saw a woman bend over and her panties where beige……. her bra straps were black. just no. (im not saying i have a problem with seeing bra straps. but just make sure theyre the same color as your underwear.)

• get your hair professionally cut at least twice a year. if you can cut your own hair and not butcher it while doing it go ahead!

• stop eating foods you know bloat you.

• if you want to lose weight, dont focus on doing targeted exercises like crunches and squats. Do cardio. (not saying that you shouldn’t squat once in a while, but cardio helps you loose weight while targeted/focused excersices tone)

• if you happen to go to Planet fitness and want to shed a few pounds. use the Arc Trainer. its the best machine for weight loss.

• dont use setting powder after concealing your eyelids (gotta thank my girl daisy marquez i love her)

• when buying gift sets at sephora, only buy hair/skin care sets (a friend of mine used to work at sephora and said only to do so if you wanted to try certain products for the first time bc its not really cost effective)

• y’all gotta stop sleeping on stores like marhsalls and tjmaxx when you can be saving loads of money (ask an employee which day of the week they put out new merch)

• invest in silk sheets (trust me if/when you shave your legs you’ll know what heaven feels like)

• make a cup of tea and sit down and enjoy a book

• the B E S T brand for lip balms is burt bees. i love the peppermint one but they are all truly good.

• buy a diva cup. they are comfortable. cost effective. personally i dont like having to change my pad every 2-3 hours and a diva cup can be used for up to 12 hours. i changed like 5 times a day during my cycle while wearing pads and now i change around 15 times per cycle. you have to be absolutely comfortable with your body, especially your vagina to start wearing them tbh (diva cups come in two sizes i believe model 1 model 2 i bought both because my first two days are my heaviest flows. so during the first days i use the biggest one and use the small the rest of the cycle.) if you want me to make a post about my experience wearing them let me know!

• castor oil hair mask every two weeks.

• invest in scrub gloves for life changing, smooth skin. (although i shower 2-3 times a day i only scrub at night then coat my whole body with shea butter) \ let me know if y’all want my night routine merged with my boob/butt care routine in another post!

• get a journal/agenda and plan your week (i got this bullet journal)

• always make your bed in the morning

• if you like someones outfit, tell them. if you like someones smile. tell them. give compliments every once in a while.

• dont judge people’s clothing, specially if they’re fat and youre thinking some shit like “theres types of clothes for those type of bodies”. just shut the fuck up. i do agree that there are types of clothes for every ocasion but not for bodies. if you, a skinny girl, can wear a crop top in public, so can a fat girl. (this coming from someone who used to be very fat and stopped wearing crop tops in public bc of mean ass bitches)

• if youre in an office, wether it be a doctors or some government office or whatever, dont be talking loudly on the phone. me and the rest of the population hate you if you do this. it’s annoying and rude. nobody cares if your sisters bestfriends boyfriend had sex with a dog. i really dont care. if you HAVE to talk on the phone, quietly exit the room and talk all you want.

• a friend of mine (a girl) told me that she doesnt hold the door for anyone, and i mean ANYONE, bc she’s a lady. thats bullshit. if you see a woman with a stroller, an old lady, or basically anyone, hold the door for them. its plain rude for you to let the door slam in someones face bc you believe everyone should treat you like a lady. (im not sayin they shouldn’t but act like a lady, not a bitch)

• iron your clothes.

• never use your phone at the table.

• dont point out acne or sun burns.

• if youre a vegan or vegetarian or eat, protein shakes are always a good breakfast option if youre in a hurry or dont want to cook

• if you have acne scars mix an egg white and an apricot in the blender. thank me later.

• buy african black soap for better skin. (if you have sensitive skin i wouldn’t recommend it tbh)

• if youre at the gym: fucking wear appropriate attire. (ive seen girls with jean shorts and flannels wrapped around their waists… i get that some girls wear red lipstick to feel hot and theres nothing wrong with that. but dont lie to me and say that you’re comfortable running with jeans rubbing against your thighs. everyone is probably judging you.)

• always tip your waiters/waitresses. if the service is good tip atleast 15%. (i always tip 20% / if you have a favorite restaurant and you like a particular waiter/waitress ask for them to serve you. its more likely youll get a better service.) whenever i go to my favorite restaurant the same guy always comes to my table and we chat. he memorized what appetizers, main courses, and desserts my family usually orders so when i go there hes like “welcome to *****, 2 lemonades and a room temp bottle water?” and same goes for appetizers and the rest of the meal. always be friendly to your waiters/waitresses. always.

