this isnt true by any stretch of the imagination
i think a lot of people have this incorrect idea that sexual promiscuity equates with tolerance or enlightenment or whatever when really it has nothing to do with that at all. you dont necessarily have to actually respect someone to have sex with them. you dont even necessarily have to respect someone’s gender, sexuality, sexual orientation, race, ethnicity, nationality, religion, political party, or economic class to have sex with them.
it would be NICE if we lived in a world where you had to actually respect someone to have sex with them but that is not actually the world we live in.
as a woman AND SPECIFICALLY as a trans woman there are more people in the world who don’t respect me who nevertheless want to have sex with me than there are people who want to have sex with me and who also respect me.
straight guys liking femboys is actually a pretty good example of how femboy largely existed and continues to exist as a third gender label for transfems and the 'ideal state' that patriarchy would prefer for us.
You can absolutely be a feminine man and I've no problem with that, but that's not really what a femboy is. There's a reason I hate the term, view it as one of the many fetishizing slurs against transfems, and get grossed out at how other TME queer folks seem to think it's the most wonderful term ever.
Straight men love femboys because they get to fuck a pretty thing that they don't have to respect the rights or even womanhood of! And to be a femboy, you have to be young, it's a label with an expiration date, and there's a reason for that! Easier to exploit!
I feel like I'm going insane when I try to explain these things to TME folks because a lot of TMA folks will get what I'm talking about (especially if they've been out for a while) but TME folks have no idea the history of the term or the concept it originated out of and what it actually means in practice.
