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[nasturbate]

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[jacobvanloon]

Cypress Knee

Watercolor on paper, 8x10”

2026

[calciumcryptid]

I feel like a lot of people get "All Art is Political" confused with "All Art is made with Political Intentions" which is not the same.

[wizardarchetypes]

it’s sooo funny when rude customers encounter employees who can deny them service for the first time.

i was working at a little cafe where I could deny service over bad behavior, harassment etc. & mask mandates had just ended a week before & already people were being weird about me still wearing mine—an N95, the kind shaped kinda like a duckbill.

so this man walked in, looked at me sooo scathingly, laughed at me, and said “damn. never known a woman to choose…practicality over looks.”

And I just said, “oh. you can go, you’re not getting a drink.” And he said, “what???”

I said, “sir, you just walked in at 6 am & called women impractical and me ugly in one sentence.”

And he was so astonished he didn’t even argue he just turned around and left 💀🙏🏻 it was like he suddenly became self aware

[carolinalaurel]

One summer I was running ferry rides across a lake so people could see the waterfalls without walking 6 miles when a guy snapped my bra strap as he was boarding the boat. So i immediately threw him off, he started yelling for my manager, my boss cheerfully informed him that, yeah, she’s the captain of the boat and she can kick off anyone she wants. He goes to storm off, looks expectantly at his girlfriend, and she just goes, “Well, I’M not walking six miles, Michael! I’ll meet you back at the car!” and sits right back down!!!!

The expression on his face when he was told that he couldn’t get on the boat, then immediately told that his girlfriend was ditching him? PRICELESS. he just blinked at her and then stormed off like a child. I gave her a free hat and was like maybe rethink this relationship…….

[hickeywiththegoodhair]

i once had this fucker come up to order a beer. while i pour it he shows me the wanky fucking chemical structure tattoo on his arm and he’s like “hey. you know what this is” i was like “nah sorry” (never cared abt chemistry in school, plus having to look at a some rando’s pretentious tattoo gives me the douche chills). he decides to respond with “heh. you must not read many books”

i immediately stop pouring his beer. i reply: “heh. you must not want this beer.” thirsty boy immediately starts groveling like a worm “please please no i do want the beer im sorry im sorry” believe me when i say it was one of the most pathetic things ive ever witnessed

[lezbadeez]

gotta love people immediately backpedaling when they realise that there are Consequences To Being Mean

[lastvalyrian]

I genuinely believe that part of why it has become so normalized to be openly callous and evil in politics is that customer service culture has trained affluent people that they can treat everyone they consider beneath them however they want and still be treated kindly.

[whitefangthefightingwolf]

It's also crazy how much more polite people are when they know they are talking to a government employee. Once a week I staff a state "wildlife support" phone line, and very rarely do I ever have a negative interaction, even though MOST of my job is telling people "no we don't perform that service, and there is no agency that does." "no, we can't help that animal, and neither can you, as that is illegal." I tell people "no" up to 30 times per day and I've only had a prickly customer about 3-4 times, and properly yelled at only once. (And if I get yelled at I am allowed to end the conversation.)

Meanwhile, when I worked at PetSmart grooming, I got yelled at MULTIPLE times EVERY day. Over a dog's haircut that I didn't even do.

[librarycards]

i went to eating enough food world and they're excited to meet you. keep eating lots of meals and snacks and take my hand! we can go there.

[librarycards]

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH QUEER AND TRANS EATING DISORDER HAVERS COME EAT ENOUGH FOOD WITH ME!!!!!!! <33333333

[mumblesplash]

last year i started taking little walks around my neighborhood for enrichment and whatnot, see, and i’ve been more or less keeping up with them barring those 3 months i couldn’t walk. and there’s some pretty big hills around, so there’s some stairs on this route i like to take. and even though i know stairs are a bit of a workout, deep down it was a little embarrassing to me at first, realizing i’d let my cardio fitness slip so badly that i needed multiple breaks to catch my breath on a single staircase. it got better as i kept at it, of course, but i would still internally wince a little at the fact that i’d get so winded on those stupid stairs. they’re just some rickety old hillside stairs by my house, i thought, they shouldn’t take it out of me THIS badly

it was only within the past few months that i got to a point where i was like okay, this is reasonable. they’re not EASY, but if i pace myself i can take the stairs all at once without gasping for air. that’s not too bad. there’s room for improvement and i still get a little winded but that’s a reasonable amount of tired to be, i reckoned, it’s one staircase but it’s kind of a long staircase. i’d always known it was kinda long.