• smile more often and remember self-care isn’t selfish.

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im sorry this took so long to post… i hope some of these are helpful. reblog if you’d like to see a pt. 3¿? theres not much more to add but i constantly change products and routines so who knows.

[charmingbarbarian]

self-discipline is actually the highest form of self-love.

[veryfunnymemes]

[bitchezbebonkers-deactivated202]

PLEASE AS A NURSE IM BEGGING YOU ALL PLEASE 

[juicy-baphobastard]

PLEASE ITS FUCKING IMPORTANT

[md-admissions]

I’m an ID fellow and I endorse this 100%

[delta-dark]

This!!!!! So important!!!!!

[sosuperawesome]

Charms / Pins / Pouches

Siny Cath on Etsy

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

so in horror movies where flat tires stop people from running away…you can still drive with flat tires. it damages the tires and the wheels, and it’s not safe at high speeds, but you can still drive away from a raving serial killer. pro tip next time a knife wielding lunatic comes at you get in the car, you’ll be fine

[pwapboi-deactivated20200412]

well this would have been useful last night

[aro-ace-fangirl]

See this is where people make the mistake. If the knife maniac is running straight at your car, SLAM it into reverse. You probably won’t kill them but you might cause some damage. Then drive. They’ll be stopped and you can get away, and maybe they’ll even be at the same spot to call the cops (and maybe the ambulance) on

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

what a top notch addition to an already excellent post

[anikisam-deactivated20220728]

are we going to ignore the guy who apparently had an encounter with a serial killer last night

[biggest-gaudiest-poltergeist]

they lived to post about it, it’s fine

[chachingchocolateting]

Lmfaoooo I love tumblr

[chachingchocolateting]

Lmao

I remember when I very first began sugaring 😂😂😂.

I signed up on shitty SA, Okcupid, and Ashley Madison. I thought it was going to be so easy, simply because I was popping in real life, very well spoken, etc etc.

Lmfaoooo y’all those men were so racist, offensive, and extremely cheap. I honestly couldn’t believe it. This man told me 100.00 DOLLAAAAAARSSSS 😂😂 another suggested dinner at razzoos lmfao & another said “ you think I’ll pay you that much when I can get women who look much better than you at a way cheaper price “ . THE AUDACITY OF IT ALL.

But look at me now. Look at how much I’ve experienced. People I’ve met, places I’ve been. Crazy amounts of cash being given to me. Gifts that women twice my age could only dream about. Being offered Job positions from someone across the country! 2 months ago I was thinking about quitting throwing in the towel ( I know some of y’all remember that stupid post ) and now look. My mouth alone is about to be worth over 8 thousand dollars. I have a man who keeps track of MY bills like Hes my accountant & can have money deposited without even leaving my bed/house.

Things do get better. There’s always a drought. But when there’s a drought, there’s something even bigger coming your way. Don’t let NOONE even other sugar babies try to down play your hustle at all !! Everybody walk is different everybody path is different.

Keep going ladies

[theseductresslife]

Part 2: How to hunt. 

First, I go to the ladies’ room. This gives me the chance to scope out the men at the bar/lounge as I walk by. It will also give you a chance to collect yourself if you’re nervous. If you can (depending on the building’s layout) take the long way back. This will give you more time to look at any potential men and pick out a place to sit. Try to sit in the “middle” of empty seats. Ideally, you’ll want an empty seat to both your left and your right (so men can come and sit next to you).  

As you’re making your way to the bar (and to your chair) if you’ve already spotted a man that seems like he’s potential (and he’s at the bar). WALK PASS HIM AND SMILE SOFTLY AT HIM. He will watch you until you sit down at your seat so do this slowly (and practice at home if you have to). Once you’ve sat down look at him once again IN HIS EYES FOR 1-2 seconds and smile. 8 times out of 10 he will walk over to you (if he doesn’t I’ll explain what to do in the upcoming paragraphs). 

If you haven’t spotted anyone that has any potential yet, that’s fine. Have a seat and order your drink. While you’re waiting for your drink, take a look around. You want to make sure you’ve chosen a good “viewing” spot; somewhere you can see people and people can see you. Do not take your phone out and start tapping away. It’s okay to glance at it every now and then but remember: you’re there so men can talk to you. Gluing your face to the screen not only screams “DON’T TALK TO ME” but you may also miss out on POTS because you can’t see the men coming and going.

So let’s say that you’re sitting alone at the bar and men are coming in and you see someone that has potential (or it was the guy that you were looking at earlier but he hasn’t made his move yet). Look at him for 2 seconds. And if you’re a bit bolder, look at him strait in his eyes for ONE SECOND then slowly look him down AND back up until you reach his eyes again and then turn back around, look straight ahead and take a sip of your drink. Now, depending on how bold he is he’s going to either: 

a). walk up to you and introduce himself, 

b). he’s going to move closer to you or,

c). he’s going to stare or start glancing at you a lot.

If it’s © take a few sips from your drink and then look back over at him. Wait a second or two until he’s looking at you (if he isn’t already) look him in his eyes and smile. This can be a sexy smile or a bubbly smile, whatever you’re natural at. Turn back around and wait. He’s making his way over now. 

And if by chance he’s not, it’s his loss and you don’t want to be dating someone that so’s fucking clueless lol. But seriously, if by chance he’s doesn’t come over, don’t beat yourself up about it. He could be in a relationship. Or gay. Or just received some bad news. Or really insecure. It could be a number of things. Just gather yourself and get ready to do it again. 

However, let’s say that you’ve snagged his attention (because 9 times out of 10 you did) and he’s made his way over to talk to you. What do you say? This will depend on the guy. Some guys love to talk and all you have to do really is nod and smile. But not everyone’s like that. If the guy doesn’t automatically start talking after introductions are out the way, I will break the ice by giving him a compliment. Men hardly ever get complimented and it instantly makes you more likable. 

What to talk about? Most will ask the typical questions “What do you do, do you go to school,etc.” so it’s always good to have pre-planned answers for these. I also take the same question and throw it back at him.  

The biggest takeaway here is that you don’t want to talk too much. Remember that the goal here is that you’re trying to access if this guy is POT material. Plus, if you don’t overshare it makes you look more mysterious. If the guy isn’t a natural talker, you’re going to want to ask open ended questions. Open ended questions are questions that someone can’t really say yes or no to, they have to give more of a detailed answer. There’s a book you can get on Amazon called “Conversationally Speaking” that covers this. I also wrote about this on one of my old blogs, if I can find the post, I’ll send you the link and also edit this post with the link. 

Remember that you want to find out what he does for a living (that’s usually easily done by asking the standard “what do you do?” question) and you want to find out his interests and hobbies. I also think that finding out if he travels a lot is also a good indicator.

When he asks you a question, keep your answer simple and then REDIRECT and bring the conversation back to him. Even if you’re asking him the exact same question he asked you. You want him to do most of the talking.

So, let’s say that so far he’s looking like POT material and you want to keep the conversation flowing. A good way to do that is to pick one of his interests and start asking questions about it. And one of the best things you can say is “OH I’VE ALWAYS WANTED TO KNOW MORE ABOUT [INTEREST] BUT I’VE NEVER MET A MAN THAT COULD TELL ME MORE ABOUT IT” 

And now your work is done because he’s going to talk for the next 30 mins. And all you have to do is nod, smile and laugh. 

Okay, now let’s say that you want to wrap this up. He’s either boring you or you think he’s going to try and get you to come back to the room with him or maybe you’re just tired and you want to go. Or maybe you just want to leave and try another place. I’m not the type of person that can just jump up and tell someone “Oh I’ve gotta go!” But if you’re that type more power to you lol. Usually what I’ll do is excuse myself to the ladies’ room and I’ll either get a friend to text/call me in 10 mins or I’ll use an iPhone app to either send me a fake text message or a fake call in 10 minutes. Or I’ll just call Uber lol.

Which reminds me, whenever someone asks you what brings you to the bar/lounge/whatever ALWAYS TELL THEM YOU’RE MEETING A FRIEND. Or if you’re at a hotel, your friend is in the room and she’s taking forever and a day to get ready. For safety reasons I never like to tell someone (especially a man) that I’m somewhere by myself. 

You also get to use the “friend” as an excuse for when you’re ready to go. 

Don’t just get his cell phone number. The goal is to get the business card.

Sometimes I think it might be a tell when you ask for the card. Maybe that’s just me being paranoid or maybe I just look transparent when I’m asking. Who knows. But because of my uneasiness of asking for the card outright, I’ve done some odd things to get that card. If you’re more straightforward, good for you. But I’m not built like that so I do odd things lol.