except i recently found out i was underselling it a bit, there. turns out it’s a VERY long staircase. it’s ‘appears in tour guides and news articles’ long, actually. it’s ’annual citywide step challenge event’ long. it’s ’i can’t tell you the number of steps without doxxing myself’ long. and for almost a year i had no idea, because it’s nearby and not very fancy looking and i thought it was just Some Stairs and i was really badly out of shape. but no, i’ve accidentally been doing insane superhell cardio this whole time. i’m pretty sure i’m currently in better shape than i was running cross country in high school. the big hill by my parents’ house feels like flat ground to me now.

i don’t even know where i’m going with this. i guess the point is sometimes you are not uniquely ill-equipped for a thing, sometimes that thing is actually just really difficult. and sometimes you don’t realize this and end up holding yourself to insane standards for no reason. but also this can end up benefiting you in the end? idk. maybe i should participate in that step challenge this year or something

[shmreduplication]

There's some guitar riff that is very fast and my brother thought he'd never be able to match it because the original guitarist is a virtuoso and my brother is just some guy

He was warming up for band practice one day and played it and the singer was very impressed and was like 'oh you're doing a speed challenge of that song' and my brother said no, he's trying to match the original speed but it's impossible because the original is too fast. They relistened to the song and it was slower than how my brother played it

[shmreduplication]

Takeru Kobayashi, the man who revolutionized competitive food eating contests, deliberately never looked up the world record while training for his first big hot dog eating contest in 2001

In 2000 the record was 25.5 in 12 minutes. In 2001, Kobayashi ate 50 hot dogs, almost doubling the record. The judges ran out of pre-made signs to track how many he had eaten and had to start making handwritten signs on the spot

There's a lot of positives with SMART goals (Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant/Realistic, Timely), (i really recommend it for things with work/school or things that have a natural deadline that isn't set by you) but the flip side of that is Godhart's law: when a measurement becomes a target, it ceases to be a good measurement. If OP or my brother or Kobayashi had specific goals and checked their progress against it, it would have inhibited their ability to achieve what they ended up achieving

[chipper-smol]

the realization that the unhealthy trait you’ve given your favorite oc for funsies is actually something you unintentionally do is like watching a five year old innocently and perfectly mimic your bad habits

[machine-saint]

we justifiably give Biden a lot of shit but I think "at least 3" is the funniest possible response to some right wing dipshit asking you how many genders there are

[madnessofmen]

wait it gets better

[demilypyro]

[borderlinereminders]

There’s a quiet test some of us give the people we love.

It’s the test of silence. The test of hoping they’ll push past our “no.” The test of waiting to see if they’ll fight hard enough to prove we matter. We want things like them chasing us down to try and talk us out of certain decisions, insisting on being there for us when we pull away, or even just guessing what we need based on our mood changes (and noticing the slightest change in our mood).

It makes sense why we do it. For those of us with BPD or fear of abandonment in general, being chased can feel like safety. If someone insists on helping, or pushes their way into our walls, it can feel like proof they care. Like proof we’re worth the effort.

However, love built on tests like this isn’t sustainable

These tests aren’t random. They come from real pain, real wiring, real fear.

But even when the reasons make sense, the impact still matters.

It isn’t fair to them or you.

When you expect someone to “prove” they care without telling them how, you’re asking them to read your mind. You’re putting them in a no-win situation:

•If they chase, they feel pressured and resentful.

•If they don’t chase, you feel abandoned.

No one wins.

And worse? It slowly erodes trust. Your loved ones start to feel like they’re walking into traps, where anything they do might secretly mean they failed. That isn’t fair to them.

It isn’t fair to you, either. Because what you actually want (care, reassurance, connection) gets buried under a guessing game that leaves everyone more distant than before.

It’s okay to want people to notice. To long for them to care enough to step in. That want is human. It matters.

But love isn’t proven by how well people pass hidden tests. Real love is built on honesty, trust, and letting people choose to show up.

When you rely on silent demands, what you end up testing isn’t their love. It’s their ability to withstand pressure. That’s not the same thing.