Usually I’ll act like my phone is dead or updating the iOS. I’ve done this a few ways. When I’m ready to wrap things up and I know he’s going to ask for my number I have excused myself to the bathroom, turned my phone off and walked back to my seat and when it’s time for me to get his number I’ll start taping on my phone. “Oh crap, I think my phone is updating. Do you have a business card?” 

I’ve taken 2 phones (with identical cases so no one will notice lol) and when I go to the bathroom, I’ll turn one of them off, put the other one in a hidden compartment in my purse) and then pull out the “dead” one. I know it may seem like I’m doing too much but I always feel like when I ask for the card directly I’ve just outed myself as a gold digger lol. But that’s just me.

FYI – If you want to do this trick and you only have one phone make sure your uber/lyft has called you before you do this lol.

This also works if he leaves first. While he’s getting my number (make sure he’s getting your number first), I will grab my phone and indiscreetly turn it towards me and turn it off. And “Omg, my phone just went off to do that update thing – do you have a business card?” 

I have done some off the wall stuff to get that card.😆 But I can’t research “John who works at Wells Fargo” with a cell phone number that 10 other people have had before him. But I can research “John B. Smith - Assistant Director at Wells Fargo” with his work email address and phone numbers all over that card.

Okay, I think I covered free-styling at a bars/lounges- but I want to mention one more thing. Never leave your drink unattended. Safety first.   

[pegasus-astrology]

I recommend constructing a detailed image of who you want to be and how you want your life to be, down to all the details (love-life, work, money, your home, day to day life, etc). Flesh it out fully and let your heart and desires govern the whole thing, don’t hold back at all, create your ideal life. And everyday think about it - and feel it. Feel it as if your life is already that way. And make all your decisions according to its ultimate fulfillment. Get in touch with your values, what’s really important to you, and let them guide you.

[espressogal]

once you stop fantasizing about that ideal version of yourself and start working towards becoming that person by setting your alarm clock earlier and actually going to the gym and actually volunteering at places and actually eating healthier and not procrastinating and working just a little bit harder you’ll realize that it was so easy all along. becoming your ideal self will only ever exist in your mind until you make the decision to work towards becoming that person. get up!! get going!! it’s now or never!! there is no light at the end of the tunnel!! get that flashlight and pave your own path bitch bc no one else is going to do it for u!!

[rohie-deactivated20191102]

“The low-maintenance woman, the ideal woman, has no appetite. This is not to say that she refuses food, sex, romance, emotional effort; to refuse is petulant, which is ironically more demanding. The woman without appetite politely finishes what’s on her plate, and declines seconds. She is satisfied and satisfiable.

A man’s appetite can be hearty, but a woman with an appetite is always voracious: her hunger always overreaches, because it is not supposed to exist. If she wants food, she is a glutton. If she wants sex, she is a slut. If she wants emotional care-taking, she is a high-maintenance bitch or, worse, an “attention whore”: an amalgam of sex-hunger and care-hunger, greedy not only to be fucked and paid but, most unforgivably of all, to be noticed.”

— Hunger Makes Me, Jess Zimmerman

[geminiloveca]

Christ, this article made me legit well up in tears at work…

“Women talk ourselves into needing less, because we’re not supposed to want more—or because we know we won’t get more, and we don’t want to feel unsatisfied. We reduce our needs for food, for space, for respect, for help, for love and affection, for being noticed, according to what we think we’re allowed to have. Sometimes we tell ourselves that we can live without it, even that we don’t want it. But it’s not that we don’t want more. It’s that we don’t want to be seen asking for it. And when it comes to romance, women always, always need to ask.”

THIS. SO FUCKING THIS.

[ddrvbiblgigb]

[garfield-baybee]

Reblog to have something good happen at 1:42 tomorrow

[nounamegirl]

I am REALLY needing anything good, even if it’s just 5 cents on the floor

[kimreesesdaughter]

The Interview Finesse

The video I wanted to post was too long  and my music was over my voice, so this was one of the outtake videos, still some good info. Along with the video; here’s what you need to know:

1. Practice, practice, practice..Practice popular interview questions (https://www.themuse.com/advice/how-to-answer-the-31-most-common-interview-questions) Practice possible inquires that could come up with your resume finesse (We couldn’t find this job on your record, How long has the business been closed?, etc.) Practicing will help you so much! 

2. Research the company! (It’s super impressive when you can answer “Why do you want to work here?” with a fact about their company.) Every company has a website and “About Us” section, STUDY IT! If there is no website, that’s a red flag, especially if someone contacted you through email. 

Example: Why do you want to work here? Well, I am very passionate about breast cancer research and your company donated over 1.3 million to the National Breast Cancer Research fund as well as your employees volunteering over 10,000 hours at their different facilities Worldwide. It’s important to me that my professional and personal goals can align which is helping people struggling with illnesses and giving back to my community through donations and volunteering. 

(YOU SAY SOMETHING LIKE THAT AND YOU ARE SO IN THERE!!!!) I did this and they offered me the job on the spot right there in the group interview! 

3. Practice going through your new finessed resume. Practice your new job titles, responsibilities. You want a error free flawless presentation. Be ready to answer any question about the responsibilities you listed. That’s why step #1 is so important. 

4. Don’t you ever leave an interview without asking questions! Never! Here are some great questions you can ask your interviewer:

What are additional responsibilities I can expect other than the ones listed in the description?

How long have you been working here? What is the most rewarding part of your position? What do you enjoy about working for this company?

How are our positions related?

Where do you see the company in 5 years?

Is there room for advancement or growth in this opportunity?

Do you have any hesitations about my experience or qualifications?

What kind of training is in place for this position? 

What kind of benefits do you offer?

What is the anticipated start date for this position?

5. MAKE THE FIRST THING YOU SAY ABOUT EACH JOB THE MOST IMPRESSIVE!! The first bullet point under each job should also be the most impressive duty/accomplishment/task. 

6. Tell us about yourself. This is not your opportunity to tell them you’re from the South side of Chicago and you moved to Atlanta when you were 12 because your mom wanted you to have a fresh start. NO! This is your moment to give some amazing adjectives and background PROFESSIONAL experience about yourself. How long have you been in this industry? What are your strengths? What are you looking for with a new opportunity? 

7. Always have multiple copies of your resume with you. Always ask the interviewer(s) if they would like a copy. 

8. SMILE! 

CONTROL YOUR ENERGY BASED OFF THE POSITION! (Customer Service interview? Give them professional high energy! Corporate Amerikkka Interview? Give them lowkey professional demeanor with a sturdy handshake and smile.)

9. DRESS THE PART!! I do not care if you are interviewing to be a dog sitter, BUSINESS PROFESSIONAL IS THE ONLY ATTIRE ACCEPTABLE FOR AN INTERVIEW! Retail corporate, home care, medical, it doesn’t matter, dress your best! 

10. Do your research on the current salary and city/state average for the position matched with your experience and/or education. This isn’t for the interview, this is once you get an offer. 

RESOURCES:

Glassdoor.com (You can look up previous and current salaries as well as pass interview questions! This site is GOLD. Use it.) 

Salary.com (How much are people with your experience and education making? Find out here.) 

Resume Templates  (click the link) 

ATS optimized resumes!! (Available on the link above) This is the system ALMOST every employer utilizes for their candidate database. This system will be the difference between employers seeing “Cashier” vs “Customer Service Manager”. ATS stands for Applicant Tracking System. All cashiers go in once place, managers go in another. It also organizes by last name, age, city and all that good stuff. 

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Whew chileeee! This thread just saved my life tonight.

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Obtaining Results

To state things bluntly: Demand more, and start teaching men their place. It’s unfortunate, because I see the pattern with both girls who’ve gained experience and girls new to the industry that they place significant time, effort, and devotion into men who clearly have nothing significant to offer, and I imagine with the cold winter months coming and business beginning to slow down, a significant number of paid companions will be looking for arrangements or be susceptible to compromising their standards as well. Even women who have successfully entered an arrangement for a long-period of time or were spoiled girlfriends and kept women often seem to struggle with setting the standards for a new arrangement, and I would argue that in large part, this wasted effort comes from the conflicting messages that surround how exactly to get a man to spend money on you. Furthermore, just because a man gives you money - or if a man is willing to spend on you, does not mean that he is worth the time and energy. 