Instead of testing, try asking. Vulnerably. Directly. Yes, it feels terrifying. Yes, it feels like begging sometimes. But it’s not. Asking is clarity, not shame.

Some examples:

“I don’t want advice. I just need you to sit with me.”

“Can you remind me that you still care about me right now?”

“I’m afraid I’ll spiral if I’m alone. Can you text me later tonight?”

These aren’t demands. They’re invitations. They give your loved ones the chance to show up without being set up to fail. And your loved ones deserve a real chance to show up for you.

Your needs matter. Their needs matter. Hidden tests create fear, anxiety and frustration (for both of you). Clear asks create connection.

You are not “too much” for needing reassurance. You’re human. And the more you practice asking directly, the more space you create for love that doesn’t depend on someone proving themselves against impossible odds.

[enbaluka-tokyo-drift]

[daughter-of-sapph0]

going further, trans women literally just existing in public gets called a sex crime by transmisogynists. these people want literally any excuse to remove us from public life

[mousidy]

[tiktoks-i-enjoyed]

Clip of Lucy Dacus on the Las Culturistas podcast.

[jackalpants]

THE CHAFF PROJECT

Hi! Are you cis in the UK and you'd like to support trans rights? Great!

How: buy a trans flag pin and wear it in public.

Why: chaff is an overwhelming amount of false positives so that when a missile gets close to the plane, it hits the chaff and not the plane.

In practice: the goal is to make it DIFFICULT to identify trans people to target with bathroom bans, and to create many FALSE POSITIVES for businesses.

Basically, you might get accused of being trans and kicked out, because of the badge. You say: I wear the badge because trans rights matter.

You follow up with a letter to the business saying you're fucking furious because some nosy dipshit just tried to play fucking genital police with you in the loos. You know lots of trans people (don't name any, if you do) and you wear the pin in support and you're disgusted at them for allowing this.

Blame the business for allowing the behaviour.

Businesses see that their cis customers are getting bothered over a badge and may clarify trans-inclusive policies, so they can kick out the bathroom botherers instead of nice cis allies.

You only need to buy and wear the badge, and you are protecting trans people. You can be genuinely heroic. Even one cis person doing this helps, and everyone you get to join in helps even more.

Non-affiliated badge link:

https://rainbowandco.uk/collections/trans-pride/products/transgender-pride-flag-badge

Show your pride with our 25mm transgender pride flag pin badge. Perfect for wearing on your favourite denim jacket, back pack, or lanyard to

[borderlinereminders]

One of the quieter fears I don’t see talked about enough is how invalidating it can feel to be doing better.

When you live with BPD, your symptoms often feel like proof. Proof that something is wrong. Proof that you were hurt. Proof that your emotions make sense in context. When the feelings are intense, it’s easier to believe your pain is real.

And then maybe things start to stabilize. Maybe you regulate more. You cope better.

And suddenly your brain goes, Was I exaggerating? Was I ever really struggling? Was it all fake?

Struggling can feel validating and stability can feel suspicious.

But symptoms aren’t the measure of whether your pain was real. You don’t lose legitimacy just because you’re learning how to cope. Getting better doesn’t erase the fact that you needed to get better in the first place. And it doesn’t mean things are magically easy.

[natalieironside]

There's always a moment of intense cultural whiplash whenever I realize I'm talking to someone who thinks "legal" and "illegal" are meaningful categories and ascribes innate goodness to following the law. It's like meeting a space alien.

[bingerzone]

BITE RISK

Characters belong to @punkitt-is-here ...I fucking love them

[fuzzy-oooze]

There's this really obscure forgotten DC hero named the Heckler, who's basically buggs bunny as a superhero, not having any powers or physically strong, but just really good at pissing people off until they accidentally deal with themselves.

Now they're interesting, but the REAL star of the show is one of his villains, John Doe the Generic Man, who's this guy in a stark white suit with flat pink unshaded, untextured skin with no features or anything who talks like chatGPT and has black text over his face that explains what he's feeling at the moment. That guy is fucking fascinating.

[mightym52]

I first heard about this guy from the "League of regrettable superheroes" Books, (The supervillain one, obviously) and He stuck with me because its such an interesting concept. not only is HE generic, but he has the power to make anything he TOUCHES generic too. I never actually got to experience his whole deal as an actual character, since this was just an info book that tells you about the character, so seeing these panels it really cool.