In large part, this effort seems to come from the belief that you need to prove yourself, you need to exhibit yourself as high-class, or otherwise give up something in order to have a successful arrangement or session. Let me say this: You don’t have to do shit. I see all of this nonsense about wearing the right designer fit, crafting the perfect text message with a singular emoji, and supposedly applying manipulation and playing mind games to obtain what you want. You don’t have to do any of that, and perhaps the women who gave this advice used these tactics to obtain a result, but in reality, this has little to no effect on your rate of success. These are just individual things that they themselves do and feel comfortable with - and that’s great, because they then exhibit a sense of authenticity and expression of their personality, which perhaps lets them procure a successful arrangement, but it’s really not the end goal or point. Pick and choose what you like, what you feel comfortable with, and then be at the right place and at the right time, then to be frank, you shouldn’t have any problem. If you have difficulty with finding the right clientele, I might suggest that you’re looking in the wrong places.

Here is what will happen: he will spend, or he will not. He has the funds, or he does not. He is either generous, or he is not generous. Those are the literal only two things that will happen, and as much as we might like to think that we can manipulate someone into paying, more often than not, the expectation is set by the very first meeting and he already knows whether or not he will spend. Ultimately, everything else is irrelevant, given that we’re looking to be paid. All of the rambling about whether he wants to see you in person first, as he bumbles and blathers about the need for “chemistry”, requiring you to jump through unnecessary hoops is just a disguise for his absence of generosity, inability to understand the rules and standards of a paid companion, and his uselessness. Please stop entertaining unworthy time-wasters who clearly exhibit red flags. You will get nothing substantial out of it.

Some authentic and genuine men are looking to get to know a person and perhaps, would like to initiate conversation and meet you prior to starting an arrangement. That’s perfectly fine, and these are not the time-wasters that I am talking about. Real candidates will know exactly what you’re looking for. The minute that someone significantly younger and attractive matches with them, they should know exactly what you’re looking for, what is about to happen, and should act in accordance with that. That means that even when they initiate conversation, they do so in a respectful way. There’s the discussion of following your intuition, and to some degree that is true, but ultimately, I would argue that there are clear patterns and signs that men exhibit that indicate whether they are a worthwhile client or not. 

What I qualify as red flags: If a man attempts to neg you - to insult your appearance, the way that you dress, or otherwise tries to dismiss you in a disrespectful way, particularly on the first match, I report, block, and unmatch. He is trying to attempt to establish a power imbalance. Ignore. The instant a man tries to bring up something vaguely sexual, for instance, calling you ‘baby’, asking for a ‘home date’, or even mentioning a ‘cuddle’ without giving you money, you know this is the wrong man and he is evidently trying to get something for free. An actually genuine man interested in an arrangement will never ask, even if you all text back and forth. If he asks about your body or your measurements or for inappropriate photos, it’s the exact same scenario. Ignore or report. If he tries to make some sort of false justification about the need to know where his money is going, then he is trying to lie and manipulate. Men know the instant they see your pictures and photos whether they like you. Anything else is bullshit.

As for in-person dates, it might be inappropriate to ask for something on the first date if it’s not a client who found you through your website profile. In that scenario, suggest that you meet first. If it’s at a low-brow restaurant, or ‘fun bar’, this is not a substantive candidate. To be honest, any quality client will know that he has to spend to impress you - and every single regular or SD that I’ve had in which I met them in person has not hesitated to splurge on the first date. If it’s not three dollar signs on Yelp/Google, then I don’t go, as this is an indicator this man is not generous, and thus, has nothing significant to offer. There is also significant discussion about, even if a date goes well, how to move forward, how to acquire a regular or an arrangement. Literally, just ask. I’ve come to the conclusion that beating around the bush or trying to communicate in hidden terminology is useless. Just ask for an arrangement. There is no secret code or means of manipulation - he will either say yes or no. If he says no or if he’s not comfortable with those terms of arrangement, I believe that there is nothing more to be gained from the situation. He might be a Splenda, he might pay for dates, he might buy you a few gifts, but at the end of the day, he will not contribute to your pockets. Move on and secure the bag elsewhere.

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[blacksugaruniverse-deactivated2]

Can you hear the bells?

My SDboyfriend and I have decided were going to be getting engaged toward the end of the year! He thinks its plenty of time for me to get sized and send him ring references so he can go buy the final product. 

Looks like one of your favorite SB bloggers is becoming a trophy wife! I’m so excited for our future together! More info to come as the process goes on!

[tr0phywifematerial]

Best wishes hun! 💍